What is your say on this:
Ilobola is paid to the women's parents as an appreciation sign to the parents for taking care of the women, it can be given in cash or cows or maybe both depending on the agreement between two families... The groom pays lobola so that the bride’s family can allow the two to marry each other. it's meant to create relations between the two families.
How much does it cost?
It all depends on who the bride is and what the family wants, example if a bride's father is a king, that will make her a princess right?, so you pay more for her than paying for a bride from a normal family. For a princess you will pay up 22 cows, on monetary terms that will roughly be R70 000 – R80 000(if one cow cost between R3500.00 – 4500.00), You pay up to 15 cows if the bride is the daughter of the community leader (induna). For an ordinary bride you can pay up to 10 cowsR30-50 00 or pay up to 11 cows if the bride is a virgin or if you are the one who broke bride’s virginity excluding imembeso.
Well that is what was happening back then or what is supposed to happen even today.
One day I was listening to a radio on my way home and there was a topic about lobola; the argument was something like this;
Now that we live in society where women are also working and sometimes even get paid more than what their male partners do. And the question at hand was;
If you are a woman or a man; you and your partner love each other dearly and you would like to marry each other one day and the situation is:
if you are a woman: Your partner doesn’t have enough to pay lobola, he isn’t getting enough either and you are getting paid more than him maybe twice than he does;
Would you or wouldn’t you give him money to lobola you, either way why?
If you are a man, will you accept or even ask for money from your partner to pay lobola.:
So bloggers what would you do?
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