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inkosazana
05 Apr 2011 14:44

thought it was an article

charmagal
05 Apr 2011 14:56

tjo nami nkosazana

Vandimerwe
05 Apr 2011 15:02

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carino
05 Apr 2011 15:06

mxit status update

S.K
05 Apr 2011 15:10

And then what's up?

inkosazana
05 Apr 2011 15:10

Guys how do i write an article ?, i need serious help , wanna post an article and all the lovely bloggers can give advice..........plz help me out

inkosazana
05 Apr 2011 16:01

HE TRIED TO COMMIT SUICIDE

fIrstly the owner of this mixit stutus update ungangishayi for writing my stories under yours...........
This my story - My boyfreind and i , we very close and get along very well, but we fight alot and we fight over simple stuff sometimes not so simple. On saturday we were together intown when i realised that i am feeling really hungry that i am dizzy i really need to eat . We were in a que to buy something(not something to eat njalo), So i called him because i was not in the que , he came to me I said bbe m feeling hungry can we go to eat than we can come back to join this que sesisuthi, he refused he insisted he buys buys first than we go, or i go to eat without him, I said NO bbe i won't go eat without you lets wait.

After approximately 5minutes of waiting in an empty stomach it was finally his turn, he bought and he came to me , I said tjo that took long am really starving, He looked at me with anger and said why are you shouting at me, how could you just shout at me infront so many people, I was like ayibo bbes am ot shouting, The arguments started from bad to worse.

I went home late in the evening i called to check if he was okay, than i asked him why did he attack me at the Mall , than the argument started again , that i was shouting at him , i have no respect of him as a man, I camly said you know what , i am so tired of tighting with you can't we just be happy in our lives please lets not fight ngiyakucela, did he listen? NO, He shutted the phone on my ear after few seconds came an smses ****ITS OVER YOU ARE DEAD TO ME AND DON'T EVER CALL ME AGAIN*******.

I was so puzzeled i did not call for a while than finaly did, i asked if this is really what he wants he said yhae , i said okay its fine i will miss, i hope there is no bad blood between us wiphathe kahle. He started crying he could'nt talk wavala i phone than an smses followed ********MY ANGEL YOU ARE AN AMAZING WOMAN WITHOUT YOU I AM NOTHING, SO I AM COMMITING SUICIDE IN TEN MINUTES I WILL BE DEAD***********
I panicced i phone him he did not pick up, tried several times he did not i prayed over and over again i cried , i was crazy not knowing what to do, i thought of ending my own life, somehow ngazikhuza, went to bed cried till i slept.

Morning i received a threatning sms from his friend, I just thought OH LORD HE IS DEAD. I told my mother the whole story she tried to be strong for me as i was not even thinking straight, threatning smses kept coming but no one was answering the phone when i called.

Later i got an sms that he overdosed pills (am not sure what pills) he is at hospital but doctor said he would be fine, i was realived , i called there was no answer again,
In the afternoon he was able to speak , i did not go to see him coz he said he does not want to see me...........

I am confused does he hate me that much that he would commit suicide in my name, from what i see this is not LOVE, or he is manipulating me to stay with him? but he is the one who dumped me, I am really looking for help for this guy. We are now talking he says he wants to go for counsilling but wanna go with me. I need to speak to someone in his family especially his mom but what do i tell her , how do i tell her that his son tried to commit suicide because of me, ?

inkosazana
05 Apr 2011 16:06

Additional info: this happened this Sat (02/04/11) i still feel like am not right in my head, ngathi ngiyahlanya i wish to take a week off my boss wouldn't let me. He is not into any drugs, but drinks alittle, To him death is nothing he always wish to die, I think he is depressed and needs help, although we broke up but i still wanna help him get his life together...........

nzuzo
05 Apr 2011 16:22

Haibo!!!!!!! inkosazana.

inkosazana
05 Apr 2011 16:25

@ nzozo m falling apart . really, How could he do this to me i dont mind the break up, but the suicide HOW COULD HE???????????

Teady
05 Apr 2011 16:35

yo! nkosazana my late boyfriend was like that, everytime we fight he would tell me that without me there's nothing to live for.
1 day i got a suicide note and he told me he was about to shoot himself when his friend came at midnight.
It was a painfull relationship and we were inlove but death was nothing to him. One day he tried to kill me! i decided to leave Dbn and came up to Jozi i couldn't take it anymore and nothing i tried was working for him.
He must go for the counselling but i doubt he'll ever stop.

charmagal
05 Apr 2011 16:45

tjo sori nkosi .---mina i think yo man is obssesed

charmagal
05 Apr 2011 16:46

u cn hlp him goin to the proffesionals wth him mayb if he speaks out wats over in him he wil be fyn

inkosazana
05 Apr 2011 16:48

@Teady ........

painful, neh..............the worse part (don't know if it is worse ) he want us to sort things out and forget about what happened , seek for help and move on , but i don't think i will ever trust him now, i will even be affriad to tell him if there is something wrong because i know he would kill himself, thats insane yazi nje

inkosazana
05 Apr 2011 16:55

@charmagal - i do wanna seek him professional help for him but first i wanna speak to his mom do you think that will be apropriate? The woman knows me but we never met she will be seeing me fo the first time sengi unoyinkinga, what will she think of me? , assume that mina and my boyfriend siyabuyelane coz we love eack other and so good together if not arguing about anything....

What if i end up with him won't my mamezala hate me coz his son once treid to end his life because he loves me too much.

VusiK
05 Apr 2011 17:18

Yikes .... Nkosazana .... There are several types of people out on planet earth ranging from the quiet destructive types through the explosively denialist types. the little information you have provided makes this man both, and everything in between... therefore quite normal. Don't panic about his attempted suicide, if he intended killing himself, he would have succeeded ... simple fact ... people who wish to die invariably make sure that it happens, they don't miss their heads when pulling the trigger .... What do you want to do .... Stay, nurse him, mother him, care etc., of leave ... the kind of input we will hep you with depends on the result you desire.

VusiK
05 Apr 2011 18:11

@inkosazana ... I suggest you slow down on presuming what people will think of you. It is not you, nor possibly anything to do with you that he sucked a few extra pills. The problem is with him ... not you. besides ... o-Mamazala generally pass judgment on their children's partners regardless of events such as these.

VusiK
05 Apr 2011 18:14

There are essentially two approaches to these kind of situations ... Help him heal and stay to resuscitate your relationship .... or .... help him heal and then leave .... (there is a third but I do not think you are considering it ... Simply abandon everything and go on with your live ... after all, he has ended the relationship already as you state)

VusiK
05 Apr 2011 18:17

If we know which way your heart is inclined, we could come to you with objective and possibly constructive input, but we do need background, and other assistive data that orients us regarding your plea. We don't want to be speaking out of turn. Most important for you before you hear what we may assist you with .... IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! He is an adult, He is responsible for his action .... NOT YOU!, and you are not responsible for him and his actions ... with that said, Let's hear you and what you need of us, we will do what we can.

swazzy
05 Apr 2011 19:42

I agree with Vusi , if he wanted to kill himself he wud have done it . He was just seeking attention from who ....i dont know cause he dumped you. He is just a psyco one minute you are dead to me the next cant leave without you. He needs a psych review, suicide is a psychological problem. And if i were you i'd go to the mother regardless of what she'l think get help for this guy and thrn run for your life. Unless you want all the drama in your life. It will hurt more if he kills himself whilst you in his life, help him n move on dear!!!!!

swazzy
05 Apr 2011 19:44

swazzy
05 Apr 2011 19:45

or leave this whole thing to his family. he is not your responsibilty!!!

VusiK
05 Apr 2011 23:08

Please listen to Swazzy ... Before anything consider this ... He is a cry baby desperate for attention ... most probably, Mama's boy as well. Honestly.this is really not your problem!

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