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TheTVObserver: The Drama, We Broke Up!!!

Written by TheObserver from the blog TheTVObserver on 20 Jul 2009
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Okay, you know the drill. I asked your advice and you were kind enough to offer it. Here’s what happened.

I ignored the calls and text’s from you know who (actually you don’t, but hey), to think about the advice we got from TVSA, via email, on Twitter etc.

No matter how long it took for me to consider the advice and comments by readers, there wasn't enough time. I reduced all the advice to one reality, which was or is – “You are dumping someone. It’s not going to be easy, just do it and get it over with”.


After realizing that hours were turning into days, I picked up the phone and upon pick up I said: “Hi I am coming over” and the only response I got was “Okay” which was followed by “Now?, Are you coming over now?”, and I obliged with a firm “Yeah”. This was resolved with another “Okay”, and the sound of what I can only assume to be the simultaneous dropping of handsets.

I blocked my mind from thinking of what I sounded like and if it gave off an alarm. Frankly I did not care. I was in a zone and I was going for it. My mind was fixed on getting this over with ASAP. I was on mission possible and cruise control was my objective.


“Hey, how are you”, is what I said when the door opened. I was greeted with a loving smile and hug, which was closely accompanied by “Are you hungry?, I can fix us something”. My response was negative to the offer and like a doctor, I was ready to deliver bad news; food was not going to make it better and it was the last thing on my mind.

To avoid yet another question which may lead to a complicated discussion over why I did not return calls, texts etc; I said “Babe, can you please sit down. I have to tell you something”. That was my attempt at prep work.

“Should I be worried” they responded with a smile, one of the assets I enjoyed and will miss. Immediately I thought “this one can tell something is up”. Without wasting anymore time I went for it ….

“I need to tell you something. It is very important that I do this right” at this point I was looking directly into their beautiful eyes and I suddenly realized a spark. Then it dawned on me that I was sounding like a person about to pop the question. YIKES! I switched faster than I could blink. In fact that moment was terrifying for me. I WAS FREAKING OUT.


I smiled and said “Babe listen to me very carefully.” They responded with a confused look and whispered “Okay” , and I continued “I do not want this arrangement to continue.” They blinked and their eyes stayed shut for a couple of seconds and I was like WOW, the power is going-out, get this over with now…now now now!

I continued….”I feel that every day, month and year we continue with this, I am robbing you of an opportunity to meet someone you can fall in love with”

The frown kicked in, which was followed by an intense stare. My immediate response was to capitalize on this moment since their face was frowning with what looked like a confused state, which can only mean their brain was attempting to process what I was saying. Just to make sure that my statement is not taken out of context, I continued…..“I want this to be over, now, today. I want us to have a chance at meeting people we can love and have that love returned with an equal amount of passion and commitment.”


I was trying to knock out a possible “I am in love with you and I think we should give it try” as their response.

The frown went away and was replaced by teary eyes and hands to the head, which is not a good sign. I thought to myself this is going as well as it could be expected and I concluded by saying “I have had the best time of my life with you and I will always respect you and I felt that I should be man enough to explain to you in person what I want and feel.”

The response was “Oh My God!” And I gave it my last and final punch, which was slow and aimed at clarity, by saying: “DO.YOU.UNDER.STAND!”

This was followed by a deafening silence for a couple of seconds, which felt like an hour.


I smiled and looked deep into their eyes and held their face, and said “Do you understand”, as caring as I could. Meanwhile, I was hoping desperately that their intellect was working well without any interference from their emotions.

Finally they responded with a “Yes”, however that was not all. It was followed by a packed “But…..”

I thought oooh no!, but I indulged…by saying ”But what?” and they replied “But, we don’t have to end it. Maybe we can end it when we find people we love”. Immediately I said “NO!” and I continued “I don’t think that will work for me.”

They stood up, as thou, to walk off words that cause discomfiture. I asked “Are you going to be okay with this?”, and the response was “What do you think?.” I whispered to myself "maybe that was not the best thing to say" but they heard me and said "Excuse me?". I said "Nothing" and kept quite, but they pressed on: “Every day we continue with THIS! You are robbing me of an opportunity to meet some-ONE. Are you kidding me? I guess I should be grateful then, huh?" I felt like a Hallmark moment gone terribly wrong, but I kept quite. They on the other hand did not: "I should RUN OFF and find my TRUE LOVE. Oh My God. I can’t believe this is happening”. Trying to clarify (looking back this was not a bright idea) I said "Actually babe, I never said Run Off" Then it happened, they gave me a STONE COLD LOOK!

I realized that a pre-planned appointment with one member of the gang-of-mischief’s would’ve been handy. But, the doing it right motto was the objective and get it right, was the task.


So I said “You have a choice, as do I. I need to tell you of my choice or decision, instead of….”. I was cut off with a sarcastic “Oh, am sorry!, did I forget to say thank you. Well, thank you very much!. DO YOU UNDERSTAND THAT?”. I realized they are angry, so I kept quite again. (if this is what married life is like, it sucks), to allow them to process their words in reference to the nature of this unique break up.

That was lost in their emotions of anger, because they immediately said: “I don’t see you for I don't know how long…….”. I cut them off by saying “STOP. We are not in a ‘normal’ relationship and we have talked about this."


I continued (making sure that I did not sound or display, a patronizingly superior attitude) I said “My choice right now, is to END this. Not because I don’t like you or I want to hurt you, but because it’s what I WANT”.

In what sounded like an attempt to test waters for a heated fight, they said “Are you seeing someone and is that the reason you want us to be done?”

I said: “Babe! NO”. That was followed by yet another sarcastic “Wonderful”, with a touch of fury.


I had to extend myself and show them I cared, so I hugged them in a passionate embrace which was greeted by resistance at first and followed by tears, and then they reciprocated. I then realized what was obvious all along.

We hugged for a while and it was clear we were over, but they asked me to spend just one last night together. I said: “As much as that is tempting, I don’t think it’s a good idea” and I continued by saying “I want only the best for you, and you deserve to find someone who will love you how I can’t and I don’t think am able”.


We held each other for a while as if to say goodbye. Unlocking from the hug, I said “I am not seeing anyone, I have never cheated on you, and there is no one else in my life. This is not your fault. AT ALL” (which is the truth by the way). I walked out without looking back.

While walking out, I was thinking “Let there be no drama or worse - a sonnet of love or emotions, until I close the door, get in and out of the elevator, walk out of the lobby, and drive off”.

I got into the car and drove off, thanking the Lord and hoping that my actions were caring and respectful.

I did send them flowers every day, after the break up, with a note asking them to accept my apology, if I've hurt them in any way. After a couple of days and expensive deliveries, I got an email saying "There is nothing to forgive you for. I am fine. All the best (and some stuff which will remain private)".


What is clear is that "I am Not Read To Love", until then I need a break. So, HELLO ARUBA!

A special thank you to everyone who sent in their advice and comments on Twitter, BlogCatalog, via email and on TVSA.

XOXO - TheTVO
 

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59 Comments

extinct
20 Jul 2009 06:59

Oh so u finally did it yeah but it was not that messy i liked the way u made everything clear and i think its only natural for someone in their position to get upset but i think the flower part u took it way too far it could've been misunderstood but hey ur a free man now I'M ALSO SINGLE(in my very charming voice) lol

GML
20 Jul 2009 08:15

It sounded like a  very clean and mature breakup. Well Done Observer. an I allowed to say that???

Savanah Dry
20 Jul 2009 08:22

I also need to break up with someone but they are 400km away from me i dont need to see them to do it ...maybe i should refer to the advice you got from bolggers...

You did it the smart way not sure i can do that as well..

cleve
20 Jul 2009 08:25

Wow Oberver but why are you calling thie person "they" a she or a he or shim would have worked. 

At least you know that you didn't love them enough.

Nice mature and clean, at least they are better now.

felfel
20 Jul 2009 08:31

LOL Cleve i also noticed the They/Them, sooo impersonal.

Best-Achiever
20 Jul 2009 08:34

This sound like a TV breakup ... i mean why would you insist on calling the other person "Babe" everytime when you know you are about to tell them what they dont want ... and these long hugs... that person is much better person, hhayi nna i would hug someone who just dumped me ... i thought those goodbye hugs, kisses and flowers only happen on TV because it isnot real thing... or maybe it was easy for you becaauseit was an "arrangement" not relationship .. or yo are both mature enough for such ...

anyway you did well

Lbg
20 Jul 2009 08:40

Oh wow am spheechless I don't think the is ever a nicer way of being dumped never .
But freedom that you feel after that is beautiful.
We tend to be in relationships that are so draining but yet you still want to work hard at it improve it but it never works out.

cleve
20 Jul 2009 08:42


LOL Cleve i also noticed the They/Them, sooo impersonal. 

@ FELFEL, it just sounded strange as I read the article...............

extinct
20 Jul 2009 08:55

The O doesn't want to reveal his/her identity, atleast thats what i think

Cody
20 Jul 2009 09:01

LMAO! BA, you are reading my mind girl! 

LOL Cleve i also noticed the They/Them, sooo impersonal.

Maybe TheTVO ke mopedi, they like saying "bomma", "lena", when its one person, it shows respect.  So i guess its the same thing here although the plural respect thingie it does not apply in English.

blueroze
20 Jul 2009 09:04

why are you calling thie person "they">>>>>>>>maybe TO is Pedi or Venda because they address people in plural to show respect>>>>

miving along>>>>>>>
To your break up story is wonderfully narated.
you were matured and made your point be clearly understood
nna personally i's scared of breakingup cause i will end up crying
i hope she did not cry like Priya. i saw her yesterday and felt so sad as if a was dumped

the flower thing..it was too much. you made your point clear so no need t oapologise esp because she undertood what you said.

she is the one who was supposed to apolgise cause after being dumped she wanted to shag for all times sake

Strolicious
20 Jul 2009 09:06

eish u jst brouhgt back some horrible memories....i can still see everything da way its happened when my Ex dumped me and my fav song was playing...

I did send them flowers every day, after the break up, with a note asking them to accept my apology, if I've hurt them in any way. After a couple of days and expensive deliveries, I got an email saying "There is nothing to forgive you for. I am fine. All the best (and some stuff which will remain private)". uyadelela wena yazi

myname
20 Jul 2009 09:22

Morning peeps,
Ag shame, poor lady.......Anyway welcome 2 the singlehood OB, ive been single now for 5 months. Sometimes its nice sometimes its so bad but i got 2 things i have to tel u....

1. Plz take care of your wallet.
2. If u planning 2 b a bad boy (like testing this car there & there), make sure u have enough condoms (i dont care if its gov or what) & dont stop using them. Ppl r dying la ngaphandle.

Thank you
Myname "Miss Single"

lady gaga
20 Jul 2009 09:26

eish TVO, why did't u spend that one last night with them??, shoo i can imagine being dumped and then ngishayiwa isandla.....i feel sori for them, bt this things happen,what can we say!!

Strolicious
20 Jul 2009 09:33

agg shame Myname u stl single sana ...Lol,mina some saint saved me,sengiyali thola good..whn ws da last tym uthola vitamin MAN

myname
20 Jul 2009 09:36

I cant even think babes, its so hard to find "that man". The ones i met r after my kokie, i see them from the distance.

Foxy gal
20 Jul 2009 09:50

Run with yo kookie myname RUN...... LOL!!!!!!

myname = single, TVO = single..............mmh!! *wink* wink*

extinct
20 Jul 2009 09:54

Talk bout being single i've been single since 2006 sep thats after i decided to focus on God and now it came to a point whe i don't kno how to date and i've become too selfish to share or reporting to someone but i'm stil waiting for brada-man to rescue me age is not on my side

Pooky
20 Jul 2009 10:03

I felt that I should be man  enough to explain to you in person what I want and feel.” 

kanti you're a man?...all this time i thought you were a chikita...lol.....let me continue reading.

A very good morning to you all beautiful people!!!

TheLady
20 Jul 2009 10:09

Since 2006 extinct...child you are good! Yoh!

If I was the they in question I wouldn't have sent the email, I'd have continued receiving flowers for a while...maybe it would have been a spa voucher someday to massage my broken heart away lol.


Pooky
20 Jul 2009 10:19

good for you then Observer, hope you enjoy the single life...there's nothing worse then enforcing something that's just not there anymore.

tizoz
20 Jul 2009 10:33

somehow this feels so close to home..... Obs..... wanna inbox me ure details..... is this a dress rehearsal for our breakup lol....

extinct
20 Jul 2009 10:37

Tizoz Lmao and ya the The O is a man his word construction and sometimes lack of emotion*don't have the right word* and sometimes i think its more that one person who write the articles

Best-Achiever
20 Jul 2009 10:40

curiosity killed the cat extinct ..wena just enjoy the article(s) and forget about the gender of the writter ...LOL

extinct
20 Jul 2009 12:10

BA lol case closed but i do enjoy the articles

TheObserver
20 Jul 2009 13:23

Hi Guys

Here goes…..

@\extinct - "i think the flower part u took it way too far it could've been misunderstood"  i AGREE, but thank goodness it worked out hey. The thing about relationships is that they involve two people and anyone outside that world does not understand. I hate it when people break up and someone in that couple goes off with so much pain and hurt that it nearly destroys their life. One can do more to easy the pain and hurt, hence the gesture of a hug+flowers, and clarifying that its not their fault.

@GML - I know what you mean. I feel wired even thanking all you guys for your positive comments. Anyway, thanks GML. Trust me, this is not going to happen again, unless I am in Love. I refuse to fall in Love only to break-up, because that would mean I was not in Love to begin with. When you Love someone, you can withstand everything but if you don’t , then you just REALLY LIKE that person.

@Savannah Dry - Knock your self out Savannah. Thanks for your comment. I don't think I would do the same to a person I did not care for. If it was just a hookup, I would be my old self. Besides there is a hint in this post as to how this person really felt, which led me to extend myself to the hugs, flowers etc. I could not leave them in unwarranted pain.

@cleve - I think it’s more of "NOT LOVING THEM" period. I just cared for them, but thanks for your comment.

@ Best Achiever - "why would you insist on calling the other person "Babe" ". Its simple BA, I cared for that person and I was not about act as if I felt nothing for them. Despite my attempt at being clear, I did not want to sound like a Russian Commander. I think it would have been different if were angry and fighting, then the Babe factor probably would’ve never been used. But we were calm adults discussing the end to our arrangement.

"i thought those goodbye hugs, kisses and flowers only happen on TV because it is not real thing" LOL i WISH. I guess people have different ways of relating to one another. This worked and it could have gone BAD very easily, especially if we were in a "real" relationship. Also it depends of the type of person you are with, some folks you need to do things different, yet with some you can create lasting and romantic emotions even out of the pain.

Thanks for your comment. But if you read my response to Savannah dry you would understand why the HALLMARK, most importantly I cared for this person my word was honest, “I wanted to do this right”.

TheTVO

TheObserver
20 Jul 2009 13:30

Continues….

@lady gaga - "why did't u spend that one last night with them??" Lady Gaga, that for me would equal RAPE! Emotional Rape perhaps, but still a violation of their person! You are dumping someone and giving them what could be the very insult to the "thing you had" by fulfilling a false need. No, its not for me, also I don’t think the intent was a goodbye shag, but rather a way to change my mind.

@Lbg - Thanks for your comment. I think it was easy due to it being an "arrangement" not a "real" relationship. About the freedom, I just wanted to do this right, since I have a record of really bad break ups. I understand about draining relationships, they are the worst because we keep holding out for hope, which never comes and years later you've given the best of yourself to a bottom-less pit. I did not want to ROB them of LOVE.

@Blueroze - Thanks for your comment. Priya LOL. About the forgiveness, it was my way to clear my KARMA. You are dealing with someone else’s life, TREAT IT WITH CARE!

@myname - single for 5years. Wow! Wallet - Check; Condoms - Check, Don’t stop using them Check, Thank you myname. My OCD helps me get those "2 things" always in order.

@Foxy gal – Match-maker? LOL

@TheLady - I am Shocked!!!!!! Winning those prizes has spoiled you bad! LOL

@Pooky. I agree with you 100%. I hate to be with someone just because I don’t want to be alone or I just want to keep them around of sex, etc. I think that is sick. Thanks for your comment.

@tizoz "in my Bree Van de Kamp voice" Oh my, whatever do you mean, dear. (hands on my chest) LOL

@"curiosity killed the cat extinct" LOL, despite all its wonderful and charming nine lives. LOL. And thank you for enjoying our articles, thou.

TheTVO

Thanks for all you comments.

WhiteSockGirl
20 Jul 2009 14:02

A man that breaks up with you, calls you BABE while he is breaking up with you? I find it strange/foreign. Every man I dated thus far seemed to remember my name when we were arguing/having differences…

Any man, that is breaking up with me, better not calls me BABE, hugs me or whatever, during that conversation. And he damn well not send me flowers afterwards. He is going to lose his most precious possession! In other words, I will castrate him. With a blunt knife.

But it seems as if it worked for you! You seem to be in good spirit, so EVERYTHING must be intact.

Enjoy the single life!

tizoz
20 Jul 2009 14:21

"in my Bree Van de Kamp voice"  it's Bree Hajj...... okay Hajj... Triple lol!

belz
20 Jul 2009 14:24

“Are you hungry?, I can fix us something”. >>> LMAO!!!! poor thing.

I do not want this arrangement to continue>>> LOL!!!!!!

and hands to the head>>>OMW!!!

DO.YOU.UNDER.STAND!” >>>>>kwakwakwakwakwakwkakwa!!!!

This type of break up has resulted in me going back to this person so what i did on Thursday night, is to send a quick sms,lol. voila , we had broken up in the click of an sms.

Best-Achiever
20 Jul 2009 14:31

This type of break up has resulted in me going back to this person so what i did on Thursday night, is to send a quick sms,lol. voila , we had broken up in the click of an sms. 

kwa kwa kwa belz... but real better that... than a person callling me babe while im crying rivers and telling me Babe im breaking up with you...hhayi shame No...

maud
20 Jul 2009 14:38

Love hurts ne?

Best-Achiever
20 Jul 2009 14:45

in this case "arrangement" maud ...lol

belz
20 Jul 2009 14:47

LOL!!! BA, it worked like magic, i have never had an easier break up.

Segololo
20 Jul 2009 14:51

tjo! TO... *shaking head* quiet a movie-type breakup... lol! shame! "They/Babe" is a darling, yong... to acept flowers after a breakup hai, noh... I have yet to experience being dumped, i think it is way better to be the dumpee... lol!

belz
20 Jul 2009 14:55

"They/Babe" is a darling>>> kwawkakwakwakwakwa.

maud
20 Jul 2009 15:10

hey guys , i am trying to put myself into they,/babe shoes, sorry those shoes are too big for me , i guess you will never know what you might do until it happens to you.

but mina hurting as it is i was going to change it and make him feel like he is the one who has been dumped, eg,  maybe say funny i have also being thinking about this, seeing that there is nothing you certify me with and i was scared to tell you but i am glad you have relieved me plus i already have someone in mind.
the hunter becames the hunted, the dumper becames the dumpee.

belz
20 Jul 2009 15:22

LOL!!! maud, that is childish, but i guess if it makes one feel better then, why not.

maud
20 Jul 2009 15:28

its not for you to feel better, its for him to think that you have been feeling the same thing like he did.and at the end of the day , its not being dumped is we dumped each other.

TheObserver
20 Jul 2009 18:11

@ WhiteSockGirl out of the men you've dated I refuse to believe that you did not have affectionate names you call each other. But then if the use of such names may be the reason they loose their manhood or rather their jewels. Well I guess WhiteSockGirl will do instead of Babe.

In my case the use of the word, has been a thing we shared. They used it and so did I. In fact when we are upset that’s when we use each others names. Its like a clue someone is MAD!

Its very interesting that people want to be respected and loved. They want to be cared and they don’t want to be dump like they are garbage, but if you do it right. It is still not enough. That is sick! So, I believe one has to do what works for them. Popular thought screws up personal relations. They are personal for a reason.

About being in "good spirit" I would not go that far. I am happy with the outcome but I will be upset if they are or would have been in pain over this, should we meet later on in the future. And yes everything is intact. Thank God I did not meet someone with your outlook...man that would be hectic. Blood everywhere blah blah blah. Oh! No! A post it would a great idea to end that, or to just disappear.

I think I will choose to enjoy MY LIFE and not the SINGLE LIFE. If enjoyed a single life it would assume I was a "normal relationship" which was not the case. Also if I focus on being single I will spend too much time sifting through *bleep!* to someone dateable. Hence MY LIFE is more exciting and who knows, maybe I will meet someone in the process of enjoying what my life but am not searching for them.

@tizoz - I know but Van de Kamp has a nice South African ring to it. LOL...Hajj yes...LOL (oh this is very funny. you have no idea)

@belz - Only you can find those elements funny. I can’t help but laugh along with you but I have to stop. I need good KARMA! As for the SMS.....If you typed Babe in that SMS, do not mention it. You will lots of feedback...LOL HAHAHAHA

TheTVO

TheObserver
20 Jul 2009 18:17

@BA lol at the river! LOL you are killing me.

@Segololo - Movie, I don’t think so. I did not a have a soundtrack, special effects, or lighting. Damn I should have hired a crew LOL. Really NO! That was not the point. I was trying to end this with good memories instead of pots and pans flying all over and calling each other names.

About the flowers, they could very well have given them to their friends, etc. I got them delivered at their work place and they may have sent the email to "SHUT ME UP". So we will never know. I guess. But the thing is, I used to send flowers all the time, so this according what we had, was not unique.

@maud - Well I guess if they did that. It would have been interesting and any pain subject to that would be their burden to carry and in that I was not going lift a finger. I am not into games! And it was an arrangement not a relationship.

TheTVO

Tshd21
20 Jul 2009 19:17

TheTvObserver, you're a man?? I thought you were a woman all along???

You dumped them and you held their face in your arms and looked them in the eyes and asked if they understand?? And then you hugged them? And then you sent them flowers everyday after the break-up?? 

Liar 

You are a good writer dude, but puhleez, this is some fictional chapter you cooked up and are ready to publish somewhere and came and posted it here so you can observe the reaction.

...and then, after breaking-up with them, they asked you to spend one last night? Crying? After slapping you? wtf? If this is true, which I do not believe it is, the only reason they asked you to spend the night is so they could kill you while you're sleeping! Jeepers...

Brown Shuga
20 Jul 2009 21:01

This sounds like a Mills and Boon what what. Really awesome writing.

Triple LOL @ Tshd21, such passion in your response. heheheh

Green.arrow
20 Jul 2009 21:36

...LOL  Tshd21....i did not have anything to say here, i read some of the comments,but yours brought me out of my hole ....LOL...

TheObserver
20 Jul 2009 21:49

@Tshd21 - Very interesting, I guess we had to have one those. Only if your conclusions were true, but hey whatever gets you through the day or night. It seems to me that you are the one with a passion for the pen or keyboard?, what with the creepy version of events you painted. I mean EEEW. I guess your series of novels or books is going to have people killed off or some hectic stuff. I'll pass! Too creepy.  This is why I hate personal blogs, people always think they can tell you how to live your life.

@ Brown Shuga. You are comparing my poor old story to UK's undisputed market leader. Don't PLEASE! DO NOT!  I don't need another brigade telling me how NOT real my story is. Real life has more pain than tales of fiction and happily ever after. There is no happily ever after. Besides, there is nothing romantic about an arrangement. If it was LOVE, it would have never been published. But thanks for the compliment.

And yes....the passionate response...its like a touched a nerve! LOL

TheTVO

Tshd21
20 Jul 2009 22:59

I do have passion for a pen and/or keyboard, that's why i do what i do. Anyway, my comment still stands. Nothing real about your "break-up", a chapter from some book that i'm being used to review for free. Unreal, sensational, non-cultured but well-written...

KewlGaL
21 Jul 2009 09:31

Mara strue sGod I really did feel like I'm reading one of those Mills and Boom love books, where the writer doesn't want the starring to be a bad guy so they put in a twist of truth to the story. 

In all honesty lets say this is true, this person u dumped shame is a real good person like you TVO, if it was me you would even dare touch me in my face & ask me DO.I.UNDER.STAND!!! Hell flippin NO, from the moment you said to me Babe, I need to tell u something! knowin that u were not taking my calls nor replying to my sms's, I would have stopped you right there, to tell you that I AM DUMPING U FIRST!! Lol.. i'm sorry but I doubt they are actually fine whereever they are.

Zazacious
21 Jul 2009 09:54

shame that was a bit sad but funny too. Im sorry but some instances made me laugh a bit, Yeah but got me thinking if "They" were about to dump my ass I dont think il be as cool. ya gotta hand it to observer's "They" she handled it well,shame under the circumstances

Msoe
21 Jul 2009 10:03

TVO: I really need to ask this. Were you dating a white chick? 

I ask this because I dont really see a black sista taking being dumped so calmly. We are not made that way, or whateva white chicks are made of. We fight, cry, and want to hurt back if it hurts us not to be calm and be hugged and kissed when we feeling pain. HELL NO!!!

Secondly, This whole story sounds a bit cheesy to me. You both acted like two coconuts rather than two adults. I thought something was up when you asked 4 advise on dumping a gal. Jeez man, no black man asks for advice to dump a gal , they  just do period whether its an 'arrangement' or relationship it doesnt matter. I think you cared too much about this 'arrangement' than you admitting to us. Im beggining to think it wasnt an arrangement at all, you wanted to dump your girlfriend maybe because you are scared of committment or other reason that is unknown to us.

belz
21 Jul 2009 10:29

Guys, LOL!!!! i actually know these type of break ups, and there is nothing cheesy about it, bathong. i've been thru it nami, except for the flowers of course,LOL. which i would have thrown to the road at 120km/h. but nje my past relationship, i would have loved this type of dumping, and i would have replied to that do you understand question, with a smile, and say yes LOVE, i understand, now leave my house please,lol.

So jah guys, whether this sounds like a Mills and Boon or Danielle Steel, lol, it was a porsche breakup, guys should do this more often,lol.

Best-Achiever
21 Jul 2009 10:37

kwa kwa kwa Belz .. so you were once in those lean-your-head-against-my-shoulder-and-let-me-brush-you-cute-innocent-face typa breakup ... followed by warm-long-hug and soft-long-kiss .... unesibindi sisi.... i would never

i dont see myself  aloowing someoe to come over my place after ignoring my calls, sms and the whole me ...hhayi never... ungathi uthi ...can i come over ...i'd tell you "only to your toilet"

i cant stand being ignored..nada

felfel
21 Jul 2009 10:46

lean-your-head-against-my-shoulder-and-let-me-brush-you-cute-innocent-face typa breakup

hahahahaha BA thats what i call a 'Lala gusha ndikuchebe'...

TVO sounds like a strategic playa fo sho, he knew wat he was doing and it paid off fo sho....lol

Green.arrow
21 Jul 2009 11:05

LOL @ evrybody after Tshd21
u guys remind me of what Steve Harvery said about white and black people's response to being fired:

A white man will go to the boss's office after being called oblivious to the fact that there could be something fishy about being especially summoned by the boss (probabbly expecting something good..which is good)

BUT a black will start blowing steam out noses the minute the boss says "Willie..can you please come to my office" on some ..."oh he anit gonna fire me..."...(i paraphrased)...


belz
21 Jul 2009 12:21

LMAO!!!!! BA, I was the dumper and like TVO, wanted it to be "not hurtful" which really doesnt work, so i hugged the person to show that im not a monster , balh blah blah, but no, it doesnt work really,lol.

LMAO!!! Green arrow!!!! so true, so very true.

Cnglemother
30 Jun 2010 11:16

Lol!

BigMama
30 Jun 2010 11:21

Don't laugh Cngle, this is bad, l honestly don't think l could handle an unexpected breakup even though it was just an arrangement.

Cnglemother
30 Jun 2010 11:29

No BM am laughing at some of the last responses.if i was they/babe i was gona throw sumting at O.

Cnglemother
30 Jun 2010 11:29

No BM am laughing at some of the last responses.if i was they/babe i was gona throw sumting at O.

BigMama
30 Jun 2010 11:37

Me too hey, l wouldn't just let him hug and close the door without throwing anything at him....
Let me read more stories, very interesting for a boring and workless wednesday.


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