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He doesn't love his children

Written by Cheesa from the blog Cheesa Chat on 08 Nov 2010
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So I come across this Drum magazine dated 04 November 2010 with Winnie Khumalo and her daughter, Retha on the cover. I didn't buy it coz the cover was not that interesting to me but when I saw it from a friend I decided to borrow it. There is this article of Peter Sephuma aka Miles on Rhythm City and Macks Papo aka Ivan Chinawa on Rhythm City. 

When I saw them in this mag I thought they are chatting about their roles in Rhythm City. But it turns out they are talking about their friendship of more than 20 years and mostly about their experiences with women. They are so open about their experiences with women especially Peter Sephuma to a point were I was amazed by some of his statements. Without writing the full article here let me share some of the statements he made.

Peter Sephuma says to Drum magazine he had two wives. The first wife is Fedile Sephuma and the second one is Pumla Hopa, Isidingo's executive producer. He had a divorce with Pumla Hopa last year. He says in the article, he met his wife Fedile Sephuma when he was going out with Fedile's friend but when Fedile's friend introduced him to Fedile he knew Fedile would be the mother of his children. This was after Peter had a divorce with Nomsa Nene (who was the presenter of the game show Zama Zama) after he was accused of rape.

So basically Fedile Sephuma went out with her friend's man, I just wonder what that friend thought of both of them, Peter Sephuma and Fedile Sephuma. Anyway he says with Pumla Hopa it was love at first sight. Peter admits "there is no woman who doesn't have an issue with being in a polygamous marriage. They just learn to deal with it".

Now he amazes me when he talks about his children saying he doesn't regret his children - only the legitimate ones that is. He has three daughters with Fedile Sephuma and two sons with Pumla Hopa, one of them is the one playing Neo in Isidingo. Peter admits he has seven children out of wed-lock. This is what he says about them.

"I'm a sucker for kids but the ones I don't love are the ones I didn't agree to make. I don't want to know about those children. I believe a man shouldn't be forced into a family relationship just because he was having a fling and the woman decided to stop preventing the pregnancy".

This got my eyes wide open when I read it. This statement amazed me really, the fact that he doesn't love his children just because he didn't agree to make them. Why he didn't lay charges of rape if he was forced by these women to have sex with them? Why was he not responsible enough to use protection if he didn't want to have kids with these women? It amazes me to find that there are still man who blame woman for not preventing when a woman falls pregnant knowing that there are also condoms that a man can use to prevent pregnancy.
 

And now he is taking out all his anger with these women to his children saying he doesn't love them and he doesn't want to know about them. He is not even afraid to say this on a national magazine. But the fact that he doesn’t loves those children won't change the fact that he is the father to those children. Even though he doesn't love these children and not involved in raising them he does pay maintenance. This is what he says to Drum,

"I don't mind paying but the children must know their mothers forced me into that situation. The children I wanted grew up with me and they are Fedile's three girls and Pumla's two boys. I wanted them and I chose to have them with these women".

Haibo Peter Sephuma keeps on saying he was "forced" I don't understand how does an old man like him gets forced to have children. I really don't get this "they forced me." statement really. I am trying to understand how these women forced Peter to have children with them. Did they perhaps pull his pants down and forced him to have sex with them or they told him to not use protection or what. Even if that’s the case he should have said no or lay rape charges if those women were powerful enough to force him to have sex with them. 
 

He also reveals in Drum that he was accused of rape twice but he was found not guilty after the first woman admitted she lied about him being the father of her unborn child. The other woman withdrew the charges. Here's Peter's message to young man especially celebrities.

"I want to warn young men, especially celebrities, to look out for themselves. Women are very tricky. I've ended up hurting my family because woman tricked me into sleeping with them and having kids. Women will intentionally fall pregnant because they think that’s the one way to keep a man. My advice is, don't let your vices destroy your family. I've ended up in trouble because of womanising - it's thrown me into serious problems where I really hurt my family and my children".

Hayi shem I would agree with Peter on that last part of his message only if he was man enough to admit his mistakes and stop blaming women saying they “forced” him to have kids with them and that they are tricky. Hayi no something is wrong with this man. Now he is playing victim now that he realises his actions have hurt his family and children but when he was having a nice time he didn't think about his family and children, haikhona. 

You can read half of the Drum article here: 

http://www.drum.co.za/articles/Celebs/Rhythm-Citys-bad-boys-open-up
 
pics: etv.co.za & drum

Actors in this post: Peter Sephuma, Macks Papo

Shows in this post: Rhythm City



62 Comments

makisto
08 Nov 2010 09:22

I also saw the mag at Shoprite last week. I read the Winnie Khumalo story to pass time while queueing to pay for decent magazines with great cover stories. i didn't buy the magazine because it juts looked boring nje to me, there was nothing exciting about it to me. Now Cheesa. lemme read yo article.

Cheesa
08 Nov 2010 09:22

LOL!!

makisto
08 Nov 2010 09:23

You can read half of the Drum article here: 
That's not half of the article, it's a summarised version which usually consists of 2 or three paragraphs.

MAGNET2DISASTER
08 Nov 2010 09:25

tjo!

makisto
08 Nov 2010 09:36

He has three daughters with Fedile Sephuma and two sons with Pumla Hopa, one of them is the one playing Neo in Isidingo. 
That boy cannot act!!!!!!! They were just pushing it and poor script writers had to write the boy in the storyline because is the boss.
I'm a sucker for kids but the ones I don't love are the ones I didn't agree to make.
He must be ashamed of himself.
I don't understand how does an old man like him gets forced to have children.
That's what I am battling to understand.
I want to warn young men, especially celebrities, to look out for themselves. Women are very tricky. I've ended up hurting my family because woman tricked me into sleeping with them and having kids.
The miniute you unzip your pants and throw your underwear on the floor and put your schlong in there without any protection, you should know what should happen later and be accountable for your pleasures!!!!!!!!
Women will intentionally fall pregnant because they think that’s the one way to keep a man. My advice is, don't let your vices destroy your family.
It is true that some women think falling preggies will make the relationship last forever and that is completely a myth. If you do that and the relationship doesn't work out, the man will walk away and to teach you a lesson, he will completely take care of his child and you wouldn't even hurt him by taking him to courts and o tla swaba wa pona. On the latter paragraph,  you can only let something to destroy your family.
only if he was man enough to admit his mistakes and stop blaming women
I'm puzzled that such a gogo like him still blames other people for his sexual escapades.

Buligirl
08 Nov 2010 10:13

he should have used condoms to prevent all those pregnancies. this old man thinks he is "it".  i always complained about drum only featuring gen actors but i thik its better than reading something this old man.  i wonder what his coleagues thought. Phela this was not wise.

fruity
08 Nov 2010 10:16

I was so disgusted when I read the magazine, he has lost the little bit of respect I had for him. I kept asking myself, did ALL the women force him to impregnate them as he put it, in al those relationships he was JUST a victim? 

I actually felt sorry for the kids coz they did not choose to be born in that situation, Because he says he only contribute financially to their lives, i am sure they felt and they know that he does not love them but for him to go to a NATIONAL magazine and declare that he does not love them is so nauseating, * pukes* . If he has issues with the mothers for trying to trap him, he should in no way try to take it out on the kids. Poor kids. Peter is a selfish asshole, guys like him should not be given an opportunity to be fathers. He should be ashamed of himself.

I get more and more angry coz I know exactly how it feels to grow up with an absent father .

rebo
08 Nov 2010 10:25

rili dis guy is stupid sis maan, once u put ur thing there  without condom u r @ risk of contracting aids nd pregnancy. how  could drum publish such nonsense hai maan y do they encourange matlakala a buing ke rre yo mare? 

i mean for GOd sake he is a celebrity he is abusing us as woman nd he gets away with it? i honestly demand an apology coz this sound more like u asked for rape by wearing a mini skit huh. he has no respect 4 woman kolobe e sis maan ena ws he a planned child him self? u cant say bad things abt other people nogal on media bathong he must take resposibility of his actions money alone it's nt enough hw can he love 5 kids were else he has more dan that.  the kids he doent want now might b the next big thing in the future he will come running nd claiming gore are his kids. i think this woman shud take him to court nd sue de hell out of him. 

i'm rili disapointed with drum for publishing and disrespecting woman involed nd kids. what abt the their side of story mara one thing for sure abt man they will make promises tsa legodimo le lefatshe wen they r inlove sis drum nd ur frnd MILES

Sbam
08 Nov 2010 10:29

I also read that article and i could believe most of the things those guys were saying?
And Peter Sephuma...... with  2 wives?
 Ntle le moo keng ka rona basadi mare haai heh? Such intelligent, educated women, setlling for polygamous relationship(sharing a man)... haai maan a ke re tsoheng.. really a re tsoheng!!!!

Sana Lwam
08 Nov 2010 10:29

 Tjo! lo tata akana ntloni neh?

Green.arrow
08 Nov 2010 10:35

*SMH*...this would be funny if children were not involved.

machinjiri
08 Nov 2010 10:46

@ all of u my family, after impraginating all those women he must go voluntary ntoni ntoni....... I just cant bkve he cld say all those things without bng ashamed bantu. Those kids will grow up and he wil want them to be a part of hm since they r hs blood and the kids will deny hm that. Have a gud monday lovers

Tazteeq
08 Nov 2010 10:51

This man should be fined big time for his words!

pele
08 Nov 2010 10:54

WTF? Is this old man sane? he must stick to Rythm City for life, who would wnat to employ a bastard liek him to be in their show? Old man learn to zip up, i am sure Phumla Hopa is so ashamed of evr geting to be your wife,  sies.

Such intelligent, educated women, setlling for polygamous relationship(sharing a man)... haai maan a ke re tsoheng.. really a re tsoheng!!!! 

what's intelligence got to do with people's marriages? people learn to respect other people's choices haybo this is getting to far, some people still love their old  traditions they live and swear by them, it doesnt make them less intelligent...plzzzzz...

carino
08 Nov 2010 10:57

I'm a sucker for kids but the ones I don't love are the ones I didn't agree to make.

This is such a low thing to say.

MAGNET2DISASTER
08 Nov 2010 11:04

MACKS IS NO FRIEND GUYS,WOULD ANYONE LET THEIR FRIENDS MAKE SUCH INHUMAN COMMENTS FOR THE WHOLE WORLD TO TALK ABOUT?ON THE OTHER HAND I THINK THIS IS A KHANYI MBAU STUNT!!!!!!!HE JUST WANTS TO BE A HOUSEHOLD NAME,HE WANTS TO POTRAY HIMSELF AS A BAD BOY OR BAD MADALA COZ OF HIS AGE............HE WANTS US TO BOOST HE`S POPULARITY,ITS PART OF CELEBVILLE THE BAD YOU BECOME THE MORE FAMOUS YOU BECOME

Cheesa
08 Nov 2010 11:17

M2D Macks the friend was laughing all this time when Peter Sephuma was saying all this. Are these two men okay???

sexy d
08 Nov 2010 11:26

shocked is dis really Peter Sephuma who spoke this words. Darm i had such a respect  for this man but after reading this i lost it sis man..

carino
08 Nov 2010 11:41

It's actually not very surprising.

He does look very much moegoe.

Its like one of those men who cant even have it up for that long... just the way he moves when he speaks...there's something dof about him.

Cheesa
08 Nov 2010 11:43

just the way he moves when he speaks...there's something dof about him. LMAO I have noticed this when watching RC kwaaaaaahahahaha.

Cande
08 Nov 2010 12:00

yho *mouth wide opened*

Tazteeq
08 Nov 2010 12:07

"ts like one of those men who cant even have it up for that long" @Carino, LMFAO...*SHM*, Hayi, TVSA!

carino
08 Nov 2010 12:27

Its a known fact though.. two minute noodles like making too much noise.

pele
08 Nov 2010 13:03

and the is a rumour two minute noodles can make twenty babies per min, hahah

Favoured
08 Nov 2010 13:06

TJO

gissele
08 Nov 2010 13:07

hayi man,le ndoda ayinantloni sies!

carino
08 Nov 2010 13:39

and the is a rumour two minute noodles can make twenty babies per min, hahah

hahaha.. true pele... true.. There's a biological explanation to that too. something about the sperms when they stay longer in the veins... during the act.. they kind of get tired and when they have to reach for the goal... they are too tired...

...And with the two minute noodles its straight to the point first time around, hence instant pregnancy. Futhi people like this.. anyway.. #lemmeshutup

machinjiri
08 Nov 2010 14:03

@ carino dont shut up yet dearie, finish it its fun

BM
08 Nov 2010 14:06

if i was one of teh unloved kids form this man, i will cut and aste teh artcile for teh day he remmebers to be a father. No offence to Xhosa's but most Xhosa dad's are deadbeat, they make babies all over and never ever raise their kids, sigh!!!

Lobby the girl
08 Nov 2010 14:07

Eish this guy, i really had such respect for him, but now all is gone, U right wena GA it would be funny if they we no Kids involved, spoken like an 18 year old back then denying the baby in front of the parents..

tshetlha
08 Nov 2010 14:25

Sies!!!!!! to think I had a little of respect for this man.......Damn him for disrespecting women like that. After he is the one who didn't protect himself from making unwanted babies.......

PruLuv
08 Nov 2010 14:26

Tjo! That's hectic!

carino
08 Nov 2010 14:36

I cant believe I haven't read this article. I only saw the line about unplanned children on the replies... and sies...anginamdla to read the whole thing.

tshetlha
08 Nov 2010 14:53

Disgusting......carino...why didnt you finish the noodle story.......

3so
08 Nov 2010 15:04

OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOH  MY WORD........................THIS MAN NEEDS DEVINE INTERVENTION...............NO IS HE FOR REAL??WOW..........UNBELIEVABLE STUFFD!!!

Zah000
08 Nov 2010 15:33

"I'm a sucker for kids but the ones I don't love are the ones I didn't agree to make. I don't want to know about those children. I believe a man shouldn't be forced into a family relationship just because he was having a fling and the woman decided to stop preventing the pregnancy".

*chokes* *chokes* cough* I need a glass of water....excuse me

myname
08 Nov 2010 16:00

I always thought this guy is a monkey (Im sori but he is a monkey). 

I hope one of the ladies amthole ngomuti so into yakhe izobancane angakhoni ukwenza ezinye izingane angazithandi.....JUST JOKING but this is so wrong. The kids are innocent this time. While he was bonking all these women without a condom, what was his intentions?

He should apologise to his kids for that childish statement. 

Im out of here! This man just sent me home. Tomorrow bakithi.

Cnglemother
09 Nov 2010 00:44

i saw it and i couldnt read further afta that comment !Pele you ma boy but Xhosa men shem are deadbeats of note.everytime i went to maintanance court inotice board was full of amagama asekoloni in jozi nogal.the clerk kept saying anisihlazi erhawutini and the fools were forever talking english yetender on their phones chap this chap that.

Cnglemother
09 Nov 2010 00:55

what was the other guy laughing at seriously?it says a lot nangabafazi bakhe abo.how does a grown ass supposedly well informed utters such rubbish kwimedia?SA real men (with influence) need to say something.so what if they were unplanned?he was a willing participant in those sex acts mos.

Cnglemother
09 Nov 2010 01:04

the 2 minute noodle theory lol!

carino
09 Nov 2010 09:05

heh.. yazi i still cant believe this.

For someone who has been in this business for as long as this man has, you would think he knows a bit of public relations and what can and shouldnt be said.

How do you say something like this mara?? So what if you dont love your children? why are you telling the world? It's so true when they say when someone is quiet it's easy to mistake them as wise.. until they open their mouth and expose themselves.

If this was coming from a young boy who is just about to finish matric, it would make sense. But a grown ass man who is supposed to be in the league ya bo Shona Ferguson... this is soooo embarrassing.

pele
09 Nov 2010 09:17

Cmother and BM, I grew up without my real father, i can never ever deny that most Xhosa dad's are dead beat, most of us were raised by step fathers while our real dad's 'bafa bethwele umqwazi'', so guys thethani what you wnat to say dont sapre me any factual opionions.

it's Chief this , chief that ...hhahahah

poshspice
09 Nov 2010 10:07

I hope the unloved kids do not find out about this article..I doubt he supports all of them...how do you support someone you do not acknowledge as your own...or love for that matter...

dana
09 Nov 2010 10:49

i was soooo disgusted after reading this article.im sorry,but this is the type of behaviour that gives black men a bad rep. not taking responsibility for his actions.can he honestly  stand there and tell us he is completly innocent in this whole baby making matter?didnt he notice he wasnt wearing a condom?what the hell was HE doing to prevent a pregnancy?bloody idiot.i hope all his kids,even the ones he 'loves''read this,and realise what a non-man he really is.sies.talking like a 16 year old.a stupid 16 year old nogal.

Spineli
09 Nov 2010 12:07

I am truly lost for words. I used to like this thing (he doesnt deserve to be called a man). Like some of the bloggers, I have lost respect for him. Ga a na ditlhong struu.

I will never understand why women are always blamed for getting pregnant.

Vandimerwe
09 Nov 2010 14:48

i think this old chap is bewitched...how can somebody in all his sense can even go there...talking about kids....he has to be arrested

PhatMo
09 Nov 2010 15:32

they are staining the reputation of our species(men)...they again sound pretty platinum tongued...its clear they were players and they tricked these women into having kids with them...now they lost them and wanna get back to them by embarrasing this ladies and them kids...sukani nina ...amanyala..sis...


is waar cheesa..

ownah m p
10 Nov 2010 09:41

to tell the truth man can out of line some times but people the man is right when he say woman can fall prgnt to trap man.....this is happenning!!!!!! but he shouldnt just say he was forced ..oh!!! why did he agree?? and even if he was forced he will alwys be the father no matter what he say...

Lex
11 Nov 2010 12:35

I was totally disgusted when I read their article in the magazine. How you can 'proudly' proclaim not to love your own children and say you were forced into having those kids is truly shameless. For his sake,which is unlikely,I hope his illegitimate children did not read the magazine and there will never come a point in his life where he'll need help from them.

Gyan
11 Nov 2010 14:05

Thsi sorry stinking ass of a man doesnt even deserve your comments. Rha, indonda endala kangaka speking such rubbish. Yinto yaphi khona le? He has that dumb face nje. Nxa.

S.K
11 Nov 2010 14:09

This is what u call rubbish with capital letter R. Nx

zam.ngcobo
20 Apr 2011 09:10

F#&% this man nxah......

VusiK
20 Apr 2011 11:20

Infant ....

Everybody has voiced my opinions ....

Infant ...

This man does not have illegitimate children  ....

He is an Illegitimate parent!

zam.ngcobo
20 Apr 2011 11:35

This man does not have illegitimate children ....

He is an Illegitimate parent!
AMEN  !!!!!

MsKim
20 Apr 2011 12:02

...to tell the truth man can out of line some times but people the man is right when he say woman can fall prgnt to trap man....sad but true
i don't know who starting with thephrase men r dogs/pigs he is a perfect example. but wats our excuse as women..

actually its not my first time hearing a man blablabla abt this, its jus a bunch of crap.

welcome back Ownah darlling i missed u.



MsKim
20 Apr 2011 14:37

I don't  blame this psychopath, the problem is with the women.. even after saying all this, they'll be a woman still willing to sleep with him without protection. Why are we putting our children thru all the trauma. u knw u stand a big chance of getting pregnant without protection.... condomize pliz, there's no fu*ken way they'll ever change with o without kids, lets not ruin our lives n our future kids' lives. the way this maniac is putting his words i'm telling u, he may have said it to som of the women before he even got them pregnant.... i don't knw if its the ignorance o wat.. i jus don't get it.... as we speak he'll pregnant someone very soon o maybe it happened jus yesterday who knws... nxah!

VusiK
20 Apr 2011 14:40

He reminds of a Nig*er who has just fallen on a little money and thinks he's wealthy and it will never end....
What was that character in the 80s telly who used to tell peole how poor they are ... Ponko or something similar ...

This guy is Him!

Needs to wake up.. being famous has gone to his head!

VusiK
20 Apr 2011 14:40

He reminds of a Nig*er who has just fallen on a little money and thinks he's wealthy and it will never end....
What was that character in the 80s telly who used to tell peole how poor they are ... Ponko or something similar ...

This guy is Him!

Needs to wake up.. being famous has gone to his head!

VusiK
20 Apr 2011 14:41

Poor Macks .... He needs to be cut off this picture ...

Did you guys know Macks was my desk-mate in Junior High?

VusiK
20 Apr 2011 14:52

Any woman who believes a child is currency in a relationship in 2011 was born in the wrong millennium... Even abo-Shaka were born out of wedlock, and ... they were not viable currency even back then... which is why he (uShaka) had issues

MsKim
20 Apr 2011 15:21

Sometimes its not jus the monies, jus to make the man stick around... sort of like we now have a child together... lol, so wat?? n now u involve an innocent soul who wasn't given a choice.. Pliz think abt yo actions, hw it'l affect yo child. it doesn't matter hw pple may sympathize with u, u knw u got yoself into the situation with yo eyes wide open now u hoping everyone wld understand coz of the kids.. really..i mean REALLY??

pliz pple let the psycoz be.

VusiK
20 Apr 2011 15:27

In my family ... If a woman was ever seen with one of the boys ... and then claims he is the father ... we default to the fact that we know he knows her ... He is responsible ...

He will take care of .. and provide for her needs through the pregnancy
If he is denying paternity  ... DNA test at birth ... no excuses ... if he is the father ... he will apologise personally to everyone in her family and ours

We don't play!

So our boys are very careful where to stick it!


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