FORGIVE and MOVE ON!

Written by Dimakatzo from the blog Soul Dreamer on 12 Nov 2011
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We get hurt...then we act out, we want to get back at the person who have hurt us just so we can feel better...but we turn to forget the most important thing FORGIVENESS...most of the time people especially those that have been hurt find it difficult to forgive those that have hurt them...coz I think I speak for a lot of people when I say when u forgive someone who have hurt u it feel as if they are getting away with what the did... When the truth is when u forgive someone u a letting yourself be free and happy or so I m told because I m going thru the very same thing right now...wondering how to forgive and move on?...does anyone knows how does that work?

8 Comments

Khodo
14 Nov 2011 09:37

That girl I wish I had answers for you but I do not. I'm also going through a bit of a rough patch. My boyfriend keeps doing the same mistake over and over again. I have forgiven him before and I'm wondering if forgiving him again is good.

VusiK
14 Nov 2011 11:36

Eish Khodo ... There are no real answers to your question ...

Khodo
14 Nov 2011 12:51

I'm actually very upset with him right now and it is making me very unhappy - maybe if I forgive him I will feel better but then He might do it again thinking because I have forgiven him before I will have no problem again.

myname
14 Nov 2011 13:10

Ag shame babygirl, forgiveness has no recipe. You'll know when to forgive that motherf****.

Mina if someone has really pushed my main switch i usually insult them( esp abo boyfriends and friends) and i wil feel much better after that. I've noticed if i dont do that it's always haunt me & i'll be angry with everybody even the people who love me so much.

So if u r crazy like Myname, THUKA LONJA u'll be OK.

Take care of your heart sweetheart.

maud
14 Nov 2011 13:23

all i can say is ,its not easy to forget , you can forgive but you will never forget, if someone hurt me everytime i look at him it always came back.

but to forgive its devine

Khodo
05 Dec 2011 15:19

I forgave him and this weekend guess what - the son of a b....... did his thing again. I have had it. I'm not going back. sad but true

Ntlewame2
05 Dec 2011 16:06

Forgiveness & tolerating are not the same thing.

I can forgive you but it does not mean i tolerate your behaviour i.e....i have learned your character-understand its YOU and agree with myself not to be around such a Character.........hence I have no qualms with you/what you do after that

If i forgive you-and our relationship stays goes back to the same status........that means I FORGAVE & I TOLERATE.........i.e........
"she mos can take it......"
the more you tolerate the more the next person affirms that charector!

you need to be bold with people around you, I learned the hard way........it will just get worse........you need to say I DONT LIKE THIS-I AM GONE/IF IT HAPPENS AGAIN.....I AM GONE.........and you should mean it

Ngqesta
30 Dec 2011 12:53

Eish that girl.....this forgiveness thing is rather tricky....I am going through something similar, have tried to move on...have prayed about it....have talked to counselors....however it takes one little thing from the 'offender' to trigger all the negative feelings yet again...those of hurt, anger, disgust...etc. So when you figure it out...please let us know...am first to admit...I fail dismally. I suppose like the other bloggers have said....once you forgive as much as you are 'setting yourself free and all'....you can't help but feel you're opening yourself up to being hurt....unfortunately by the same person time and time again....not that not forgiving will help you in any way....but at least it makes you feel like you're protecting yourself in a way as your guard is up somewhat....so all in all...I also don't know what the correct way to go about this is.

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