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It is good

Written by Best-Achiever from the blog Only the Best is Achieved Here on 17 Sep 2009
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It is good to have a friend whom you know you can depend upon, call them and ask to squash in their place for the weekend, ask them to pretend as if you are not there and when then ask ‘Is everything ok?’ you tell them ‘I don’t want to talk about it and no one has to know I’m here’, they just node their head and leave you alone

It is still good to answer all the calls except for one person and when they use someone’s phone you answer it and lie about your whereabouts, make them drive ridiculous KM and still don’t get to see you because you are not even there, saves them right.

It is also good to feel like you are one against the world because everyone else doesn’t seem to understand where you come from and where you are standing!

And yeah, it is not right to get people’s wish list on your salary half-way through the month, oh maybe they just caught me on the wrong day.

It is good even though it might not be right.
And yes I am venting

50 Comments

Best-Achiever
17 Sep 2009 12:13

Yes it good to run away from problems until you can think clearly and speak things you wont regret

BigMama
17 Sep 2009 12:21

Are you sure it is good BA...Won't you regret making a person drive and waste petrol and money all for nothing???

Best-Achiever
17 Sep 2009 12:26

It is not for nothing Bigmama, it is for making me angry in the first place ...LOL, they way ngikwate ngakhona i needed to be impossible

Lela
17 Sep 2009 12:27

Sana I know axactly how you feel, today I feel axactly like that and I so don't wanna talk but the problem with my friends is that they are in his fan club, my best friend is his no1 fan so ke the only difference between me and you is that I have no where to run to cz they will tell him anyway. I feel so traped, last night I didn't sleep trying to think about where I can run to cz with these b&*#s there is no way they will not let him know where I am. Sbari sbari my foot!

Best-Achiever
17 Sep 2009 12:32

I am. Sbari sbari my foot ...
kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa

eish sorry that you have no where to go to, atleast i do have a friend who i know will never let him know as much as she is so so fond of him, she knows better than to do that because i have been doing her loads of favours!

BigMama
17 Sep 2009 12:37

@BA...l hope you will be able to forgive him anyways, l wonder wenzeni to deserve this... but it does feel good, seeing him running around looking for you...Making all those phone calls and sending sms

GML
17 Sep 2009 12:45

I feel the same way BA.

I feel like just packing my *bleep!* and leaving. Just because I feel overwhelmed. It wouldnt be running from my problems it would be taking a break because I dont have time to think about it rationally because it's forever there. So going away from the situation will make me think properly without the situation or environment clouding my judgement.

I cannot go anywhere because I will be told i'm wrong no matter what. I miss my other mom (she was our neighbour and we got along so well). She passed away a few years back. I really need her today

Best-Achiever
17 Sep 2009 12:54

Oh yes Bigmama, it feels so good to see him all worked up... a part of me just want to burst in laughter when i hear his sorry voice on the phone and oh boy im not yet done with him... 2 more drive then we gonna talk ... for now he need to go deepre on his wallet for nothing.

Tjo GML .. go visit your parents for a weekend

GML
17 Sep 2009 12:57

@BA: I cant because they will stress me about the wedding....

Manje I have no where to go...

BigMama
17 Sep 2009 13:01

@BA and GML...Shooo, l always thought you ladies were tougher, and you did not let any one upset you, but l am glad you have a solution. Gugu you can come and squat at my house for the weekend l will be gone to the funeral....

Best-Achiever
17 Sep 2009 13:05

hhayi bo Bigmama... It depends on who did what!

Lela
17 Sep 2009 13:09

I cannot go anywhere because I will be told i'm wrong no matter what....I know exactly what you mean GML, that's always the problem with alll our friends because I'm the most talkative and loud one in the relationship so whenever there is a problem whoever I tell responds,"hayi sana ubumenzeni wena usbari?" ngeloxesha loo sbari wabo akakasi nenkukhu ekhayi ngusbari lence.

GML
17 Sep 2009 13:11

BigM. Thanks you're such a sweet heart.

Even if I could, I would miss T so much. I am not down I just need to go and breathe until I clear my head. right now it seems/feels like there is no Gugu time at all

GML
17 Sep 2009 13:12

@Lela: My family adores him so it's easy for them to take his side. lol
Plus I can be really hot headed if I want to

GML
17 Sep 2009 13:13

So the natural reaction is to blame me

cleve
17 Sep 2009 13:16

aG SHAME GUYS!!!!!!! Such sadness................. it will be over soon, trust me I know

Best-Achiever
17 Sep 2009 13:17

ngeloxesha loo sbari wabo akakasi nenkukhu ekhayi ngusbari lence.

kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa Lela ... atleast your way out is stll very simple and will not involve loads of people

Ms. Jay
17 Sep 2009 13:28

Its good to sleep in the spare room when you fighting and leave him wondering why you still angry.....

why didn you post this last week....i needed to vent, my hormones, today I am in a great mood

Ms. Jay
17 Sep 2009 13:34

qina, it will be well soon.....

Anger

* Proverbs 15:1
* Matthew 5:21-26, 43-48
* Ephesians 4:26,27,31,32
* James 1:19-21

Revenge

* Leviticus 19:17,18
* Isaiah 25:1-5
* Matthew 5:38-42
* Romans 12:17-21

GML
17 Sep 2009 13:38

it's not okay Ms Jay.

Next thing he will do worse like leaving the house only to return the next day. how would you feel?

Rather talk till there are no more words left to say

TheLady
17 Sep 2009 13:41

B-A and GML..before the brothers sent omalume emakini..nobody talked about getting away, as soon as them brothers part with cash and ya'll got one foot in the door emshadweni nicabanga ukuhamba! Ahlanzela abangenamabhodwe ngempela.

maud
17 Sep 2009 13:42

silence is golden, just be quiet, he will be worried and thats your fighting skills, leave him wondering what went wrong.

Best-Achiever
17 Sep 2009 13:44

TheLady ... you have no idea what load this whole thing comes with ... Only if everyone listened to me when i said they must come next year! LOL ... mina TheLady im so pissed off, what happend now has never happened before so weare allowed to be pissed

Best-Achiever
17 Sep 2009 13:47

Yes Maud silence is golden ... this is what i have been doing, not making a call to him, but does he get the message, me thinks not because he phones every half an hour and i knew that come Friday, he will be knocking on my door, so i had to leave because i wasnt and still not prepared to talk, i dont wanna say things i will regret... and now everyone, i mean everyone from his family is on my case and oh my own aunt too whom he turned to when i playes my silence card!

cleve
17 Sep 2009 13:52

BA nizoba sharp.......... be angry as much as you want, it's the beginning. you will learn to handle your situations better, I know I sound like I don't make sense mara after a year or two the fights will be handled better by both parties...........

TheLady
17 Sep 2009 13:53

I hope you guys work it out soon, before you both put a dent in your relationship. I read on Nonny's GB once where you both drove +-600km to each other's places just coz you missed each other...only to find that you are on opposite ends again. That was cute...that you'd miss...talk to your heart dear.

lady gaga
17 Sep 2009 13:53

B.A utlwela ngwana o mong tu!!.................lol

Ms. Jay
17 Sep 2009 13:55

BA/GML on the road to marriage you will encounter many more of these moments and it wil be worse coz you cant jus divorce and then remarry him when you feel better.......

what happend now has never happened before so weare allowed to be pissed - the rosey colored glasses have been taken off and you both seeing sides you never knew existed, its normal....

trust me, now it feels like it will never work, but when you decide to fight for it and make it work, it will be well worth it....nothing great ever comes out something that has not been tried and tested...ask any mineral of value

Best-Achiever
17 Sep 2009 13:58

Thanx Cleve and TheLady... the thing is it is real our first time fighting, we are normal a team fighting aginst other things together, not fighting with each other and yes TheLady, i do miss him most of the time but for now i just dont want to entertain that... i just want to be left alone and feel angry as much as i want to.

GML
17 Sep 2009 14:03

Ms Jay i never said I had a problem with hubby. I was just reiterating saomething that Lela said

I am just feeling overwhelmed that's all sisi. In fact he understands what I'm going through at the moment. It has nothing to do with him and he knows that

It happens- I just feel like screaming nje just to get clarity

Green.arrow
17 Sep 2009 14:09

It is also good to feel like you are one against the world because everyone else doesn’t seem to understand where you come from and where you are standing! ,,sometimes..but ryt now it dont feel good...but its all good...

aaw bo sistas bam.....BA, lela,GML...even this shall pass u know mos.....askies and hang in there......

Ms. Jay
17 Sep 2009 14:11

OK G - no need to explain - I musta not understood you clearly, my apologies for the unsolicited advise......

lady gaga
17 Sep 2009 14:13

GML u really looooooooove ur hubby sweety ne, i mean it shows in ur replies. u always talk nicely of him, he's a lucky fish or maybe u are.......lol

GML
17 Sep 2009 14:15

No Ms Jay.

I appreciate the advise and I will/have made not of it and have taken it to heart.
It's just not the right advise for me at this point in time, hence my saying my feeling like this is not relationship based but more self based.

I spoke to hubby last night to a point where there was nothing left to say and he held me and said nothing. That's what I needed but for today I need something different.

Thank you though. Much appreciated

Phikza
17 Sep 2009 14:19

YOH, my friend!! Vent nono....kodwa ke............

Zee Babes!
17 Sep 2009 14:22

@B A it`s not good.

Best-Achiever
17 Sep 2009 14:24

LOL Phikza ... it is good to have a friend like you who'll just give me a call late at night to remind me that they care a lot about me and they'll wait until im prepared to talk, send me sms's reminding me they are available anytime to listen, send me sms to go to gmail to chat with them and when i gat there they stsrt telling me wha a good man someone is, when the only thing that i need is for you to take my side ..LOL love you my friend

Phikza
17 Sep 2009 14:33

tl tl tl tl tl tl tl tl...BA, you know that everything that i say is CORRECT njena even though you shout at me sometimes and you dont want to talk kodwa i wont stop telling you what i keep telling you....which is not your side somehow, lol

baby e
17 Sep 2009 14:39

@ BA - watch out girl he might deceide otherwise

mathata
17 Sep 2009 14:42

you guys you are F* lucky,mina i dont have a person i can call a friend.

Mafresh
17 Sep 2009 14:43

BA, I didnt understand why my aunt was crying on my weddin day, after several years now I do.

Best-Achiever
17 Sep 2009 14:43

LOL baby e, that will cal for a champaigne and cheers ...LOL

Ms. Jay
17 Sep 2009 14:46

<<<<<<<<<<, cyber hug>>>>>>>>>>>. @ GML, and BA

GML
17 Sep 2009 14:47

Tell us Mafresh Why was she crying?

cleve
17 Sep 2009 14:48

Ahhh shame mafresh!!!!!!

cleve
17 Sep 2009 14:50

Tell us Mafresh Why was she crying?

becuase she knows that marraige comes with extreme emotions, when you are happy youare extra happy and when you are sad you are extremely sad, not forgetting anger.

Best-Achiever
17 Sep 2009 14:51

Thank you Ms. Jay, yes please do tell Mafresh

Mafresh
17 Sep 2009 15:39

On the dot Cleve...
When u enter this communion most of us are happy and only know 1 side of the other person. But once in you'll c the other side which might not be what most of us expected.

Hence the song: Dikuku di monate, lenyalo le boima

GML
17 Sep 2009 15:43

Never heard the song Mafresh

Best-Achiever
13 Oct 2009 14:45

im so saddened that im gonna be forced to watch the ever beaten Bafana Bafana .. eish these kids

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