The Second Time Around
You see your ex and somehow all of a sudden you find them overly attractive again. Even worse, they are with someone else that looks almost like you. Now you are convinced there’s still something there.
Is it ever a good idea to “go at it again”?
What should you look out for in a lover that wants to “try it again”?
What are the chances that it will work when it actually failed the first time around?
I think some of the reasons you could decide to give it a second chance are:
Reason #1. You remained good friends after the break-up and if he’s such a good listener and you still have so much in common, why not just make it all official, commit and settle down?
Reason #2. Now that you think about it, your ex was actually the best “in bed”. You haven’t met anyone that measures up. He had one amazing piece of meat - and the way it used to vibrate a 'lil when all the veins in his body would be directing his blood to one place only - still puts your stomach in a knot. (by the way guys, what does it mean to you when a girl calls out your surname when she orgs? some man said the first thing that comes to his mind is his grandfather.lol)
moving on...
Reason #3. You are lonely. Since you broke up, you haven’t really had anyone close, you really miss your ex, and every other thing reminds you of them and the good times you had. Every song that plays on the radio takes you back to some moment and every street corner reminds you of the night you had a fight and he said "step out of my car". Or maybe every striped shirt reminds you of the one you got him on some anniversary. - Shem
Reason #4. You are jealous. You keep comparing yourself to the other partners they had since the break-up. All of a sudden, you see him/her as such a good lover from a distance. And phela some "now-girlfriends le bona they just have a way of saying "kuphethe mina, manje" - how depressing.
Reason #5. Even though he used to be abusive, he now vows that he has changed, and you think you believe him. I know this has been overly discussed. I'm just putting it here coz some guys still make a mark on your face and say "lets see now, who's gonna love you," and think that when he comes back after three years you will jump into his arms to quench your cerebos.
Reason #6. You both think you were too young the first time around, and you still needed to gain a bit of independence, and you are now more mature and able to make the big decision to commit. mghm.. you should just make sure you do all the necessary blood tests. The word "independent" comes with a lot of abbreviated tags these days.
Reason #7. You are still very much “in love” with each other (whatever that means).
Reason #8. Or maybe you both just happened to be in the right(or wrong) place at the right(or wrong) time. You lock eyes and touch blood. Now you think "the spark is there" - how pathetic!
So, bloggers, when is it totally a bad idea to get back together?
Which reason is just totally pathetic?
How can you be sure that it is going to work the second time around?
Once you actually start-over, what should you do differently to avoid a second break-up? Is it okay if you just tread carefully around the issues that caused the break-up, so as to avoid a second one?
Have you ever had to *do it over*? Did it work? How?
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