If i knew then, what i know now...

Written by Dimago from the blog Some food for thought on 12 Jun 2008
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So i'm on holiday and i'm thinking about my life. The 1st 6 months on 2008 were not that great, but I am determined to make sure the latter part is better. So i'm thinking of things I could have done differently in my life in general. Not from a point of regret a 'lesson's learnt' angle.

If I knew then what I know now, I would definitely:
- not have compromised on my 'no sex before marriage' philosophy
- would have gone for my 1st choice of career and not just look for the quickest way out of school.
- not wasted my time with guys who had girlfriends thinking they would leave them for me.
- not procrastinate. What do they say about procrastination again?
- ask for what I want in a relationship and not second guess myself when I feel its time to leave
- been more daring and stop being so risk averse.

If you had a do over, what would you do differently or what lessons have you learnt that you'll pass on to your children?

19 Comments

Toxic
12 Jun 2008 07:40

If I knew then what I know now, I would definitely:
- not have compromised on my 'no sex before marriage' philosophy
- not procrastinate. What do they say about procrastination again?
- ask for what I want in a relationship and not second guess myself when I feel its time to leave
- been more daring and stop being so risk averse.

Me too!!

If you had a do over, what would you do differently or what lessons have you learnt that you'll pass on to your children?

I am still thinkin about the most important lesson i want my child to learn besides the no sex before marriage philosophy. Will be back later with my response/reflections.

Renegade
12 Jun 2008 07:43

Really nice one Dimago, Let me think, i'll be back.

Toxic
12 Jun 2008 07:48

if i knew then what i know now:

i would have been reckless with my youth and enjoyed life with wild abandon in my teens.
i would have worn a lot of mini-skirts and shorts
i would have studied journalism and not hr

The lesson part still evades me...back later LOL

Renegade
12 Jun 2008 07:57

Ok,I 'm back.

- I would have been more confident in high school
- Would have thought hard about what to study after school
- Would have not wasted my time on some guys
- Would have asked more questions where necessary, instead of just accepting
- Would have been more assertive in many a situation

But some of these things make us who we are today. Retrospect is wonderful, but honestly, while there are things I regret, I really thing I wouldn't be who I am without those mistakes.

As for the lessons:

- Ask when you don't understand, you'll only be an idiot for that one moment, as opposed to being one for the rest of you life
- Never ever compromise your hapiness, you will never be able to please the world.
- Value yourself, you are the only you, and no one can be a better you.
- Respect your parents.

I'm sure there's more, will update as they come to me.

Nonny
12 Jun 2008 09:16

What's done is done, so I don't even wanna think what I could've or should've done, I can't turn back the hands of time and I have made peace with it.

faraimagic
12 Jun 2008 09:28

i wish i never knew wat i knopw now.....i wish i never got that 4ne call!

Toxic
12 Jun 2008 09:46

what phone call Farai?

- Would have thought hard about what to study after school
- Would have been more assertive in many a situation

Renegade, that's me toooo!

Mambox
12 Jun 2008 09:54

Completely agree with you on these two:
- not have compromised on my 'no sex before marriage' philosophy
- would have gone for my 1st choice of career and not just look for the quickest way out of school.

belz
12 Jun 2008 09:56

I would have really thought and decided on what i want for a career.
I would have got rid of some people in my life a long time ago.
I would have looked around for cheaper insurance.

I will teach my child that:

YOU must always come first.
Happiness is the most important thing.

Dimago
12 Jun 2008 10:09

thanks Tox for cleaning up & publishing the blog. (((Ask when you don't understand, you'll only be an idiot for that one moment, as opposed to being one for the rest of you life))) LOL and very true Rene, I still struggle with that.

Toxic
12 Jun 2008 10:33

y ong exposer mara D, he??

HARAMBE24
12 Jun 2008 15:53

i will

HARAMBE24
12 Jun 2008 15:53

i will never

HARAMBE24
12 Jun 2008 15:55

sorry, but my laptop just got a stupid erection!!LOL...well, there is nothing i will want to redo in my life...okay, i shuld have screwed that guy in high school. That is the only regret i have in life.

Dimago
12 Jun 2008 17:15

LMAO H24...it's never too late...
Sorry Tox, didn't know you were undercover...

HARAMBE24
13 Jun 2008 00:40

Dimago mokgotsi...the guy is now married with kids...i dont know where to find him.

sjura
18 Jul 2008 04:21

i wud have been more responsible....

bongeka sengane
03 Feb 2009 09:18

hey dim evrythng has gt it time 2happen,so it was 4u to learn on ur mistakes so dt u wont allow it 2hppen 2 ur children bcs u hav i experience.hop ifuture yakho izoba bright we live 4experiances in ds life

Supa
03 Feb 2009 09:27

- Ask when you don't understand, you'll only be an idiot for that one moment, as opposed to being one for the rest of you life
- Never ever compromise your hapiness, you will never be able to please the world.
- Value yourself, you are the only you, and no one can be a better you.
- Respect your parents.
WOW thats awesome!

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