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When Does A Secret Admirer Become a Stalker?

Written by Best-Achiever from the blog Only the Best is Achieved Here on 18 Apr 2008
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Everybody likes the attention especial woman or maybe me but that honestly depends on where does that attention comes from and how. We all like to be admired at times but don’t make that a habit because I will end up confused if that is for real or you are just being pretentious and fooling me, Too much of anything is truly dangerous and at times irritating. 

What am I on about … in January this year (Friday 11 Jan to be exact), I received a bunch of flowers from someone who said s/he was my secrete admire, for a moment I smiled thinking maybe my man has started something new to revive the spirit of love but damn he knows that im not a kind of girl that is moved by flowers, i called nd aksed him and he said, he is neither a flower kind of guy and it  crossed my mind that maybe this is not for a good reason(I don’t have enemies, at least that’s what I think, but there r so many dirty tricks nowadays) so I took those flowers straight to bin. 

Same thing happened the following Friday, was a bit scared and throw it again(was still flowers). Then on the 14th of February, I was called to collect my parcel from the reception, it was a box of chocololate, a red rose and a card that red “you are such a wonderful creature, from you secrete admire”. I was so embarrassed by this act, it was like Im showing off, was also puzzled because my man wouldn’t do that, we don’t celebrate valentine’s day because of what we believe to be its origin. I rushed to phone  him and asked if he is behind the parcel that was delivered at my work place, he told me he doesn’t have anything to do with it. Called everybody that came to my mind even my X, but nobody new, not even the guy who delivered it. I was about to throw everything away but some of my colleagues, took and ate it, I only throw a rose away. I then received another bunch of flowers and box of chocolate and the card in my flat now(mid-March ), for Heaven sake, flowers are so meaningless to me, this time I was with my man, we tried to trace it but nothing, there was absolutely no leads. We took the parcel to the police station to see if they can find the leads or at least try and do something about it, they said they cant do anything because this doesn’t have any address. We throw everything away. 

Yesterday again after work, I got another bunch of flowers, box of chocolate and the perfume this time and the card that read “the creature like you, deserve only the best in the world”. I was with my sister dearest, and this time we cried!
I was so angry because it seems like this person know every detail of my life when I doesn’t even know who s/he is? And I can’t even trace him/her … I asked both reception and flat security not to take any gift that has my name and doesn’t have the sender’s address. I’m so terrified. 

Just wanna ask from you, when does a secrete admire becomes a stalker? 
What a girl gotta do, now?

PS ... if this person come happen to read this; please i beg you with both my knees on the floor, this is aith funny anymore, you have tortured me enough now, please leave the terrified me alone ... and i real dont appreciate to be controlled by some loosers who can not come our and appreciate this wonderful creature in me ...Sies!!!




23 Comments

Best-Achiever
18 Apr 2008 03:26

lepogo
18 Apr 2008 03:42

I thought women loved flowers....And attention-solicited or not....You is lucky

Cnglemother
18 Apr 2008 03:45

I was about to throw everything away but some of my colleagues, took and ate it -LOL!  hi hi hi. i will be back, scary sh#$T though.

Best-Achiever
18 Apr 2008 03:51

@lepogo ... how can you say im lucky when im actual terrified.
Me and flowers ... dont go together
Attention Yes but like i said it depends where it comes from and how

Toxic
18 Apr 2008 03:59

Freaky stuff!!!!! How can the delivery guys not know who sent the items though? It;s a good thing your partner and you have such an "open" relationship cause this stalker clearly has intentions to "rock your boat"........

Secret admirer bcums a stalker when.........hmmm, that's a tough one cause the stalking brings up negative emotions and u're already feeling them so you are being stalked. It's complimentary in a way but yeah all i can say is that u must not accept the gifts if they are hand-delivered. Send them back with the delivery guy!

Best-Achiever
18 Apr 2008 04:12

Eish Toxic ... that was our question but he told us that clients phone their offices to get things delivered to people ... when we try to get the information of the person who phoned from his company(delivery-guy) they told us that they are bond by clients privacy and they cant give details to us .... all they do is to check if parcels are not poisnous or drugs . im so disguated.

blk sunshine
18 Apr 2008 04:24

I wud also be scared, i mean they know where you live, what is stopping them from coming personally next tym. Dnt relax abt it best Achiever, find the dweeb hu is trying to scare you. I detect a certain amount of malice, think its really creepy what this person is doing and they know it.

Ngqesta
18 Apr 2008 04:45

Argh BA...mina I would not be scared just as yet. At least you have told the receptionist and security guard at your place not to accept these, I suggest that you request that they tell the 'messenger' to be bound by the same 'clients privacy' and RETURN TO SENDER, then he should get the message.

Honestly i don't think this hopeless creature means any malice just as yet, this is just his sorry way of trying to be a charmer, like lepogo implied....most men are under the impression that we melt at the sight of chocolates and flowers.

Regarding the thinline between Secret Admire and Stalker, I think it changes to being a stalker as soon as it makes you feel uncomfortable in anyway.

Lady D
18 Apr 2008 05:20

When a person makes advances and you are not comfortable with that then the person qualifies a stalker!!!

I also dont do flowers,eish BestAchiever i hope the get that SOB that messing with your happiness.Its a good thing your man support you with all thing,some guys would have accused you by now!!Be strong hey!

Best-Achiever
18 Apr 2008 05:26

@Ngqesta ....i hope it will work and maybe if that erson see that im no longer taking the gifts will be bold enough to confront me ...

@Lady D ... thankx luv, im also thankful that he didnt think that i know the person

Desired
18 Apr 2008 05:35

A friend of mine in tertiary always bragged about being sexy and all the guys want her ,so we came up with a plan to burst her bubble.

We wrote her letters, sent sms, bought her roses and we even asked her out on a date (he called to say he is not feeling well). She bragged about it all to us, and the fun part was she was a spoilt rich brat, so we borrowed money from her to buy her flowers!

It was short lived but we had fun-unfortunately we paid the wrong guy to call her.  He told his friends and that was it.  She hates us but I think she deserved it or maybe we were just jealous of her.

So to BA 1st check your friends and nabomakhelwane this person knows you and chances are you know him or HER.

bulie
18 Apr 2008 05:40

Atleast you have ur man's support on this believe me that person is a stalker how can he do something like that several times and its been a long time since he started this he must cum out now and show his face becoz he is scarying you or maybe he is even watching you when u receive those parcels but can't he cum out now coz this is getting uglier. Anyway gel be strong and held u head high bcoz he's nothing but a looser with a capital letter L.I hope he wont hurt u  than he already is coz sumtimes these stalkers end up hurting us if they cant get what they want so just be careful gel and be strong.

Toxic
18 Apr 2008 05:48

im no longer taking the gifts will be bold enough to confront me ... 

I doubt this will happen B-A. doesn't seem like the type that wants to reveal their identity.....

Madamzee
18 Apr 2008 05:51

huu shame! u r Lakhi Gal!!!   wouldn't  mind a stalker now, just to give my boo a running stomach, it feels like he 4gets that i am still lookable and in the game!! swing him my way!!! hehehe, tl tl tl

bulie
18 Apr 2008 05:55

@ Desired no gal u cant call urselves her friend if u can do sumthing that is so cruel like that sumtimes u just have to put urself into other people's shoes, what if that was u and another thing jelousy can lead u to cruelity and yes it did. How can u be jelous of ur friend and if u were a gud friend u wud'nt have said that she deserved it bcoz she is a spoilt rich brat thats not her problem being rich and well yes this was all based on jelousy shame on u gal.

Best-Achiever
18 Apr 2008 05:59

@Desired ... It cant be my friends ... that much i can bet and im not the branging type i dont even spend much time with them physically only on the phone and emails.

Neighbours  no ... most of them i dont even know their names neither do they ... i spend less time in my flat ... most of the time im at work, then school  or library  But ke one will never know.

@Bulie ... thanks 

Best-Achiever
18 Apr 2008 06:09

I doubt this will happen B-A. doesn't seem like the type that wants to reveal their identity.....

@Tox .... eish ... i real didnt wanna hear this TRUTH ...LOL

@Bulie ... well said ... a friend will never do what Desired did to her friend ... irregardless of their differences as long as they r still friends ... just wonder what kind of a friend you are Desired ....

Nonny
18 Apr 2008 06:15

@ BA, I really hope this stalker leaves u in peace or better still I hope u find out who it is so u can show them what real torture is.........LOL.......I sometimes cannot understand how sick some peope can be!!!!!

Toxic
18 Apr 2008 06:21

LOL @ people's responses to Desired's openness!!!!

Y4K
18 Apr 2008 06:27

B.......A I'm trying to picture you gal, you must be hot hey? But please return the gifts to sender next time.

Best-Achiever
18 Apr 2008 06:37

@Nonny ... if i can find out who the person, i'll give him the look that says it all because i know i wont be able to talk .... and i pray not to break down in from of him/her ...LOL

@Madamzee ... only if i knew who s/he was...

@Y4K .... im just myself and comfortable with it, it just that people can be crazy at times.

Nonny
18 Apr 2008 07:22

Don't worry BA, u won't breakdown if u get a chance to face ur stalker becoz they are not worth ur energy. Eih gal, I wish I could hook u up with this sangoma who will make the stalker come to u and apolgise nine nine mfethu, but ke I know u know that typa gal, so sala unjalo sisi..........LOL

andi01
18 Apr 2008 08:22

A secret admirer is when you like the attention and gifts
A stalker is when you dont think its funny,


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