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Ain't letting go!

Written by Toxic from the blog Anything Goes on 08 Apr 2008
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I've been inflicted with the disease of KEEPING. I can't not keep stuff and struggle to throw stuff away. Whatever it is, i have a sample of it:
old school reports,
pictures of people i have lost contact with and would have nothing to say to if i bumped into them at a taxi rank
old letters and postcards
invitations-they get better with time that's for sure
sms'-sent and received
old payslips-dating back to my first job
receipts dating back years
handbags i no longer use and that are not in a usable condition in any case
pens that have run out of ink-i used to collect pens-the biggest collection is the Standard Bank pen
Bra's i no longer wear and some underwear that has over the years become sizes TOO small LOL!

Of all the things i've kept, there's one item of clothing i believe in my heart of hearts that i will wear again and it's my denim skirt!

skitr

There's just something about this skirt that makes me feel alive! Sure, it doesn't fit me anymore but each time i'm on a diet i slip-okay i squeeze and shove myself-into it and use it as a measurement of inch/kilo loss. I went on my first date with current partner in my denim skirt. This skirt has seen me through many picnics, many work functions, many summers and winters, has embraced me while i danced to all sorts of music, has received tender loving care through it's not so many washes and certainly minimal ironing. This skirt has a big part in my history-it is a big part of me and i am not letting it go. There have been charity drives at work where i have parted with old clothing and i have not had the heart to part with my beloved skirt!

This skirt has pride of place in my wardrobe-no other item of clothing shares its hanger-it stares at me and even winks at me in the mornings and in the evenings just before i go to bed. If my house burned down, this skirt is definitely the first thing i would save.

Then there are these pair of shoes:

boots

Who hasn't owned a pair???? It's smelly, bent out of shape, scruffy was uncomfortable to walk in but i loved my Docs and am not parting with them anytime soon!

wedgie

The signature wedge! When other kids were giving each other wedgies, i was collecting wedges! My best friend at high school was very tall and the only way to not feel short was to buy wedges-this became a habit and i have one last pair in my wardrobe that has survived years of decluttering!!

So, yeah i suffer from KEEPER syndrome and i'm not looking for a cure!

44 Comments

libra
08 Apr 2008 02:04

i think i used to have the syndromme/disease/disorder call it what ever but i have since learnt to let go but there are some items i still cant let go of unless my mother sneaks in my bedroom and donate them to charity. like the shirt i am wearing today my mother brought it from the US in 98.it has an iron burn mark on the buttons and whenver i wear it people tell me that i have something on my shirt and i have to explain. its an all season shirt that fits well with pants and skirt and i have tried to get somethimg similar from the shops but to no avail- until i get a replacement i refuse to let go.

i keep a memory box for those treasured moments in my life.

Toxic
08 Apr 2008 02:21

like the shirt i am wearing today my mother brought it from the US in 98.it has an iron burn mark on the buttons and whenver i wear it people tell me that i have something on my shirt and i have to explain. its an all season shirt that fits well with pants and skirt and i have tried to get somethimg similar from the shops but to no avail- until i get a replacement i refuse to let go.

That's me Libra, until i get a replacement i don't let go!!!!

Addictv
08 Apr 2008 02:41

@Libra & Tox....am da opposite of u both....i cant hold on to anything for long....every now & again I go thru my wardrobe and give away everythin I dont wear much....i do keep sum itemz a bit longer than otherz bt eventually everything goes.....and with my little sis & our housekeeper...therez alwayz someone to say....."sis I havent seen u wear this in a while can I have it"

am da same with everything from receipts to appliances...u know sumtymz a hair dryer, kettle, iron, toaster, stove etc will break & sum ppl(my mum) will keep it even thou they really have no intensions of fixing it or hav bought a new already...why????

monchooza
08 Apr 2008 02:49

Tox you must have a bedroom the size of isibaya

Cnglemother
08 Apr 2008 02:52

@Toxy Who hasn't owned a pair???? It's smelly, bent out of shape, scruffy was uncomfortable to walk in but i loved my Docs and am not parting with them anytime soon!

You must be joking, those things are ancient, why mara. I thought i was bad but you are worst case. i still have my pregnancy test kit fron 2years ago, hospital bands for the baby. I moved with them from flat to flat. I dont think its a habit that is difficult to let go of. The oldest sms i have dates back from 19 Dec 2004. Bras & panties are a big no-no, i just cannot keep them as soon they look hideous its off to the bin.

Cnglemother
08 Apr 2008 02:55

Tox you must have a bedroom the size of isibaya. LOL! isibaya monchooza of all things you could compare it with, hayi cha!

faraimagic
08 Apr 2008 02:55

m not surprised...women keep all sorts of things...from pots to underwears,wen u ask y she comes up with ....something like...'that pot was given to me by my aunty!" with some holes in it LOL!

Fluffy Head
08 Apr 2008 02:59

I'm the exact opposite...I hate clutter generally so I get rid of stuff very easily. Up to a point where I'll need something in future and then remember ooops, I threw it away. It can be painful but atleast I have a peaceful space around me.

Nonny
08 Apr 2008 03:02

LMAO nice one Tox, eish kwamina I am a victim of not letting go material and emotional in my case!!!!

Toxic
08 Apr 2008 03:06

i still have my pregnancy test kit fron 2years ago, hospital bands for the baby

Yep, i have this too!!!!!!! Read somewhere that Halle Barry kept all her negative preg tests as well-all 45/35 of them!

mabhebheza
08 Apr 2008 03:13

AM i in exile i cant post a reply its been 4days

Tynt!
08 Apr 2008 03:14

I have Items to keep and some to discard depending on the Correlation I have with that particular Item... From as little as a frayed piece of paper to something big (don’t have the right Example at the moment)....

Mara na aki so apari di Dr Martini waitse mara...... Eish I missed out neh!!

Cnglemother
08 Apr 2008 03:20

LOL at all 45/35 of them, just shows persevearance pays after all, i have only used one pregnancy test and boom two red lines.Toxy can you pls go buy clothes ulahle lamavukuvuku wakho agcwele isibaya. Fluffy i would have a hard time staying with you, if ulahla kanjalo.

pushi
08 Apr 2008 03:24

Tox, that sounds exactly like me, I take it from my mom. She has this pot that she loves so much, it has no handles & it has a hole @ the bottom. I've been telling her to just throw it out, a week ago I found hidden in some drawer, she jst can't let it go

Dimago
08 Apr 2008 03:29

Today i'm wearing pants i hadn't worn in 3yrs...they became too small...but they were damn good pants and still in good condition. Thank gaaad i never gave them away cause they fit me now...

Miss K
08 Apr 2008 03:51

Gosh talk about clutter. I have a friend whom i've know since std 6, last week we moved into a town house together! We hired a truck and i thought one load would be enuf! Boy was i wrong! Can u believe she still has comic books zo Archie and Veronica, all the school yr books from 1995-1996, movies ze 90s in video format! Im talking about boxes here people! Cassetes that we taped songs on Mhlobo wenene fm!

I just looked at her and asked 'Izohlala phi yonke le junk?' She's refusing to let go! Hay mina i throw stuff away and i'll secretly get rid of that junk one by one! By the time she notices its too late. I hope she's not online!

TEBZA_R
08 Apr 2008 03:59

Heheheheheheeheh Bathong I can't forget that pair of my Dr Martin Boots........... Kere le nou I still have them in our store room at home..... I want give them away but I sometimes feel like I will one day wear them again.... And bathong now that I have gained a lot of weight in the past few months I have lot of clothes that does not fit me anymore and I am so not reay to give them away......Even if I know that I will never be that size again........

Fluffy Head
08 Apr 2008 04:09

Cnglemom__well dear I'm sure you'ld strugle. I always fight with my mom when I'm back home. And my bf does not allow me into his study anymore. I threw away these papers once - I was helping him clear it out....they were shrunk papers just on top of the desk...turns out they were purchase aggrements for his car...
I'm really bad.

MIssK...do it girl, you can't leave with books in the house, its either human beings or papers_unless you have a huge library where you can store everything in nicely without it getting on the way.

KeleFabulous
08 Apr 2008 04:17

LOL @ yall...letting go of clutter is easy man. just do it! sure you feel a sense of loss but at the same time it's like a load off your shoulder (literally!)

Toxic
08 Apr 2008 04:19

can you pls go buy clothes ulahle lamavukuvuku wakho agcwele isibaya.

hahahahah, wena Monchooza, i'll get you!! Cnglmom, it's not that i don't want to buy clothes it's just that i will never find a replacement that fits me the way those things used to!!

She has this pot that she loves so much, it has no handles & it has a hole @ the bottom

LOL @ Pushi

Today i'm wearing pants i hadn't worn in 3yrs...they became too small...but they were damn good pants and still in good condition. Thank gaaad i never gave them away cause they fit me now...

Dimago, at the back of my mind i am hoping for exactly this! That there'll come a time when i do fit into all those clothes

Can u believe she still has comic books zo Archie and Veronica, all the school yr books from 1995-1996, movies ze 90s in video format! Im talking about boxes here people! Cassetes that we taped songs on Mhlobo wenene fm!

MissK, LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It's not clutter man, those things have sentimental value-finish and klaar and the worst thing you can do is throw stuff away behind her back-please do not!! You've been warned!

Heheheheheheeheh Bathong I can't forget that pair of my Dr Martin Boots........... Kere le nou I still have them in our store room at home..... want give them away but I sometimes feel like I will one day wear them again....

Tebza_R......that's me right there!!

youngtodie
08 Apr 2008 04:25

hey Toxo i had those boots to.I used to love those boots so much.

I understand clearly cause there is this dress that i love ,i used to wear it non sunday late it shows my body and now its so short but uknow i still wear it ,.My younger sis. asked for it i gave her a BIG NO cause i know she will not take care of it like i do

if you can't let go, you just can't

Toxic
08 Apr 2008 04:31

LMAO young2die!!!!

monchooza
08 Apr 2008 04:45

Tox be grateful you dont have umndeni like owam.....

the old Aunties come for a visit then offer to do your Laundry for you so that they can check whats in your wodrob, then bayacela " mtaka sisi ngicela uphe umtanami lelibhulukwe lakho elingathi seligugile, phela wena ngiyakwazi uwuzwani nokugqoka impahla ezigugile"

needless to say they always go back(to wherever) nama plastiki amnyama full of my old clothes......so in a way they help ngoba after they are gone, my oldrob suddenly has space for new clothes.......then its shopping time

Cnglemother
08 Apr 2008 05:07

Monchooza stop it ngala magama akho abhedayo LMAO at my oldrob.u just reminded me of i-ondrokhwe

monchooza
08 Apr 2008 05:10

what colour is the one you are wearing today.....Cnglemother i mean your onrok....LOL

Feza
08 Apr 2008 05:56

holding on to old stuff is not very healthy Tox, you need a cure lol

I find it interesting that I am the EXACT opposite, I'm always cleaning up my closet and giving staff away. I just search what I have not used in the past 6 months and then I'd know that I have to give it away...I just put them in a huge plastic bag and hit the road, once on the streets I'll see exactly who i have to give that junk to. and it just gives me so my fulfilment to see the look on their faces.

This sunday I was doing a story of this other hospice in Joburg's CBD, and I know they will be getting something from my next "cleaning up session".

As for SMSes and E-mails...I delete as soon as I've read it, as long as it did not contain numbers or names that I will have to follow up on.

I delete, I destroy and i throw away...this for me serves as a reminder that i'm creating room for something better

Desired
08 Apr 2008 06:16

Today i'm wearing pants i hadn't worn in 3yrs...they became too small...but they were damn good pants and still in good condition. Thank gaaad i never gave them away cause they fit me now...

@Dimago- Congrats on your load shedding please share.

My sister cleans my closet by stealing my stuff otherwise, aziyindawo. But when I'm feeling depressed I throw things away only to retrive them if I'm lucky ( the rubbish bin people haven't taken them).

We had a charity drive at work last year and I gave away some clothes. They kept them in a storeroom ja you guessed right, I went back there for my stuff and offered them money. I had to buy back my own clothes!

Shocking ne?

pushi
08 Apr 2008 06:31

Wow Fefe, I admire u girl, see I'm so bad the e-mails in my inbox are 1307 & sms's are 187/200, so sooner or later i'm gonna be forced to clean up.
I even keep an sms that reads 'I luv u' from my boo because i think it's so very special heee, the more I write this the more I realise how bad i am

Kandii
08 Apr 2008 06:48

Eish Toxic, I can't let go of my man, he's toxic but I love him!

Clothes nnah, only the expensive stuff I hold on to... the rest "To the left, to the left..."

Toxic
08 Apr 2008 06:49

so in a way they help ngoba after they are gone, my oldrob suddenly has space for new clothes.......then its shopping time

LMAO @ oldrob! We Monchooza, you're funny man!!

I just search what I have not used in the past 6 months and then I'd know that I have to give it away...I just put them in a huge plastic bag and hit the road,

Hayi Feza you make is sound as easy as 1,2,3 steps-----i'd probably leave the bag of clothing in my car and all those items would slowly but SURELY make their way back into my oldrob.

As for SMSes and E-mails...I delete as soon as I've read it, as long as it did not contain numbers or names that I will have to follow up on.

the only SMSes i delete are payment reminders LOL!

We had a charity drive at work last year and I gave away some clothes. They kept them in a storeroom ja you guessed right, I went back there for my stuff and offered them money. I had to buy back my own clothes!

Shocking ne?

LMAO Desired-that's more like something i would do!! Nabo, keeping your donations in the storeroom-what did they expect nxxxx!

Toxic
08 Apr 2008 06:57

even keep an sms that reads 'I luv u' from my boo because i think it's so very special heee, the more I write this the more I realise how bad i am

Hey, that's me Pushi!!!!!

Eish Toxic, I can't let go of my man, he's toxic but I love him!

Kandii, don't worry love ----it'll all happen when u're good and ready!

monchooza
08 Apr 2008 07:06

@ Tox, You must buy i sulkeis and then put all your hard to give away stuff, then uyilahlele egarage yakini

Dimago
08 Apr 2008 07:08

@Dimago- Congrats on your load shedding please share.
@ Desired gym, gym and more gym...it really works....

Feza
08 Apr 2008 07:08

Aah Toxic!

zozozo
08 Apr 2008 07:13

Hey people *waving like mad*, i see u having fun here as always.

My dayz are not the same without the daily blogging, nice one Toxy, u know sumtimes Toxic u remind of my self. i luv keeping stuff, be it clothes(i have a place to keep old clothes) SMS's(the oldest is 3yrs) cards(the 1st chrismas acrd i have ever received) books( school books and novels , i luv reading so much), i know it's sounds whack. I just can't part with my stuff, if i give sumthing away i give out on the recent stuff. have a great day peeps.

Best-Achiever
08 Apr 2008 07:14

Nice one Tox .... i used to hold on to things way back, until my mother decided to clean our oldrob when we were at school. and 1 day i saw one girl from my neghbourhood wearing same dress as mine, i went back home to look for my dress and i couldnt find it, i asked if anyone has seen it and mama told me that she gave them to needy people, when i told her i still loved my dress, she told that i haven't been wearing it for two years so she knew that i dont like it anymore ....there was nothing i cud do. and as time goes by i also learnt to let go of something that i dont use, sometimes even if i still use and love the item, once a person ask for it, i fail to hold on to it.

and now i cant keep something that i dont use, even the things that i still like

Toxic
08 Apr 2008 07:15

Zozozo, u've just made me feel so much better abt this sickness cause now i realise i'm not the only one----!!

i luv keeping stuff, be it clothes(i have a place to keep old clothes) SMS's(the oldest is 3yrs) cards(the 1st chrismas acrd i have ever received) books( school books and novels , i luv reading so much),

zozozo
08 Apr 2008 07:25

Wit my clothes i have this fav. mini skirt, i wear once in summer( i'm forunate coz my body weight doesn't change much), i just can't give away that mini skirt shame my sista has been asking 4 it for ages but i just can't give it to her. The strange thing is if i buy a clothing item i have to wear it the following day or else it will stay untouched for days and months i would just look at it and leave it there!

myname
08 Apr 2008 07:28

Nice one Tox. My upper body is stil the same size when i was 17,18 so when im in EC i always wear those clothes. I told my mother to do pillows but when im back uyaphela umqamelo. But if its a pot & other stuff i threw or delete everything but its so hard to give people some other clothes. Im luck some of my clothes still fit me.

Toxic
08 Apr 2008 07:30

and 1 day i saw one girl from my neghbourhood wearing same dress as mine, i went back home to look for my dress and i couldnt find it, i asked if anyone has seen it and mama told me that she gave them to needy people, when i told her i still loved my dress, she told that i haven't been wearing it for two years so she knew that i dont like it anymore

Ja, what is it though about wanting something we've neglected once someone else shows an interest in it???? It's so weird cause i have stuff that i haven't worn in a long time but the minute someone asks for it then i want to start wearing it!

Bought imbhatata 2 yrs ago and only wore them once for my cousin's traditional wedding-those things are uncomfortable shem. If someone were to ask for them, i'm sure i'll start wearing them EVERYSINGLE DAY *sigh*

zozozo
08 Apr 2008 07:35

Bought imbhatata 2 yrs ago and only wore them once for my cousin's traditional wedding-those things are uncomfortable shem. If someone were to ask for them, i'm sure i'll start wearing them EVERYSINGLE DAY *sigh*.................LMBAO

@ Toxy - Can u post them to me via DHL Toxic.............LOL

Toxic
08 Apr 2008 07:40

ROFL @ zozozo---i'll send them nge shosholoza meyl!!

andi01
08 Apr 2008 08:42

Mna I always mansge to give away all the useful ones and keep the useless ones, eish sani

WhiteSockGirl
09 Apr 2008 12:35

I hold onto books... can't give them away, refuse to lend them out. Don't even exchage them in second hand bookshops. Now, I have stacks and stacks of books. I can't explain it, I just can't let them go.

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