My mind’s telling me no
But my body, my body’s telling me yes
Baby, I don’t wanna hurt nobody
But there’s something that I must confess…
Hehehe Ain’t nothing wrong with a little bump n grind. Hehehe then there’s the one that was a huge hit this past December…bhut’ ngi hamba nawe!Shuwi mara these artists are not afraid of laying it out there maan! And, it’s a known fact, MANY a celebrity out there sleep around and don’t bother to use protection. My question is, who are these women and what are they thinking when they do this KNOWING what these people get up to all the time???
*Khabzela used to brag about having 5/6 women lined up outside of his bedroom for their “turn”. Ladies ladies ladies…why do we constantly degrade ourselves in this manner???
*Zombo has had to come out and even admitted to sleeping around and not using any protection. Again, he’s a celebrity, with his pick of women, why go there without taking any precautions?
*We hear stories all the time of wives/husbands/girlfriends/boyfriends who were faithful to their partners but ended up being infected by same partners.
*I know a coupla women (married) who say they insist on a condom EACH and EVERYTIME they sleep with their husbands. No, they don’t trust them.
*We all know of couples who’ve decided to discard of the condom because now they’re “committed” to each other. They discard even though they themselves haven’t been tested.
HIV = REALITY
Yebo!
RISK FACTOR = 50/50
Note this is MY personal estimation. The truth of it is it depends on your age group so use your own judgement. I only know about the risk factor in MY age group….last time I checked they said 1 in 4. This is< I think, not really sure> WOMEN of between 22-28. Apparently this age group is more at risk, along with OLDER men, abo bhut’ ba achievile because niyazi nani ni thanda imali and bona ba thanda ini? Uku sika le khekhe. Right.
WORRY FACTOR
We know about it, we think about it, we worry about getting it, having it…but when we’re in the throes of passion, the worry factor becomes ZERO!
AIDS = The start of THE END
Ja ja ja I know about living positively but in the end we all know what’s gonna happen akere?
This is a somewhat controversial topic. I’ve tried, to no avail, to stop being so controversial and think of other things to write about but I just can’t. I thrive on controversy. Eish, and I’ve been telling myself to stop opening myself up for the whole world (at least in cyber space) and leave a little bit to the imagination…still I JUST CAN’T DO IT!
Before I get into it and start “pointing fingers”, I will start by pointing one at the one in the mirror:
Scenario > We’ve been kissing and touching and groping,grabbing and sucking and licking….erhhh…did I mention this is not for the sensitive reader? My bad! Ja, you get the drift. What most people refer to as foreplay. We both know where this is going. We both want it to go there. Here comes the crunch time. He gives me this questioning look. I read into it and ask if he doesn’t have anything. He says no. I’m thinking I don’t either. For awhole 2 seconds I hear the Disciplined Kele at the back of my mind going BUT!... and then the Damn-I’m-So-Turned-On-And-I-Can’t-Possibly-Stop-Now Kele stomping and tramping on that poor-good-looking-out Angel of myne. We go ahead and do it. Nothing stands in our way. By the way this was OUR first time. It was also MY first time. It was wrong. It was damned risky! But like I said, in the throes of passion, the worry of getting it is ZERO!
After that it seemed kinda pointless to start using protection. We were both like, what’s the point? The point is, there IS a point! Yeah, go ahead and judge me. If you don’t know by now, Kele tells it like it is! And before you start pulling out your holier-than-thou-cap more and more couples are doing the same thing. After a coupla months of being “steady” you think argh what’s the point? Then the whole idea of a condom is scratched. Not because we got tested (I know a lot DON’T) but because we are now “definitely together”…an “item”.
I was lucky, damned lucky, to not have gotten any diseases. The only consequence was my little bambino. I ask myself, time and time again, if I could go back and do things different, would I still have been so careless? If it meant I’d still get to keep my little bambino then yes! But otherwise, NO. Because I cannot imagine a life without my boy! But I do things different now. I HAVE to! I have a child who needs me. I can’t be so selfish and careless now. I have to think of him. I have to act RESPONSIBLY.
Stigmas attached to HIV and AIDS…they’re still there. I think they’re worse now because I personally think if you got it by being careless (like I was being) then you’ve got no one to blame. Had I not been so lucky and been + today I would have no one but myself to blame. But like they say, it’s not the fact that you have it that matters, it’s your REACTION to knowing it’s in you…
I seem to be mumbling but the reason I wrote this is not to lecture or to judge. It’s to point out something which seems to be a trend in this day and age. Yes, we all know how easy it is to get infected by this horrific virus. Sometimes it is out of our control, eg rape. Sometimes we just have blind faith in our not so faithful partners. Sometimes we tell ourselves I only have one partner so I’m safe. It’s understandable. I’ve done it too. But there’s a HUGE difference from that 1 single person you’re with to the one who happens to be a celebrity. Many of them sleep around. We all know this. My question is, why do women out there still continue to sleep with them, whether one night stands or whatever, when the truth is right in front of their faces? And mind you, I’m not saying they’re all alike. Same applies to any men. Why, even when you do get that feeling that you’re not the only one, why put yourself at risk like that? I know I know, it’s the same risk as someone who’s in a steady relationship. The difference is, however, that their faith is based on something concrete, misguided or not, things like trust, having known that person a long time etc etc…unlike a one night stand with a stranger.
Ladies, please tell me why so many of our beautiful women are so careless when it comes to this. Why do we just chuck out everything we know has been programmed into our minds about this the minute that gorgeous/rich/famous hunk comes along athi we sisi ngi hamba nawe?
PS: Article written by KeleFab, posted by TDC. Miss Fab will update it with pics soon. (*hope so*)