He lost interest in Sex

Written by Cheesa from the blog Talking Point on 31 Mar 2009
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Hey Bloggers I couldn’t help but think about you when I saw this in Drum magazine.LOL

He lost interest in sex
I’m 27 and my husband is three years older than me. We love each other to bits and have been married for three years. The problem is I love having sex more my husband does, and it frustrates me when he comes too early. I can’t figure out whether he’s just not in the mood or, if he’s cheating on me while I’m at work and now can’t perform properly. He doesn’t have a job nor does he want one.

He’s used to be hot and one of the reasons I married him was because of our great sex life. I’m not lying when I say he knew his thing. He used to take me sky high but now he can’t last for five minutes.

I’m suffering. I even thought of ukukha imifino (have a boyfriend) to ease my burden but I’m a Christian and it’s against my religious beliefs. Should I give him time to come around or do something? But what can I do? Please help my marriage is falling apart and I’ve started to fantasize about other guys. It’s getting out of hand.
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23 Comments

juic
31 Mar 2009 17:37

Sanibonani lonke, this is a norm with sisters who never had bf's when growing up. They go married being virgins & never had a chance to explore, now that they tasted totolozi they are getting wild. She should consider usinf toys to satisfy herself unless she doesn't knwo how to use them...

Hubby45
31 Mar 2009 17:57

4 sure mf2! I've got ppl comin 2 ly plek 4 these thngs... Women go 4rm Virginity 2 Hornity 4 a lng tym thn men. Bt the dnt relise tht they shud gt THT SPECIAL TYM 2 'XPLOR THMSLVS 1ST'2 all d ladies readin, Pleaz Hav Fun b4 UR TYM IZ UP, tht's whn u gt married, by th way- TH GUY MUS B GETTIN IT SUMWHER!!!!!! NO GUY LIVS WITHOUT MAN'S FOOOD. kITSONA jUIC!

DJ Why why
31 Mar 2009 18:07

She should consider usinf toys to satisfy herself unless she doesn't knwo how to use them...

Iyuuu! what if she is maried to "indoda eqotho" like Capella from Geneza?

I say she z gotta talk to the hubby express her dissatisfaction and together they must come up with some ideas and discuss the use of toys. If during the discussion he acts like Tefo from Soul City "coughing fit'...hayke she can go on with the toy programme.....

belz
31 Mar 2009 18:20

He doesn’t have a job nor does he want one. >>>> Askies????? and he is still your husband??? vuka emaqandeni love, unawo umsebenzi, his job is to entertain women while you are at work.

Pitilili
31 Mar 2009 18:48

Ninjani nonkhe mablogers!!

You are faced with a huge problem my dear sister. Is he your first if so ishhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!
He might be cheating on you while you are at work (working to feed him, take note) or he has just lost interest in having sex with you.
Moreover he might be under stress which I may not be the sure of because you said he is not even interested of looking for a job.
Never ever thnk of cheating him before he tells you his problem, it will be apity if he lies then.
But nje angati kutsi utotsini mani ngoba imcoka lenkonzo yasebusuku futsi nje we get married for totolozi after all, parents can privide us with anything we need (so long as it is within reach) back at home.

mathata
31 Mar 2009 18:53

buy sex toy Girl, o tlanna o tseya digwamapo.

pls dont say you marry him for sex?what if his diabetic.........

bear in mind,Sex is like accessory,if you took it like that you will never never have a problem in life.

DJ Why why
31 Mar 2009 18:58

pls dont say you marry him for sex?what if his diabetic.........

Kwa kwa kwa kw akwa @ mathata

mathata
31 Mar 2009 19:04

God always takes things we love most,who knows.

LM
01 Apr 2009 12:47

Askies????? and he is still your husband??? vuka emaqandeni love, unawo umsebenzi, his job is to entertain women while you are at work. kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa Belzito, some men are lucky out there! Yazi there's this couple at my complex where the brother looks after the kid (n maybe home based business?)when the woman goes to work. The dude is fine. I normally see them every morning at the main gate when he walks the lady to catch a lift and everytime I see them I end up having 1000 questions in my head.

Cody
01 Apr 2009 12:59

pls dont say you marry him for sex?what if his diabetic.........

LMAO!!

maud
01 Apr 2009 13:03

angeke ngigane umahlalela mina. unless he lost the job while we are married , he must do something else not just stay.

as for not being interested in sex ,uphambene , kukhona la ayithola khona , singahlangana ekuseni ngisuthi.

Pooky
01 Apr 2009 13:07

pls dont say you marry him for sex?what if his diabetic.........

LMBAO....

awelani
01 Apr 2009 13:12

pls dont say you marry him for sex?what if his diabetic...Sixple kwaz

ngwana
01 Apr 2009 13:22

ukukha imifino - I have never hear this term before. I love it!! he he he

ngwana
01 Apr 2009 13:22

ukukha imifino - I have never heard this term before. I love it!! he he he

ngwana
01 Apr 2009 13:22

ukukha imifino - I have never heard this term before. I love it!! he he he

KeleFabulous
01 Apr 2009 13:26

you're right belz, he's defs getting it somewhere and is too tired or bored with wifey. next hting he'll put the blame of their boring sex life on her

Vesa
01 Apr 2009 13:39

maybe he is too stressed to think about sex as he is not working? He might look like he is not interested in getting a job and deep inside he is feeling inadequate as the woman is the sole provider? Men are such complex beings sometimes and they are not that expressive.
Just thought I should look at it from another angle....

Toxic
01 Apr 2009 13:45

tjo so now we're giving advice to a Drum article??????? desperate times indeed!

Toxic
01 Apr 2009 13:45

tjo so now we're giving advice to a Drum article??????? desperate times indeed!

Katlegom
01 Apr 2009 13:55

I can tell you the guy does not love his wife anymore, or he gets it somewhere else during the day when the wife is at work. phela when you dont love a person when you have sex you only want to satisfy yourself and doze off immediately after that.
And this is what drives older/married women to cheat with us(younger men).

Katlegom
01 Apr 2009 13:55