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Written by zdwesha from the blog STOLEN on 04 Dec 2012
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I am a man my self but im sure that it wont take me years to marry a woman once i get the right woman worth all qualities or the woman that i need..i will get married immediatley,it will not take years,a year will be too long and a delay..it will be becos of arrangement and i also blame you..

Woman why dont you ask ua partners??
The are plenty of guys who are intrested in you but you always tel
l dem bwt a boyfrnd dat you have..
Been involved for four years and you are happy..
My question is if you are happy then why are you in a relationship for so long(4 yrs)without marriage..
Women are not clever enuff whn it comes to do a feasibility study bwt men..

Wakeup and ask him(boyfrnd)what will be my future wth you???
Do not take excuses..tell him your future plans..
Ask him what his waiting for??
If possible give your parents address and he must tel them wt he wants from u..
If he came to play around with you he will nevr combck..

You must rather stay without a man rather dan waisting your time wth sumone hu will hurt you and leave you ..for hor long will you leave like that????
You will see the future you were dreaming of wth a right man hu loves u will come and do that..

You ladies wth long term relationships aks your boyfrnds today,if he is mumbling leave him becos you will be depressd onedy if you out that he is getting marrierd to someone whum he met within four months..

Imagine(4 yrs=4 months)i am just picturing how your feelings will be??
Ladies stay away from dose relationships,they are 3% usefull nd 97% wasting your time..
The could be someone out da who was going to marry you during this four years..
Maybe it was going to take him a year to marry you but you refused you wantd to stay in dat relationship wth no due date..
We are all working according to time(project deliveries)
purchasing contracts why not love affairs..
Some of you might not agree but i am sure this can help some of you..

Please remembr this...
If a man is stable in life,in a relationship but not married then it is becos his not bout the woman his wth..
His not willing to commite to her constantly has his eye open for somethng bettr or his waiting for her to become something better..
I point blank
wen he finds a woman that he is satisfied wth,,he will make her his wife..

Ladies sorry to tell you but it doesnt take 4 or 5 yrs for that man to figure it out..

The only reason that a man will get married aftr tht long of a time is becos he is tired of looking for sumthng btter nd trust me that was definetley wht he was doing all those years..
So if you should happen to find your self in one of dis relationships then mayb you should step bk
look at your self and wonder,whtist that you are missing by doing favours for this man who is not willing to fully commite..

Dnt make excuse to your self nd ur galfrnds..
Saying thngs like oh his waiting till he gets a bettr job or his waiting untill he moves from his appartment to a ouse dont fool your self its not complicatd..

Wch one of those things cnt be done wth a wife or a fiance by your side???
So ladies when u read this thnk bout your situation and that man that you spnd many nyts wth at @ his house or him ova uas
thnk bout your babys father u r havin a sexual R.ship wth
thnk bwt ua ex u r in a sexual r.ship wth..
Thnk bwt your bf and deffinetley thnk twice befr u brag bwt that couple of years nd still no comitment

like ive said before i am a man and i knw the situation iv been there and i knw that we cum up wth some extremely resonable excuses

bt dnt fool ua self its nt complicatd..

Ladies dis is sad but true

23 Comments

zdwesha
04 Dec 2012 14:41

i steal articles just to share with u my lovely ppl

bezu
04 Dec 2012 14:56

not sure wat happened der.!. @zdwesha very true hey.. What most men do is they will have a grlfrnd for yrs but marry someone they've just met!!!!

Kandyfloss
04 Dec 2012 15:28

Thanx zwedsha... My question to EVERYONE: Do Men read lot of stuff about ladies like we ladies do about them? Do they take whatever they read serious, that is if there something?

ayashah
04 Dec 2012 15:29

THIS IS SPO TRUE I AGREE

ladyjay
04 Dec 2012 15:31

I have actually seen this happen... my brother was with his ex for about 7 years and he is been with his wife for less that 3 years he actually married her after one year together.

ayashah
04 Dec 2012 15:33

@KANDYFLOSS i dnt think they do take it serious thatswhy even these relationships/marriadge book are read by female, male will say they dnt wanna be tought on how to love partners

Kandyfloss
04 Dec 2012 15:37

I'v lost count of "man manuals" i'v read.. But still everyday i hear all sorts of contrasting ideas from married ladies about what men want and do not want. At times i think we over-generalise thus empowerin men to do lot of kaak bare ba re itse mosi.

Kandyfloss
04 Dec 2012 15:49

Thanx@ Aya.. I think we (ladies) also take what we read serious only if its what we want to hear..

ayashah
04 Dec 2012 16:03

only if its what we want to hear.. very true
people are already on leave neh ????

VusiK
04 Dec 2012 22:45

I'v lost count of "man manuals" i'v read

...

You only need one manual to learn & it is the one you call "your man" .

There are no books that can really tell anyone anything about anyone other than themselves.

Want to know about someone else ... ASK questions & accept replies/ answers!!!, especially the ones that do not favour you / you do not like.

VusiK
04 Dec 2012 22:46

ASK questions = ask your man ... not other women
They are as clueless as you all other women about men.

Kandyfloss
05 Dec 2012 06:31

lol @ VusiK..

Onna
05 Dec 2012 07:03

Ohkey..... firstly Zidwesha, this blog, stolen or not is poorly written. I feel if you took the message you wanted to put across seriously you would have at least put an effort to writing proper sentences. And I know people are gonna start going on about English not being our first language n *bleep!*, but truth is this is just written badly!! Secondly there is no handbook for any individual behaviour, be it a man or a woman. These rule books are just a waist of time, every relationship is unique to the individuals involved. What if the lady is staying with the guy but not looking to get married? what If she is content just being with him without strings? and is looking for companionship, not rings and papers? Have you thought that it could be the man is asking to get married but the lady is not ready? Marriage is hard and a serious LONG TERM commitment, you can't just say cause you have been going out for a year then you gonna marry that person. I AM married by the way, been happily so for five years now, still constant work of keeping it a happy union, by BOTH of us not just me.

Manicure
05 Dec 2012 09:26

thanks Zdwesha for this message.

@ Onna.. whether its poorly written or what, the fact is we got the message, if spelling mistakes means poorly written then ur comment is also poorly written ..... "These rule books are just a waist of time"........... its waste of time not waist of time like u saying, so stop being our english teacher here.

zdwesha
05 Dec 2012 09:39

ok ok now im being attacked for poor english anyway Onna cc thats why i said stolen there was no time to rest and fix i was on the run.

we women we always read these manuals even if we knw that its not always true bt we continue to read for instead when we get pregnant we read manual about pregnancy but at the end of the day we are all different we all had different expiriences which is in no manual.

we get dumped we run to manualls "how to get over some 1" there is lot maan

that is why i said MEN PLEASE TELL US IF THIS IS TRUE BCOZ I AM A WOMAN I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT MEN THINKS ABOUT US WOMEN.

I DIDNT SAY GIRLS PLEASE BLV THIS ARTICLE BECAUSE IT IS 100% TRUE BY THE WAY CONGRATULATIONS ON UR MARRIAGE

Manicure
05 Dec 2012 10:13

hellow Zdwesha (waving).

zdwesha
05 Dec 2012 10:17

hala manicure

Onna
05 Dec 2012 10:29

Hi Manicure, thank-you for pointing out one spelling mistake. But the fact remains, in that blog there are just too many, that's why I was talking to the the writer. N I even said, stolen or not she should have at least tried to rectify some of those "mistakes" before posting. Note I did not say it does not deliver the message, I asked that she respect her reader enough to present a somewhat thought of job. Zidwesha, I was not attacking you I was noting that if you are gonna post, rather try and make it readable out of respect for your reader.

ayashah
05 Dec 2012 10:50

hi zdwesha and Manicure
@ onna we dnt have "editors and we dnt need them"

zdwesha
05 Dec 2012 11:27

i spoke to my male Colleagues about this article and they all agree its true

and they say if u as a male u have a girlfrnd who is much loved by your parents and the whole family they usually (as males) lose interest and start to cheat or marry someone else i tried to ask why but they all say its just gets too much

wow!! i didnt knw that.

Favoured
05 Dec 2012 13:13

i like this article

vuyo223
05 Dec 2012 14:02

i agree with the writer up to a certain point but i think no relationship is ever the same e.g Dnt make excuse to your self nd ur galfrnds.. Saying thngs like oh his waiting till he gets a bettr job or his waiting untill he moves from his appartment to a ouse dont fool your self its not complicatd.. - WITH US BLACK PEOPLE A MAN HAS TO PAY LOBOLA BEFORE HE CAN BE CALLED YOUR FIANCE, SO IF HE IS WORKING AT KFC IT CERTAINLY WILL TAKE HIM LONGER TO SAVE UP FOR LOBOLA(which costs anything from 10 000 - 100 000) WHEREAS IF HE IS AN ACCOUNTANT IT WILL TAKE A LESSER TIME

Sabrina037
21 Jul 2013 12:30

hmm cum 2 think of it,id h8t to d8t a guy 4 mre dan a yr 4 hm 2 realiz he wnts 2 spnd dah rest of hz lyf wit me hai cha dis article iz so tru!

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