DHC (Uti) mourns the passing of his father, the failures offer comfort, the barnmates disapprove of the advice he is being given and Big Brother has to decide if DHC can go and come back.
Big Brother is a show that thrives on the housemates not being aware of time, news and anything that happens in the outside world, unless absolutely necessary. Such cases would be a family death or an illness of a family member.
In this season, DHC (Uti) was sent the news on Monday of his father’s passing on Saturday. He was distraught and was comforted by his closest friend in the house, Gangsta Mda-she (Sheila). She gangsta sat back and allowed him to cry while she offered words of comfort. There were no mushy-cushy acts of pity but a man’s way of offering comfort – just listen and say as little as possible.
Eventually when the other failures got wind of what had happened, they came to support DHC in the best way they could. NGO Queen Psaloma (Paloma) prayed for DHC, his family and his father’s soul to rest in peace. Makoti Nopersonality (Jen) joined the 3 failures and admitted that her exit last year from the lil wimp sista (Big Brother) house was due to her brother passing.
She did not want people’s pity and she voluntarily left so she could be with her family; and she has not shared with anyone inside the house so she would not receive pity. NGO Queen and NoPersonality advised that DHC attend the funeral and come back into the house again.
As this was unfolding, the farmhouse 12cm TV was on and the farmers were watching. BBOS (Lerato) was absolutely against the advice being provided to DHC. She felt that the advice being given was not realistic of the situation. DHC has lost a father, not a pet. His family needs him more than the game.
Smelly (Hannington) even asked Ntsoaki (Big Brother) if he could be allowed to leave the house to support DHC and come back after the funeral. Ntsoaki explained that if he requests to leave, he will not be allowed back as part of the Ntsoaki rules.
Ntsoaki in a bid to liven the house a bit gave the bidiots (male failures) a task to pamper the gidiots (female failures) as part of the women’s day celebration. The event became a wake - as the emotional failures offered condolences, DHC told a moving story about a memory of his father, a prayer was held and hymns were sung. To the complete discomfort of Playmate and Yakahahaa (Yakob), who seemed lost as Amazing Grace was sung in unison by the failures.
DHC has disclosed that he will stay in the house, as that would be what his father would want him to do. His father raised him to be a man that finishes what he started. He has mentioned that he would need about 4 days to attend the funeral - he may be chaperoned so that he cannot be told anything from the outside except interact with family.
I don’t know how that would work in situations where they would need to have a family meeting to discuss very, very sensitive and personal information - will the chaperone be allowed in? Maybe it will be the MNeedy Managing director that chaperones him.
Sibiya (Sammy) was completely distraught when DHC interacted with the other male failures on a heated conversation about sex and the number of times you need to have sex in a week. Crayzee (Mwisho) was in his own space as he insisted that a year has 365 days, he has sex 450 times in a year.
Sibiya, Smelly and BBOS were watching with BBOS’ guest Max – yep her Season 2 lover in the house, just larger and married with child – and they were not impressed that DHC should be at home mourning his father. Sibiya got so emotional that he started weeping in the kitchen, saying that it was disrespectful of DHC to still be in the house and talking about sex during such a sad time for the family.
Every family is different, everybody grieves differently and everyone handles pain in their own way. Uhdikts (addicts) may not approve of DHC’s decision but it is his choice and all we can do is respect it as his family has. I am completely against his return if he leaves to attend the funeral; as the interaction with family will provide an added advantage over the rest of the failures still stuck in the house.
How will Mneedy (MNET) guarantee that no-one will not say what he cannot or should not know? It would just be impossible to chaperone him as well, this is after all a family affair. Ntsoaki must give him the choices and let him decide. BUT at this point it looks like Ntsoaki will bend the rules for DHC.