I have been told too many times by my friends who happen to be mothers and my mother too that there is no greater gift in anyone’s life as bringing another life in this earth. They say a child teaches you to love wholeheartedly whether you get that love in return or not. In my early 20’s when I developed the soft spot for children I told myself that I would love to adopt children who doesn’t have anyone to selflessly love them and give them that love. Apart from the fact that pregnancy scares me,, I also get scared thinking what if I fail the person I brought to this world, one way or the other, many friends didn’t let the chance of telling me that ‘it all comes natural’ pass them whenever I confess my fears.
I love children, their cute smile, their easy forgiving and non-grudges hearts, their warm hugs and there is that thing nje about them that makes me wish I can just hold them and protect them from anything, so whenever I witness any unfairness towards them my hearts just bleeds, it make me feel so weak if I cant help or protect them …
Here I was yesterday watching TV and it was cutting edge, when they narrated that it was about children, I decided to go get myself a glass of Cream Soda and sit up. The story was about Sisanda, an 11 year old girl living in kwaZulu Village in the Eastern Cape, whom at that time was caring and being a mother to her other 4 siblings, aged 10, 9, 6 and 3. The first thought that came to my mind, was why neighbors’ or orphanage home taking in these children, little did I know that the mother is still alive, breathing and earning grant money for all 5 of them.
When Sisanda(below) was interviewed, she said that on the day that her mother left, she said she was going to their grannies in Lusikisiki and Sisanda thought she was gonna come back but that faithful day went by, which soon became a week then a month(cant remember how many month though), so Sisanda was forced to be a mother to her other 4 siblings. She had to make sure that at least when on sunset they have something to eat, somedays they only eat pap, somedays she will go ask for something to cook from their neighbor who are always kind enough to give her something. Every morning she need to make sure that everybody is up and ready to go to school and beacsue there is no one who can care for a 3 year old Amahle, she takes her with to school.
A neighbor(below) was also interviewed and she pointed out that, this is what Sisanda’s mom normally do whe she has a new boyfriend, she leaves children alone go stay with a boyfriend and chow their grant money, comes back when Karma finds her.
Then another man(below) who was said to be a brother to Sisanda’s dad, when asked why he isn’t doing anything about these children who are staying alone, he said he didn’t know that their mother is not there … nc nc nc and there I was thinking everyone know about what I happening around in the village, and the family member proved me wrong.
Another relative(below) was also asked why she hasn’t done anything and she said, she had plannes to take them on that day after school, the same day the Cutting edge was there, how convenient.
They then called the mother(below) and when she answered the phone, they told her thay have been to her home and asked her why did she leave children alone, she said she left them because she needed to go to Mthatha to take care of her ill grandmother in Mthatha, and they asked where about in mthatha, and she asked from someone on the background the name of the village which was said to be Tsolo and the jurno asked her how come she doesn’t even know the name of her grandma village and she went silent. They then drove there, when they got there the asked to see the grandma, and you guessed right there was no grandma, she went there to her boyfriend … was so shocked to see that there is a child after a 3 year old. They then asked her why did she leave the children alone, she said Sisa(the father of her two youngest children) asked her to come to him because she is pregnant with another baby, the 7th one…. She didn’t have an remorse for leaving her children alone, when asked who is important to her, her children or her man, she said both … the guts of that woman …. She was also asked if she is aware that her children are sick and have flue, well she didn’t have any idea and she still didn’t ask to go back with them to see her sick 3 year old …..
They went back and asked the social workers(below) if they knew anything about this and they also didn’t have a clue, they said they will investigate(my left foot). Cutting edge manages to get one relative to take children in, so they drove at the back of the open van to the relatives house.
This real real tears my heart apart, how can anyone be so cruel to this innocent, little cute Nhanha, thank you Sisanda for being a mum to your sibling and making sure that they have something to eat, only if your mother can be half woman that you are!
I only have one plea to the hospital that will help that mother to deliever the baby … CLOSE HER FALLOPIAN TUBES AND REMOVE HER WOMB TO MAKE SURE SHE DOESN’T CONCIEVE AGAIN. AND DIRECT ALL GRANT MONEY TO SISANDA!
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