When No means NO???

Written by GML from the blog Curious Cases on 26 Nov 2009
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I just thought I should share this with amaBloggers.

I dont know if I should be happy about this or not but this always happens to me.

I work for a company that deals with very prominent people on a daily basis and I get to meet very important people.

Now you may be wondering what my job has to do with this article right?

Well, normally when people(men) visit our offices, I always get messages from my colleagues telling me a certain person was asking about me or they asked for my contacts. Sometimes these people would just openly flirt with me.

I take it as flattery because I really don't want to upset clients by I rejecting them (I dont want to loose my job-lol). It became worse when my boss came back from a meeting with someone from the royal family (I cant mention names) and my boss told me that the royal person asked how I was doing. My bosses response to this was "she is well and single"

When my boss told me this I had to explain to him that I was not in fact single. He joked and said that the man was worth billions and he is a royalty. I responded by telling him that I have my own prince at home and don't really care about the millions. I later joked with him and said that I will date this royal person and get him to marry me, once we marry my boss will have to kill him so that the billions can come back to us. We had a good laugh about this. Needless to say my boss knows not to sell me anymore (there are other instances that I wont mention). I once had a colleague who hoped a certain gentleman would be interested in her but he wasn't, instead this guy told my colleague that he wanted to take me out for lunch. My colleague was not impressed and demanded to know what It is that I have that has all male clients interested in me. I just laughed it off.

Today, I had a certain gentleman walk into the office for a meeting. After the meeting he had a chat and he asked me for my email address. I didn't think he needed it so I refused to give it to him. He pleaded and when he finally realised that I would not give him my address he took out his business card and asked me to "drop him a mail"

Now, I couldn't believe that this guy would be so dumb Doesn't he get that I don't want him to have my contact details? And why would he think I would send him a mail. I cant imagine myself sending him a mail, and what would the mail say anyway.

"hi, it _______ from ______________, you gave me your card and asked me to send you a mail. So I sent this mail so that you can have my email address."
Really now. A colleague suggested I make my won business card written

GML
Tel: *bleep!* OFF
email: WHEN I GET ONE YOU WILL BE THE FIRST TO GET IT

Have you had anyone at work flirt with you
Did you like that person or were you attracted to that person
How would you handle it of someone very "important" to the business asked you out?
What are your opinions of men who give out their numbers to women
Have you received a number from a guy? And did you call him back?
How do you deal with a man that doesn't get that you're not interested?

Let's have fun with this one.

21 Comments

GML
26 Nov 2009 11:36

I just looked at this guy's business card and he has a white persons name(he is black) and surname. He was way too well spoken- I wonder if he was raised by white people

Phikza
26 Nov 2009 11:45

I just looked at this guy's business card and he has a white persons name(he is black) and surname. He was way too well spoken- I wonder if he was raised by white people

LOL!!

nekzo
26 Nov 2009 11:58

Mina I get so pissed of if somebody from work wants to flirt with me they know I'm married mos,bangithathisa okwani?

GML
26 Nov 2009 12:01

@nekzo:

How do you deal with it? Without causing unnecessary tension and office politics?

Crazy Jess
26 Nov 2009 12:03

There's a guy I work with. We used to flirt and I got tired of it. He always used to tell me that he just wants me, (wanna skrew me), a re kamo gadisa and whole lot of bull. I told him to stop, he didn't listen. I told him I was gonna go to HR and open a case for grivience, still didn't stop. I finally put my foot down and told him never to talk to me agian. And since then ke taba ya BOM

blackstar
26 Nov 2009 12:16

It's a trick one GML especially if the guy is an important client but there is no reason in the world to compromise yourself and your happiness just to keep your boss happy and your boss should respect that you married all the time.

back when i was a student still involved in student politics i avoided being the comrades girlfriend by befriending one of the prominent comrade figures and if anyone wants to try anything stupid will just tell them person comrade so and so will deal with you... even here where i work i have just one guy friend they call him stopper he always defends me but i also made it clear to him that im not interested in him.

i dont like rich guys because they think their money can buy them everything.

Savanah Dry
26 Nov 2009 12:25

i work in a sort of open plan office , and my boss's office is within hearing distance Men always walk in and flirt with me and i dont want to sound rude coz my boss will be within earshot,
But after they have gone he always comes out and asks whats with me why men always pay attention to me ...
I hate coz sometimes i see wht i like but cant really respond or give my phone number scared that my boss is listening no wonder am still single

GML
26 Nov 2009 12:29

@SavanahD

Maybe you should have a "business/personal card" that you pass out to them without saying a word. that way yur boss wont hear you. lol

Lex
26 Nov 2009 12:36

Eish GML,I had an issue with one of the MEC's in our province,he was really putting me into a corner,he couldn't understand why I didn't want to go out with him.How it all started:

My dad had sent me to his pastor (who happens to be the MEC's subordinate) to fetch sumthing from him.While in the pastor/subordinate's office,in comes the MEC.He greets,and we greet back and he stands there like some statue with his mouth open as if he is seeing something he has been wanting to see his whole life,LOL. MEC goes to his office,leaves pastor's door open-which he found closed by the way and which I was conveniently seated at,goes to his office leaves his office door open-which is conveniently facing where I was sitting.

I stand up close the door,and pastor's phone rings,MEC asks why WE have decided to close the door,pastor does not have an answer and is instructed to open the door.I do my business with pastor,finish and then leave.When leaving MEC shouts 'Goodbye' to me.

While on the way to the car,my phone rings and its pastor,MEC wants my number,so pastor is calling to check if it's ok for him to give MEC my number.I tell pastor not to give him my number.Pastor calls again ten minutes later to tell me that MEC wants my number,I plead with pastor not to give him my number,another ten minutes pass and pastor calls again,same story,same answer.

After about an hour my phone rings and its Mr MEC,and he tells me that he knows I told pastor not to give him my number and I asked him where then he got my number."I waited until he went to the gents and took his phone and stole your number,I'm the one who said he should call you with his cellphone so that if you kept refusing to let him give me your number,then it would be easy for me to get your number.'

HAAI GUYS MY STORY IS TOO LONG,I'M GONNA STOP HERE.

GML
26 Nov 2009 12:40

What did you do Lex, did you hang up on him?

nice
26 Nov 2009 12:42

I just looked at this guy's business card and he has a white persons name(he is black) and surname. He was way too well spoken- I wonder if he was raised by white people,

LOL, stereo types. Some people think I am coloured, and when they meet me in person they get shocked. i am vey black, so GML dont read anything into it.

Mina I tell them that I am not interested, and when they insist on giving me their number I put it plainly that I will not call you, and I have stopped giving them tube's number or claim that I dont have a cell. I just say, no I wont give you my number because I dont want you to phone me. Luckily I am not in front office so my job wont ever be affected.

GML
26 Nov 2009 12:45

Nice- with a surname like "Maclean" do you blame me?

myname
26 Nov 2009 12:57

Honestly sometime i flirt back if i can see that he is the type of food i eat & some i reject them like they r smelling s***. Yes some can b out of control like they demand bt i always phoxa them & say im engaged just 2 chase them away.

It was worse when i had chiskop nama ngamla didn't control themselves. Now a colleague of mine who told me that she will never bring her bf while i still work here.

poshspice
26 Nov 2009 13:05

nc nc nc nc when some of us would do anything to get attention even from a 'nobody'....

but I know what you mean, the irony is that colleagues,friends end up jealous of you, in turn accuse you of being 'too nice' to men...

sometimes even your partner ends up insecure because he knows you get attention from men, you have woza woza,so it's has negatives while others might think you are lucky

well there is nothing much you can do if you are in a customer service environment, continue by turning them down gently and not giving them your details......be firm while smiling.......

zaa
26 Nov 2009 13:15

Have you had anyone at work flirt with you
- Not really, i'm in an Engineering sector (Civil) to be exact and i work with grown ass white madalas, they sumtyms flirt but i don't take them seriously.

How would you handle it of someone very "important" to the business asked you out?
I'll probably turn him down. Reasons being: 1. He'll probably take me to this expensive restaurants where i won't even recognise a single meal on the menu and end up ordering sumthing i don't even eat. 2. The conversation will obviously be revolving around him: his business/tenders. I always find it difficult to engage in those kinds of conversations since im just an 'ordinary' person.

What are your opinions of men who give out their numbers to women
-Players...period!

Have you received a number from a guy?
-Yes
And did you call him back?
-No, What wud i say vele? hey, this is zaa we met at Kwazwakala yesterday...im the one who was wearing a jean and a pink top, remember me? Just wanted to say hi. I can't imagine myself saying loo mbedo lowo. If i refused to give out my number what makes him think that i'd call back?

How do you deal with a man that doesn't get that you're not interested?
-Ke mmetha ka ignorance ka tswa mo yena

jinxed
27 Nov 2009 09:03

i am dealing with one dude here at work who cant seem to get the message, he is forever trying to get into pants and does not get the message, i have tols him in a rude and nice manner but he wont get the message. i havent given him my numbers but we work in the sane ssection so it wont ba hard for him to get his hands on them. he saw my xmas leave days the other time he was excited that we will both be around the office when most people will be away. he does not get the message and he always makes remarks on days when i am looking hot.

there are several guys who are also interested by they hint and walk away, i am one of those unapproachable women when it comes to men and this keeps most of them at bay even though i have already seen that are interested.

tjo and there is this older dude and he's been flitring ever since he started working here and he keeps telling that he is loking forward to deployed with so he can use his charm away from the office. this guy o befile o kare Mashaba. i avoid him at all costs and i never go to his office unless i need to. i will hate to see a day where i will have to travel with him,i hope it never happens.

if you give me your numbers just know i wont use it and i never give out mine to men

Mafresh
27 Nov 2009 10:58

Sho myname o hotttttt nhe, wa baba

@ Lex, your Pastor is not ayoba...how can he do that. He is selling you.

Nna I always laugh @ them until they give up. If some1 insist 4 my number, I give them my office landline with an 08$ (like 084 670 1120)

Lex
27 Nov 2009 11:44

@ GML, I told him that the reason I told pastor not to give him my number is because I did not want him to have my number because I don't think there is anything that me and him could have in common.He went on and on about how we should meet and I'll see that we do have something in common.I kept refusing until he got my MEC involved,and I was called to my MEC's office.I was asked why I was being mean and refusing to give 'bra ya ka a chance'.

I told my MEC that I'm a well brough up kid who would never think of dating a married man.He then told me that 'mos the wife does not stay with him here,she stays in another town'. But I still refused and this is still draggin on,three years later.

@ Mafresh,the pastor didn't give him my number,Mr MEC said he stole my number from pastor's fone when pastor went to the toilet.

myname
27 Nov 2009 11:51

LOL Mafresh, hai standwa sam ake babi. Im just a natural black woman

myname
27 Nov 2009 11:52

Sorry T im clueless when it comes to articles.....any1 plz help

Beyonce
03 Dec 2009 14:14

**i work in a sort of open plan office** from Savana What is a SORT of open plan office, never seen such.... Im very much interested in your answer thanx.

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