Sanibonani nonkhe. Ninjani hhayi! tsine sisaphila.
Here I am writing to you with the hope that I will receive those different views and suggestions. I know some will disappoint but I am ready for it. Ningisole where u feel I was wrong Its fine with me.
I am a 30 yr single parent. I bcame a single parent after the father of my Angel decide to marry another woman. I met this guy thrugh my uncle (babe lomncane), they are friends. We started dating at form 4 (1998), he was two years older than me. Our relationships went smoothly; I studied tourism while he remained at home.
In all this yrs we never had sex until 28 Sept 2001, I WAS A VIRGIN at 22. On this day I paid him a visit, it was not the first time of course in all the visits he made moves but I refused. My mother was so strict and I feared that she would chop my head off as per her promise shuld she gather that I visit boys, (she was a police officer. She died in 2002 May). He made those moves and won this time around. He lured me into doing it after showing some pink tablets saying he was preventing (Kuvikela) so I will not fall pregy. He knew that I was a VIRGIN and always said he was proud of me. We did IT and I went home where they were happy to see me after a long time (mom had sent me home). No1 knew anything save for the two of us. I will never forget this day ever in my life, what happened was so bad, it was so painful, I bled and the sheets were so dirty I felt so embarrassed. It all happened in broad day light Puuuum I was pregnant!! I gave birth to a bouncing little boy on June 7 2002. He was diagnosed with heart failure, fits and asthma. He took care of us until my boy was 18 mnts thereafter vanished to thin air. He got married later that year & is still married. I called him about our first born’s health several time and he never helped. One day he ordered that he bring his child and leave him alone. I cried; it was bad. My family helped me with everything coz I was unemployed until January 2005.
He is now doing grade 2 in one of the rural schools closer to my home and he first saw his dad last yr. He now says he wants his child, he still loves us and wants to pay school fees. I have allowed him to see our boy and he (son) was very happy to c his father. He says he wants me back; he still loves me, made a mistake and was sorry.
He threatens to consult a traditional healer to help get us back to him and I will be the second wife. I now have a boyfriend who loves me with likhwekhwe lami (my burden). I am not interested in this man, he made fun of me when I needed him the most even after the death of Mama who was the bread winner he deserted us. Now here he is knocking in my door. He says our reconciliation would be the best thing for our boy. He has even sent his sisters to talk to me but I said NO. He said ngitogugela ekhaya (I will never get married) because he uses muti. Does muti really works. I no longer have feelings of this man but will never forget September 29 ever in my life.
Do I have to hide from him, go to another country or what? I do not trust him!!!!. I have told my current boyfriend but pretended as a friend of mine is faced with such a prob. What I wrong to tell him or should I just tell the whole story. I am confused. I am now employed in a good paying company and I am happy. I was planning to rent a flat in town and stay with my Angel but then Im scared of threats.
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