TVSA bloggers I thought I should ask this to you since you’re different people from different parts of SA. So your views and opinions on this would help to realise who is wrong in this complicated situation. Here is a scenario; I have this friend of mine. She really trusts me and she always confides in me about what is going on in her home. The main person who is bothering her is her mother. She doesn’t like the way her mother is treating them at home even her father. My friend is still staying with her parents and a younger sister. My friend has always been a good girl. A daughter every mother would love to have seeing how girls are like now a day. She doesn’t have a boyfriend. She is always at home all the time. She has just finished her studies and now she is working.
She once told me that her mother has been rude to her since she started at varsity. Every time she shouted her she would always mention the fact that she is in university, even if she’s done a small thing. She felt like her mother doesn’t love her the way she used to when she was still schooling. She would sometimes shout at her and tell that she thinks she is better now that she is at university. And my friend told me that she doesn’t like it when her mother always mentions the university thing when she shouts at her. My friend once told me her mother’s got thing that she sometimes feels like people are talking about her. She once shouted at her and her sister because they were joking with each other and laughing. She shouted them and told them that bangamahule (think this means bitch not really sure). They didn’t like this but they kept quite.
She says her mother has this tendency of wanting them to pretend like she didn’t do anything to them. And she doesn’t apologise even if she is the one who is wrong. Now recently she told me since she started working her mother has been always rude to her. Sometimes she would tell her that, that house is her house and she is the only wife of that house. Just out of the blue. Since she is now working and her mother is not working. She comes home late and her mother would expect her to cook. She told me one morning her mother told her to take out the rubbish bean when she was going out to work and my friend didn’t because she was going to be late. My friend has been telling me that her mother is always telling to get out of her house and go live somewhere.
Her mother according to her loves to start a fight just out of the blue so she can shout at her and swear at her. And tell her all kinds of things that are not nice especially when coming from a person who is suppose to be your mother. Mind you she is not only doing this to her even her younger sister has to suffer this. I am sure you are going to ask what is the father saying in all this. Her father is the kindest father ever I have seen him when I’m visiting her. She says he sees what is happening but she says her father doesn’t want to seem like he is taking side. Sometimes her mother would pick up a fight with her father too so that he will do something to her which is what she wants. So she can have something against her father like arresting him.
This is a very long story I sometimes don’t know what to say to my friend. I always tell her to find a good job so that she can move out and find herself a place to stay. What I have told her is that maybe her mother is jealous since she has achieved what she didn’t. This is funny because this mother should be grateful for that. She even told me that her mother would make competition with her, like when she does or buys something her mother would buy that thing too or say negative thing about what she bought. This is story a very long complicated story. So bloggers what can you say if my friend was your friend. Do you think parents can be jealous of their children? Do you think her mother might have a problem maybe mentally or what?
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