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loving what you cant have returns

Written by libra from the blog love,life and everything else on 12 Mar 2009
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Best-Achiever
12 Mar 2009 14:48

askies ...

HARAMBE24
12 Mar 2009 14:55

Okay..let me read part two...

dali
12 Mar 2009 15:00

shame man!

HARAMBE24
12 Mar 2009 15:01

Jinxed..s.weetie, i feel for your ...i really do...did a married man for 4 yaers and look at me, i have nothing to show for it...BUT the sex was amzing...My advace...*bleep!* him before you let him go....married man a nyc...aks all bomakhwapeni..they will tell you....

sorry about uure feelings dear, but bonk him....and if he is any gud...PM his nambas....LOL....let him go shem, he belongs to someone...But give him a BJ nje, show him what he is missing....

TheLady
12 Mar 2009 15:03

Ah...it happens to the best of us...

Amza
12 Mar 2009 15:04

Awelani ni ngafhi wee? This is where you come in...

Amza
12 Mar 2009 15:06

Awelani...

Zah000
12 Mar 2009 15:06

so when Vee came in my life i had dumped my Mr J,he found me at a vulnerable phase in my life,i was hurting because i had just left the man i still loved but i had to do it for my own happiness.<<<< And I know exactly what u mean... *sigh* Now lemme go back and read

awelani
12 Mar 2009 15:07

Daaan, so sorry ntombazana,,as hard as it is, let it go!!!!!

Nonny
12 Mar 2009 15:07

Shem man, but who knows things can still turn out differently and u'll be suprised.

awelani
12 Mar 2009 15:08

lol @ Amza

TheLady
12 Mar 2009 15:08

H24's advice LMAO-vele ujnxed ain't getting any.

maud
12 Mar 2009 15:08

@harambe24- ouch that hurts, jinxed you might end up being the one who is hurt than him, so my friend dont do it, okay just a taste and see if uphetheni mhlawumbe isomiso nje.

Zah000
12 Mar 2009 15:10

its a perfect love story that can never be. Shame gal. .......... LOL H24

Zah000
12 Mar 2009 15:13

I think you should just let it go. It has a high possibility to hurt you more than you are now.

Amza
12 Mar 2009 15:14

@Maud, you are a bad influence...I see

jinxed
12 Mar 2009 15:16

Shem man, but who knows things can still turn out differently and u'll be suprised-not putting much hope on that.

the funny is my relationship with Mr J has been rekindled, we are so much into each other these,our relatiosnhip feels like new though its been on for five years.

i cant have Vee and i know this and i have to let it go,slowly but surely.

h24-as much as i would love to do him i cant go there it will complicate things further
ya life.

Tynt!
12 Mar 2009 15:18

U shud be proud of ur self gal!! I have noted that so many gals don’t mind dating a married man, they even go all out and see to it that the wife gets out of the picture… Talk about isibindi nxl.. I still don’t get this whole dating married man’s idea, coz clearly some1 will get hurt in return, maybe far most the wife……

maud
12 Mar 2009 15:19

@ Amza- she will never let go until she is satisfied so , ayiye and anyway azange athi ufuna amshade mos, you can sence from her article that the girl is in love.
and until aphuza emthonjeni ngeke axole.

Tynt!
12 Mar 2009 15:21

but i stil dont understant why u played along in the first place, moos u had ur Mr ntoni ntoni?!??!?!!?
u shundt have kissed him..... now luk wht uve put urself into.... hai man....

cleve
12 Mar 2009 15:21

Let go, trust me you will forget about him.

ngwana
12 Mar 2009 15:22

Even though we know it is wrong we still do it WHY???
I have an on/off relationship with a married dude. and when we are together we really feel like we are meant for each other (he still makes my heart beat so fast)
Me and him are facebook friends and when we are apart i use my status updates to make him jealous (childish i know, but i know he cant stand to see me with someone else) then he comes back, tells me how misreable he is with out me. I told him if he doesnt leave his wife then we cant be together.

I cant fall inlove with anyone else cause my heart belongs to him.

cleve
12 Mar 2009 15:24

she will never let go until she is satisfied so

no one is ever satisfied in life!!!!!! so just know ukuthi if you try it you will have a huge load on your shoulders. Too many complications.

Tynt!
12 Mar 2009 15:25

I told him if he doesnt leave his wife then we cant be together.
huh?!?!?!?!? ummmmm ..... dream on!!!

awelani
12 Mar 2009 15:26

Jinx, i think what u'r feeling is LUST,,not love

awelani
12 Mar 2009 15:29

@Tynt, sometimes these men do leave their wives cos they're no longer happy in the relationship, so u cant really blame the other woman,

dali
12 Mar 2009 15:30

i think Jinx mind is made up, she wont date a married man

now where's H24 with that article?????

andi01
12 Mar 2009 15:33

Dimago
12 Mar 2009 15:35

Sorry Jinxed. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders. Walk away girl...dont let temptation catch you unaware.

BigMama
12 Mar 2009 15:36

@H24........That was the best advise. She ought to do him big time before letting him go to his wife.........

Tynt!
12 Mar 2009 15:37

@Tynt, sometimes these men do leave their wives cos they're no longer happy in the relationship, so u cant really blame the other woman,

u reckon? pity we wont knw the motive behind the unhapiness... it cud be the husbanb's fault or the wife's.. that is debatable

andi01
12 Mar 2009 15:38

Jinxed- what attracted you to this man is the attention he was giving you at the time Mr J wasnt. When we dumped/ come out of a relationship, we seek God for comfort, (and we promise we will never sin again, if he could just stop this heartbreak), and we seek someone to make us happy. This man had both, thats why you liked him. Its lust ma babes, i promise you.

This man is a christian, once he fasts and prays, he will realise that you are just a "temptation", brought on by the devil, so that he can commit adultery, and break them commandents, i say leave now, now that he still sees you as a great person.

Dimago
12 Mar 2009 15:39

Jinx, i think what u'r feeling is LUST,,not love
You maybe onto something Awe

maud
12 Mar 2009 15:45

I am joking jinxed baleka ungabheki emuva, i have been there life with a married man is very complicated. run while you still have a chance.

HARAMBE24
12 Mar 2009 15:47

Dali...the article is done..i will post it tomorrow...

Jinxed: i so love your gud gal manners...but just let it loose for once...mofe pele o tsamaya love.....

andi01
12 Mar 2009 15:49

Let no man divide was was united by God

Remebner girl, your union was via computer, which is one of the earthly possession, so pls mntanam man, there is no other way, runnnnnnnnnnnn

TheLady
12 Mar 2009 15:54

"there is no other way, runnnnnnnnnnnn" ..to his arms

I'm kidding-run the other way girl

nekzo
12 Mar 2009 15:54

Jinx, i think what u'r feeling is LUST,,not love
You maybe onto something Awe

I agree with you both dimago and awelani........this has happened to me too
run away wena Jinx

ngwana
12 Mar 2009 15:55

@ Tynt, i'll wait and see what happens. He sleeps over at my house so he cant be worring about her finding out.

jinxed
12 Mar 2009 15:56

i am running believe me.

jinxed
12 Mar 2009 15:59

running away from him that is.

i know if i get into this someone would hurt and i do not want to see anyone hurting not me or the wife- men never hurt in this conditions they always win.

lorrelai
12 Mar 2009 16:04

i say leave now, now that he still sees you as a great person.

this so true, the longer you stay, the more complicated things will become & u don't need that.

Mafresh
12 Mar 2009 16:21

jinxed babes..While u r still running don’t forget to break yo ties with this man, le tsa merapelo, phone calls and meetings.

JuneRose
12 Mar 2009 16:23

@ Mafresh LOL!

TheLady
12 Mar 2009 16:33

Are there fine brothers on your chatroom? I need some brotha to pray with.

ms.tebby
12 Mar 2009 16:46

LOL jinxed, i hope that Mr J is not John, tl tl tl tl tl tl

ms.tebby
12 Mar 2009 16:52

TL TL.....you must confess that sin to God

Amza
12 Mar 2009 16:58

HAhahahahaha...The lady

Mafresh
12 Mar 2009 17:10

Haaibo @ngwana, what about man? Hei e monate sukiri, once o e gwathile, its so hard to leave it alone

Mafresh
12 Mar 2009 17:12

its actually: Haaibo @ngwana, what about yo man?

billyb
12 Mar 2009 17:31

my husband cheated on me and it was the most painful thing to ever happen to me. i understand how much you feel for each other, honestly i do but in my experience tha guy never leaves his wife so if you are ok with that then do what you must, but if you know that you deserve 'vee's' -or any man for that matter- complete and utter devotion( and you will not get it as he has a family) then....Just stay true to you that's all.

Onna
12 Mar 2009 18:41

@Jinxed, I really dont know why us people are never satisfied with what we have, You say MrJ and you are happy these days, why then do you feel the need for this vee? I would think if you really love a person then you cant fall for someone else.
Vee will not leave his wife for you and this thing you have is not going anywhere, besides if he is willing to cheat on his wife with you what makes you think its only you?
Even if he said he would leave his wife I would say please stay with MrJ atleast he is not cheating on you. Vee will only do it to you with someone else because obviously he cant be faithful, not to you or his poor wife. He can not be trusted at all so to avoid unneccesary heart ache please leave it alone.

Cande
12 Mar 2009 18:49

but you seem like you entertaining it, having such a relationship with a married man sounds soo wrong

Cande
12 Mar 2009 18:51

Check Thandi & Nandipha's storyline, Thandi thought she could break Parsons 's marriage but now the guy has second thoughts about a divorce.

Vida
12 Mar 2009 19:08

"i suspected Vee was married cos each time he prayed he would thank God for his family so i questioned him about it before the meeting and he told he was married."

he sat down there it was on his finger "a wedding ring."

Yho,kanti he didn't even hide it from you?? You walked into this with your eyes wide open?? Hayi kodwa we girls make it so easy for men to cheat these days then.

Even if he does leave his wife for you they say ,"if you marry your mistress you create a vacancy".

Firstdvd
12 Mar 2009 20:49

Reading the first and last replies, is not working for me MJJ, see for yourself...now lemme read the whole article...

Firstdvd
12 Mar 2009 21:35

Okay Jinx.......let the married man go...n enjoy your Mr J!

wAgEwaB.I.G
12 Mar 2009 21:41

y dnt this person get straight to the point, i mean alot of us got tired b4 we even read the second paragraph, honestly is there anibody hu really read the hole story, or u already knew what was written b4 u cud even finish...reading btwn da lines!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Cnglemother
12 Mar 2009 22:05

Its obvious u r gona have this affair.make peace with the fact u cant have him all 2 yoself,even if its at 12 midnite he's gona leave yo bed so he can wake up nxt to the Mrs.get sumthing out of it though,good sex or money.dating a married man 4 love is so 19voetsek.if he cant give u any of the above askies shem.golden rule dont mess with the Mrs she aint the 1 screwing u,so no late night calls and annoying sms's.deal with the man and leave the poor woman alone.being a mistress is a dirty game so u dont want people finding out yo shadiness.rather jump into a plane and shag him in another province(it tends to ease the guilt a bit)should she find out drop him immediately and cut all ties,there's nothing painful like hearing a wife crying and begging u to leave her husband alone.

Cnglemother
12 Mar 2009 22:18

Dont dwell on the leaving his wife issue coz he aint gonna do it and u dont want that on yo concience(sp?),yidl'umntu qha until the relationship reaches its expiry date coz izophela.

Cnglemother
12 Mar 2009 22:19

Gudnite FD ndiyalala ngoku.

Firstdvd
12 Mar 2009 22:19

Haibo CngleM...I thought you gonna khuza this child but nee ur disappointing me lol

Cnglemother
12 Mar 2009 22:25

FD its clear bazojola and no amount of khuzaring will stop her.kungcono amanyala wakhe awenze ngobuchopho.

Firstdvd
12 Mar 2009 22:28

CngleMa...Lets say JINX was your child telling you this...Your advice, ubuzothini?

mjj
12 Mar 2009 22:32

I said it last night, and i will say it again......TVSA bloggers will make Sis Dolly broke????? What's the point of writing to her if you can just upload your drama on tvsa and get free advice from bloggers? mncim......let me sleep..

Firstdvd
12 Mar 2009 22:35

lol

Cande
12 Mar 2009 22:35

LMAO em jay jay, nyani

Cnglemother
12 Mar 2009 22:38

FD smack her ass ofcoz.like she would even ask me of such.such relationships are just too hard to resist in the beggining.

Cnglemother
12 Mar 2009 22:40

Gudnite mjay,hi cande.

mjj
12 Mar 2009 22:49

hi Cande....

realist
13 Mar 2009 07:10

Its obvious u r gona have this affair.make peace with the fact u cant have him all 2 yoself,even if its at 12 midnite he's gona leave yo bed so he can wake up nxt to the Mrs.get sumthing out of it though,good sex or money.dating a married man 4 love is so 19voetsek.

if he cant give u any of the above askies shem.golden rule dont mess with the Mrs she aint the 1 screwing u,so no late night calls and annoying sms's.deal with the man and leave the poor woman alone.being a mistress is a dirty game so u dont want people finding out yo shadiness.

rather jump into a plane and shag him in another province(it tends to ease the guilt a bit)should she find out drop him immediately and cut all ties,there's nothing painful like hearing a wife crying and begging u to leave her husband alone.
For those who are in this trap, consider this valuable advice from cnglemother. What she said there is the bottom line. If you understand the concept of being a mistress then you will take the advice above. If that man leaves his wife for you then he is an idiot, Period.

myname
13 Mar 2009 08:11

Hai maan sana, life sucks doll.....mfiiimmmmm

jinxed
13 Mar 2009 08:16

okay blockers i have cut all ties, blocked his e mail and phone number and i have told him he wont be hearing from me anymore.

i refuse to be responsible for another woman's heartache.

he is furious but i wont fall for that - he will be fine with time.

have a nice friday you'all.

myname
13 Mar 2009 08:26

Shame doll, so soon? No gudbye's?....just joking.

I hope u grand joe yhazi.... nawe have a beautiful weekend! (eish its nice u cant hear me when i pronounce ur name nc nc )

TheLady
13 Mar 2009 08:36

uhmmm...what about my request jinxed?

Best-Achiever
13 Mar 2009 08:39

good decision jinxed, it will get better with time even for you.... you have saved not only the wife from heartache but also her family.

cleve
13 Mar 2009 09:04

i am so happy that there are people out there who still think like the bloggers here. I thought morals were over. Jinxed, remember that this guy is an idiot becuase you are not the one married here. So you can't save the woman pain, because if it's not you then he will find someone who is willing to be his mistress.

God will bless you for your decision of not being selfish. Cheating is always about selfishness and girl you fought the tempation. Keep it up and don't lose your strong-hold.

jinxed
13 Mar 2009 10:03

thank you guys though i must admit that i am already missing his mails,i could sending e mail number ten already but i know the decision is for the greatest good.

eish,the lady you dont wnat to go there.

Toxic
13 Mar 2009 12:38

Jinxed:

this Vee, does he have 2 children?

Vida
13 Mar 2009 12:49

Jinxed:

this Vee, does he have 2 children?

Ayeye!!! Hm

Dimago
13 Mar 2009 13:06

LOL Toxic...hahahahah...

Toodecent
13 Mar 2009 13:20

Bomme ba merapelo should you wanna receive prayers on a daily basis please visit one of my clients www.alivetogod.com and register( its associated with Impact Radio which is a christian radio station in Menlyn PTA). Its daily thoughts for free and you wont be spammed i guarantee you because i make sure of that daily... Its better than mfundisi who will gun for your rockafella's at the end.

jinxed
13 Mar 2009 13:46

lol at tdc.

no toxic,he has one,do you think you know him?

KeleFabulous
13 Mar 2009 13:47

if you don't end the "friendship" now it means you are ready and willing for what will happen.

good luck!

belz
13 Mar 2009 13:52

82 replies, where was i? eish ihate catching up, reading *

Toxic
13 Mar 2009 13:54

jinxed, yeah i thought i knew who this MrVee was.....everything except the children factor matched.

Toxic
13 Mar 2009 13:56

Bomme ba merapelo should you wanna receive prayers on a daily basis please visit one of my clients www.alivetogod.com and register

kwa kwa kwa!!!!

Msoe
13 Mar 2009 14:08

Jinxed I am happy that you made the right decision, not only for you, mr vee or the wife but also for the children involved. I see that most of you are more worried about the adults in this situation whom in my eyes are possible to move on with life wether the man decides to go with the mistress or not. But what about the children who do not have a say in all this mess, who some cant even speak for themselves. That is why I say Jinxed one day you will see when you have your own children that you made the right decision if this vee person was meant for you then let him devorce his wife without you being involved and if he comes back to you without that ring on his finger than you can have him. But i doubt that will ever happen gal.

Msoe
13 Mar 2009 16:16

awelani
13 Mar 2009 16:19

Bomme ba merapelo should you wanna receive prayers on a daily basis please visit one of my clients www.alivetogod.com and register LMAO,, tdc uyaphapha, hi hi hi

Dimago
13 Mar 2009 16:19

Hi Msoe!!!!!!!!!!! *waving like a lunatic*

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