Since coming back to this site not only have I been bombarded by the number of people here (talk about stimuli overload!); but I've seen too many articles on how men are dogs and how they need to pay for this and that etc.
Ladies come on! We're all mature adults here. If something went wrong in a relationship take time to mourn. Yes, do (privately) swear at him and call him an a**hole, a bast*rd...drown your misery in a bottle of bubbly with a good shoulder to cry on (hopefully another woman)...call him up and ask him to come back to you if you must. Before you bash me sometimes you might need to do this, you might need him to reject you one more time before you finally get the picture. Do this only if you know you have at least one good friend who'll slap your dreamy head back into reality should he say yes. Do whatever the hell it takes, just GET OVER HIM!
But while you're getting over him remember they're not all like him. Remember he was once so not like he is now. Remember how good he was to you at some time. Accept that that time is now over. It wasn't meant to last. And as much as you gave him your love, respect, time, laughter, your punani etc etc so did he give you as much. Don't bash him cause he left you. Ok, do. But only for a time. At some point you NEED to let go. Make room for someone else in your heart. There will always be good men out there. Maybe he's not good enough for(to) someone else right now but maybe he is out there waiting for someone like you to come along...
I've had my share of heartbreaks too (some messy) and I am in no way diminishing what some of y'all are going through. But I think I speak for alot of people when I say we've had enough of these articles now. Can we please find other avenues to vent? And as much as this is cyberspace there should be some things we'd all like to keep to ourselves...not so?
PS. Please compromise too much of yourself and values when it comes to relationships, it makes it easier to walk away from something that's not good for you.