It is official- WOMEN ARE PATHETIC!!! And when I say women, I mean myself included!
Call me a sour bitch, but I have just finished reading the book "he's just not that into you- the no- excuses truth to understanding guys" by Lizz Tuccillo and Greg Behrendt, and its a blow by blow account of what is there but we dont want to see!
I mean come on, its pathetic how we make excuses for the son of a devils! I sat there laughing, crying, being embarrassed and downright angry about how much time I have wasted on the selfish bastards. Now, Im not trying to give them a big head by bashing woman (Im getting to them) but dammit ladies, we give them way too much power. WTF?
Its actually quite simple yazi, and I can give you a few reasons why you should walk away and will show you why he just not that into you:
1. If he's not asking you out
2. If he's not calling you
3. If he's not dating you
4. If he's not having sex with you
5. If he's having sex with someone else
6. If he only wants to see you when he's drunk
7. If he doesnt want to marry you
8. If he's breaking up with you
9. If he's dissappeared on you
10. If he's married (or otherwise unavailable)
11. If he's a selfish jerk, a bully, or just a downright freak!
If you have experienced any of the above, WALK AWAY!!! Whats the point of you sticking around? Do you really think so little of yourself? Come on, have some self respect and dignity and dont give the son of a gun the satisfaction of knowing that he can screw you over!
I always thought it was a complement when the asshole comes crawling back months later telling me that he misses me and wants to get back together with me, but I had an apiphany- he doesnt miss me, he just couldnt find any better, and when he does, its going to be tickets for me! So, I've put a stop to it! Screw you, if you wanna hate now, dont appreciate later!
And we call ourselves independent! Whats independent about crying your eyes out over the bastard who thinks your a freaking doormat? If you are truly independent, but unfortunately had your heart broken, you should just say the following "I DESERVED BETTER ANYWAY!!"
One thing we need to realise is that the guy who loves us is out there, but we arent going to find him by being hung up about some self centered asshole, ok? If he cant appreciate you, move on! Dont accept his excuses, no matter how convincing they are! Screw the fact that he had a tough childhood, he isnt ready to be commited, he is busy at work, or whatever else he might say, if he loves you (and I mean really loves you) nothing will stand in his way of being with you, not even the fact that his grandmothers neighbours cat on the other side of the Limpopo had to go for a hip replacement and she needed the moral support (a guy told me that once, swear on my baby toes!)
Now, when I say move on, I don't mean go and be Skanky the Homewrecker! I mean, take some time out for yourself to allow the one who was meant for you to find you. I know that its daunting to be alone, but its worth it at the end of the day! There is nothing more disgusting than a woman throwing herself at every Tom, Dick and Jabulani that comes along- and its even worse when she is drunk!
There is a man out there waiting to love you, but being a skank isnt going to help you. You are worth more.
There are 4 types of men- The Bad, The Badder, The Worse and The Evil. They are all bastards, they are just packaged differently! Find him, accept him with his imperfections, but put a big sign across your bigger backside saying:
"Bastards Kiss Here!!"
As women, we want to believe in the greater good, but sometimes, the greatest good that you could possibly go through is being alone. Gain some perspective.
As for the ladies who date ama Triple C and ama BEE, remember this: The front seat of the Q7 is not only occupied by you. The airtime isnt only loaded for you. The credit card is not only used by you. GET YOUR OWN!!!
Having said that, to my boo, I love you as fucked up as you are. If this article offends you, I'll do that thing that you like the way only I know how...
M*