Work Dilemmas

Written by Molilo from the blog Mofire on 23 Oct 2008
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A friend of mine sent me the following sms this morning

“I am booked off for post traumatic stress disorder. Next week I will be hospitalized”. This brought tears to my eyes as the stress she has is from her boss.

This woman has only been in her new work from August 2008, but now she will be hospitalized for stress caused by her boss.

She has been victimised, papers thrown at her, called all sorts names, and physically been handled. I am not exaggerating, this all happened in 2 months.

She went to HR to lay a complaint, they were called for a hearing the man in question apologised promised to stop and said he was not aware of his actions, etc.

Immediately after the hearing it started again she went back and this time was told she must produce evidence as the man promised to change.

My question was how will, she give evidence, do they want her to die at work? Will that be evident enough for them? She told me yesterday when I called her these days he even close the door so that no one hears him or see what is happening.

At one stage she said to me “you know sometimes money is not all that”. I earn double of my previous work but I was never treated like this.

Bloggers please help in this situation what must she do?

Should she just resign?

Should she keep on with the abuse?

Eish this is very heartbreaking.

22 Comments

witty lady
23 Oct 2008 06:16

Tjo tjo that is just bad... goes to show gore the grass isnt always greener on the other side.... can't she try human rights... coz clearly hers are being trampled on!! nxxxa!!!

I mean what would make human beings treat each like this mara? Just so that their power can be felt?? I hate bosses that throw their weight around and they do tis because we need these jobs eeish.

I'm sure the poor girl cant just quit coz she's got responsibilities, but then again this abuse is No good 4 her health.
this is heart breaking

Molilo
23 Oct 2008 07:45

Human rights, maybe they might come up with something
Yes unfortunately for us to survive we must work
Thanx for the help

Cande
23 Oct 2008 07:48

CCMA Molilo, HR can go to hell..but they will also want some kinda proof..
Hasnt anyone seen her being abused by this monster?

Best-Achiever
23 Oct 2008 07:50

She must try to set her phone to record every conversation when she need to be with her boss. That should be enough evidence

witty lady
23 Oct 2008 07:53

Eeeish .... yah CCMA will want proof... Best A is right try to get it on recording... This bastard has to be exposed!

Molilo
23 Oct 2008 07:58

I told her she must have a tape recorder ready but she was in a state when I called her yesterday. Maybe when she has gained strength she will do it I pray everyday for her.
The witness did not want to to testify, they told her they value their jobs.

Toxic
23 Oct 2008 07:59

Shame man, This is really depressing.

witty lady
23 Oct 2008 08:04

Yah let her calm down first, but she has to fight, if she has proof then she can take this moron down.

wildcat
23 Oct 2008 08:20

OH MY WORD,WE ARE GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING HERE AT WORK,THIS GENERAL MANAGER CAUSED ONE OF MY COLL TO GO INTO PREMATURE LABOUR ON THE SPOT,BCOZ HE TOLD HER THAT SHE DOES NOT QUALIFY FOR A 5MNTHS MATENITY LEAVE,I AM ONE OF THE KEY WITNESSES ON THIS CASE,THE GUY IS SUSPENDED WITH PAY PENDING INVESTIGATION,IT WAS ACTUALLY ALL OVER THE PAPERS SOME WEEKS BACK,SHE MUST TAKE HIM ON,NO MATTER WHAT,SHE MUST FIGHT BACK...

Dimago
23 Oct 2008 08:35

She has been victimised, papers thrown at her, called all sorts names, and physically been handled.
Where are her colleagues when this happens, surely some1 must have seen something and be called to testify?

Molilo
23 Oct 2008 08:39

@ Dimago The witnesses did not want to to testify, they told her they value their jobs.

makgotso
23 Oct 2008 08:41

I feel sorry for your friend, I think BA idea of gathering the evidence is the good idea, it's gonna nail him big tym. We will keep your friend in our prayers.

tha - bang
23 Oct 2008 08:42

CCMA.get the cash and resign afterwards.that my 2cent Dim'

Dimago
23 Oct 2008 08:47

Shame ke sono..worse if HR is not on your side...what company is this Mo? Name and Shame

Molilo
23 Oct 2008 08:52

What I can tell is, it made headlines this year with their students.......also moTVSA

Sobza
23 Oct 2008 08:53

My advice to your friend: Quit and get even

If she ain't happy why stay on the job. She must also bring a bucket full of ice amgalele ngawo in front of everyone just to embarrass esasidenge se boss. Hey mina I don't tolerate isht. My Afrikaner senior once said to me"Ek praat kak" Damn ngamlanda.

I told her right there ukuthi mina angiyikhulumi ikaka and never will. Phela abanye bayamhlekela nje xa ethukana. We don't get along very well even now, but I don't care.

One time I had an argument with my one of my colleagues and she reported me to my senior. My senior never bothered to ask me what happened, she just went straight to the Manager and I was called for a hearing. I never went and its been more than 6 months now and I haven't heard anything from them. I asked them what the hearing was about, never got an answer.

witty lady
23 Oct 2008 08:56

Abelungu bayadelela!! full of ish!! especially if you dont put them in their place.

Molilo
23 Oct 2008 09:01

She must also bring a bucket full of ice amgalele ngawo in front of everyone just to embarrass esasidenge se boss.

LOL and everybody will testify against her and she will be fired on the spot.

PY
23 Oct 2008 09:26

Molilo....is ur friend a black lady and her boss a white man??
...if so that means the boss is racist...(sorry dont mean to offend anyone)
Is he doing this to ur friends colleagues??.....or is it only ur friend whos the victim here??
maybe the people who used to work for him before were also treated like that....but they did'nt stand up for themselves...of which ur friend should
maybe hes trying to get rid of ur friend and hire someone of his choice...that means he has someone else on his mind for this position
taking him to the HR was the first step....sec step is the eveidence (record)...third step is to take him to the Human Rights

Molilo
23 Oct 2008 09:34

@PY I am trying to stay as far as possible from race.....
To answer u, yes black lady white boss
She is the one working close with him and yes she is the only victim
The lady who was working there bfr her also recieved the same treatment (she was an indian)
She only worked there for a month I think
If it is racial I wonder with EE/AA he will win
Yes I will stress the importancy of recording from 8-5, she must be prepared for him

GML
24 Oct 2008 09:19

She should not resign. The same thing happened to me. When something like that happens she needs to ask the people who who it happen to please sing a pare that details the event. So if he calls her stupid in front of her colleagues she must wright it down and ask them to sign the paper. They might refuse because they dont want to lose their jobs. She must then just tell them that if it does not happen to her it will happen to them. Get enough proof then present it to HR and his superior. If no action is taken take it futher... CCMA. It's time that our managers recognise that we are there to help them not to be abused by them....

GoldenSta
24 Oct 2008 09:40

Molilo what's happening to your friend is horrible and I do think she is right to stand up for herself.

Just a word of caution though about recording him I'm not a 100% sure on this but I've heard that if you record someone without first letting them know you're recoring them then the recording is inadmissible in court. But like I said I stand corrected...

All the best to her.