The 80/20 Rule! Reloaded

Written by Shuga babe from the blog Suger B on 01 Oct 2008
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A very valuable lesson to learn …

Interesting quote from the movie 'why did I get married?'

In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship. There is always another person (man or women) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT
And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship.
But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT
But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and losing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had.
Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.

Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. 'Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker. But it's not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I'm crazy about her because she's also understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse is not'

Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did.

Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%. Let's say your wife is melancholic by nature.

You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: 'I broke my arm yesterday, Hahahaha . . ..'

Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt Or because your husband is the quiet
type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host.

But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have.

Don't throw away the 80% that you already have!

That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers.

Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have.

But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have.

But I'm not just talking about marriage.

I'm talking about life!

About your jobs.
About your friends.
About your children.
About your lifestyles.

Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? 'They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they've got personal videos!'

I guarantee you'll be miserable for the entire trip! Don't live your life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class -- because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?

The main message???

If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are, you are first class!

14 Comments

Shuga babe
01 Oct 2008 02:42

its soooooooooo true in in a relationship u can't get 100% always less than that, that's why sometimea u find your self cheating coz u really can't get everything in arelationship.

Cande
01 Oct 2008 02:47

Shuga babe you forgot one thing, to acknowledge your sources because i once read an e-mail that was exactly the same as your article...you dont want TVSA being sued for plagiarism!!!
Nice writing babe, this is too close to home..letme wait for other responses

Nonny
01 Oct 2008 02:55

WOW, thanks Shuga Babe, when I first saw this, I though ok I've watched this movie (Why did I get married) a thousand times and I have seen this 80/20 email more than once, but ke when i read it I realised that this s also about jobs friends, children & lifestyles.

Shuga babe
01 Oct 2008 02:59

"to acknowledge your sources because i once read an e-mail that was exactly the same as your article...you dont want TVSA being sued for plagiarism!!! "
Cande u r so right!! thats why i wrote an aticle about it, so that we can discus it as oline buddys. this is a must discus situation!!!!

Toxic
01 Oct 2008 03:04

I'm sorry but i don't believe in this 80/20 rule where relationships are concerned. If the 20% that's missing in your relationship makes YOU miserable then your relationship isn't working. Leave.

Nonny
01 Oct 2008 03:09

I'm sorry but i don't believe in this 80/20 rule where relationships are concerned. If the 20% that's missing in your relationship makes YOU miserable then your relationship isn't working. Leave.
Haiybo Tox, it's virtually impossible to be 100% happy in a relationship, so if u walk away, that means u will be in and out of relationships for the rest of ur life. Mina this 80/20 rule is a reality for me coz I seen it happening to me and others, it's really like ordering food at a restuarant, when u see what ur neighbour has ordered, u wish u had ordered their meal instead of ur own.

Shuga babe
01 Oct 2008 03:13

Nonny! u r such a darling uyishaye emhlolweni. going in and out of relationships ngoba ufuna u 100% which is impossible to get might end up killing yourself.

I so believe in this 80/20 rule too

sweetie my baby
01 Oct 2008 03:50

@ Cande & Shuga Babe- yeah, le nna i've definitely seen this one doing the email rounds too

- @SB - even if you don't know who wrote it (coz often, these emails don't have an authors name to them) - just say 'i got this in my inbox, and thought it'd be nice to share' that way, we're all clear that you're not pretending this is your original work, and everyone's protected...

that said, thanks for sharing...nice pics, also - we appreciate the effort you took, what with the 2-liner, no photograph craziness masquereading as blogs lately...

Nonny
01 Oct 2008 03:53

that said, thanks for sharing...nice pics, also - we appreciate the effort you took, what with the 2-liner, no photograph craziness masquereading as blogs lately...
U cabn say that again Sweeite!!!

carino
01 Oct 2008 05:35

okay...

PY
01 Oct 2008 05:37

mh...mh....mh....mh...80/20....i feel like i'm one of those who wants that 20% but scared to get hooked & leave 80% that i need behind......Do you guyz think its normal??....

cleve
01 Oct 2008 06:25

I also believe in the 80/20 rule. We all want the things we don't have. But polish the one you have, it might not be perfect but nothing is ever perfect.

Toxic
01 Oct 2008 06:38

U guys seemed to miss the word MISERABLE in my 1st post. if the 20% i don't have makes me miserable, then u'd better believe i'm stepping and not looking back!

sjura
01 Oct 2008 10:08

yho safa kuku bloga i e-mails...Nkosi yibanathi xa si bloga!!!!!!!!!

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