I am the other woman. I'm involved with a man that's living with the mother of his baby, not married but might as well be. I'm gonna refer to her as the "headquarter" and me as the "branch" in this article.
The difference between me and the traditional nyatsi (for lack of a better phrase) is that I have no hopes of taking over from the headquarter. I don't want him to leave her and be mine forever, I'm in this only for the company and great sex. I did not know from the start that he's taken, even though I'd already told him that I wasn't interested in a relationship. I met him at some work-related extra curricular activity and we got talking. I only found out a month into our liaison, any rational thinking woman would've called it quits but no, not me.
This arrangement suits me just fine, because I'm at a point where I don't wanna go steady but I do get lonely at times. I'm not ready for love (that, I think is fickle and overrated) and I don't want the stress that comes with maintaining a relationship. Therefore, I can't have someone unattached - I don't want anyone falling for me and complicating things and vice versa. With my huccie, I like the fact that he's not permanently available. I love the thrill of stolen moments and the forbidden fruit
I've got a well paying job and not looking for a "personal savings plan" so I'm not a gold digger. All my life I swore I'd never do something so dispecable but what do you know? It's happening. We see each other when we can and when I'm in the mood. However, I think he's falling for me. Lately, we are spending too much time together and he has muttered the L word and how he wishes he'd met me earlier. I'm still unmoved and have told him that I'm gonna break things off if he blurs the line between great sex and falling in love. Great sex is just that - great sex.
This is gonna ruffle a couple of feathers and will probably get me bullied off but ja, no offence intended here