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Did I or Did I Not

Written by Sdakamiswa from the blog SDAKAMISWA's FIX on 21 May 2008
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Greetings eerryybody, its 2:30am & I cannot sleep…. I have just come back from watching IRON MAN & I enjoyed it. Considering that I went for the 22:45 show, when I left the house I was worried that I might fall asleep through the movie, but none of that happened, in fact when I came out of it, I felt like I could watch it again, that’s how much I enjoyed it. Anyway I am not writing this to talk about the movie; but to all those super hero junkies, I recommend this movie, go watch it its good, u’ll enjoy it. Something else is bothering me though & it’s been worrying me for a little while now…..

Let me break it down to you……. I met this girl & we’ve been on a lot of dates…. he he he……...****at this point a lot of bloggers must be sighing, wondering, boy & girl, uh wee, haven’t we heard it all, what now, phew?****I know I know give me a chance, let me explain it to you……

this past friday boy calls girl & this is how the conversation went…

*phone rings, girl answers*
GIRL: hello
BOY: Watsup
GIRL: Im good, just chillin, whats up?
BOY: Im good, gettin sloshed, with the boys, watsup with you?
GIRL: Aargh, im just watching TV nuttin hectic
BOY: ooh I c, mind if I come through later
GIRL: nope I dont, what time will u come thru?
BOY: Im not sure we still dopping here, so it could be late…
GIRL: ooh, ok, I c, as long as its not too late…
BOY: u sure I can cum thru, it could be around like 4am *(BOY seriously joking)*

Ok let me give you a bit of background roundabout now, BOY has previously been told that if he goes drinking with his buddies, he must never call GIRL & insist on coming over…. BOY has conformed to this but he has always wished this was not the case ‘cause one of his regular dopping spots is close to GIRLs spot & at times he’d lyk to just crash at her pozi & not drive to his pozi which is far.

Generally boy calling girl at odd wee hours after a drinking spree normally means boy needs a shag. However in this situation this has not been the case, since BOY has let GIRL know that 99/100 times BOY just wants to sleep, cuddle & besides he normally is too sloshed for a shag anyhow.

So this particular day, BOY convinces GIRL & she agrees that even if its like 5am, BOY can come thru its fine……

Anyhow, BOY gets sloshed, sloshed & sloshed with the boys & he never makes it to GIRLs place… he ends up sleeping at his place….. BOY wakes up late Saturday with a MOER se hangover, his boy pops buy his crib with a 24 in hand…. The boys watch pre-recorded Super 14 Games for that day with beer in hand… After the games BOY gets clean & drives to GIRLs pozi… On the way he phones GIRL & GIRL is livid with him for not pitching that BOY ends up making a U turn close to girls pozi & he drives back to his pozi… BOY gets to his pozi & is very surprised why GIRL was FUMING; BOY never even got a chance to explain why he never pitched……so he starts sms’ing GIRL to find out whats going on……

a lot of sms’s went back & forth, sadly I have deleted these & would have loved to give detail on the exchanges…. To summarise GIRL was OUTRAGED with BOY because she felt she had been STOOD UP, GIRL made it clear that she had waited for BOY till the very wee hours of the morning.... BOY could not understand this & was sure that since he never put down a time, he knew GIRL would wait without worry, end up sleepin & only see him when he pitched, at least that’s what he thought…. BOY understands the meaning of standing someone up to be, if he sets a time for meeting & then never show face & never explain….

The question that I know have is whether, DID HE or DID HE NOT stand her up, how could this be possible to stand someone up @ 5am when they were sleepin?......

BOY had a good reason for not pitching, even though he never got a chance to explain, GIRL is still ENRAGED & won’t take BOYs calls or return his sms’s….

Anyhow this is what happened…..

BOY Got Too Sloshed to Drive, but somehow managed (under undesirable circumstances) & got himself home since it was closer from his dopping spot….

BOYs fone battery died & he could not fone GIRL…

BOY only realised when he had left his chommies that he should have asked to use one of his chommies fone to reach GIRL, but considering his state of mind at the time, things/ideas were taking long hours to get processed by his brain……

Now she will never know will she………

BOY is not sure if GIRL is justified in being LIVID & is in serious doubt about if HE DID or DID HE NOT stand her up…..

69 Comments

Toodecent
21 May 2008 03:36

O tlogele Zolo mfana ;-)

Toxic
21 May 2008 03:39

Okay-thanks for making it interesting i really was thinking:
……...****at this point a lot of bloggers must be sighing, wondering, boy & girl, uh wee, haven’t we heard it all, what now, phew?****
in the beginning :)

I understand how GIRL feels cause i would have reacted the same way. If YOU call me and tell me u WILL pop in-even if you don't say what time in the morning-i will wait up for you (not literally sit on the couch and watch the clock) even if i'm sleeping i'll still be aware enough of what's happening so i can hear you when u come in.

If you had said YOU MIGHT POP in, it'd be a different story or better yet, if you called to say u're no longer coming, she wouldn't be fuming!

andi01
21 May 2008 03:50

First things first, never ever in urlife drink and drive again. Secondly you need to set ur priorities straight, you need to learn to compromise for you girl if you love her, and if you choose to go drink do so and when you choose to have quality time with your girl do so, dont try to mix teh two, it never works. And yes you stood her up, you probably think she is just being jealous and unreasonable, but the poor child was maybe worried that u might have been involved in an accident given the fact that your battery was flat, duhhh. I think u being selfish, you should be on your knees begging for forgivenss instead of turning around and going home when she tells you how angry she was for standing her up, or maybe ou prefer it when your partner bottles her feelings up and pretend that all is lekker.???

Toxic
21 May 2008 03:58

And yes you stood her up, you probably think she is just being jealous and unreasonable, but the poor child was maybe worried that u might have been involved in an accident given the fact that your battery was flat, duhhh

Yep!!!!

Renegade
21 May 2008 04:02

Lol @ BOY!!!! Tsho, Sdaka, you have just made me realise how simple guys take these things. Mina if I was Girl, I'd be livid!!! HAHAHA, what I find funny, is that you genuinely seem not to understand why she is livid...lol.

Ok, here's the thing, when someone says they are coming through, you prepare for their coming, especially if that person CONVINCED you to let them come. Fine, by prepare, i mean different things, mentally, physically, hell i dont know, but you await your guest. Now, if he doesn't call...eish, ya ne.

I was once stood up by someone who said they'd come at 7pm, by 11pm I was still thinking he'd call, i even went to bed thinking he might call me(Tamia's voice)...but no, and for me, what was irritating, was that he didn't call.

To answer your question, yes, you stood her up, she went to bed expecting you, all prepared for your coming, and what for...? Nothing!

Tsho, i'm still laughing! Nice one!

Vutmi
21 May 2008 04:13

hahahahahaha Boy is seriously challenged, when it comes to women and their thinking! Boy must know that when he calls Girl and says he's coming, girl will wait!!! she might sleep, but subconciosly she's waiting for that door bell to ring. Boy must call girl and beg her for forgiveness. Another thing Boy musnt tell Girl the real reason he didnt make it, cause that aint gonna fly. Make something up Boy (be very convincing!!!!!!

belz
21 May 2008 04:14

I would have waited for you to get to my place and give you a very hot klap for standing me up and send you packing!!! yes she might have been lying down, but you stood her up!! as andi has mentioned, she was probably worried sick. .

Dimago
21 May 2008 04:15

Yep, Boy definatley stood Girl up. I'd also be livid, cause Boy had confirmed he's coming through. And Girl being a girl, goes to bed with phone under pillow (not really falling asleep) awaiting the "i'm at the gate" call. So the onus is on Boy to convince Girl of what is seemingly an honest mishap.

Best-Achiever
21 May 2008 04:19

And01, Toxic and Rene ... have said it all .. you stood her up indeed

Ngqesta
21 May 2008 04:19

....BOYs fone battery died & he could not fone GIRL…

am sure every female under the sun has had this line before, am not saying it's untrue, however, IT IS extremely difficult to believe

belz
21 May 2008 04:23

Read this again........... LOL @ Boy, you poor thing, how clueless.

youngtodie
21 May 2008 04:26

you really stood her up.

carino
21 May 2008 04:28

You did...

Just tell her you are sorry... stop defending yourself and justifying the situation.

Mopakistani
21 May 2008 04:37

u definately stood her up mr,
with us women if u tell me u gonna come see me i take it u will,and i wait up for u,it doesnt matter what time it is...even if its too late and u call to let me know it means a lot to me.i used to have a lot of fights with my boyfriend about this and now i put him in his place...its not about being jealous or worrying if u are up to no good but we just need to know u are okay wherever u are.

Kapakapa
21 May 2008 04:38

Boy is just a drunkard.....puts booze before Girl's feelings

You stand upa, u stood her up!

Weiss
21 May 2008 04:38

Yes you stood her up....BOYs fone battery died & he could not fone GIRL… LMAO! You can never tell her that, my auttie.. she's gonna end moering you! Think of something... or just appologise and admit you wrong. Thats what I would do, anyway.

Renegade
21 May 2008 04:41

@Belz: LOL @ Boy, you poor thing, how clueless

Isnt it really funny how clueless he is! It makes me understand why some guys never understand why we are angry!

KeleFabulous
21 May 2008 04:42

yinto oyi jwayele mos...LOL at how you just don't get it

i think your 2nd big mistake was turning back when you were almost at her place the next day. you shoulda just gone there and took that warm klap. so manje you'll be getting 2 klaps instead of 1. nc nc nc...

Sdakamiswa
21 May 2008 04:49

the thing is the fact that I mentioned that I could pitch even at 4/5am, when u think about it, that meant she'd definitely be sleeping then & not 'waiting up' like u guys r explaining now, its as simple as that, u cant stand some1 up by that? come on now...

Holler!
21 May 2008 04:54

1st u cnvinced her to break one of her Golden rules, then you don't show up?
Ohhhh BOY, u in trouble!! this calls for a "forgive me" gift.

belz
21 May 2008 04:58

yah Rene shame, i really feel sorry for him, he needs to learn, fast otherwise he'll die a bachelor.

monchooza
21 May 2008 05:00

Plain and simple you stood her up.....
you promised to come and you did not and further more, i am not buying the battery flat story, I use to too often to believe it could happen in such cases

Kapakapa
21 May 2008 05:06

Sdakwa, i cant believe you are still trying to justify your actions!!!!!

Sdakamiswa
21 May 2008 05:08

the story that ive just told here is genuine & true, i dont have a reason to lie here & what would be the point of that.....

y can i not tell her the truth about the fone cause it is really what happened?

Renegade
21 May 2008 05:10

when u think about it, that meant she'd definitely be sleeping then & not 'waiting up'
Lol @Sdaka! you think the fact that she might have been sleeping makes it better? Fact is, if she was sleeping, she wasnt a happy trooper when she went to bed!

andi01
21 May 2008 05:18

@Sdaka, if I was that girl, and heard that u actually turned around instead of coming to apologise, i would come searching for you, and when i find you I would squash your bhabhalazed-balls, with my stayed-up-all-night bare hands. Really? is it possible to be that care-less.

Vutmi
21 May 2008 05:27

ouch andi01 i dont have balls, but i felt the impact...LOL!

mazemnyama
21 May 2008 05:28

boy u didnt stand her up, u went home. gal wasnt angry at 4-7am gal was sleeping nicely probably hoping that u dont come and wake her up. gal only got angry when she realised after she woke up from her very restful sleep that you hadnt come or called, after you had called her and insisted on ....(u were probably a bit sloshed when u made the call). i see why she is angry but she is not stood up HA A

nyway when u drink with your friends leave gal alone

Weiss
21 May 2008 05:33

y can i not tell her the truth about the fone cause it is really what happened?
***sigh*** Men, men, men... you can just never tell - but then again - Go ahead and tell her, if she's gonna believe that (even if its the truth), then she's just an airhead!

Segololo
21 May 2008 05:38

Pilisi - I completely agree with you... Why is she angry? i don't agree with those that say you were wrong... You did nothing wrong... Well, maybe I was a chilled chick when I was in the dating scene but I never got angry when a guy went to a guy's nite out and didn't pitch nor call... He is not oxygen and men are very unreliable on those nite out things anyways... she should know better than to wait up for you like that... if anything, Its her fault for choosing to wait up for you.

Toxic
21 May 2008 05:40

the thing is the fact that I mentioned that I could pitch even at 4/5am,

The difference between COULD and WILL is very huge Sdaka!

y can i not tell her the truth about the fone cause it is really what happened?
Even if it is the truth (we've heard this story so many times she won't believe it anyway) she'll want to know why you didn't use your friends' phones to call her. It's not like you don't know her number off by heart.

Toxic
21 May 2008 05:42

Yho Segololo, the problem is not that he went on a boys' night outing..but that he made her believe he would show up and then didn't! That's the fundamental difference most men seem to miss.

Segololo
21 May 2008 06:02

Toxic<<Yho Segololo, the problem is not that he went on a boys' night outing..but that he made her believe he would show up and then didn't! That's the fundamental difference most men seem to miss.>> But He was out with the guys and did mention that "maybe at 4/5" he would pitch... now really!!! Self-respect, my gals... He called before the drinking to prepare a booty-call earlier and he didn't pitch... so what!!? Sdaka or Pilisi, you are not wrong!!

I often see and hear women upset and livid over men pitching at their places sloshed at ungodly hours from the boys nite out when the guy called earlier to indicate their going out status.. When he got home, he insited on booty and it ended up being what Oprah recently described as "domestic rape"!! BOY was considerate enuff to indicate he is out with his friends and considerate enuff to not show up sloshed at GIRL's place... I still think it's HER fault that she waited up!

Toxic
21 May 2008 06:06

So if he had said MAYBE i'll come and then girl doesn't wait up and leaves to be with friends would Sdaka be understanding of her actions?

Sdakamiswa
21 May 2008 06:17

Sego, im feeling you my sista... you know with the drinking sprees things can get pretty hectic, a buddy of mine recently ended up eHammanskraal recently, unintentionally he didnt sleep @ home on a Friday nite.... he got convinced by my other buddy he was with to go there, they were both sloshed..... his woman kept calling me on saturday morning frantic cause she couldnt reach him..... this just proves a point ukuthi sometimes with the boozing things can & do get out of hand..... ok i need to point out as a stated in the article, the point of me calling was NOT to prepare a booty call but to get warmth next to GIRL... when i foned it was early in the nite & i wasnt sloshed YET

faraimagic
21 May 2008 06:23

Another PPSA........!!!! Gawd!

belz
21 May 2008 06:28

LOL!!!!

KeleFabulous
21 May 2008 07:06

this is hilarious. good luck to you pilisi

Sego...you've reached one heck of a milestone girl!

myname
21 May 2008 08:16

Oh now i remember my ex. You know what i did? I never asked why u didnt pitch or what. The following day he came. So i went to the door & say Hi with a huge smile on my face. And i make sure i dont open the door wide & my burglar was locked & i told him to go back to his freinds....then i close my door & i turn up my radio & guess what he never did it...........thats me dear

Segololo
21 May 2008 08:20

myname: If I had been your ex, I wouldn't come back... EVER!!!! you would cry and beg me to come back!

Segololo
21 May 2008 08:25

myname: I would do that because women sometimes treat men badly without hearing their side of the story... sometimes the guy already feels bad for ehat you did and being a good man is willing to admit his "mistake" but they are never given the chance... then everyone complains that there are no good men when women don't treat the good ones properly!! Haibo! Eish!

Kfab: I have to admit THIS Milestone is huge... lmbao!

Yehake!
21 May 2008 08:46

yho boy needs a very broad lesson about gals in general.. i would ignore you for a week minimum! and as for you Sego...nc,nc,nc hayi have you ever loved? i mean seriously? not like booty call like mjolo,but realy.....hayi u have a liver and a heart like a bulls gal!

Cande
21 May 2008 09:35

....BOYs fone battery died & he could not fone GIRL…

am sure every female under the sun has had this line before, am not saying it's untrue, however, IT IS extremely difficult to believe

Say that again

Firstdvd
21 May 2008 09:40

@PILISI___was it your first time not pitching? Cos if not, she had to be livid.

love-ness
21 May 2008 10:25

ayeye pilisi shel definetly drink u wen u see her lol.........

u dnt tell a woman u coming den decide not 2 go without informing her,yes she was in bed mara she was not sleeping i tell u.u need to apologyies ka di capital letters b4 she sings u da timberland song.

Segololo
22 May 2008 01:58

Yehake <<and as for you Sego...nc,nc,nc hayi have you ever loved? i mean seriously? not like booty call like mjolo,but realy.....hayi u have a liver and a heart like a bulls gal>> LMBAO!!! I am married to a man who is my soul, my partner, my everything... His presence makes me wake up each day with a glow, his love makes make go to bed in euphoria and complete and utter joy... Eish! I love my husband to bits but I will not play games with his heart, loyalty and intelligence to make myself feel powerful... THAT is not love, it is control and manipulation...

Yehake!
22 May 2008 02:55

not control and most definetly not manipulation Sego...imagine if it was the other way around would he still be singing Beyonce's dangerously in love?..its all about responsibility Sego, he must take responsility for his actions..we teach by our actions!

if you let your lover do everything he wants and not show him his mistake then you don't love that person and you are only setting your relationship for failure... i mean men can be like children at times when a child does something which could potentialy endanger their lives then you must make then aware and possibly prevent it from ever happening again( i am not sure about pretending as if all is well when he hasn't come home when he said he would...people are even being killed Sego, the man you love soo dearly...no longer alive when you could have prevented it! and mind you these 2 are not married)
am soo happy for you and continue being happy and goodluck!!! you have just made marriage sound soo rosy..maybe just maybe i might accept a proposal then!! eish but men must not be let to make rubbish bins of their partners or relationships!!

eish soory about that my love i just feel soo strongly about people doing as they please and not considering the people in their lives!!

i think you husband knows better than not to come home when he said he would anyway Sego so wena you are set as for the rest of us...we must struggle on!

Segololo
22 May 2008 03:11

Yehake <if you let your lover do everything he wants and not show him his mistake>> Oh no! he doesn't get away with mistakes dear! NEVA!! He knows when he has done wrong and my approach is sometimes not admirable but I try by all means to make him aware that "when you do this, I do not like it. It makes me feel unappreciated and blah blah blah" but I do not react in a way that is manipulative. He is a grown man, not a child so I don't treat him like a child and scold him...

<<imagine if it was the other way around would he still be singing Beyonce's dangerously in love?..>>
Well, I am the strange one in the relationship. I do girls nite out and I do drink. He doesn't drink, when he has a guys nite out I am the one going out with my girls and his friends come to our house. AND I have been caught in BOY's situation a couple of times when we were still dating. He didn't berate, scold or lock me out when I pitched at his place, he spoke to me like an adult and explained what he would like in future. THAT showed respect and made me feel loved, not like anaughty child! AND I did take responsibility, believe me I paid!

myname
22 May 2008 04:17

Sego it was not the first time my ex doing that. I did tell him i dont like what he was doing but he continue. And i wasnt trying to be childish but showing him that i value time. Yes he didnt say on what time but the fact is, he didnt pitch. In my knowledge a fone doesnt just switch off when the battery is flat, it gives u signs (like that irritating sound). UPilisi he supposed to inform her the moment he saw that. And the time they were busy buying another 6 of Heineken he knew he was going to be drunk but he didnt think about her. Yes she was sleeping but that not that "beauty sleep", she was waiting for him. So pilisi go & apologise to the lady & next time inform her that u r not coming (even if u came back at 4 in the morning LOL). .....................Yehake Im with u sana

Tshd21
22 May 2008 07:13

Segololo, side with Boy all you want but fact remains, he was wrong. If Boy found himself in a situation where he realised he would not be able to make it, why not call or send an sms? Girl is not trying to control anyone here...she is just trying to show/tell Boy that she does not like what he did. Otherwise Boy will continue to do what he did....which clearly hurt Girl and made her angry.

Battery was flat: Boy woke up the following day, hanged out with some other buddy....couldn't he have put the phone on a charger then and called Girl?

Girl o na le every right to be angry. She was hurt, hence she is angry. Boy might not agree with the reason why she is angry but in life, what makes you happy does not necessarily make someone else happy because people react to different situations differently.

Boy should apologise because even if he does not agree with Girl's reaction, he hurt her/ made her angry. If Boy can't even apologise for something he did, something that made Girl angry, it is very easy to assume that he does not care for Girl's feelings, if at all he cares for her...

I mean, how long has it been that he has not apologised and is still looking for reasons to justify the fact that he lied by saying that he would come and not pitching, then failing to say sori about it? A week??

But then again......maybe Girl should just sit herself down......think long and hard about whether waiting up for someone who does not pitch and then fail to apologise about it is worth it hey......

KeleFabulous
22 May 2008 07:22

well said Tshidi. o ntse ole jwang ngwanyana? kgale resa bue...

Tshd21
22 May 2008 07:28

I'm gud Mis Fab and hope yu are too!!

TheLady
22 May 2008 07:37

I am officially changing my name to TheGuy or TheGent coz I've done this to guys as well...call and say I'll come over, get sloshed with my friends and FORGET to call, wake up at 10 am with a monster bhabhalaz and continue where I left off...maybe at around 3 pm I call Boy and say 'what's up dude?' ...

So if I was Girl I'd have been totally sloshed to even remember that I had to 'cuddle' to a body a 5 am...I really don't get what the big deal is-that's why I only jola from Monday to Thursday to prevent such.

Segololo
22 May 2008 07:40

Tshd21:<<But then again......maybe Girl should just sit herself down......think long and hard about whether waiting up for someone who does not pitch and then fail to apologise about it is worth it hey...... >> I am glad you agree with me. It is her fault! She made the choice to be angry!

KeleFabulous
22 May 2008 07:46

Sego don't forge the milestone...you're the only one that's reached it. LOL

even so, i still say Boy was wrong.

Segololo
22 May 2008 07:52

TheLady<<I am officially changing my name to TheGuy or TheGent coz I've done this to guys as well...>> I completely agree, Me Lady! What is the big deal? He didn't sleep with aanother chick, just got sloshed...

KeleFabulous
22 May 2008 07:52

Sego don't forge the milestone...you're the only one that's reached it. LOL

even so, i still say Boy was wrong.

Tshd21
22 May 2008 07:57

Sego: She didn't make the choice to be angry.....she made the choice to wait up for someone she cares about.... But that person did not do what he said he would do at the end of the day.....she got hurt and angry.... Because if she knew Boy was not trustworthy in the first place, she woudn't be angry....

Miss K
22 May 2008 07:59

I also do it but that doesnt make it right. Its incosiderate. But at least guys don't get so emotional and they let u explain.

Toxic
22 May 2008 08:02

I completely agree, Me Lady! What is the big deal? He didn't sleep with aanother chick, just got sloshed...

That's not the point. Girl is angry because a promise was not kept and therefore man displayed total disregard of her feelings PERIOD

SilverFox
22 May 2008 08:06

guys, boy is right, girl was wrong. he said could not would. clearly no one's expectations were raised and broken at the same time.

plus he had the decency to follow up the very next day, credit pleeze!!! unfortunately girl chose to get pissed off and missed out on some nice make up shag for the mix up.

TheLady
22 May 2008 08:07

So ladies do you think she would have been happy to see him walk through her door sloshed and falls asleep on her couch shoes-n-all?

KeleFabulous
22 May 2008 08:12

mara guy le ena...what makes it worse is that he chilled with his buddy the next day, completely "forgetting" to call girl...men!

Tshd21
22 May 2008 08:17

So this particular day, BOY convinces GIRL & she agrees that even if its like 5am, BOY can come thru its fine…… Yu clearly missed this line Silverfox..

The Lady: If Girl agreed that Boy should come, even if it's at 5am, knowing that he was out with the boys....then I presume she would have been happy with it...

Toxic
22 May 2008 08:21

BOY: ooh I c, mind if I come through later
GIRL: nope I dont, what time will u come thru?
BOY: Im not sure we still dopping here, so it could be late…

The could here just means he could come late if not earlier. Boy did not say i'm not sure if i'll come.

SilverFox
22 May 2008 08:28

Tshd21:<<She didn't make the choice to be angry.....she made the choice to wait up for someone she cares about.... >> She chose to be angry without waiting for an explanation. She could have given boy a chance to say it all and then crap on him, face to face! There she has some control because what she says and does is visible to whomever caused the pain... AND then he must pay!

Tip to all ladies: When a dude hurts you (intentionally or unintentionally) you give him a chance to buy his way out, then you pounce with all the pain and tears... (must be real pain and tears, of course) and explain what you felt when he hurt you like that... You will get more respect for being able to handle mix-ups face to face than being angry without knowing the whole story...

She is still wrong!

Tshd21
22 May 2008 11:03

@ Silverfox: There she has some control.....

Girl is not trying to control anyone bathong. She just wants her feeling to be considered. Bottom line.......If you say you will come, but realise at some point that you won't be able to make it, call, sms, e-mail, do something to notify the poor child so she doesn't wait for a mountain to move....simple.

That is called being considerate of others' feelings. It has nothing to do with controlling anyone, being a cry-baby, not respecting yourself or hurting yourself because you know gore men are "unreliable while out with the boys".

Why do people always complicate things mara he?? mxim

Anyway, what have you decided to do Sdakamiswa? Apologise or leave things as they are?

Floh
24 May 2008 10:06

Hi Sdakwa, niece to see you back,

I will emphasise on what TDC says" Yekela insangu mfana izokuhlanyisa"

PrettyPree
25 May 2008 03:20

Boy is inconsiderate......... end of the story!!!!

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