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Written by Floh from the blog Fohza's Bloooogy on 28 Apr 2008
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This is the plea to all maBloggers……… 

I have a child with some guy, he disappeared the minute he knew I was pregnant. I tried to call him setting up appointments to meet him but all he said was “Will come back to you shortly”. The other day I met him, he was visiting his friend, went to him and ask him, ndoda what are you thinking about me and this baby, and he told me in the eyes the options I had, and that was

1. Do abortion ( at the time I was 6 months pregnant)
2. After birth give it up for adoption .........will you 4give him for this, does he worth it.?

He told me I don’t have to come at his house for ukubika isisu. His parents will freak at me because they don’t know that he sleeps around and they only know one lady that he’s involved with and she the mother of his son. I was so traumatised and very angry but told myself that things will be okay, God won’t give me what I can’t afford.

The baby was born and he never contacted me and one day I wrote him an SMS about the baby and he replied baby saying “F**k you mother F**cker”, was very disappointed and I told myself that I will never contact him or ask anything from him.

When the child was two yrs old, he ask my cousin to give him my numbers and my cousin didn’t instead called me and said if you like call the bustard and his numbers are ……………. After some time I called him and instead of him being sorry he told me that I’m the one who shut him out, disappeared with his child, but God knows I tried to call him and told him where I was and he was not interested.

He promised to support the child and demanded for me to come to his work and get the money, instead I gave the account number that goes straight to the child…………. And he deposited once in that a/c and stop.

Me being a woman you know, I told him that the child is about to start crèche, and again he promised to pay for her…………….come January and I told him how much is the school fees, he freaked out and busted Lebo (his son) was not paying this much, come and get it @ my work, and I told him to go to hell, I didn’t choose the nursery that I won’t be able to afford. That was the end of conversation.

Last month he called me and told me that he want to see me, and I must come @ his work again ( I start to wonder what’s so special in there, he want to score points that I’m following him), and yesterday called me again and told me he want to see me, do I still stay @ the same place he knows, the child needs amasiko and stuff ( but when he was still galloping with his lovers he told me they don’t have amasiko kubo), if I don’t allow him to do it, the child will get sick blah, blah, blah and called me all sort of names including isiqhaza ( barbarian) for not allow him near the child. He is so rude I must tell you guys. But he promised not to bug me again, if the child got sick I will get out of trouble myself, and Floh told him “ How do you think I survive all this years without your help, did I ever told you the child is sick, bustard.” I even told him that I wish him dead, that’s my only wish for him………..am I cruel?

So now I need all of you who has been through this,
How did you sort the big mouthed daddy?
How do you shut his big mouth forever?
Do I need to allow him to perform amasiko (I doubt I will let him) what if they make my child to turn her back from me…….?

And one big thing is I have someone in my life that I love dearly and we will marry soon and he has the special bond with the child. So how do I introduce my child to that bustard, why do I need to confuse my child, she’s only 4 yrs old bathong.

So, please advice. I will appreciate every reply I get. 

PS: I tried to shorten it but still long hey.......




130 Comments

Floh
28 Apr 2008 03:15

Yah, neh I must say, that's a hell of a job trying to get it right on your first blog.......

I must say I was crying the whole evening yesterday, but when I was writting this I felt better........

So gentleman , I also need your input........

Kandii
28 Apr 2008 03:47

Floh... next time use condoms nana ok!! You dont just open for every second man that comes your way... hope you've learnt your lesson. First establish a relationship with a man before you sleep with him,,, without a condom nogal!!!

Floh
28 Apr 2008 04:06

 I've learnt the lesson girl.........no more babies for me.

Dimago
28 Apr 2008 04:41

hau, kandii, that was uncalled 4... Floh, I don't have experience in such, mara all I can say is concentrate on the future, this guy seems to be playing games...good luck my dear!

Tshd21
28 Apr 2008 11:26

Sori sistas....

sponono
29 Apr 2008 02:33

Kandii.......  my mother used to say if you've got nothin better to say....just dont say nothin at all

Floh...you seem like a very sweet person who just happened to love the wrong guy...but you really need to get over him and accpet that he is not about to change anytime soon, and luckly you've got someone in you life who loves you AND the baby so just embrace that..because the more you keep tryin to contact your baby's daddy, you might jeopadize the heathly relationship you have with your current  boyfriend (i know from experience i broke up with someone i was geting serous about becasue she could let go of her baby's father and kept contacting him, and right now she's jumping from guy to another yet her baby's daddy is STILL the same scumbag ..and she neva got anything from him...i'm not saying i was a great catch or anything....but be careful what you ask for coz YOU MIGHT NOT GET IT INSTEAD YOU MIGHT LOOSE WHAT COULDA BEEN THE BEST THING.

and another thing this runround that you keep doing eats away your pride and dignity especially because you've been taking care of your child all along....(the child WILL NOT get sick he's telling you MAMBO JUMBO..so that you can runnaround

Pooky
29 Apr 2008 02:34

There's nothing you need more from this boy coz he's clearly shown you what he thinks of you(nothing). You've managed to raise your child alone for the past 4 years without his help, so just ignore the basturd and if he decides to support the child he should be the one coming to you and not you going to his work place. He enoys treating you this way and making you run after him and belittling you. As you've mentioned you've found a wonderful man who's caring and loving to you and your child and who wants to marry you, so please stop stressing about this a$$ of a boy who doesnt want to take responsibility and focus on your future with your current man......

Cnglemother
29 Apr 2008 02:39

Floh, i have my boss at my desk will reply later but nje i know what u going thru and wena Kandii ungazonya la mnxxm!

mabhebheza
29 Apr 2008 02:43

Kandii...--------------------->get lost !!

Pooky
29 Apr 2008 02:45

Kandii you sound just like those mean black kasi nurses anenjibaba athanda ukushoutisa these young girls xana eyokuhlabisa.............km km km

zolx
29 Apr 2008 02:49

kandii - that statement wont take the child back to the mother's wom (not that that's what floh wants)

Flohza gal  - the best bet would be to stay away from the motherf***. The more you try & contact him the more he's gonna hurt your feelings. Stay away from him & raise your child the best way you can.

awelani
29 Apr 2008 02:56

Floh, i dont think  u need this xcuse of a fada in ur  your's son lyf. but then again, u son is growing up and one day, he'll probably start asking qexions about him,,,,if the bastard tries to col u again, just tell him dat he was sperm donor and nothing else or better yet, tell him dat the child isn't his, just to get bek @ him, he'll leave u alone.

awelani
29 Apr 2008 02:58

and wena Kandii, get laid and stop taking ur frustrations lana, please.........

mabhebheza
29 Apr 2008 03:00

LOL @Pooky ...those nurses dat smear their faces wit the wrong foundation & wear izistockist ezibeige,,,,alwys yapping bezenza ncono kanti their kids have 5 choice assorted rascals..usually the  1st ones & loudest 2shout 4an increase kwimali yeqolo!!

mabhebheza
29 Apr 2008 03:00

LOL @Pooky ...those nurses dat smear their faces wit the wrong foundation & wear izistockist ezibeige,,,,alwys yapping bezenza ncono kanti their kids have 5 choice assorted rascals..usually the  1st ones & loudest 2shout 4an increase kwimali yeqolo!!

Pooky
29 Apr 2008 03:01

hihihihihihihihihihi....heish kodwa

zo
29 Apr 2008 03:06

@kandi, please ungazisidina!!!

Floh, cut him completely loose as Sponono puts it the baby wont need any masiko, he knows that if he mentions something like amasiko you gonna panic. uyadlala

pullie
29 Apr 2008 03:06

jajajaaaa...@ awelani!!

Nonny
29 Apr 2008 03:07

@ Floh gal, plz stay away from that Baby daddy of urs, if u could take care of ur child for the past four years without him and u've had no problems what makes u think usaludinga usika lababa wakhe??? He is also not worth the amount of energy that u are wasting on him and besides, u have a man that loves and respects u and ur baby, now that is certainly something worth channelling all ur enery towards, khohlwa ilendoda and qina sisi uzo right!!!!!

@ Kandii - I just wanna echoe Sponono's words and say: "if you've got nothin better to say....just dont say nothin at all"

Nonny
29 Apr 2008 03:11

"...those nurses dat smear their faces wit the wrong foundation & wear izistockist ezibeige,,,,alwys yapping bezenza ncono kanti their kids have 5 choice assorted rascals..usually the 1st ones & loudest 2shout 4an increase kwimali yeqolo!!"
ROTFLMAO,,,,,,,,,,,heheheheh Mabhebheza uwrongo sana, 5 choice assorteds pho???............LOL

Pooky
29 Apr 2008 03:12

....and qina sisi uzo right!!!!! 
@ Nonny
....qina mzalwane qina......LMAO......you taking me back now Nons hihihihihi

jazzyree
29 Apr 2008 03:13

Baby girl if that man was never there for you there is no need for him to want to be there now , If your current gets along with your daughter then be it, she needs a Daddy not a father.
Letting this man into your life might jeopardise (spelling) what you have now

Simmone
29 Apr 2008 03:14

The only thing the asshole wants is to have baby mama drama in his life. Something he can brag to his retard friends about. Don’t give him that satisfaction.

If somehow the ritual thing is true then to minimize contact with him get an elder from your family to go his family and ask permission for your child to have rituals done under your clan name. He doesn’t even have to be involved. Even if he acts like an ass, you will only be doing what’s best for your child.

He has a bruised ego that you are not running after him. The only thing you need in life is that little angel of yours and dignity. Every dog has its day and his will come.

Kandii spoken like a true leg opener.

Pinkpoodle
29 Apr 2008 03:18

His parents will freak at me because they don’t know that he sleeps around and they only know one lady that he’s involved with and she the mother of his son. I was so traumatised ....................................You said it girl dont let him do it to you again, Is he now ready to let his parents know he sleeps around??? 

He is selfish and he thought of himself all along don't let him into your life you deserve better girl, let the bastard go and avoid all contact with him

jazzyree
29 Apr 2008 03:21


Kandii spoken like a true leg opener. LMBAO  ......@ Simmone hahahahahah

awelani
29 Apr 2008 03:24

LOL @ Simmone........

Nonny
29 Apr 2008 03:30

"....and qina sisi uzo right!!!!!
@ Nonny....qina mzalwane qina......LMAO......you taking me back now Nons hihihihihi"
@ Pooky, u know when I wrote that I was actully LMAO coz it made me think of u..........LOL

LM
29 Apr 2008 03:37

LMAO @ Kandii....luv the love shown here at TVSA...

Floh gal, the bloggas with sumthing between their ears have spoken, ignore the negative ones wena!! For now your 1st priority should be to protect ur son from that scumbag, u'll never know what he might do to her or teach her seeing that he never really cared about her in the first place. You know what kind of a person he is now. If your child wants a relationship with him, she can choose to  when she is a bit older and knows what's good and bad for her.

Preshiii
29 Apr 2008 03:39

Kandii: Shotop!

Preshiii
29 Apr 2008 03:40

Flohza: Going thru my own eish ryt now...will come back when I got some life energy :-(

Manhuza
29 Apr 2008 03:46

Fohza i'm sure you've heared the above statements b4, the only thing i can say to you my sister is that be true to yourself and make up your mind, if you still want this man back in your life then fight for him mara if you really want to cut ties with him do so and don't look back and never try to contact him bcoz the more you hear his voice you that will take you 1 step backwards.

carino
29 Apr 2008 03:46

Nna my two cents says.. take him to court.

And be honest with your baby, to avoid the situation that when the child is older he'll turn against you and say you kept him away from his father.

And most importantly, they say the best gift a woman can give her children and her family is her knees. Never underestimate the power of a prayerfull woman... So, Floh, go on your knees, sisi... Call to the heavens. Ask God to forgive him and to give you strength to go through this. 

That's that.

hello Pooky my friendship.. /////waving like  a lunatic//////


MABHEBHEZA!!!!!!!!

Pooky
29 Apr 2008 03:54

Carino...Molo my friendship(((HUGS 7 KISSES)))))), ndiyavuya "ukubona". yeka ukunqaba kangaka kaloku maan tyini..

Pooky
29 Apr 2008 03:55

oopsy...meant to say HUGS & KISSES.......

Yehake!
29 Apr 2008 03:56

Yho Floh lovie you are doing just fine, men are at times not the smartest of the sexes,but i want to congratulate you for raising a child through some of the most difficult stages of a child: the temperatures, the teething, the injections, the sleepless nights, the food shortages, the baby sitters, the boring friday nights.JUST think of it  aint the storm over? he will be of no use ngoku, he most probarbly knows you have someone who l;oves you and your baby and wants to get in the sack again! as for @Nonny that qina mzalwane line made stand up and dance a little! FLOH sana don't let him in he rack your future marriage apart a

LM
29 Apr 2008 03:56

Eish I meant :For now your 1st priority should be to protect ur baby girl from that scumbag.


If you want drama waya waya ..entertain this guy's requests and invite him back in your life!!!

awelani
29 Apr 2008 03:57

AMEN!!! carino.

Yehake!
29 Apr 2008 04:02

As for introducing your child to his daddy, you should let him know where he comes from but let him know(politely without neccesarily bashing the dog!) that is very important, to shut him up please do me a favour and invite him to your wedding and in the mean time send him a beautiful photo of you your new man and your munchu! that will send him straight to hell!!

mabhebheza
29 Apr 2008 04:10

CARINO!!!!!!!!!
Shuu
Ur back 4rm exile nah ..Thanxs 2Freedom Day & Human Rights day coz umhlobo wam u Carino is back!! *i hope* !!

Missed u 
*sniff* sniff* ...whispering uphi u Tshepiso ??????Just mis dos days ...*wink*!! 

Tynt!
29 Apr 2008 04:13

Wow floh, this looser is so egotistical, you don’t need him in your life, cut him out completely… Yes it wont been easy, en it has never been good nature, but what I know is : God has seen you struggling, en he is the 1 who will says it's over......  Just keep ur head up en walk the walk

Pooky
29 Apr 2008 04:14

LOL @ Mabhebheza (a k a  mama ka Hlohlimpi)

Sugarcandy
29 Apr 2008 04:19

@ Mahnuza: if you still want this man back in your life then fight for him...
Why would any woman want to fight for a man who treats them like a piece of rubbish???

@ Floh, you have come this far, thought it wasnt easy so don't let this man come in and out of your life as he pleases.

Just concentrate on raising your child and make sure you give her only the best in life....his day will come and believe me,  you will feel very proud of yourself.....

carino
29 Apr 2008 04:21

I've reaaly been busy.. Donald Trump has been on my back, maan... He sent me this proposal.... he wants me to fund some project they are doing with Tiger Woods for kids in China. So i've been flying back and forth.   

I was chatting with Tommy Hilfiger yesterday and i told him about this site. We acually logged on and he thinks you guys are just hilarious. 


Floh, you are a powerful woman. Just dont let that sperm donor get to your nerves. And go to someone in your family, someone that was thee back then when he was refusing the child, to help you deal with this. Because if he wants the child, you guys cant do this on your own

he'll have to start eqhaleni, ahlawule isisu. 

Charlie Brown
29 Apr 2008 04:27

Kandii - you were a little harsh!  And that is not what Floh needs to hear right now.

Floh - look, clearly this guy is just another sorry excuse of a man.  Dont pay him no mind!  You are SO better than him and he wants you to sink to his level.  Your child will not get sick.  I believe in God and i respect izinto zesiZulu but if you dont believe in these things - nothing happens.  Just pray for you & your child and focus your new life with your new man.  God is desperately trying to pull you away from this disaster and you somehow keep placing yourself at this man's mercy!  

I know you must be thinking of your baby - well you know what, baby's are a lot stronger than we think.  Get the poor child away from the good for nothing a$$ and you will explain everything when the baby is 14yrs or so.... dont stress you will pull out of this.  You are a strong women!

JustMe
29 Apr 2008 04:32

I hear u Flohza. My baby-papa left me preggy 14 years & my parents are old fashioned and believed if i force him to maintain the baby, he will kill the baby. For 14 years, I never asked him a cent & he never had the tendency to volunteer, despite him owning various businesses in the toenship. Now it seems bad luck is upon him & now "HIS DEAD UNCLES/ANCESTORS WANT HIM TO RECONCILE WITH HIS BLOOD". The guy cannot even afford a chicken for his amadlozi and expect me to assist him "IN ORDER TO AVOID BAD LUCK ON MY BABY". I feel you girl!!!

sponono
29 Apr 2008 04:36

SORRY I DIDNT ANSWER THESE QUESTIONS,
 
How did you sort the big mouthed daddy?
:
   you dont have to SORT him just leave him alone  bitterness wont get you anywhere..focus on you current relationship

How do you shut his big mouth forever? His mouth will always be BIG FOREVER  just forget about THAT mouth for now see above

Do I need to allow him to perform amasiko (I doubt I will let him) what if they make my child to turn her back from me…….? .
..THAT IS MAMBO JUMBO....the ancestors are NOT stupid they know where their childs bread is buttered so they'll neva forsake her (if you strongly believe in them that is....)

now I'm gonna be a bit nasty ...LOL stop being a cry-baby-victim  MOVE ON with your life

Cnglemother
29 Apr 2008 04:39

Floza, there is no crime in introducing the child to his father as this man will be part of your life forever, whether you like it or not.And should you not give the child to know his father this may haunt you later in life.The child will decide if he wants a relationship with loose. Just dont expect too much, stop being dramatic& emotional when talking to him as the silence treatment & modesty kills these mafackas, the minute you stop whining & moaning over the phone and nodding to every word he says knowing that you aint doing any of the bullshit he is instructing you do they run out of things to say. Even if the last call was full of F'words just try and be modest with him & stop asking about the maintaince money as this normally fuels the drama. I do want my child to know his father's family but its the bullshitting i cannot stand from this man, and you dont mess with me and live happily ever after, be it a woman or man, ubuya uhamba ngoreverse to me.And i do want him to go through amasiko akubo most definately. You have done if for four bloody years so keep on walking girl. 

The court route is just too damn exhausting and i have too much pride, i wont put myself through that, umntanam uzodla into endiyidlayo.

mabhebheza
29 Apr 2008 04:40

OH Carino ....exile has confused ur brain shlobo ur think dat white  farmer ur saw in Zim is Donald Trump dont smoke BB boxer ul start seeing things ....Tommy hilfiger..he hehe he he he ..Eshe !!..i have mush respect 4exilians ...they have a great vision ..true painters of the Le Good Life picture!!

awelani
29 Apr 2008 04:44

@JustMe: The guy cannot even afford a chicken for his amadlozi..........pls say ur joking,dont u mean a goat/sheep/cow, please,,,,,,,tltltltltltltltltl

awelani
29 Apr 2008 04:46

LOL @ Mabhebhey.

sponono
29 Apr 2008 04:47

mabhebheza.....................
so carino's tiger woods
  is actually...Tigawu Obawonga from Zimbabwe and Tommy hilfiger is ...eh  I cant rememebr his real name...hi hi hi hi  carino come back slowly come back.to us.......

Nonny
29 Apr 2008 04:47

"now I'm gonna be a bit nasty ...LOL stop being a cry-baby-victim MOVE ON with your life"
LMAO @ Sponono realising what he's about to do........heheehehe

Cnglemother
29 Apr 2008 04:50

oh JustMe u cracked me up about the dead uncle omhluphayo.

Spopo uyibekile  bhuti wam (well said), even the nastiness part was true, like i said on another blog we need to be a different breed of single mothers to add value to our children's lives.   

sponono
29 Apr 2008 04:51

commercial break

ake niphawuleni niyeke ukuba sirias kanje....TDC is in the house
check his Mzansi for sure article below.....

http://www.tvsa.co.za/default.asp?
blogname=Zone14recapwithTDC&articleID=7749

sengi-canvassela i article yomunye umntwana manje  LOL

Yehake!
29 Apr 2008 04:54

@Cngles you are right ma sista the court thing is too much and is a waste of time! Floh you will be alright ma dali!

Yehake!
29 Apr 2008 04:57

Oh and by the way, Floh-tite! i come from a family that doesnt perfom amasiko and i am 20-something ngoku ndi bheda like the rest of peeps ma age(ok maybe just abit more) but ke you don't have to follow that man for the amasiko issue! it all depends on what oyu believe in!

mabhebheza
29 Apr 2008 05:03

Thatha Spopo ...our 1st and new presenter yakwa TVSA ..
Eish no its not tv presenters anymore wat the new word ambassadors of sum sort......help wats dat word

hi hihi u shud add dat  2ur cv...might cumin handy!!lol

carino
29 Apr 2008 05:05

Haiibo... Sponono.....

carino
29 Apr 2008 05:06

Spopo reminds me of the Buzums canvassing for Did You Know?....back in the day.

Nonny
29 Apr 2008 05:10

"commercial break
ake niphawuleni niyeke ukuba sirias kanje....TDC is in the house"

Hai man Sponono please tell the truth yazi phela I am begining to believe that u are being paid to do this coz the TVSA lanies (LOL at this word) neway they know people might listen to u............LOL

Nonny
29 Apr 2008 05:11

Spopo reminds me of the Buzums canvassing for Did You Know?....back in the day.
@ Carino, eish yazi u have just made me take a walk down memory lane, phela lapho sazihlanya heck............LOL

Cnglemother
29 Apr 2008 05:17

Carino LOL! 

LOL @sengi-canvassela i article yomunye umntwana manje LOL, i checked it out (following yr orders ofcoz) Spopo ngisacabanga so that ngingazobheda on the article.

mabhebheza
29 Apr 2008 05:25

Esih Carino dnt take me down memory lane....*with teary eyes* 
Heck those were the days of inja wah inja ho...umsangano waya waya!!

Zazacious
29 Apr 2008 05:42

yoh my sister please do not keep hurting yourself this way.
If you are employed then thers nothing stopping you from providing for your kid
(be independent like that,a lot have done it and their babies are a-okay )
if you are not maybe its about time you think of it
other than that I seriously dont think he deserves any of your valueble time
Sounds like he is one of those who want ot play Daddy when it suits them
*sigh*his kind really piss me off *sigh*mind you iv neva been in the situation but this is how I would react to it

JustMe
29 Apr 2008 05:56



 

Pooky
29 Apr 2008 06:21

Heck those were the days of inja wah inja ho...umsangano waya waya!!
IYOOOOooooooo Buzums.........  

Manhuza
29 Apr 2008 06:35

@ Sugarcandy: Why would any woman want to fight for a man who treats them like a piece of rubbish???

You would be surprised my dear friend i've seen worst kakhulu from abantu abangomama.

Kandii
29 Apr 2008 09:01

He he he...  look at all them leg openers getting all touchy touchy! Did I hit the nail in the head? me thinks so.... CONDOMISE!!! Thats my story and Im sticking with it, say all you want, scream if you want to....

Tshd21
29 Apr 2008 09:54

LMAOing at the guy who cannot even afford a chicken for amadlozi....  Iyhoo, JustMe....... yu just had to be yu and crack me up in the office.....hi-hi-hi..... Send him my way neh?? My granny has a "hok" full of chickens impatiently waiting for d-day!!

Floh
29 Apr 2008 11:11


Thanks guys for all the responses, I wasn't able to respond , I am one of the night riders and don't have time for internet during the day.
Will read the responses now.

Thanks again

Floh
29 Apr 2008 17:27

@Simmone.........I think his days has already came and now he wants to connect, and my granny use to say " isihlahla asinyelwa ngoba one day uzofuna umthunzi waso"........and I am not going to dance to his tune, he must forget.

@ Spopo......thanks my brother and I promise you I will never let him back never, he doesn't deserve me, he's just a heartbreaker qha. I am not willing to loose what I have in his expense, nor my pride, Do you think why I didn't ask him for babafoeding, nappies, stuip, it's because I didn't want to loose my pride. I respected him, never called in the wee hours of the night when the baby cries and that whats he's paying me.....

@ cunglemom.......many ppl told me to go to market street (family court)ngimbambise for mainteinance, and I also think it's too exhausting.... I will keep walking and praying to GOD to protect myself and my child from him. My man always tell me How strong I am not to run after every man after he has dumped me.

@carino…..Ngiqinile emthandazweni sisi, futhi ngicabanga ukuthi yiwona ongiphe amandla okubhekana nazozonke izinkinga, I prayed, and I am praying and will continue praying nonstop.

@JustMe……..are you going to help him buy chickens…….?

@@ Sugarcandy………..he doesn’t worth my energy………I’m not fighting for him and never wanted to. 

And thanks to my cousin who gave him my numbers, but I warned her not to poke her nose again.

And thankyou all for the love you shown mabloggers and the interest you shown, I know I can count on you. You’ve just build my confidence and I promise you I will keep my head up and walk the walk .

Yehake!
30 Apr 2008 01:30

molweni U Kandii ngowaphi? wait until something of this sort happens to you! but anyway you sound like a real jealous someone and maybe one of the bloggers should offer you a good shag? anyone offering? uphi u sponono?

Pooky
30 Apr 2008 02:42

That's the spirit lady.....you go Floh

Pooky
30 Apr 2008 02:50

molweni U Kandii ngowaphi?

Yehake
sana i've got a funny feeling ingathi ngu Manto  lowo, next thing uzomva sesinxolela nge betroot ne spinach......

Nonny
30 Apr 2008 02:56

Nazoke Floh, that's what I am talking about when I say: We mzalwane qina.........*Pooky stop LOL I'm serious this has nothing to do with how Avante sings this songs........LOL*

"uphi u sponono?"
@
Yehake!, unfortunately Sponono is the type engafaki noma ikephi, so he won't be offering..........LOL

Nonny
30 Apr 2008 02:59

"Yehake sana i've got a funny feeling ingathi ngu Manto lowo, next thing uzomva sesinxolela nge betroot ne spinach......"
LMAO @ Pooky hayi sana uwrongo, she's not Manto, she's legenge that preaches about safe sex then all sudden at the age of 24 they have five choice assorted kids and u wonder what happened..........LOL

Dimago
30 Apr 2008 03:05

He he he... look at all them leg openers getting all touchy touchy! Did I hit the nail in the head? me thinks so.... CONDOMISE!!! Thats my story and Im sticking with it, say all you want, scream if you want to....

Huuu Kandii o s'tlatlatla...

awelani
30 Apr 2008 03:14

LOL @ Nonny & Pooky.........U kandii is saving herself for marriage to the mfundisi. she is vrgn @ 40, she's just bitter dat everybody else is getting some but her. She's a very bitter old lady/spinster......somebody needs to hook her up with a shag, even if it's a lame one..........pls. She has no idea what kind of ubumnandi she's missing......she's not informed......

awelani
30 Apr 2008 03:16

Oh yeah, i 4got, she's also horny (wud have loved to use a zulu word, some1 assist).

Cnglemother
30 Apr 2008 03:19

LMAO @ Awelani!

Cnglemother
30 Apr 2008 03:23

Awesto, the Zulu word is "uqhanyelwe"

awelani
30 Apr 2008 03:27

Thank you Cngl mada, u Kandii u Qhanyelwe, dat's Y she's angry @ ol who get umdavazo, bad or good.

chitty
30 Apr 2008 03:34

Argh... shame Kandii, psychology has long taught us that people like you just look for attention. Yah , we can pick up your name even if you say positive things. Well, you did actually get a reaction out of amabloggers, and your name did stand out as the odd one, the rebel. That makes you feel validated, and you are happy now right? Shame!

mabhebheza
30 Apr 2008 03:36

Kandii uyagula yini sisi?????????????????????????????????
Cela uzophiwa.dali phela u can also get it via cyber ,,,indlala ibanga ulaka!!
Dnt let cerebos cloud ur mind....itswayi lakho wil turn it rough salt ,,,,,,and damage u!!!

Dabs
30 Apr 2008 03:39

Floh stay away from that idiot. That child does not need amasiko, just pray for him. When your son grows up he will have the choice to go to his dad or not. By introducing this bugger back into your life will strain your good relationship. So let him go to hell. He does not deserve to be father.

awelani
30 Apr 2008 03:41

I think wherever Kandii is, she's feeling very bad, she's sitting in corner feeling sorry for her qhanyelwe-self.

Dabs
30 Apr 2008 03:42

Kandii you are a real IDIOT. It all rains on us sister and your day will come. It's called EMPATHy something that you would not know about. NX!!!!!!!!!

Cande
30 Apr 2008 03:45

Floh if you Tswana and the baby's father is Tswana you don't need amasiko...I am working now, all my life i never did anythig from my father's family..there is absolutely nothing wrong with me...
He is just trying to scare you, because now he wants to be part of the baby..
I think you better off without him, just make him pay maintenance through the magistrate...they will decide how much he must pay and a stop order will be made. you don't need to talk to him thereafter or go to his work..

Kandiii--SHUT UP..!

Cnglemother
30 Apr 2008 03:53

@Cande
just make him pay maintenance through the magistrate...they will decide how much he must pay and a stop order will be made. you don't need to talk to him thereafter or go to his work.. its easier said than done my love trust me, the talking to him part is unavoidable as he will even call you in the middle of great mdavazo with your current partner asking you about his child. Going to court is damn exhausting and it gives him power to argue and just be at your face all the time. Its so hard to get rid of a a babbydaddy trust me. The only solution is to shaya him with lightening (umshaye ngezulu), thakathing him.  

Mopakistani
30 Apr 2008 03:59

The only solution is to shaya him with lightening (umshaye ngezulu), thakathing him. @Cnglemother..LOL...thats crazy!

Yehake!
30 Apr 2008 04:00

Kandii sana ngesixhosa kuthiwa ubatyiwe(ur horny), u Kandii ufe enyuhulu-ufe elivirgihini-(in that catholic preaches voice), i heard this on an afternoon show OKhozini Zama and the other guy! so sana you will never get that!

wena futhi ur not a virgin qha ur not havin any luck in gettin sum!

Cande
30 Apr 2008 04:02

Ja, at least being to court will be a once off thing, unlike having to call him or have him call you every month-end and demand that you come to his work...

What i know is, at court they will want the copy of fees account at creche, the kids's clothing, food, medical expenses and share it amongst the two parents....

rather go to court once than have to meet him everymonth at his work, its almost as if you begging him to take care of his own..

Yehake!
30 Apr 2008 04:02

In KZN there a place called umhlabúyalingana, they will sort him out! they can even arm you with the lightining Cngle was talking about! (in support of Cngles statement!)

mabhebheza
30 Apr 2008 04:03

LOL Cnglemother upusha ubuthakathi....!!Idnt mess wit a women scorn...uzohambe eceleni kwescathulu...

mabhebheza
30 Apr 2008 04:06

Yehake u even have directions 2 umhlaba uyalingana....mina i say Sgonondo inyanga ekulu or Magconde in EC akudlalwa... 

awelani
30 Apr 2008 04:07

@Yehake: u Kandii ufe enyuhulu,,,,,,,,,pls trasl8.

@Mopakistani:The only solution is to shaya him with lightening (umshaye ngezulu), thakathing him. @Cnglemother..LOL...thats crazy! ..................U can say dat again.... if u wana thakatha him and really hurt him, Y not go to some gogo elokshini and make totolozi to never be hard, it must always be soft, even when he feels lyk it's @ its ahrdest, to the ada person it must be soft as a sponge....lol.


Yehake!
30 Apr 2008 04:09

Yho Cande, the court will take forever, Floh better yet give his name or cyber post me apiece of his hair i will give it to my gran and she will sort him out! forever my darly!

Pooky
30 Apr 2008 04:11

Nazoke Floh, that's what I am talking about when I say: We mzalwane qina.........*Pooky stop LOL I'm serious this has nothing to do with how Avante sings this songs........LOL* 
choma yangathi uyandibona coz i'm most definately LMAO

Pooky
30 Apr 2008 04:16

Nonny buzum ndijongile njena ndibona ingathi uKandiii ufostela iWacky Wednesday...LOL kanti sithanda singamnika lento ayifunayo, makabuze kwabaziyo...LOL

Cnglemother
30 Apr 2008 04:19

I am being serious Mabhebhy, there is this man in yeoville who walks around times square, cute and all that but akahlanyi wema. You can see that he was one hot player in his times but manje ucosha amaphepha and i would be thinking everytime i see him , yilezinja ezidlala ngabantwana babantu.  Yehake relax, he's the father of my child at the end of the day i would not go to such extremes but it has really crossed my mind. 

Cande the money you end up getting from the court system rarely covers the child's expenses. And you know these mafacka's end up shooting you, your child or doing something stupid to avoid paying maintenance, eish ngiyakwesaba nokufa guys (scarred of dying).

Afrodiva
30 Apr 2008 04:27

@ Flohza, this is a moving story galfriend, my advice to you is that shut the bastard out of your life for good, he is not worth it, to even allow him to have a glimpse of your lovely daughter is out of the question, tell him that as far as you are concern he is dead and buried, and should stay that way!! 

1st step is to delete his contact details or follow the ff easy steps:-


1. Open a new file in your computer.

2. Name it "you ex's name".

3. Send it to the Recycle Bin.

4. Empty the Recycle Bin.

5. Your PC will ask you. "Do you really want to get rid of
"your ex's name ?"

6. Firmly Click "Yes."

7. Feel better?

mabhebheza
30 Apr 2008 04:35

Yehake...u sure can cyber thakatha ...a piece of hair ....& its ova haai mabloggers niwrongo ...i must sure take a trip 2mAi Mai 4thi slong weekend & qinisa my man & hlohie kubu phandle!!

hlathi
30 Apr 2008 04:45

@ Flozha Please don't take the magistrate route.My mother was in the same situation and all my dad did was to bribe the court officials.Qina wena sisi uzikhulisele umntanakho.

Nonny
30 Apr 2008 04:57

"Nonny buzum ndijongile njena ndibona ingathi uKandiii ufostela iWacky Wednesday...LOL kanti sithanda singamnika lento ayifunayo, makabuze kwabaziyo...LOL"
LMAO, I was away for the past half & hour and I see I missed out on some "I'm still a virgin @ 40 action"............LOL........neway u are right Pooky, akasazi uKandii ndini, but leave here shame yena she will drink to know us...........LOL

"The only solution is to shaya him with lightening (umshaye ngezulu), thakathing him."
@ Cnglemnom - In KZN, that remedy is called is a nice way, that will sort this loser out, it's a muthi called "STAY SOFT".........lapho ke noma engenzane it will never get up (not even if he saw Beyonce naked.....LOL), uyohlezi ithambile njengoba igama lisho nje..........LOL

awelani
30 Apr 2008 05:09

Mabhebhey, if it's not broken, dont fix it.........why do u wana go kwa mai mai manje??just put her on speed dial for rainy days.............LOL.

just out of curiousity, Mabhebhe, Yehake, Cngle Ma & Nonny, how do u know dis places, have u maybe been there urselves?? I c u even know the directions..........um scared of yall.....lol lol lol.

Cnglemother
30 Apr 2008 05:11

but Nonny can you reverse it after a year or two maybe, or ihlala injalo waya-waya. I dont wanna thakatha him nje just to minimise ukuphapha.Ngifuna ipipi like limphoxe esebusy efenda livele liwe, abangathi uyalifaka linqabe.  

Pooky
30 Apr 2008 05:36

LMAO @ STAY SOFT hahahahahahahahah.....only in Mzansi

Nonny
30 Apr 2008 05:52

"just out of curiousity, Mabhebhe, Yehake, Cngle Ma & Nonny, how do u know dis places, have u maybe been there urselves?? I c u even know the directions..........um scared of yall.....lol lol lol"
@ Awelani - Listen I am from KZN *angazi ngalaba abanye.....LOL*so I gotta know the place well, in order to help people that are not too clued up about the place.........LOL.......and besides who knows mhlampe nami ngiyomudinga umama othize mhla usta wami esengithakathile.........LOL

"but Nonny can you reverse it after a year or two maybe, or ihlala injalo waya-waya."
@ Cnglemom - Normally if it is a black mama or baba that helped u, then u can reverse it, but if it's an Indian (yah amandiya awushaya umuthi........LOL)......"apparently" the Indian mama tells u to ur face when u wanna reverse it that: "Hayi mina kipha, mina faka kuphela"........u know in their s'fanakalo accent...........LOL

Uluthando
30 Apr 2008 06:02

Hayi mina kipha, mina faka kuphela"........LMAO!! Amandiya ayaloya vele? I always thought abo darkie only.

bulie
30 Apr 2008 06:11

@ Nonny & Cnglemother plz gelz read ur PM i need ur help on sumthing strickly personal i know u wont disappoint me its kinda urgent coz i'll b out of the office at very soon.

Yehake!
30 Apr 2008 06:13

@Awe! enyulu means -pure  sweetheart, sori i 4get!

Nonny
30 Apr 2008 06:15

"Amandiya ayaloya vele? I always thought abo darkie only."
@ Uluthando, actually amandiya have mastered the art of ukuloya, awathakathi ayabhubhisa shem..........LOL

@ Nonny & Cnglemother plz gelz read ur PM i need ur help on sumthing strickly personal i know u wont disappoint me its kinda urgent coz i'll b out of the office at very soon.
@ Bullie, gal I like to take my time on serious matters, so u'll be glad to know that I have responded so now u better check ur PM sisi!!!

Madamzee
30 Apr 2008 06:18

Was not going to reply on this one but Nonny, hai you made me LMAO!!!! Nonny! uyazazi ne? Amandiya??????? I think i need me some indian to make sum1 sta-soft! directions pple asseblief!!!

Uluthando
30 Apr 2008 06:19

awathakathi ayabhubhisa

Uluthando
30 Apr 2008 06:21

awathakathi ayabhubhisa-- So bayabhula nabo? I guess u used to them lapho eDurbs ne?

Sorry about the last reply...new @ this thing!

Nonny
30 Apr 2008 06:26

"I guess u used to them lapho eDurbs ne?"
@ Uluthando - yeha man, phela Durban is their home, nami I find myself loosing my accent and all of a sudden I will say to someone: "Hey there, wasssup lannie how's a gwai"...........LOL

"I think i need me some indian to make sum1 sta-soft! directions pple asseblief!!!"
NO NO NO Madamzee, u k now at TVSA we don't promote those kinds of things.........LOL

KeleFabulous
30 Apr 2008 06:33

Floh my baby thank you for this article. i'm in the same predicament and have been wondering what to do...

when my ex found out about my pregnancy he was so ecstatic i couldn't believe. mara barely a month later he was gaaning on about options. he banna! we were still together for sometime but not really. after sometime of me making excuse after excuse to my parents about when him and his family will come to bega i couldn't anymore and gave in and gave my mom his numbers. she called him and told him taba tsa gae and he agreed it's what he's been planning it's just a matter of getting his uncle to come to jozi (he's originally from kzn). soon afterwards he said something about his uncle not being able to makeit and he had asked his cousin who was a better candidate anyway because he was even older than his uncle and his uncle wasn't that much older than him. i told him bullsh** these things shud be done the proper way regardless of who's older. i got the feeling he had no intention of doing the right thing and even wanted to hide my baby. that's when i told him he shouldn't bother me anymore and i will do waht was best for me and my baby. he didn't even fight for me (or my trust)

once i gave birth i sent him an sms with the picture of the baby. still no response. a coupla months later i sent him  another sms and i can't remember what his response was (not even worth remembering!). i did ok financially and didn't need anything. but the more i thot about it the more i knew and accepted that one day, this man will come back and demand to see his son and even now i cannot imagine what i will do when he'll come going on about my child my child. nx! you also have to remember in the eyes of the law, a father has rights, regardless of what he has or hasn't done so even if he comes back 15 yrs later the law will grant him visitation rights. it was this that made me decide to file for maintenance. i figured if he's gonna claim him someday he may as well play some role (even only just financially) so i filed and as some of you know hte process can drag unless you put in some effort yourself. so off i went with the court summons with the police to his work and he signed the summons and kept gaaning aan about how he "knows" these things wTf? on the day we were supposed to appear in court i was told he had come and signed and agreed to everythiing.  this happened around the time was 5 months. only a few more months and he'll be 2 and the only time i speak to him is if the money's late and i have to call and find out and i hate how he's always so "helpful" about it ( the money's paid by his lawyer from a trust) when he explains why it's late and even goes as far as going to the bank himself...eish

recently my baby's been sick. too many people told me i need to take him to go see someone. i was so desperate i was willing to do anything! so this moporofeta (thank God the woman only uses prayer and water and none of that muti sh**!) said (amongst other things) that the child needs, or rather his family (father's side) wants him. eish and how does one do such things without the father being involved? i haven't yet decided what to do with this bit of info and i pray an answer comes to me without me having to talk to the man about this!

KeleFabulous
30 Apr 2008 06:39

eish sorry gal...here i am offloading forgetting this about you and your drama!

i say take him to court. you're wasting your precious time talking to him and he clearly enjoys these runins with you. let the court do the talking. 

as for amasiko...the decision is really yours babes. mna i'm afraid to ignore anything that has something to do with our culture and imisenbenzi that we  have to do. 

raise your child (even if you are alone). i know it's hard but you will someday find it within you to let go of him. and you musn't deny the fact that he WILL always have a special place in your heart (he is your baby daddy after all) but that does not mean you have to put your life on hold hoping he will come back. and even if he does come back it doesn't mean now you have to take him back. he's made his choices. now you have to make and live with yours

Yehake!
30 Apr 2008 06:50

Eish ma Blogers ngisuti ngiyafa i ate like a pig just now!!

carino
30 Apr 2008 06:56

ye, haaaa  ke....

carino
30 Apr 2008 06:57

e, haai ke... yehake....

uthi sithini kengoku, sisi?

Yehake!
30 Apr 2008 07:02

Just SHARIN carino dnt hate! you probarbly didnt have any lunch!

Yehake!
30 Apr 2008 07:03

peace Carino dear!

carino
30 Apr 2008 07:05

Its okay, Yehake

Yehake!
30 Apr 2008 07:12

ye Floh how are you keepin up dear?

boogy-babe
30 Apr 2008 07:17

Khandi noko uthetha ukunya, she wuddnt have written the aarticle if she ddnt regret what she did so shut up poes!!Floh hang in the girl what comes around goes around for that jerk.

Madamzee
30 Apr 2008 07:22

"Khandi noko uthetha ukunya, she wuddnt have written the aarticle if she ddnt regret what she did so shut up poes!!Floh hang in the girl what comes around goes around for that jerk." LMAO!!!! as for "poes"  !!!!!

Yehake!
30 Apr 2008 07:24

hmnn!

Floh
06 May 2008 09:37

Thanks again guys, I will read when I am doing night shift as I don't have time to visit the site during day shift.

Tada.

molibelis
14 Jul 2008 06:08

some people are so cruel.

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