This is the plea to all maBloggers………
I have a child with some guy, he disappeared the minute he knew I was pregnant. I tried to call him setting up appointments to meet him but all he said was “Will come back to you shortly”. The other day I met him, he was visiting his friend, went to him and ask him, ndoda what are you thinking about me and this baby, and he told me in the eyes the options I had, and that was
1. Do abortion ( at the time I was 6 months pregnant)
2. After birth give it up for adoption .........will you 4give him for this, does he worth it.?
He told me I don’t have to come at his house for ukubika isisu. His parents will freak at me because they don’t know that he sleeps around and they only know one lady that he’s involved with and she the mother of his son. I was so traumatised and very angry but told myself that things will be okay, God won’t give me what I can’t afford.
The baby was born and he never contacted me and one day I wrote him an SMS about the baby and he replied baby saying “F**k you mother F**cker”, was very disappointed and I told myself that I will never contact him or ask anything from him.
When the child was two yrs old, he ask my cousin to give him my numbers and my cousin didn’t instead called me and said if you like call the bustard and his numbers are ……………. After some time I called him and instead of him being sorry he told me that I’m the one who shut him out, disappeared with his child, but God knows I tried to call him and told him where I was and he was not interested.
He promised to support the child and demanded for me to come to his work and get the money, instead I gave the account number that goes straight to the child…………. And he deposited once in that a/c and stop.
Me being a woman you know, I told him that the child is about to start crèche, and again he promised to pay for her…………….come January and I told him how much is the school fees, he freaked out and busted Lebo (his son) was not paying this much, come and get it @ my work, and I told him to go to hell, I didn’t choose the nursery that I won’t be able to afford. That was the end of conversation.
Last month he called me and told me that he want to see me, and I must come @ his work again ( I start to wonder what’s so special in there, he want to score points that I’m following him), and yesterday called me again and told me he want to see me, do I still stay @ the same place he knows, the child needs amasiko and stuff ( but when he was still galloping with his lovers he told me they don’t have amasiko kubo), if I don’t allow him to do it, the child will get sick blah, blah, blah and called me all sort of names including isiqhaza ( barbarian) for not allow him near the child. He is so rude I must tell you guys. But he promised not to bug me again, if the child got sick I will get out of trouble myself, and Floh told him “ How do you think I survive all this years without your help, did I ever told you the child is sick, bustard.” I even told him that I wish him dead, that’s my only wish for him………..am I cruel?
So now I need all of you who has been through this,
How did you sort the big mouthed daddy?
How do you shut his big mouth forever?
Do I need to allow him to perform amasiko (I doubt I will let him) what if they make my child to turn her back from me…….?
And one big thing is I have someone in my life that I love dearly and we will marry soon and he has the special bond with the child. So how do I introduce my child to that bustard, why do I need to confuse my child, she’s only 4 yrs old bathong.
So, please advice. I will appreciate every reply I get.
PS: I tried to shorten it but still long hey.......
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