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Most dangerous mistakes you probably make...

Written by Zube from the blog Zubenatization on 02 Apr 2008
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As you may suspect, I am not the original author of this article, but its great anyway, so to the girls please agree or disagree if these are your turn-offs, and to the guys just confess if you were a victim of one of these mistakes that cost you the girl(z) you liked....Here it goes................before I forget the original author of this article is "David DeAngelo" .... so here it goes..... I will start with the first five, if the blog is successful, the rest will follow, I just dont wanna bore you guyzz....

MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A “Nice Guy”
 
Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted "nice" guys?
Of course you have.
Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.
What's going on here?
It's actually very simple...
Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.
And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.
I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.
Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want. 

MISTAKE #2: Trying To Convince Her To Like You" 

What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just notinterested?
Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, EVER.
You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".
Think about it.
If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?
But we all do it.
When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Bad idea. One that will never work.
MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission
In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.
Don't get me wrong here.
You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.
But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again.
You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.
Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her... 

MISTAKE #4: Trying To “Buy” Her Affection With Food And Gifts
 
How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?
If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.
Well guess what?
It's only NATURAL when this happens...
That's right, I said NATURAL.
When you do these things, you send a clear message:
"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".
Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION. 

MISTAKE #5: Sharing “How You Feel” Too Early In The Relationship With Her 

Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on.
Attractive women are rare.
And they get a LOT of attention from men.
Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE
An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.
And guess what?
Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.
That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.
This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.
Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.
There's a much better way...





5 Comments

Zube
02 Apr 2008 13:56

Okay... I'm waiting for the replies......where are you guyz...

Bunone
02 Apr 2008 14:41

All of the above are true and most men normally make these mistakes.
firstly, being too nice is not the solution. But there's a trick in this...From personal experience, I've dated a lot of JERKS & i've realised that following yo heart may mislead u...so ladies be careful & guys just b yoself, dnt go out of yo way jst 2 impress a woman.

Mistake number 2 is a BIIg turn off, plz neva make that mistake...coz u might be  irritating d lady & most women r very polite, dey dnt wanna seem rude bt if u keep pressing u will b dealt with...

Women like honest guys bt if u keep asking 4 permission, Im nt yo wife man & certainly nt yo mom...

Women like to be indulged coz then they'd feel special & I dnt see it as manipulation. But dnt be a hypocrite, if u keep breaking her heart & then buy her gifts, then its manipulation but if u really love her its fine, dnt overdo it though.

Overdisclosure really isnt necessary, especially if we've just met. who do u think u fooling, u dnt even know my true self & u love me to bits!!! Play it cool, dnt make d impression dat u'd kill yoself if she dumps u...

I would advise the guys to plz plz not to try and be what they'r nt, because it might backfire for u, just be who you are & let d girl love u 4 who u r.....
Ladies, looks can be very deceiving so watch out 4 guys who play Mr nice guys bt they actually have hidden agendas....

mathata
02 Apr 2008 14:45

I want to comment,but ke ya tshaba,anything you wrote here is d honest truth

Lady D
02 Apr 2008 14:49

Hmm,dont really know what to say.But one thing is for sure,women like men with brains

sponono
03 Apr 2008 02:35

...I've always been the victim of mistake number ONE....*sob* sob*

....but when i tried to change i just became a mini monster..you know like those little dinasours in Jurassic park that fly all over the forest above the big one yet their sting is felt heavily but they cant be caught...LOL   ......i became  verbally threatning cause one wold neva know how i'd respond and i became over analytical...with the attitute of "yeah she's out to get me cause she thinks I'm nice"...i started defending an accusasion or argument before it began......SO what shud i do now.....I'll go back to mistake number one and mix them with mistake number 4&5......i'm sure that combination will work....LOL


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