I didnt take offence when i was traveling in a cab last year during New Year's when two brothers I was with in a taxi didn't offer to help me pay the cab driver. I slowly took my purse out and slowly pulled my wallet out and slowly, looking at them, pulled the money out. I was on slow-motion so they could see that it was pay time and we all had to chip in as it was a joint agreement to call and take the cab.
They didnt bother and so didn't i.
A few months later, in the year 2008, these guys (different ones) come to our flat via my very popular flat mate, they just rock up, they are dead broke. we have plans so we kindly ask them to excuse themselves. One of them asks for R60 from my friend and she gives it to him. He is amazingly interested in my friend (they've apparently known each other way before i could know).
After a few days, he calls, borrows my friend, (i'm gonna call her Yaya)'s phone, she gives it to him since she had three phones. then later he asks for Aritime and my dear Yaya still played along. Then he asked her to visit him, she agrees. When she gets there she says "i feel like cofee" and he mistook that for coke, so he says "gimme the money i'll go buy it for you" and she says she thought "this is where i draw the line, this guy might me hadsome but he's a broke *ss!
She cut him off, well not completelly, because his cute friend came back to charm me, and that he did. we hanged around for some time and it was time for me to go to his place and he had to come fetch me, on the phone he says "please cook tonight" and i'm thinking, dude, i'm visiting you, you should see to dinner. and i tell him that i come back from gym late and it would be too late already to cook then.
I was surprised to hear a "well, then buy dinner, anything, even KFC" i'm like what the hell, but who cares. so He and a friend come to pick me up and guess what: i bought dinner for him too. I'm anturally a generous person so i know that parting with a few rands wont make me bankrupt, and who said only guys have to buy food on a first date?
Little did i know...
The following day they come to my place all dressed up and smelling good. I ask "whats the occasion"
"we thought we'd go chill somewhere and buy a few drinks tonight", my dude says. Oh by the way this happened this Good Friday.
I'm like "ok, why the hell not"
I'm waiting for us to leave and i hear a "will you buy for us" I was shocked, but still i went along with the plan. I wanted to to tell them to go straight to hell but i decided to give them the benefit of the reasonable doubt i thought "maybe this is just a bad month and he's broke, for now, and he'll probably spoit me the next weekend.
Because i was temporarily out of cash, i was going to withdraw money from my credit card at the ATM. You're not gonna believe what happened when we got to the ATM, I strangely forgot my credit card pin code. Fairly so, i never withdraw money from it. I tried for the second time, for the third time and it was captured by the machine.
Now it is a long process, i have to cancel it and Virgin Money has to replace it. I am still so mad at him (and his friend) and i'm thinking "are black brothers becoming gold-diggers or what"?
They were not even ashamed when they said "well, lets all go back then"!
The following day I asked this other guy to accompany me to the filming of Dans Dans Dans showing on Kyknet. Mnet have been inviting, me not because i took part in the show at some point and got booted out at top 46, but because i'm a Dance Writer. I had been turning the invited down (by not going, i didnt have the means to get to Carnical city on my own)
So i invited this guy to come with, he agrees, Just as we were leaving Waterkloof, he complains of hunger, i then suggest that we stop at a drive through so that he could buy something to eat. i was driving, so i curved into a lil mall that i saw next. I pull over and he's looking at me "I dont have any cash on me so...." before he finishes talking i reach for my bag.
after a few minutes he comes back with food in his hands and i continue driving, East Rand from Pta is a bit far. We finally get to Carnival City and at the gate we have to pay R10 to get in and to get parking, this i also pay for, Ok cool.
The show was great, it was time to leave, he drove back. When we got to Pta we decided it was too early to sleep so i called a certain moderator on TVSA to ask him where things were happening in Pta, he was at 22, I didnt wanna go there because I was there the previous weekend and all the co-owners there know me and I didnt wanna be seen as a regular, So we opted for Club 55.
It was time to buy drinks and so he got very fair with me "girl i dont have any cash, if you buy this weekend, i'll buy next weekend" (because we're going back again to Dans Dans Dans as it is the grande finale and there will be a press conference for all the jounos attending after the show)
I nodded, i bought a six, we shared it, we finished it, i bought another six, we finished it and we decided to go before we got all sloshed out.
As he dropped me off he murmures something like "do you mind giving me R20 to last me until pay day"
I'm like WTF? well what do you think, of course i didnt give it to him!
Am I hanging around the wrong-always-broke-black-men or am i simply too generous?
You be the judge!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I mean some of these people earn way more than what i earn....whats going on??????