Boasting vs normal conversation

poshspice
19 Mar 2008 11:38

mabhebheza
19 Mar 2008 11:47

mmmm..Interesting Fresh Idea..Poshspice..defintly makes the author speechlesss...

What are ur q ? How do u blog huh..

poshspice
19 Mar 2008 12:05

more like...it seems mentioning real life examples such as owning a spazashop or pushing a government tender to clean shool toilets doesn't go down well with other bloggers who see it as shoving it at their faces....ang being egocentric maniacs or maybe i should ask Cnlgmother to elaborate on what she meant about the statement

WhiteSockGirl
19 Mar 2008 12:34

Well. posh, the way I see it.... Who cares? Would you like to appeal to the masses albeit the TVSA masses???? Because I don't .....

nokubonga
19 Mar 2008 12:42

Example of boasting conversations mainly is done by celebs when being interviewed in magazines or on Tv. .....its like they are living in another world.
One will boast how much their husbands loves them, their cars, babies etc.

mabhebheza
19 Mar 2008 12:44

Stil dont get u ...clearly doll..so u want 2write a blog or post a reply just 2please ppl and not voicin oops typin out ur own opinion...
Cngle mother stated sumthing pls eleborate??

belz
19 Mar 2008 23:19

Eish posh im not sure i understand, lemme read again.

Renegade
19 Mar 2008 23:33

Hmm, I've been away this week, got back today, like Belz, i'll read again, and then comment

Renegade
19 Mar 2008 23:41

Can someone please tell me in which blog the top statement appeared, so i can make a more informed reply...hehe

Addictv
20 Mar 2008 00:32

@Renegade...I dont know where dis statement came from either...but

I dont see why people shudnt be proud or even boast abt their achievements...we cant all be modest. and ppl shudnt hav to hold back in fear of offending the inferior...each dog has its day....your time will come...we all at diff stages in our lives....we shud inspire & learn frm each instead of always trying to find fault.

TVSA bloggin is made out of diff personalities & we cant all conform to one idea of thinkin or way of life....we hav diff aspirations..we are diff...for beta or worse.

Nantso ke eyam i-2cents

Nonny
20 Mar 2008 00:44

OMG, and here was I thinking I read most if not all responses at TVSA.............LOL, where was the opening statement of Posh's article said??? And what was it in relation to??? I would really like to give an informed response and I also don't want say something out of context, so some clarity would be really good somebody?????

Vutmi
20 Mar 2008 00:50

Chocolate causes certain endocrine glands to secrete hormones that affect your feelings and behavior by making you happy. Therefore, it counteracts depression, in turn reducing the stress of depression. Your stress-free life helps you maintain a youthful disposition, both physically and mentally. Elaine Sherman

Sorry posh for hijacking your article, just wanted to wish y'all a stress-free, great and safe looooong weekend. Take care mabloggers. Much Love and eat lots and lots of chocolate!

Nonny
20 Mar 2008 00:53

Thanks Vutmi.............((((((((((((CYBER HG)))))))))))

Addictv
20 Mar 2008 00:59

Helllllloooooooo Vutmi, am on my way buy me some chocolate....bt do u know wat else gives u all those happy feelings....and doesnt make u gain weight?....yep think i'll get me some of dat too l8r...to burn da calories from da chocolate...am gonna be on happy queen today! lol

Zee Babes!
20 Mar 2008 01:00

@Posh - Are you implying dat Best-Achiever was boasting? I think there is really a thin line and you know what they say abt words "Meaning is not in words but in people interpreting them" - so I "Zee-Doll" might have interpreted it as an honest statement while you "Posh" interpreted it as boasting.......C thin line, very thin.

Username
20 Mar 2008 01:03

I think the article is asking if when Nonny, Renegade and crew *i maybe wrong* say they are in top level jobs at 22, are they boasting *bayaxhoma* or are they just blogging and what relevance does their jobs, cars and education levels have in TVSA.

The cnglemama statement is used to seek clarification that are they boasting to bloggers who at 22 were not top ranked and at 23 afford two apartments, have great men in their lives or got educated in Model C schools.

Don’t shoot me but it’s just the way I see it. It happens with many friends within the black community that when I may tell my friend about something at work or a promotion its like I am boasting how better I am or what ever

sponono
20 Mar 2008 01:08

hi hi hi Vuts.......you crazy for bringin chocolates at such a tension filled blogging moment......ok lemme munch some chocolates, while I respond

ok posh...the way i see it.....sometimes people are a bit too revelaing, but if doenst do you any harm to reveal too much about your achivements/failures, so what go'head and "boast or comment" it might irk some but it will definately insipre some to do better...and those who will be annoyed ussually are the most insecure due to their lack of achievements.....but also don forget that sometimes TVSA bloggers will say sungthin just to tease and for the fun of it....(check BA'z 2010 story..LOL)...so you shud know when to be the too sensitive blogger or when to be light-hearted and ignore some comments........BUT I dont think we shud censor our comments...(and boasts..)......BTW.....I've just ordered the new 2008 Mercedes-Benz B-Class, which shud arrive around June becasue I've been told the Jepp that I'm driving just doesnt suite me...so yeah.....take that boasting or commenting...whateva......LOL

Nonny
20 Mar 2008 01:12

"BTW.....I've just ordered the new 2008 Mercedes-Benz B-Class, which shud arrive around June becasue I've been told the Jepp that I'm driving just doesnt suite me...so yeah.....take that boasting or commenting...whateva......LOL"
LOL Sponono, yazi wena u always me LMAO..........hehehehehe........

Best-Achiever
20 Mar 2008 01:12

@Posh other bloggers who might have interpreted what i said as BOASTING, i humbly apologize for that (that you understood it tha way) BUT im not apologizing for my success.

spice
20 Mar 2008 01:14

Boasting is when sungone is talking about Sh** we don't give a Fu** about here on tvsa and normal conversation is when is not about ( me ,me, me, or my husband this or my career that ,.duuuuuuuuuuh we all have Sh** but we'd rather keep it to our selves and rather discuss chomme's truworths dress or Spopopo's grigamba's whatever as long as is not always about YOU and your Sh**

Nonny
20 Mar 2008 01:16

@ Best Avchiever, I have never seen any of ur comments as boasting, and gal I couldn't agree with u more there is no need to apologize for ur success.

nokubonga
20 Mar 2008 01:16

hi hi hi hi....the rich never boast about this and that....BUT the average are a problem!

sponono
20 Mar 2008 01:17

hi hi hi hi hi hi LOL @ spice..... i see you back with a bang..... spicin things up...girl where you been

Cnglemother
20 Mar 2008 01:19

Poshspice I am glad that my bold statement inspired you to create a blog and emphasis on “Cnglemother” nogal, the copy and paste saga from the other week is on me today. I am no by any means opposed to criticism as I cannot always be right. What boggles me is that you even found a perfect statement to make comparison with to get the message across. Unfortunately I don’t have the manual for blogging and I can’t recall any of you replies to rule out if you were boasting or not.

Boasting to my understanding in this sense would involve unnecessary and exaggerated exhibition on of one’s self importance amongst others the need to feel superior and recognized. I am not saying mense should not be proud of their hard earned accomplishments and not feel the need to share them with the world but the manner may be sometimes undesirable. Poshspice I think you mature enough to spot the difference between boasting and normal conversation.

Vutmi
20 Mar 2008 01:19

personally i thing is the PHD syndrome, especially with black women. Why cant one be happy when another sister is blessed? as long as she's not taking anything from me then i'd say go ahead and boast or whatever. We seem to forget one thing; i.e. when someone is blessed, that on itself is a blessing to me...cause you'll never know when that person will help you one day because of their blessings. Succesful people inspire me to push harder..and i wont be able to know that unless they mention it. SO to y'all succesful bloggers out there FLAUNT IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@spopo...can i borrow your Jeep when you get your merc? i need to give it to my gardner...you know moos my garden is soo big...not to mention my mansion....LOL...enjoy the chocolates love
@Addictiv...that thing you are talking about can get you fat for teh next 9 months o rbeyond if you are not lucky to shed it...LOL.

edgards
20 Mar 2008 01:19

normally when one feels like they underachieved they will have problem who talks about their evryday life.it depend who you are and how you were raised but you will know when one is boasting or not..the tone one set and frame of reference of the receiver contribute to how one receives or decodes the info from the sender.Other who cares ?

Renegade
20 Mar 2008 01:20

Interesting...but somehow I dont remember saying anything about my job and the level I'm at...so I guess it must have been in passing.

To comment generally, I'll start by citing an example. I have a friend who doesn't have a qualification, and one day we were watching "Friend's like these", and one of the guys was talking about how he's a pharmacist and another one some sort of graduate. My friend went on to talk about how we don't need to know what they do, and how she doesn't understand why some people like to rub it in other people's faces. All this time, I saw nothing wrong with what those guys had said.
My point here is that, when someone says something about their achievements, boasting or not, people that take offence(according to me), are people who have issues, people who are not confident in their achievements and are easily made to feel inferior by the achievement of others.

Here on TVSA, we dont know each other, and when someone mentions age and what they do, its usually in reply to a question. However, if someone wants to boast, why not?

P.S. Achievements are not only academic or on the work front. Should anyone say something, congratulate them, thats all.

azHOT
20 Mar 2008 01:21

pehaps we should let this one slide. i foresee some unhappiness..............

felfel
20 Mar 2008 01:21

Does this not depend on the context of the article, obviously if my reply to an article begs me to mention a few of my own achievements for emphasis or clarity's sake then i shall do that. Achievements are not the same and they cannot be measured alike. What is an achievement to someone may mean absolutely nothing to me. We all adults here, surely we can tell when someone is boasting and NOT, well, if it makes them feel good then let them boast their hearts out. Nawe, if you wana boast then do so otherwise just absorb other people's .

Nonny
20 Mar 2008 01:25

Mina guys, what I don't understand is why are shifting from the fun element of TVSA. Why do people always wanna get personal, mina I enjoy it when just fool around and joke the whole day, but when u joke people take things personal, and when u aren't joking poeple wanna challenge u on something u know is true!!! Lets just stick to having fun, and whether Nonny's is lying and she is actually 16 and bunking classes and being a failure in life, leave that to her coz at the end of the day it's her conscience that she goes to bed with at night!!!

Vutmi
20 Mar 2008 01:32

Exactly Nonny...i certainly didnt join TVSA for moral lectures or to stroke peoples egoes!...i joined it for fun and i am going to have it...LOADS. If you gonna be a stuck up, then so be it, but dont take it out on us.
@Renegade...even if you did mention your success..you dont owe anybody any explanation or apology...just enjoy it girl.

azHOT
20 Mar 2008 01:32

vele wena Nonny you're bunking std 8 e Qalakabusha High kwaMashu AND you're blogging from the coffeee shop e Workshop. Phika phela....................LOL

ngikukhonzile my friend and i agree with you ukuthi why are shifting from the fun element of TVSA??????

spice
20 Mar 2008 01:32

Felfel can i be your friend Wink wink
I have a lso achieved............started from being a nobody to a maid ,then a salon cleaner ,now i work at the Red Cross as a cook ,I cant tell you about the benefits of working for the TAC are but you'll faintt LMAO you don't hear moi boasting about it he re on tvsa do you?

sponono
20 Mar 2008 01:34

azHOT>>i foresee some unhappiness>>.... have a chocolate to cut teh tension......hi hi hi

by the way I'm tryin to get hold of my assitant and I'm struggling to use this cellphone they brought from the recent Nokie expo for me its just too fancy..and I cant belive they spent R84.000 for a cellphone...I mean just because I regularly have to call Patrice and Tokyo doesnt mean I need a phone this expensive....dang these people .......oh Vuts...that Jepp for your gardner comin right up...I might as well get used to bieng chauffour-driven till Jun .and Vutmi (did you get you gardener from that agency I told you about...they are good those boys and theya re worth evry cent of R15.000 pm.....)

Zube
20 Mar 2008 01:36

Speechless!!!! (read this in a whispering sound!)

azHOT
20 Mar 2008 01:39

LMAO@ sponono!!!!!! ifm i've neglected to tell you b4, hai no mpintshi yami, uya ROCKA!!!................LOL

Vutmi
20 Mar 2008 01:40

@spopo...is it one of those diamond encrasted cell phones? eish i had one of those but dear ol' Oprah thought it was not fit enough to call her with...so she got me one a platinunm handset worth R1000 000 and Steven Seagal insisted on bringing it with his private jet! Oh...yeah i got him(gardner) form that agency and between you and me...he services very well and i am not taklking about the garden...*wink* *wink*

felfel
20 Mar 2008 01:41

Boasting is when sungone is talking about Sh** we don't give a Fu** about here on tvsa and normal conversation is when is not about ( me ,me, me, or my husband this or my career that ,.duuuuuuuuuuh we all have Sh** but we'd rather keep it to our selves and rather discuss chomme's truworths dress or Spopopo's grigamba's whatever as long as is not always about YOU and your Sh**

I don't think we're at a level here where all we can talk about is Chomee's dress and such umgosi only. People do talk about themselves a lot here, i've never really interpreted it as boasting. When plp write their articles some are usually highlighting certain points (eg. WSG) or seeking advice (eg.Best-achiever) and they therefore bring aspects of themselves into their articles.

Nonny
20 Mar 2008 01:43

"vele wena Nonny you're bunking std 8 e Qalakabusha High kwaMashu AND you're blogging from the coffeee shop e Workshop. Phika phela....................LOL".............Eish Azhot, now how can I phika, when I've been caught out, vele I'm in st8 and bunking classes and blogging via the internet cafe and becoz I can't afford to pay them in money, I offer cleaning services in exchange for the hours I spend kwi internet.................LOL!!!

"I mean just because I regularly have to call Patrice and Tokyo doesnt mean I need a phone this expensive....dang these people .......oh Vuts...that Jepp for your gardner comin right up...I might as well get used to bieng chauffour-driven till Jun .and Vutmi (did you get you gardener from that agency I told you about...they are good those boys and theya re worth evry cent of R15.000 pm.....)"

LOL @ Sponono, yazi wena, guys just incase people were wondering which fun element I was talking abt, well this is it.........!!!!

spice
20 Mar 2008 01:44

LMAO yeah spopo we believe you LOL and did I mention that I was actually Khanyi Mbau's maid soooooooooooo imagine you guyz

felfel
20 Mar 2008 01:45

Felfel can i be your friend Wink wink.....Spice, only if you won't boast that i'm your friend.....hihihihihiii... kidding....

carino
20 Mar 2008 01:47

I am a parrot:

Mina guys, what I don't understand is why are shifting from the fun element of TVSA. Why do people always wanna get personal, mina I enjoy it when just fool around and joke the whole day, but when u joke people take things personal, and when u aren't joking poeple wanna challenge u on something u know is true!!! Lets just stick to having fun, and whether Nonny's is lying and she is actually 16 and bunking classes and being a failure in life, leave that to her coz at the end of the day it's her conscience that she goes to bed with at night!!!

azHOT
20 Mar 2008 01:47

Vutmi.....when are you coming to KZN?? i want to introduce you to my personal mausseus(sp)!!!! when Richard Bryanston was in SA i loaned him too him!! wanted to take him back to the UK with him but i wasn't having any of that!!!!.........

nokubonga
20 Mar 2008 01:47

Gone are the days when Shuga use to give us much more interesting things to comment about. Ms Shuga some of us miss you a lot please Blog more lovie.

It gets boring at times here.......

Boasting is when sungone is talking about Sh** we don't give a Fu** about here on tvsa and normal conversation is when is not about ( me ,me, me, or my husband this or my career that ,.duuuuuuuuuuh we all have Sh** but we'd rather keep it to our selves and rather discuss chomme's truworths dress or Spopopo's grigamba's whatever as long as is not always about YOU and your Sh**

Guys do you still remember that Lady called Me me me from Taung Carol Mogale's buddy or home gal. She pulled a boasting stunt on us....and that was fun. Those where the fun days at TVSA!

Zee Babes!
20 Mar 2008 01:48

@Best Achiever - other bloggers who might have interpreted what i said as BOASTING, i humbly apologize for that (that you understood it tha way) BUT im not apologizing for my success. You dont have to apologize for anything nonoza....success or not - you owe no one an apology. Why should we be apologetic of i-sucess bathong!-

Vutmi
20 Mar 2008 01:49

Wow really spice...how come i didnt see you the time i came to drop off the cash i borrowed her to buy the Labhorgini(sp)?...LOL

Vutmi
20 Mar 2008 01:53

Vutmi.....when are you coming to KZN?? i want to introduce you to my personal mausseus(sp)!!!! when Richard Bryanston was in SA i loaned him too him!! wanted to take him back to the UK with him but i wasn't having any of that!!!!.........
eish AzHOT, i'll have to pass love...i already promised Donald (Trump), that i'll use his masseuse's services. I dont want to hurt his feelings...you know how Donny gets when he cant get his way. nx nx nx

nokubonga
20 Mar 2008 01:53

Poverty e bontsha batho mehlolo the next thing you will personalised your Labhorgini as Ke yaka...its mine!

WhiteSockGirl
20 Mar 2008 01:53

@BA: Well, for me there is confidence and their is boasting. What I might consider as confidence, someone else might see as boasting. But really, who cares?

The ever activist in me just love to read about young women who accomplish a lot,... so if someone else sees it as boasting, just please boast away.... you can only inspire someone else.

Same to you posh,.... if you are acomplished,... then obviously you worked hard to achieve it. You earned the right to be proud of it,... and I for one would love to hear how you achieved, what you achieved, etc....

Many of you know that I am managing a children's rights organization and unfortunately the children in our small town do not have a lot of black role models. I make it my business to bring young accomplished black young women and men to smalltown for the children during festivities.

And I sometimes would hear that someone said something to the effect that so-and-so-- are so arrogant, blah, blah,...  Then I would think that maybe I live on another planet because that same person that someone else thought of arrogant and whatever, I admired that person for having achieved that much in such a short amount of time. And the children usually share my sentiments.

What I am trying to say, to all you fabulous accomplished young TVSA men and women, boast away. I am listening and I am admiring....

sponono
20 Mar 2008 01:53

Vutmi...I cant belive you're friends wiht tha a*shole Steven ....when he was visiting Cape Town last year..his manager contacted my assistnat and asked if they could use my penthouse at the watefront while shooting...I was like dang Mr Seagul I'd rather have Jacob Zuma and his entourgae in my penthouse...than some washed-up martial art- D-list actor....thnks veri much...that was the last i heared from him....

oh that phone was one of Nokias lastest...Nokia 888 Communicator
I'm supposed to wear it like a watch...but I'm not that vain..serias I'm not...so I think i'lll go back to my old reliable 3310.....eish life !!!!!!

azHOT
20 Mar 2008 01:54

LMAO...................

andi01
20 Mar 2008 01:57

Normal Conservation- I wanted 2 skiet my neighbour's son who scratched my new Hummer.
Boasting- I bought that hummer for R500 000, cash, no one else can do that. My father wanted 2 help out coz he owns 3 mines and he worth R45 billion.

sponono
20 Mar 2008 02:00

thanks WSG....boast all you want y'all its no big deal ..in fact it makes you wanna up yo game a bit..and while you hide behind the screen ignoring what can better your life....suddenly boom someone yo age is workin hard buyin property studyin or even doin sumthin fulfilling even if its not money related but they are proud of it...you suddenly realise that dang i better move my ass a bit....and I can do this....and you get that inspiration from those "boasting replies.....(however annoying at times...LOL....so if you wanna pull a Kanye West Sbudah go'head....

spice
20 Mar 2008 02:01

HAaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaai spopo you finish klaaaaaaaaared me what did you just say ?

Zee Babes!
20 Mar 2008 02:02

Off topic -Happy Easter Weekend to y`oll.

Addictv
20 Mar 2008 02:03

LMFAO...u guys really crack me up.

Vutmi
20 Mar 2008 02:04

LOL @ spo

Vutmi...I cant belive you're friends wiht tha a*shole Steven....i know i dont lyk him either but he keeps begging me to be his friend...oh wait...just got an sms...mmmm...oh sweet man! its Hal (Halley Berry)..she just asked me if i can be her baby's God Mother. She'll have to get in line though, being a Godmother to Angie(Jolie)'s brood is not easy!!! eish!

@Andi01....tell you daddy i want that 44 billion i borrowed him!!!!!

nokubonga
20 Mar 2008 02:04

Vutmi...I cant belive you're friends wiht tha a*shole Steven ....when he was visiting Cape Town last year..his manager contacted my assistnat and asked if they could use my penthouse at the watefront while shooting...I was like dang Mr Seagul I'd rather have Jacob Zuma and his entourgae in my penthouse...than some washed-up martial art- D-list actor....thnks veri much...that was the last i heared from him....

oh that phone was one of Nokias lastest...Nokia 888 Communicator
I'm supposed to wear it like a watch...but I'm not that vain..serias I'm not...so I think i'lll go back to my old reliable 3310.....eish life !!!!!!

Eish Poverty Maara!

spice
20 Mar 2008 02:06

YEAh Nokubonga who can forget MEMEME those were the dayz I think ya'll should go to that article and witness what we call real boasting LOL

Nonny
20 Mar 2008 02:06

WSG, u are inspirational...........finish en klaar!!!!

KeleFabulous
20 Mar 2008 02:07

you people have completely lost the plot. poor child was just saying she's new and would like to know how things are done here on tvsa...when in france do as the french do...ever heard of that?

the comment quoted there came from my blog yesterday. it's not to say BA or anyone else mentioned there is boasting, if you'll just read what posh has to say.

ofcourse we have people who boast here on tvsa, just like we have people who boast in our lives. but why waste your time with such trivialties when we've got more important things to do. i can but would rather not, name a few that i think have highly exaggerated their successes (so obvious!) and in some instances i doubt there's been any success to boast about in the first place!

posh baby, don't stress yourself ka ntho tse nnyane. this is a playground. make friends if you can but don't read too much into what/how people say what they say. abanye abantu have issues which they must deal with themselves so don't feel as if you're on the outside looking in capiche!

i'm out!

Nonny
20 Mar 2008 02:09

"Poverty e bontsha batho mehlolo the next thing you will personalised your Labhorgini as Ke yaka...its mine!"
ROTFLMAO @ Nokubonga...............Ke yaka..........the imagery cracks me.........

KeleFabulous
20 Mar 2008 02:12

people who've worked their asses off to become a success don't normally boast about it...why do so when your property/car/clothes/where you eat etc etc says it all. i find it's normally people who landed success or who wish they could land success boast about umoya. abo kleimar!

andi01
20 Mar 2008 02:13

Normal conservation is talking freely of your accomplishments in ways of motivating others.
Boasting- is telling everyone that cares to listen about your achievements, in the same time undermining others and exaggerating about your achievements, (some people dont exaggerate they just plain out LIE)

spice
20 Mar 2008 02:13

Vutomi not you tooooooo LMAO ok

monchooza
20 Mar 2008 02:15

manje isikhathi sokuhlanya...hlanyani MaBlogger....

spice
20 Mar 2008 02:16

Guyz I once received an e-mail i think i'ts relevant to this article can i post it ?

nokubonga
20 Mar 2008 02:16

@ Spice...am glad you remembered. I really Missed those days yaz. Now Shuga is starving us with Mzanzi Goss and other things that some of us find interesting to pass time....anyway maybe she is busy at work and she will come back to us.

Spice...ever since that day ....Mememe....never put her fingers on the key board to check whats happening at TVSA house . Maybe she is using a different Nic!

nokubonga
20 Mar 2008 02:22

Normal conservation is talking freely of your accomplishments in ways of motivating others.
Boasting- is telling everyone that cares to listen about your achievements, in the same time undermining others and exaggerating about your achievements, (some people dont exaggerate they just plain out LIE)

people who've worked their asses off to become a success don't normally boast about it...why do so when your property/car/clothes/where you eat etc etc says it all. i find it's normally people who landed success or who wish they could land success boast about umoya. abo kleimar!

@ Andile and Kele...you hit the nail right on the head. Amen to that!

Username
20 Mar 2008 02:22

We have here in TVSA achieved something in our lives no matter how insignificant it maybe. Why not celebrate that, why not embrace what we have and stop moaning. There are many young children out there even amongst us who get encouraged by those so called “boasters”.

I for one have been inspired by bloggers Gucci, Best-Achiever and WSG. If someone thinks I am brown-nosing go hang yourself. If you are young, black and successful, you can even scream it from the top of table-mountain, if a child hears you and gets inspired then good for you.

Come on people, what happened to fun and laughter. BOAST UNTIL THE SUN COMES OUT. IT’S YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS IT’S YOUR RIGHT.

Can someone go OFF-Topic PLEASE!!!!

sponono
20 Mar 2008 02:24

I've just seen a number plate that said "Fear Me"..... too bad i didnt get to see the driver....but i thought that was daring......hi hi hi

spice
20 Mar 2008 02:25

she is definetely using another name Nokubonga and i think i have an idea of which names she uses now LOL

spice
20 Mar 2008 02:27

There you go spopo

Vutmi
20 Mar 2008 02:30

Ok Username...OFF TOPIC...has any of you seen my chef? he left yesterday in my ferrari. His name is JAMIE OLIVER.....please holla at a sista if you do see him. He's kinda foreign and i am seriously worried about him and Nigella cant do all the cooking by herself!!!!!!!

KeleFabulous
20 Mar 2008 02:32

I for one have been inspired by bloggers Gucci, Best-Achiever and WSG.

it's because these people have NEVER boasted about what they've accomplished. there are other "accomplished" people here who boast but are not on that list of yours...why is that so? because no one takes them serious!

sponono
20 Mar 2008 02:33

BY THE WAY...POSH whats with Deafening Silence...angithi we're busy disecting your query and wena you're just staring at the screen...hi hi hi hi come now....(maybe you were still workin on it and suddenly the computer played tricks and you sent it)

monchooza
20 Mar 2008 02:38

its a friday for some of us today...so please stop with the seriousness niyasikhinya....mina ngifuna ukubheda nje kuphela namhlanje...and if angibhedi here on TVSA still ngizobheda somewhere else....def not in the mood for seriousness

jazzyree
20 Mar 2008 02:41

I normally enjoy the reading the blogs and comment once in a while but yhooooooooo can somebody save us from this boring blog yawn yawn

zolx
20 Mar 2008 02:42

i agree with KeleFab...play nice guys

Username
20 Mar 2008 02:52

@ Kele………first you need to ask how those people inspire me and why the “other” people you are referring to do not inspire me. Self confidence and never-die attitude is what inspires me in those bloggers. Its not what they have achieved but how they achieved it and how they continue making it count in their lives.

You have been here in TVSA longer than I have been and have read consistently what “they” have written and maybe I may have missed the “other” people. Who knows if you can direct me to their replies or articles I can get inspired. That list is not cast in stone and it maybe that I may have misjudged them. Those bloggers just came from the top of my head. I am sorry if I offended anyone, certainly not my intention but we all have different perceptions which may not hold water to other people.

@ Vutmi… you definitely know what I meant.

Goodbye peeps. see you in 2010

mazemnyama
20 Mar 2008 02:57

poshy i will try to answer your questions with reference to my life and how i deal

please shed some light....

* when does a statement become 'boasting' - a statement becomes boastful when the listener or the reader judges it to be so. its not so much what you say as who you say it to, i mean i can boast to my friends coz they are my friends and should know how to deal with me. i can tell TVSA -ans about my achievements because I CAN and should they feel i am boasting then we will blog about it.
this is a long reply because really there are no rules to conversations if u dont wanna be seen as boasting then just stay in your shell and let others converse. or know who you should talk to and what the content of your conversation will be

* BestAchiever mentioned buying her second apartment, I was inspired
and rightfully so we hear and live with so much negetivity that a positive success story is a rare fiND. YOU GO ba

* when responding shall one try as much as possible to stay anonymous for real, less mention of real life examples and keep it light and fun
As much as we like having fun fun fun sometimes we have to be serious even if its just a lil bit but still that remains your choice

orientate us freshers in blogging.....an idiots guide to blogging will do

am not much of a blogger myself but ill orientate you anyhu, when blogging speak your mind but be careful you might step on toes but from what i gather aound here is peple get over issues neh so yah poshy pooh thats all from me

Cande
20 Mar 2008 03:02

Nokubonga I am 4rm Taung not mememe or Carol Bouwer..

carino
20 Mar 2008 03:06

Oh gaaawwwd, are we still boasting???? /////yawn/////

Its on days like this that i miss bloggers like Aquilogy. He'd throw an "Emo" on our faces now, then we'd have something else to talk about.

Cnglemother
20 Mar 2008 03:09

@KFab - there are other "accomplished" people here who boast but are not on that list of yours...why is that so? because no one takes them serious!

I am the one who compiled that list and the blogs originates from that, I was not under any obligation to list everyone accomplished on TVSA, was only mentioning what had inspired me and only me. The others that were not listed may have not stood out for me and I dont see anything wrong with that. There are bloggers who somehow felt my point and dont want go the list route in case i get penalised again.

tshepiso
20 Mar 2008 03:11

eish''''''''' its Easter again........ LOTS AND LOTS OF CORPSE,,,,,,,, Mzanzi pleople please give us "FORENSIC PATHOLOGIST" a break. do not die as if you have never live.
do not feel offensive there is nothing I can do I am a P.A.T.H.O.L.O.G.I.S.T no boasting at all!!!!!!!!!!

KeleFabulous
20 Mar 2008 03:12

Username i sense some tension and don't quite get where it's coming from...don't really feel like figuring it out either.

kanti whatever happened to not saying anything if you're not interested in the topic? this q is directed to those who keep on saying the topic is boring etc. ship on out to the next one if you not interested. and where is posh to pay me for doing her job in her blog?

Mathaz
20 Mar 2008 03:17

Can we please sing along to Mandoza's song:

Umntomyama a ga funi u gu bona umtomyama a ya phezhule....phambili.
(Please pardon my spelling)

Baby Dinice
20 Mar 2008 03:18

Sorry Guys but is it true that Mawillies is gone. Aga Shame. "Ntate Ntate rumela maphodisa mawillies orobekgile Natate. Mphuli umhlolo" Hope am right oh man i am so heart broken

HEEEE HEEEEEEE HEEEEEE HEEEEEEEE HEEEEEE HEEEEEEEEE HEEEEEEE HEEEEEEE Crying for my Hero Mawillies i liked his music. Sahme mara Why heh is this going to be every hearing about a celeb that died.

last week it was out Business Partner Rufus Marumo.

SORRY AGAIN FOR GOING OFF TOPIC JUST Shocked

Baby Dinice
20 Mar 2008 03:19

Sorry Guys but is it true that Mawillies is gone. Aga Shame. "Ntate Ntate rumela maphodisa mawillies orobekgile Natate. Mphuli umhlolo" Hope am right oh man i am so heart broken

HEEEE HEEEEEEE HEEEEEE HEEEEEEEE HEEEEEE HEEEEEEEEE HEEEEEEE HEEEEEEE Crying for my Hero Mawillies i liked his music. Sahme mara Why heh is this going to be every hearing about a celeb that died.

last week it was out Business Partner Rufus Marumo.

SORRY AGAIN FOR GOING OFF TOPIC JUST Shocked

azHOT
20 Mar 2008 03:19

lol@Kele: and where is posh to pay me for doing her job in her blog?

Porsch
20 Mar 2008 03:24

My question is why does it matter if the person boasts or not? You listening or reading need to make a choice whether you let that person inspire you or you get jealous, its simple like that.

To all those who have achived, no need to apologize for your success and no need to hold back if you want to share, go ahead some of us are inspired and never want to lose the eye on the ball.

@Posh, I think they joys of not using your real name and your info is confidential here is that you can be however you choose to be.

Who knows, i might be posing here as a woman????????????????

nokubonga
20 Mar 2008 03:28

Nokubonga I am 4rm Taung not mememe or Carol Bouwer..Nokubonga I am 4rm Taung not mememe or Carol Bouwer..

Cande, how do you know gore mememe is not from Taung???

Thanks for clarity anyway!

Hallow Baby Dinice, its good to see you without your tantrum today!

andi01
20 Mar 2008 03:29

@ monchooza its a friday for some of us today, true dat amigo. WOZA THURSADY WOZA CASTLE WOZA ROTHMANS MILD, eish maar life is good yazi.

azHOT
20 Mar 2008 03:33

have a fab easter weekend people. please don't drink and drive, speed kills-arrive alive.

Have a good one

peace

Username
20 Mar 2008 03:33

@Kele believe me there is absolutely no tension at all, maybe it’s just me being too serious, I take no offense and I don’t mean to offend anyone. I am very sorry if it sounds like I am tense.

I am sorry my darling. I am out.

tshepiso
20 Mar 2008 03:35

I've just seen a number plate that said "Fear Me"..... too bad i didnt get to see the driver....but i thought that was daring......hi hi hi .........LOL @ Sponono

Fluffy Head
20 Mar 2008 03:39

My 2cents worth.

1. Telling other people about your achievements is a good thing (although it depends on the maturity of the receiving audience - other people can be inspired by it and others can find it quite irritating). If you are going to tell them about it, don't just expect everyone to give you a pat on your back - expect those who'll give you ish as well. And I think this is a human thing - not just abantu abamnyama.

2. How people will read what you telling them (as an inspiration or a bore) depends highly on the tone in which you say it and the circumstances under which you say it. So when you are going to tell them - watch your tone and your motive.

3. I doubt Posh wanted to fight with everyone with this blog and I understand exactloy where she comes from...she wants clarity and I think to avoid stepping into people's toes in future.

4. Most people in this forum are quite personal about things. You say one thing and the whole forum comes down on you. And I wonder - when did this become sooo personal. The way I understand internet chat/blog its a very impersonal way to have fun....You can create a whole different persona and no one has the right to tell you you are not who you really are. Its not a real platform so it would be nice if everyone can understand that.
Hence most of us are not using our real names - we have Alias. Now wherether your alias is informed by some truth - but fact it its not who you really are...So if one decides to create a fictional job for themselves just to continue with the conversation - why do we care?

tshepiso
20 Mar 2008 03:41

Carino, Lex , Cande and Others>>>>>>>>>>> it's Easter time areyeng gaeeee MAMA o chunile CURRY FISH and tomorrow ke misa o mogolo. Batswana weeeeeeeeeee are yeng gae,,,,,,

sponono
20 Mar 2008 03:44

what happend to Anton &Steve...and Babini and Xhosa Chick is this a sign that the remaining "tVSA veterans"..have nothing more exciting or keeping them too busy to be replyin on tvsa.......well then if thats the case........(i'm gonna go back to focusing on my business i know Tokyo is always teasing me about this tvsa business..he says I'm mixing with the MIXIT crew......and I always tell him I'm very down-to-earth.....LOL

ok I'll stop now.....semmes like y'all are ENGRI 'bout this boasting business..!!!!

Renegade
20 Mar 2008 03:45

Guys, i'm out. Please play your part in being safe on the road, we really don't need any more fatalities.
Peace ya'll

WhiteSockGirl
20 Mar 2008 03:51

@spo:
Gaadd,... I think I need such a number plate... but my car is tooo cheap for a personal number plate.. second thought,.. my car and such a 'Fear me' number plate could make a statement.

spice
20 Mar 2008 03:51

HUH ?????????????????????????

spice
20 Mar 2008 03:55

im sorry to burst your buble sweety but sum of us actually have a life besides tvsa we cant be blogging all the time spopo

Trix
20 Mar 2008 03:57

Hi guyz..... I've been reading this blog with interest... then I asked myself 'what about all those church peeps that love going up in front of the congregation gushing about having achieved/bought this n that' all in the name of Testifying..... what to you say about this.... is it boasting?? Coz some of us who don't have any gushing to do, always feel small and insignificant after hearing all this.

mabhebheza
20 Mar 2008 04:02

Umsindo ....*Snore*..
Next

spice
20 Mar 2008 04:04

I have deleted a reply that was going to cause havoc LMAO I was dissing people who take this blogging thingie way tooo serious

nokubonga
20 Mar 2008 04:05

Hi guyz..... I've been reading this blog with interest... then I asked myself 'what about all those church peeps that love going up in front of the congregation gushing about having achieved/bought this n that' all in the name of Testifying..... what to you say about this.... is it boasting?? Coz some of us who don't have any gushing to do, always feel small and insignificant after hearing all this.

LOL....For some people , in just in their nature to be boasting. Maybe they derive their self esteem from that. Some have beauty , brains, wealth, but you will never even a single day here them talking about this and that of mine.

nokubonga
20 Mar 2008 04:06

Excuse me..meant to say their are just boastful!

andi01
20 Mar 2008 04:10

In Solly Moholo's voice

areyeng ko Pietersburg-e
re-rorisang modimo waronna

Its Easter and some of us are going to Moria people just be safe, dont drink and drive, you might spill your CASTLE

andi01
20 Mar 2008 04:12

In zola's voice

EMoria, yem yem yem
Emoria, thina skhonzekuphakameni

Mathaz
20 Mar 2008 04:17

@ Trix...those people in church are not boasting but testifying of how God has blessed them in abundance. The problem with most of us is when true success is measured by what you have (materials). I do not have a car, a high paying job but i have achieved in life.

myname
20 Mar 2008 04:22

Ndimasiari, Notwa hani? Sanibonani, Kunjani?Dumelang, Lekai? Molweni niphilile?..............

tshepiso
20 Mar 2008 04:36

Its Easter and some of us are going to Moria people just be safe, dont drink and drive, you might spill your CASTLE O SELE WENA , DRINK & DRIVE TO HOLY PEOPLE. O TLA TSENYA JESU MATLHO

Y4K
20 Mar 2008 04:45

O bantu zi Easters? ndicinga zi next week.

andi01
20 Mar 2008 04:49

Akere Jesus turned water to wine, jwale bothatha keng?????, hay man tshepiso ntlogele, nna ke rata jesu waka ene ke rata castle yaSAB, so what???.

Best-Achiever
20 Mar 2008 07:20

@WSG .... Amen to that!!!!!. Everybody around here has a choice to take what builds them and leave the rest.

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