We met in 2002, got married in 2005 and i regret the day i said i do. Marriage is not easy at all and i wonder if it is all worth it. I am not happily married and contemplating divorce. We still have not conceived mainly because of his drinking and smoking habits. He comes home in the wee hours of the morning and expect me to shower him with love.
He spends all his money on booze and I'm supposed to see if there is money for food, petrol, clothes etc. He does not even give me money to do my hair. I still love him but sometimes love is not enough or better yet is there such a thing as unconditional love?
Single ladies, i envy you so much. If you are not yet married herewith are questions you should ask yourself before you give your whole life away:
1. does he treat his mother with respect ? The way he treats, speaks to his mother is almost the same as the way he will communicate with you
2. Is he easily influenced or pressured to do something? Friends pay an important part and if he likes spending 80% of his time with them then you are doomed for failure
3. Does he respect money? If he spends money on invisible things and does not have a plan on how he will survive until the next pay day then he is more likely to depend on you financially
4. Does he have a good job? If not, is he someone who has a vision and dreams.
Ladies do not be in a hurry to get married and before you do make sure that you are financially stable if you do not want to be oppressed.
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