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Recap Zola 7

Written by libra from the blog AS I WATCH IT ... on 14 Dec 2007
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Meet Matshediso, a 16 year old orphan taken care of by her uncle and grandmother. She has however left home to stay with her peers so that she can enjoy street life.

"i enjoy partying and going out at night," she says.

Her daily routines includes partying with older men in taverns, going to strip clubs and boozing.

She stays with her friends, no longer goes to school and wait for these...

She now writes a letter to Zola requesting him to help her become a stripper at 16.

And as expected Zola refused to help but he sought help for Matshediso.

She hooked her up with social workers, spoken with her guardians and at the end of the episode Zola offered to take her home to her guardians but she refused saying she will go back when she is ready and me thinks she will never get back though she said she wanted to get back to school and live a normal life I do no think she will ever return.

But who is to be blame when things like this happen?
who should be there to guide the kid to right direction?
we know teengers can be rebellious but this was worse.
is it really about children having the right to choose?

I do not really know what to say but my Mr Libra and I could not believe it when we watched the show last. It was disturbing.

This girl is probarly sleeping with these older men for all i know.

ok, i am going to stop now but i get really pissed when young women ruin thier lives like this. All they need is love and protection.

30 Comments

wetlips
14 Dec 2007 01:09

yippee I'm the first one to reply

I was also disturbed by matshidiso ......esp. when she said "re dula reya ditarveneng" and she was so proud of it .....yo poor girl....nna i think it's peer you know they all want to be strippers there is no one guiding ba bang, they are all in the dark....Adolescent bathong........!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Toodecent
14 Dec 2007 01:14

No one is to blame...mara maybe she has talent in the stripping thing gape everyone has one of their own ...LOL

KeleFabulous
14 Dec 2007 01:27

tdc don't forget what i asked u...tick tock tick tock

myname
14 Dec 2007 01:49

Thanks Libra. While i was watching the show i called my cousin 2 watch. Its very disturbing sana. My cousin has a daughter she is 15 doing vat en sit with her boyfreind who's 20. She started after the rape. We tried to do everything, talk to her nice, scaring her, call social worker, call the police EVERTHING.And everytime i tried 2 talk 2 her she just tell mi " No big sis just chill man im just enjoying u know stop worrying about me im a big gil". MnaiIm scared guys & i dont think i want another baby now KUBI

Floh
14 Dec 2007 01:50

Yah Neh, RDP houses are becoming Brothels these days, if Zuma wins I will tell him not to build any.

Lets hope she will think of something better after a talk with Zola than to be a stripper.

azHOT
14 Dec 2007 01:50

i always said if people need licenses to drive and licenses to sell liquor etc. people should need licenses to have children. we live in a morally decayed society and one of the main reasons is people have kids they don't need and have no idea how to take care of.

i'm not refrring to this case in particular because this childs parents are dead so maybe they weren't bad people but honestly it all begins with people who have unwanted kids who become unwanting teens and furthermore themselves become unwanting parents

Nanana
14 Dec 2007 02:02

Values that society is instilling in youth is becoming pathetic by the day,I am sure this tavernen thingy is probably an everyday reality in her sorroundings so she is convinced its the norm and the media is potraying this altyd partying as an evryday happening.The poor girl is dissillusioned and naive and its a good thing Zola sought alternative help,but instead of adressing the problem ,we should start at th e route course..nuff said

carino
14 Dec 2007 02:05

Hei, i'm out of words. Mouth Open and Dry. I rilly don kno wat to say. But this is something that happens to most of us.

Nna i say, she's on a stage. It will pass and she'll forget all about this stripping business.

I lost my virginity when i was 23. For two years i was just someone else, boozing, smoking, doing drugs, getting a tattoo, dancing almost naked on table tops, and doing all sorts of things

That was not because i wasnt raised properly. It had nothing to do with my parents. They even had no idea that i had become that. But that lasted only two years and i passed that stage. We all go through such, its just a pity some people have to deal with some hectic consequences but, what can we say, its life.

The best thing you can do for a person like that is, tell her once how you feel about her behaviour, dont shout at her, and leave her make her own choices. Because most of the times, people like umntana ka cousin ka myname, they make some hectic decision just to spite the people that shout at them. I know i used to.

They say life is a circle, right? so some situations are just curves.

witty lady
14 Dec 2007 02:13

EEISH that little girl is messing up her life. By the time she realises it, it will be too late and I don't think there's anyone to blame, I mean if bagolo ba go kgalemela and you don't listen, there's absolutely nothing they can do, I would understand if there was no one guiding her. Ngwana o sa utlwing molao wa batsadi o tla utlwa wa manong.

mabhebheza
14 Dec 2007 02:19

I was speechless Tyini Thiza ...i was teeanager once and nami bengipahapha but my mum made sure she smacked all senses back 2my head ...looking at that Qavileyo girl izolo Tshidi made me realise that my mum was not abusing me but proctecting me 4rm ezimanga ...

Haai shame those group of girls ..ndivasa izandla..bahlulekile..!
But i also but blame on this old man that date these girls ...they are polluting the poor kids mind with rubbish and al sorts of empty promises ...sies dysfunctional pathetic old man mnxx Raa!!!

Popla
14 Dec 2007 02:21

Last nite episode was very disturbing and shocking. While watching it i felt like Tshidi was my sister and i was really disturbed. OK, Tshidi is an orphan and apparently she was/is staying with them. What i noticed is Tshidi's uncle are no nonsense people and they wont allow her to live a street life. On the other hand Tshidi is in her adolescent stage where she needs a lot of guidance. As we know there are few men who can sit down with a girl child and explain the whole changes and the consequences of this stage if you are not smart. I guess the uncles are shouting at her or even beat her when she came late, refusing to go to school or did not sleep at home. Well you cant blame them because as i've mentioned men are not patient like us. Tshidi wants to be a stripper because for her is cool to be a sripper. She saw that on TV and maybe thought that only happen in America but the day she saw it LIVE at the club she became exited and thought is was cool. Please dont blame her we are all different and Tshidi is experiencing the stage differently. She does not care about school and yet you heard her uncles saying she is very smart at school. She was bragging about going to LILLYS club. To her that sounded cool to tell the world that she goes places and she lives her life. She's at a very difficult stage and she needs a guidance and i think Zola was right by hooking her up with that social worker. BUT i dont think Tshidi will go back home because they are influencing each other. You heard heard she said she wanted to go back to school but one of her friend suggested they should wait for MACUFE before they go back to school. Eish i wish i was near that girl before it's too late for her.

Honeypot
14 Dec 2007 02:30

Ok has my 2 cents worth, That was the saddest episode I have ever watched cause it's so close to home, I have a cousin who is just like that girl, she failed her matric last year because she left home to live her own life nabangani and now she has gotten so bad she is now stealing other peoples wallets for a living, but wait for it she has both her parents. I think sometimes abazali they are quick to give up on their children, rasing is a teenager is hard and just giving up on them will not help them, they need a constant reminder that nobody is going to love them more than their family, if not they go and seek affection in wrong places, throwing that child to the streets will only make her more wilder and once she is there, there is no more turning back.

babyjoe
14 Dec 2007 02:48

This is worth replying to. Last night i watched Zola 7 not because i am a fan but because of the word stripper. I was about to sleep when the presenter mentioned that he is going to help a girl who wants to be a stripper.

At first i thought it would be funny to watch but this was the most heart breaking and most interesting episode i've seen on the show. I was heart broken because that girl doesn't have a clue what she is doing, she is only 16 and it was interesting because they didn't have an idea what they were dealing with, she is such a (i don't even have the word).

children like her need a month or year of counselling and they don't need other people to talk to them but life to counsel them. sometimes experience is the best teacher, in fact, experience is the best teacher. when u bring someone into the picture like what they did with the other girl who came to tell her a thing or 2 about life, they don't listen. i can bet she didn't even take one thing that girl said. another thing which sort of disturbed me was her saying that she will go home after that counselling session and the next thing she tells Zola she is going to go but not now.

Why didn't he take her to the uncle so that they can sort things out? and why didn't he go back to the uncle after he tried his best to take her back home? I can't even imagine what must be going through her head but all i can say is that if i was leaving in that community, i would definitely make sure that that RDP house is taken away from them.

Its a shame she didn't even show any emotion about what is happening in her life. She is actually enjoying the life that she is leaving. and who are these men abusing our children, they should be ashamed of themselves.

myname
14 Dec 2007 02:58

Guys lets not blame parents. Like any single mother she tried 2 b with her all the time giving her everything she needs bt umntana its like a dog once wava ubumnandi ulibala everything u've said its like stealing sugar. No one wants his/her baby like that we all wishing a good boy/girl. Asiqeqesheli babe ngootsotsi, murderer whatever. So what im trying 2 say is, give her time uzobuyela ezinqgondweni noba kunini. We are living emhlabeni sana and these children are not directions

libra
14 Dec 2007 03:12

No one is to blame...mara maybe she has talent in the stripping thing gape everyone has one of their own ...LOL @TDC - if ur daughter comes up to u one day and says she wants to be a stripper would u allow her to do it just because u think she has talent.?

i think Zola should have exposed the hidden truths about stripping (abuse,drugs etc) to show Tshidi that it is not all glamour as she see it on stage.

he could have brought a former stripper to tell her of her experinces.

that group needs more than counselling lets hope it wont b too late 4 them to get out of that situation they are in.

carino
14 Dec 2007 03:20

Sorry guys...... I dont mean to shift the topic..

It's just that i cant find the article on Jacob Zuma.

Can someone please exlain to me what Tokyo's role in the Zuma campaign. I'm kinda lost.

Toodecent
14 Dec 2007 03:26

NO CHANCE IN HELL at Libra ...! I know its bad shame i wonder if the girl will ever change.

WhiteSockGirl
14 Dec 2007 03:30

Why, oh why... Libra did you write an article about something that is sooo close to my heart? Now I just have to answer,... when I am trying to stay away from my 'apple box' on this site.
But let me thank you first for the recap... I do not have a vivid decoder so I am not getting SABC1, SABC2, SABC3 and e-TV.

'But who is to be blame when things like this happen?
who should be there to guide the kid to right direction?
we know teengers can be rebellious but this was worse.
is it really about children having the right to choose?'

Please do take note, I am ranting within the ‘Namibian context’

The consequences of the severe state of poverty and HIV/Aids… and unfortunately the relevant people choose to ignore the impact that these consequences have on the family structure, education, health and social services..

There are now new challenges that we need to deal with… however we (am I saying ‘we; because I am working for a children’s rights organisation and we are part of the debacle and should be part of the solution) are still responding in the very same way we did say about 20 years ago.

Education: This very emotional human rights activist believes that education is the backbone of development for every child. Unfortunately,.. our education system is failing to provide this security to the children that need it most. The poor and destitute children. We are still working with the ‘blue print on education’ that was printed donkey years ago. It may had been successful 20 years ago, but it is no longer effective NOW.

Why are we still insisting that pupils should wear uniforms that cost about R200+ per something (per learner) while the average poor household has an average income of less than R400 per month? Then guardians (many children do not have parents anymore… and have to rely on grandparents, family members or sibling to provide care for them) still have to take care of school fees. If I have a monthly income of R400 per month and little mouths to feed, my priority will be to stretch that money to feed that little people. Obviously, uniforms are not going to make that priority list.

I once spoke to an ignorant cow (a honourable headmaster at a SMALLTOWN school) about the outstanding school fees of a couple of children that frequently visit our organisation for services. She withheld their report cards because their guardians did not pay the school fees. The cow, in a very smug manner, told me that the parents do know that they can make arrangements to pay the school fees,.. or they can come and do some work at the school for a couple of hours a day.

In what fairytale land does some of these people who were entrusted with the development of children exists? First of all, they do not have parents… the parents passed away! You as a principal do not even know that? Number 2, payment plan is not option! They do not have the job guarantee to make good on that promise to pay. Number 3,.. even though they do not have ‘formal cushy’ jobs like you and me,… they ‘struggle’ to earn a couple of rand on a daily basis to provide that bread or ‘pap’ for that little people. Meaning if they are going to sweep the floors of your school without ‘actual’ compensation, they will not be able to feed the little persons in their care.

Education needs a total makeover. From top to bottom. The training of teachers,… everything. We need to lower ourselves to the level of the child. We need to understand where the child is coming from,… where the child sleeps at night, what the child eats on a daily basis… and most of all what the child has to do on a daily basis to get hold of that piece of bread.
Maybe then<

carino
14 Dec 2007 03:32

Sorry guys...... I dont mean to shift the topic..

It's just that i cant find the article on Jacob Zuma.

Can someone please exlain to me what Tokyo's role in the Zuma campaign. I'm kinda lost.

WhiteSockGirl
14 Dec 2007 03:37

libra,.. that happens when you post an article within a reply. ...
It went on and on... then I explained the damn ignorance of my favorite professionals,... the state social workers.... and then I apologized to you for hi-jacking your article.

Point is who to blame: Everyone... who claims to be in the business of rescuing children.

Toodecent
14 Dec 2007 03:38

Carino .......!!

carino
14 Dec 2007 04:01

Ke batla go itse serious............................

Sorry guys...... I dont mean to shift the topic..

It's just that i cant find the article on Jacob Zuma.

Can someone please explain to me what Tokyo's role in the Zuma campaign.

Ok, gee... how do i get to that article about Limpopo..

andi01
14 Dec 2007 04:44

@Carion the article is name threshold

andi01
14 Dec 2007 04:51

@WSG, i agree with most of the things you said infact you took soem ideas right out of my head what I disagree on is the part about uniform.
I think that it is a good idea that kinds were uniform the advantages are as follows
1. A parent can buy a uniform once in 3 years
2.Kids from poor homes wont feel inferior just bcoz other kids from advantaged homes wear expensive and nice clothes.
3.In case a child is involved in his/her way back home, it is easier to identify them buy their school unifrom.

When i was growing, I am from a poor family, school was the only place that made me feel like someone, liek I belong in the same universe as other kids, beacuse no matter how rich their parents were, we still wore the same uniform at school.I hated outings bcoz thats where all of "us" kids from poor families were exposed because of our torn clothes. My mother was a doemstic worker, earning R250 a month, all 4 of us had school uniforms (which were bought from grade 2, then again in grade 5 then in grade 8), we understood our background and we accepted teh way things they were, but for christmas we also had soem clothes, even if they were not as expensive as the other kid's were.

Toodecent
14 Dec 2007 04:55

Carino use the search button on your top right and search " Lefatlha la ga Zuma"

carino
14 Dec 2007 05:08

TO ALL BLOGGARZ

For 2007 Festive season!!!

I do not know whether you have the same social responsibility like I have.
I am busy right now cleaning the world for young people. That is: Drinking all the beer/alcohol that I can drink to make the streets safe for our young children so that they do not find any drink on the streets.
Join me in this noble calling and together we can make the world safe for our children to live in.
Join the search for beer/alcohol and when you find it please drink it, you will have prevented one child from abusing it.

LETS FIGHT AGAINST TEENAGE ALCOHOL ABUSE

Lets Drink!!!!

WhiteSockGirl
14 Dec 2007 05:12

@andio1: ok,.. I can agree with that. However, sometimes I do feel that the uniform thing is somewhat a corruption scheme... it is just more expensive... and schools choose their own colors and design and then ask for tender... money making schemes. Tenders... another disaster... when I hear the word tender... I hear kick backs... corruptions... And if you are doing at the cost of children... especially the ones that are more vulnerable..

WhiteSockGirl
14 Dec 2007 05:15

@carino: you are old enough to drink?

libra
14 Dec 2007 06:02

do not know whether you have the same social responsibility like I have.
I am busy right now cleaning the world for young people. That is: Drinking all the beer/alcohol that I can drink to make the streets safe for our young children so that they do not find any drink on the streets.
Join me in this noble calling and together we can make the world safe for our children to live in.
Join the search for beer/alcohol and when you find it please drink it, you will have prevented one child from abusing it.

HAAU BATHONG

femz
16 Feb 2008 09:10

was also disturbed by the show I dont usually watch zola but that day was an exception I was shocked that her parents could even allow her to live in that place without no adult supervision and a stripper, has she no pride or let alone shame to tell it to the whole world of such wonder what was gong through her mind or maybe just maybe she was kidding she just wanted sum attention and to be seen on tv asitembe kanjalo

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