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Monster in law

Written by andi01 from the blog Monster in law on 11 Dec 2007
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Being the comedian that I once was, I would like to start this blog by sharing a joke with you guys.

“A man and his wife were traveling from the Eastern Cape to Cape Town, on the way they had an argument because the husband (being the worst driver that he is), refused to let the wife drive, so after hours of silence they come pass a bunch of dirty disgusting pigs, so the husband decides to break the silence:
Husband: (looking at the pigs, then looking at the wife) are these ur relatives?
Wife: Yep, you bet they are, they are my inlaws.

Ok, now to the point, you meet this person, you like each other, you start of as friends then the chemistry grows, you start dating, you cant leave without one another and now its time to meet the family. Unfortunately your inlaws think you not good enough for their son or daughter.

This blog is enspired by a true story, A friend of mine has been in a relationship with this guy for almost two years, the problem is the mother inlaw doesn’t approve of the relationship.

1. Have you ever been in the situation where your in-laws despise you?
2. How did you deal with the situation?
3. Is it important to you that you have a good relationship with them?
4. Are you yourself a sister/ brother inlaw (from hell)
5. Wont you feel guilty if your partner left his home because his family doesn’t like you.
6. If your family despises your partner what would you do?.

Come on bloggers, I know most of you have been affected by this, pour your hearts out and seek advice.

75 Comments

andi01
11 Dec 2007 04:04

Come on I am waiting for your replies amigos

monchooza
11 Dec 2007 04:17

i used to be a very evil step son and it worked out fine....though i dont condone it, mina i had to do it, i just did not like(putting it mildly) that guy.

spice
11 Dec 2007 04:18

1. Have you ever been in the situation where your in-laws despise you?
. How did you deal with the situation?
3. Is it important to you that you have a good relationship with them?
4. Are you yourself a sister/ brother inlaw (from hell)
5. Wont you feel guilty if your partner left his home because his family doesn’t like you.
6. If your family despises your partner what would you do?.

1 No is the other way round but they dont know it
2 I pretend to love them deeply
3 sort of because............... son
4.Maybe I dunno but knowing my boo he will never choose me over his family
5, Eish I dunno

sponono
11 Dec 2007 04:22

. Is it important to you that you have a good relationship with them?

of course..you date me then you know your competition is my mother so you betta get with the program...no matter how annoying she is...i'lll love you more for tolerating my mother..in fact most guy's decisions to eithr mary their girlfriends are influenced by how those girls realte to their mother-in-laws

If your family despises your partner what would you do?.

if my family is a loving one and I kow that they normlly recieve people well...I would really have to take a GOOD look at you girl...and chances are they might be right...but if my family has no love generally I'd just ignore their hatred of my partner...

spice
11 Dec 2007 04:25

Andile pls delete my first reply it looks shabby and xenophobic

Amazing
11 Dec 2007 04:25

Wethu mna into endazi xelela yona kudala is that ndizobe ndinga joli/tshatanda ne inlaws zam. If they like me swell, if they don't oh well. Just as long as they don't go out of their way to make my life a living hell, I'm okay not being liked by them.

andi01
11 Dec 2007 04:25

1. Have you ever been in the situation where your in-laws despise you?
unfortunately not,
2. How did you deal with the situation?
I would tell them where to get off.
3. Is it important to you that you have a good relationship with them?
I think it is bcoz if you dont that will put strain in ur relationship
4. Are you yourself a sister/ brother inlaw (from hell)
I am a sister inlaw from hell, coz that evil woman started the whole evil act
5. Wont you feel guilty if your partner left his home because his family doesn’t like you.
its every man for himself, and honestly his mother/ sister cant give him what I give him
6. If your family despises your partner what would you do?.
They cant choose for me, they used to hate my current boyfriend, but they have learnt/ forced themselves to love him, coz he aint goin nowhere, not until I say so

Pooky
11 Dec 2007 04:31

@andi Have you ever been in the situation where your in-laws despise you? unfortunately not,?????????????? i'm sure you meant to say fortunately not anhe

andi01
11 Dec 2007 04:31

@sponono, of course..you date me then you know your competition is my mother so you betta get with the program...no matter how annoying she is...i'lll love you more for tolerating my mother..in fact most guy's decisions to eithr mary their girlfriends are influenced by how those girls realte to their mother-in-laws, are you sure about this, coz me and my mother inlaw get along liek house on fire, but my boyfriend warned me that if I am that close to his mother, he will loose interest.
if my family is a loving one and I kow that they normlly recieve people well...I would really have to take a GOOD look at you girl...and chances are they might be right...but if my family has no love generally I'd just ignore their hatred of my partner...
what do you do if your family prefer your ex maybe, whom you know you just fell out of love with, then what would you do.
@Amazing- wouldnt it bother you that they love him to bits but they cant stand you, wont you ask urself what is wrong with you.

andi01
11 Dec 2007 04:35

@Pooky, I actully meant unfortunately not, my reason being i just feel so angry at how my friends monster in law, (who happens to be my sister in law), treats my friend and that good for nothing mosquito, (she calls her man), just keeps quite, i would give that mother a piece of my mind, and that mosquito 1003 punches.

sponono
11 Dec 2007 04:35

LOL@andi01 answering her questions..hi hi

andio1..why would you be fortunate if they despise you angi-understendi

someone said to me sister-in-laws from hell , have a secret pervese desire to shag their brothers so they take it out on the poor girl-friends..hi hi hi is that tru...sister-in-law from hell tell us...

Kim Possible
11 Dec 2007 04:36

1. Have you ever been in the situation where your in-laws despise you?
Nope, the first day i was introduced to Mr Possible's family we had a genuine relationship and also the fact that i was independent (Got my wheels before him,paid my own accounts and renting my own apartment) and my family background counted a lot since im from an AVERAGE religious family and , so they had nothing bad to say about me like ngidla imali yengane yabo, ngiyi Schacha etc. infact 'twas the other way around.

2. How did you deal with the situation?
i've got jealous Skwiza's the minute i buy sungtang nabo sebeyayifuna, i do my nails/hair/ go on a shopping spree ngemali yami you hear them saying nywe nywe nywe if only i can afford ukuba *uGlamour *njengawe nami, im like WTF coz they are way older that me babhizi babanga umfudumezo instead of moving their lazy a** and get proper jobs, and they must know ukuthi awubhenywa coz awunsangu ,have peep chat wif them but ungabafaki ephaketheni heyyi kunzima ukubakhipha.

3. Is it important to you that you have a good relationship with them?
Very important coz if benga'kthandi YOH YOH YOH abanye they can do everthing to joepardize your relationship, so it's better to keep them far away from you and yet at the same time have good relationship wif them only meet kuma Family Dinner,Thanx Giving nama Bifdays not ukuthi ubenabo 24/7 cos they are really MONSTER"S IN LAW

4. Are you yourself a sister/ brother inlaw (from hell)
it's a pity i dont have a brother but all my cuzzy's GF i treat them equally and i make sure ukuthi angingeni ezindabeni zabo if benenkinga unless they have asked for i advise

5. Wont you feel guilty if your partner left his home because his family doesn’t like you.
Nope becoz the bible says' indoda uyakushiya unina no yise inamthele kumkayo" so NO!!!

6. If your family despises your partner what would you do?.
I've been in that situation, the mo my 2 older sistaz would gang up me and say nasty things about my boyfriend(X) it wil be like bangenza ngimthande kakhulu and they never succseeded up until i realised that he aint the man of my dreams...

Amazing
11 Dec 2007 04:36

@Andy Not at all, they should be saying to themselves "If we raised this boy as well as we thought, why did he turn out this way, why is she with this skank."
So in a way, they are dissing their parenting skills by not liking me.

Amazing
11 Dec 2007 04:38

TYPO ALERT. I meant to say He and not She.

Toxic
11 Dec 2007 04:42

1. Have you ever been in the situation where your in-laws despise you?
Actually no and i think therein lies the problem. apparantly a lot of women whose potential mothers-in-law despise them, end up with the ring on their fingers. We that are loved just end up sending christmas cards long after our exes have walked some other chic down the proverbial aisle....

3. Is it important to you that you have a good relationship with them?

If what i said above is true, then you better have a really bad relationship with them!

4. Are you yourself a sister/ brother inlaw (from hell)

My siblings are too young to consider marriage.....i mite be though:) No illiterates for my siblings!

5. Wont you feel guilty if your partner left his home because his family doesn’t like you.

Nope, i'm not sleeping with them either way mos:)

6. If your family despises your partner what would you do?.

If it's love and it's true, no one's standing in my way!

sponono
11 Dec 2007 04:46

andi01....to answer your question of course your boo will loose interest if you get too close to his mother...(in zulu we call our mothers intombi-endala...so basically thats your first "grilfriend" hi hi hi she's the first female you were close too intimately...(not sexually though!!!)
and you dont want them getting along too much now........secondly most of us guys know how our mothers are in terms of being manipulative/influencial/needy/gossipy so we dont want a situation where some of your/my opinions will be based on mostly what she said to you/me about me/you....eish I cant explain it but its off-putting if you are suddenly bosom-buddy with my mother...(i used the word tolerate and relate because thats the extent you should go...not above that...because when you have a fall-out it will also beHUGE and I'll have to take sides....(i might NOt take yours)

if you family prefers the ex...dont worry about it...coz your feelings matter the most...They'll get over it and if they love you they'll understand your feelings (of course they'll occassionally remind you of the "perfect ex" but nawe if you're REALY over your ex..you wont be bothered but those comments

andi01
11 Dec 2007 04:47

@Sponono, kwa kwa kwa, no I dont wanna shag my brother and I neva had any problem with nay of his former girlfriends. But the problem with this one is that, she is 15 yrs younger than my brother and 3 years younger than me. She failed her matric, she has a 9 month old baby with my brother. and she is married teh traditional way. i have never seen any1 so unmotivated. She stays at home the whole day, but when i come to visit the house is like a pigstile. She fabricates stories just to cause conflict between me and my brother. I come from a very big family, we value each other very much, but when my couzins come for holidays she gets annoyed. She would say nasty things about her inlaws to other people. So thats why sponono i say, one day is one day, die poppe sal dans, ek se vir jou my broer, ek gat daai witch, dood gemaak.

Toxic
11 Dec 2007 04:51

LOL Andi!!!!!

Nawe, you must stop the frequent visits...nothing irks me more than my boyfriend's family constantly visiting us...there is only so much SPRING CLEANING i can do in a year!

andi01
11 Dec 2007 04:52

@sponono now i understand, that its good that i have a good relationship with my mother in lwa, but not too close. There are those things that only mothers know about their sons and maybe the son is not comfortable sharing. And once the girl is too close to the mother, she begins acting as teh guys mother

sponono
11 Dec 2007 04:54

Kim Possible>>ngiyi Schacha etc. infact 'twas the other way around. ...eish and you're still seeing the guy....yet umbiza ngeschaka hawu Kim thats your man right there you betta cover his ass...mantombazane niyasisho yeh!!

BTW..umnandini umfudumezo!!!!!!!! LOL..uyo'yisholo wena

Dee
11 Dec 2007 04:54

If the inlaws like you 'GREAT', if they don't 'SO WHAT' unless you will be staying at their home. If you got your own house why worry???? You are not marrying them...they will be forced to like you if your man/women loves you that much!

Pooky
11 Dec 2007 04:55

never liked my ex b/friend's family(i'm sure they didnt like me either coz they thought i was a very conceited and stuck up B***(beacause ndiyaziva ngobu lady bami ne shorii zam kulondawo and i aint afraid to show it).... they were just so damn loud and vulgor all the time and it was very disturbing, not a day went by when you didnt hear someone swearing and it was quite normal for them, using them thick xhosa swear words in every sentence like a yes & no... never really got used to that enviroment(and brothers was so keen on wanting to make me his wife one day and i would think WTF with your crazy family as my inlaws...ANGEKE BUTI... glad i got the hell out of there

sponono
11 Dec 2007 04:59

LOL @ toxic.and her annual spring cleaning......you lazy sod..you LOL...but seriously...andi01..your brother is the one who needs to wake up...you cant do nothing about it..unfortunaltey..one day (maybe)he'll realise...(unless he's liking the type of life he's living with her...which you should accept..although we love our family too much that we cant stand that they live with such creatures....but stilll

Pooky
11 Dec 2007 05:00

@andi.. oh ok ndiyakuva kengoku sana, so in other words uyarhalela nje ukhe umxelele i what for... LOL@ mosquito

Toxic
11 Dec 2007 05:03

oh, thanks Andi for posting this....eish i was dreading spending today talking abt Zim issues!

Kim Possible
11 Dec 2007 05:04

@SPOPO:ngiyi Schacha etc. infact 'twas the other way around. ...eish and you're still seeing the guy....yet umbiza ngeschaka , ayiBhuti NGIYAPHIKA not ischaka but iSCHACHA as (Unonkiloyi,uNondindwa uBishi etc) hayi bo ngiyithanda' indoda yam njalo phela ithambo lami le Gallitos not KFC LOL

andi01
11 Dec 2007 05:05

@Pooky, so you dumped the poor guy because his family was raw (krwada), haybo sisi, remember one doesnt chose his/ her family. was he treating you well or was he also uncooked.

My story

My boyfriend was uncomfortable with me meeting his mother at first, so ndaforstela njengomzekezeke, so when i did we got on very well. I figured that my boyfriend was uncomfortable because he's mother is an alcoholic and she is really not coping well financially. I think he was ashamed of his family. I showed him that what unites us is love nothing more nothing less, if ur mother is nice to me I will return the favour. The woman is very sweet, not perfect but sweet and i love her very much, now that he has seen how much we get along he talks openly about her all the time, which is good. But I was scared when he said that if I get too close to her he wont mary me bcoz i really want to marry this guy shem. I dont want to limit what i feel for this woman bcoz i want his son to marry me at the same time I dont want his son to marry me bcoz i like his mother

andi01
11 Dec 2007 05:10

@Sponono, so all in all uthi I aint the sister in law from hell but the wife is the evil one. thats what i have been thinking, and the best way is to eliminate the bad from the good. @ first my brada used to agree with everything she says (i think she put korobela in his food) but now he doesnt anymore. Oh i forgot she went a week ago to visist her mother maybe she will bring more korobela for my poor brother, oh gaaaad noooo.

Kim Possible
11 Dec 2007 05:12

Molo Pooky Luvh (((((Mwwaah))))

sponono
11 Dec 2007 05:13

ooooooohhhhh Kim Posible...sorry i didnt get it....oh kanti babek'dakelwa labodoti...hi hi hi scuz the lingo

Pooky
11 Dec 2007 05:17

@Andi01... No my love, i didnt leave him coz of ifamily yakhe... he was as raw as hell.. cheater, lier, abuser, stalker, lazy ass type of boy and i'd just had enough... wasnt easy leaving the mafacka(in my best andi01 voice)... had to get a restraining order against him kuze andiyeke... i wasnt suprised zi actions zakhe ubrothers coz i'm sure wayincanca ebeleni lika nyoko lo wakhe okgwada(hope its spelt rite)

Pooky
11 Dec 2007 05:21

Hallo Kimmy KimKim((((((((((buzum hugs & kisses)))))... where on earth have you been????? Please go to my GB kukho isuprise

MamaOmpha
11 Dec 2007 05:23

Mina Im fortunate have a mother and father in law that l get along with but hate (I now its a strong word) my two skwizas yoo, to a point where a family meeting was called because nga thuka omunye wabo. I share a flat with my boyfriend and they would just visit unannounced and when they do they have this " this is my brother's flat" attitude. I let it go once or twice and I just watched. One day I snapped. My younger brother and his girlfriend were visiting me on a saturday and my boyfriend was at wok. So this skwiza of mine came and instead of greeting us she said "uphi u bhuti". so we all kept quite and continued with what where doing. She just sat there and after about an hour, she got up, went to the bathroom where we keep out dirty clothes. She picked her brothers clothes and started washing them. Mina ngizwa amanzi a khala nje a bathroom and when I went to check, hayi man ibizi intombozane iyawasha. Ngethliziyo (in my heart)ngasho ngathi waze wangi siza. So her phone rang, i dont remember who she was talking to but I thing that person asked her where she was, and her response was "ngi lana kwa bhuti".ngi borekile ngoba ngihleni nabantu abanga khulumi name ba busy baya nyofoza, banyofoza imali yo m'ta ka ma"

WANGIHLANYISA USISI. YOOOOOO I WAS READY TO STRANGLE HER.
I got up and politely told her that I work for myself. Everything in that flat is mine regardless of who bought it. Unlike her I don't depend on a man to buy me even the gum that I chew. She must just but out of my life and go and take care of her fruits and vegetables (she has five kids by different fathers) and leave me alone. So if she finds it hard to respect me she must stay away from my flat. If she want to see her brother, ESTRADENI.

She went and told he parents that I said uyis**be because I said she slept with men to get money. A meeting was called by my in-laws and I explain my side of the story and it was decided that if she must not come to my house if she wont respect me. She has neve set foot in my flat again and we only see each other when there are family gathering.

Sorry for the long story

Toxic
11 Dec 2007 05:23

Shame Andi.....the reasons men marry women are varied. Don't just concentrate on your relationship with his mother....you gotta make him feel alive when he's with you, like you bring out the best in him, worship him, adore him, respect him, make him feel like a man, don't belittle his dreams, share in his successes, be his best friend, his best lover and initiate sex every other day.....once you've succeeded in doing this,,,PLEASE LET ME KNOW HOW!

Otherwise, tuck into a great meal and enjoy the little things that make life interesting:)

andi01
11 Dec 2007 05:26

@Pooky, kwa kwa kwa, now i feel you sister, "a branch doesnt fall far from the tree", good dat u left de mafacka. I also notice that the monster in laws are also two-faced. they like who ever the boy brings home especially if she buys staff for them and they start gossiping about the other. The mothers like that should know that they are not examplary, what are they teaching their children, that its OK to cheat on women as long as they bring chicken chunks for me the mother inlaw.

eish-bo
11 Dec 2007 05:27

1. Have you ever been in the situation where your in-laws despise you?
Ya man it was hell, he was the only son, so I think she was jealous that his only SMOMOZA loved me like I was the only girl on earth

2. How did you deal with the situation?
I hated it and still hate the old bugger coz she won - I gave in I could not take it anymore. she somehow reminded me everyday that I was never going to walk down the aisle with his son though he had paid Ilobola, had uMembeso noMbondo

3. Is it important to you that you have a good relationship with them?
You have to meet each other halfway, if they make an effort to pretend to approve of the relationship, fine but if they are mean. Take your man to Home Affairs and change surnames,

4. Are you yourself a sister/ brother inlaw (from hell)
No can never be coz i've been there done that lost the ring

5. Wont you feel guilty if your partner left his home because his family doesn’t like you.
HELL NO phela we will agree i won't force him, he would have to be man enough to stand up for me

6. If your family despises your partner what would you do?.
Let them know that people learn by making mistakes, if he is the wrong one for me then they must let me make my own decision. Habe who makes decisions for them....????

myname
11 Dec 2007 05:29

pooky LOL

Kim Possible
11 Dec 2007 05:32

@MamO: uyiskhokho shem bandla!!!! ziyadelela lezinto '"who she was talking to but I thing that person asked her where she was, and her response was "ngi lana kwa bhuti".ngi borekile ngoba ngihleni nabantu abanga khulumi name ba busy baya nyofoza, banyofoza imali yo m'ta ka ma" KWAKUMELE IMFUMBE NGOHHALAKASHA WEMPAMA!!!

awelani
11 Dec 2007 05:33

1. Have you ever been in the situation where your in-laws despise you?
My mother in law has issues with me but don't what, with my sister in law, well last yr she was going to school while staying me&hubby, when her brada wuld tok to her about anything she would raise her voice (she was 20 and he was 28), and the poor brada wuld just keep quiet, so 1 day, we sat with her and I told her dat she should never speak to my hubby (not her brada) lyk she was toking to a child, she started screaming @ poor me then told me that she & i were not related, the only thing that relates us was my son. i didn't know what to say afta dat and even my husband just kept quiet. I think the mada sent her to be nasty to me since yena she is far away.
2. How did you deal with the situation?
I told my husband to do something about her coz I wont tolerate her Sh!t. this year she is no longer staying with us. But she is bek now for the holidays looking after son, but she is leaving again in two weeks tym. and as for the mother, I only call her once a month to say hello and I dont visit her unless is with my husband.
3. Is it important to you that you have a good relationship with them?
Yes, coz if we dont get along, my husband will be cot in the middle and we won't be happy.
4. Are you yourself a sister/ brother inlaw (from hell)
Fortunately No.
5. Wont you feel guilty if your partner left his home because his family doesn’t like you. I would,
6. If your family despises your partner what would you do?.
They must have a very good reason why they don't lyk him, otherwise they must just butt out.

Pooky
11 Dec 2007 05:34

@andi.. oh and did i also mention that he'd become obsessed, posessive and threatened to kill whomeva i tried to move on with,then me, and then himself.... hayi mna i didnt want to be another statistic because of isayiloni ye raaki ... eish ndazifaka entweni kodwa, heish maar just glad its in the past

andi01
11 Dec 2007 05:34

Yhooo mamaO good for you girl, for standing ur ground, the skwiza's are too demanding luckily my skwiza is 46 yrs old and we get along, the younger brother -in -law is 21, and we also get along very well.

@ Toxic, kwa kwa kwa, best advise girl, as always, once you've succeeded in doing this but dont hold your breath on that one

Pooky
11 Dec 2007 05:46

andi... LOL @ chicken chunks... unyanisile yazi

myname
11 Dec 2007 05:50

Okey mna bethunani All my ex(es) had single parent & it was fathers. So i cant lie they all luved mi- sisters, brothers & tatayezala they wil luv mi like ndingumntana wakhona. And its the same my bf uyayithanda i-family yam so I guess im lucky bt NO WEDDING LOL

SuddenCute
11 Dec 2007 05:56

Dumelang hleng.. how r u all??

1. Have you ever been in the situation where your in-laws despise you?
the inlaws r real monsters pretenders, theyl give me the crocodile smile aminute the nxt minute, theyl b talking about me behind my back, i once heard my mom-inlaw gossiping with my older skhwiza, bathi i am only after the son's money nothing else and i dnt do house chows, my food isnt eatable, i probably eat take aways evryday n the man was staying at my flat, i was paying the rent and my cheque was fatter than his... yerrr
2. How did you deal with the situation?
the situatuion dealt with me cause am now single and i think they cursed me yaz'''(just kidding) we were engaged for four months
3. Is it important to you that you have a good relationship with them?
yes....only if they r also good phela u cant force urself if they dont like u
4. Are you yourself a sister/ brother inlaw (from hell)
nah am so good to my broda in law cause he is also sweet but if he was nasty and all that id return the favour
5. Wont you feel guilty if your partner left his home because his family doesn’t like you.
it happened and hell yeah am so happy that it happened cause they thought i was stuck up

myname
11 Dec 2007 06:02

Bt im waiting for sister-in-law next year March. I know her she is sweet i hope she wont change & nam i wont change

andi01
11 Dec 2007 06:11

@myname, yhoo sis that sister inlwa of yours is only sweet bcoz she is waiting to be married, once she is a MRS, she will show ya all her true colours, just kidding but seriously just beware sana.

Pooky
11 Dec 2007 06:11

this topic reminds me of that KFC advert of the visiting inlaws

andi01
11 Dec 2007 06:15

@ eish. bo, what did ur man do about this, yhuu i hate a man/ mosquito who just stands there and let his family treat you like a doormat.

J-Girl
11 Dec 2007 06:16

eish shem yazi,
mna when i jola i try not to get close to the family until i kno 4sho that its people that sound interesting and open minded,
mna i also wont expose myself to being abused by another family just coz ndicenge isjolo...sorry papa...angekhe tuuuu shem
most recent exboyfriend is nt Xhosa and apparently when he came to CT he was warned by the family of the Xhosa girls (apparently singo 1st grade of them witches according to them - bandebele, mashangani, batswana alles) so he fell for me and he used to tell me that it would be very hard for him to introduce me to his family; i didnt get frustrated or upset coz @ the end of the day, andisiki bona...
the mother would call, i would answer his phone vele i saw its the mom "sorry ma, j-man is not here, may i take a msg?"
she would reply " navhyna navyghuna, nhavuhau" in her best Tsonga language 1st language higher grade, of course she knew i wouldnt understand the hell she was trying to tell me and when he returns the call athi kubrothers ask loya Mxhosa your msg i gave it to her....

myname
11 Dec 2007 06:22

thanks andi01 even my mother luvs her its so strange nhe. Ndakuphoxwa nguye sana otherwise im the only daughter so i dont want her 2 feel unwelcomed

myname
11 Dec 2007 06:29

ha ha ha ha ha j-girl" navhyna navyghuna, nhavuhau"

monchooza
11 Dec 2007 06:29

mina umuntu wam uma angazwani no mamam then ke mele avaye cause my mom comes first in my life..

zozozo
11 Dec 2007 06:29

LOL @J-girl

J-Girl
11 Dec 2007 06:33

he hehake mochooza andikho sure ngawe yazi,
i hope neva to meet someone ofana nawe yazi

Amazing
11 Dec 2007 06:33

@Monchooza "mina umuntu wam uma angazwani no mamam then ke mele avaye cause my mom comes first in my life.."

Sometimes Mothers can be quite protective of their sons. Meaning no woman would be good enough, even if umntana bantu uziphethe kahle and uhu muntu o right for wena. So Monchooza you mean to tell me that you would give up the chance to be with the love of your life just because your mom didn't approve of her?

monchooza
11 Dec 2007 06:35

J-girl chaza tuu

Amazing
11 Dec 2007 06:38

I know my mom wouldn't approveof the guys I date. She's very set in her conservative ways and she doesn't understand that her trash might be my treasure. I sometimes sense that she is trying to live vicarilously trough me. To correct all the mistakes she made when she was growing up.

Pooky
11 Dec 2007 06:43

mna i was the best sister inlaw if i may say so myself.... this woman and my brother went out for 10 yrs before they got married.... she was always nice and whenever i saw my brother with another i would be the first to tell her,(before you start biting my head off for getting in their business let me just say, i was still very young ... about 10,11, that's how loyal i was to her and i always thought she was the sweetest person... until my brother married her, it was like he had married her evil twin sister, the sweet makoti just vanished... she neva made us feel welcomed at their house, and we werent really the "forever visiting family from hell"... we never really got along coz i couldnt tolarate her sh** and nami ndandingaziyekeleli ndimxelela iwhat for, glad they aint married no more(... i dont like her anymore shem maar i try to be nice to her coz of my 7 year old niece(their child) whom i love with all my heart, i dont want her growing up abone that her mom and aunt aint getting along, i dont want anything that's gonna cause ukuba akhathazeke

Amazing
11 Dec 2007 06:47

@Pooky Xhoxho uzawu yeka ukufakisa kwinto ezi ngaku funiyo.

J-Girl
11 Dec 2007 06:51

monch - jo i dont want a man who is going to make decisions of the heart based on someone outside of the situation, so what if i your mommy and i dont get along like a house on fire, does that make me less of a girlfriend than what you had hoped for? andikho sure tsana mna ngomuntu onjalo i tell you

Pooky
11 Dec 2007 06:53

ROTFLMAO@ JGirl... uthini na sana, uthi umama ukushaya nge linkhwa ekudidekisayo hi hi hi hi...

Amazing
11 Dec 2007 06:57

@J girl My point exactly. Some mothers have hidden agenda's why they refuse to accomodate the fact that you are part of their son's life. IF a guy spends his entire looking for so called blessings and approval from their parents on matters that could affect their hapiness.

Pooky
11 Dec 2007 07:03

@Amazing... hi hi hi tshotsho kum nyani... ndandi ngabantwana bandwebileyo...utrusty we squeezana somtana

Msoe
11 Dec 2007 07:12

Come to think of it mina ama-relationships i have been in there were no "in-law" I just dont get to meet with them. I also think its because mina i get very nervous when i have to meet people for the first time, ngivele ngibanike i-picture yokuthi im this too guddy too shoes but angiphaphile ngigila imihlola. I dont know but ngicabanga ukuthi when i eventually meet some in laws, if bengangithandi i will keep away from them coz i dont know how to pretend. And also they should keep away from me ngoba ngiyayivusa impama, angifuni abantu abazongibhedela ngingabanakile.

Kim Possible
11 Dec 2007 07:14

@Jgirl: Yoh yoh yoh iculdn't help it ROTFLMAO

Kim Possible
11 Dec 2007 07:17

@Msoe: angiphaphile ngigila imihlola YAZ' KUFANA NAWE LOKHO LOL!!!

J-Girl
11 Dec 2007 07:20

eish Pooky, wangishaya nga ding dong tjo

Segololo
11 Dec 2007 07:25

Andi: Are you my sister-in-law? In-laws always CHOOSE to invite themselves when you are not at your best mood and behaviour AND they praat te veel! Even on things that don't involve or need them; they have a say!!!

The brother/sister is some one else's husband or wife... get your own and feel the rubbish that gets dished up.

myname
11 Dec 2007 07:25

@msoe "And also they should keep away from me ngoba ngiyayivusa impama, angifuni abantu abazongibhedela ngingabanakile." thats why ndingafuni kushata namntu bcoz ndizophelela emjiva (jail) LOL Chisa Mpama

andi01
11 Dec 2007 07:36

@Segololo, no I am not, i wish I was though, bcoz mysister in-law, the less said ka yena the better.

Segololo
11 Dec 2007 08:22

Andi: Eish! my response sounded rude... My sincere apologies, I was just saying in-laws really know how to knock you down when you are already way below down. They seem to forget that they will also get married and have to deal with even bigger ish than what they dish up...

MamaO/Awelani: I envy your guts! I just keep quite and pray! then I log onto TVSA and chat to you guys!

J-Girl: Eish! I am part of the Tswana statistic that do not trust xhosa women around their men. Bad past experiences and I have grown to generalise too. sad and totally unneccesary but I am cautious. J-Mama probably had bad experiences too.

mabhebheza
11 Dec 2007 08:26

YHUU ...Monchooza forcelful happy inlaw relationship..poor girl ezokushada!

J-Girl
11 Dec 2007 08:33

segololo - i dont believe u, i dont believe u could generalise like that but u got your own reasons and i will not be mad @ u for that but mchana it could have been any other lady that snatched your man or made a move or whatever the case was but it was just unfortunate it was umXhosa that did that,
shem ke its their tough luck to exp. that. I also felt J-Mama is just bitter towards baXhosa but I thought not to entertain it coz it will just make me feel sour towards other ethnic groups, unnecessary stress.

Msoe
11 Dec 2007 08:54

@MamaOmpha- Hhu ntombi i think you handle thinds well. Well done gal i support you every step of the way. Maybe you can give me tips on how to deal with untolerable in laws, so that i will have ammunition when i finally get to meet some.

@myname- singakhathala phela ilezi zinto. They think they can pee on our heads and then expect us to keep quiet just because sincenge umshato. Shame i wont take s**t from anyone.

@Kim- Ayi suka wena vele ngiqinile ngiyazazi phela mina ngiyintatheli i need to be out there, are you attending the 5FM and Savannah do at Joe Kools this Saturday? Phela ngiyakwazi "uthanda kabi ukubhenga" (in DJ Sbu's voice)

eish-bo
11 Dec 2007 09:07

@andi1

Angihlanyi kancane I told him to go screw his mama....of course he thought I was being weak by letting go.
everyone has ama limits ANGIQHUMANGA ETSHENI...when we meet in church we don't even shake hands so i stopped going to church too much drama and anymosity he he he

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