Stages in one's life

Written by libra from the blog BECAUSE I CAN ... on 16 Oct 2007
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I turned 25 two weeks back and recieved an e mail from my sister with advise on money,having children,career,men,self love and appreciation, we have always spoken about these issues but not in such a deep manner she even told me that i should learn from the mistakes she made in her life and try with all i got to aviod them

so i started thinking back of all those things that people say when one reaches a ceratin stage in thier life.

This is what i remember

At 13 - 15 i was told about being ready for my first menstruations and to be careful of boys- i was not sure what they meant but i soon realised cos as soon i had my periods, boys started showing interest in me. this is also the time when most girls fall ofloosing thier virginity and for some falling preggies

At 16 - 20- i was not a troubled teenager but it was at this point that i became withdrawn and went through all those phases-things like friends setting u up with boys and convincing me it was cool to have sex- i am sure many can relate. it was at this time that my school marks dropped from 80+ to 40-. it is was a hectic stage and i still wonder how i made through all that pressure of "wanting to belong" and all the other pressures.

At 21 - 24 - for the first time i was allowed to be my own person (still making mistakes) i would make decisions about my life on my own i entered adulthood and my mother and sisters starting treating like an adult (and i could finally choose my own clothes at shops.)things we said to my face not the "beware of Boys " but u will be infected with Aids if u sleep around.i would have been glad if the things they were telling me now we said when i was still 16-it could have saved so much drama.

Now at 25 i have my head in the right place and though i still recieve advice now and then, i now trust myself enough to make decisions and even though i still make mistakes-i accept them and learn from them.i love who i have become and am glad for all the mistakes that i have made cos they build me into being the person who i am.

do you think you would done things differenlty if things were said to you at the right time and do you have regrets about the decision you took bcos we were not informed?

8 Comments

KeleFabulous
16 Oct 2007 04:05

per you q: to think of going back and changing things....no matter if i feel i did something i shouldn't have or i haven't done some things i should have at some point in my life...i always try NOT to say if i could go back i wud...life is a journey and u shud as much as possible enjoy the ride and stop worrying about the past, rather concentrate on the future. your past is your past and really u shud learn from it and live life because of it!

advice i got growing up...it's alot jo and i can't think right now (work!) i got an email the other day about hiv (will not copy/paste don't worry) and it was so enlightening...i mean we know all about the disease but someone was bright enuff to write as if they were it and it was human. i was blown by it!

happy b'lated b'day gal! myne is coming soon and i hope someone will write a blog dedication about it *hint hint* lol

Sis Dolly
16 Oct 2007 05:10

Happy belated birthday! As Kele has said life is a journey and nothing should be a regret. However, there are times where I feel I should have done things differently, you know buying that pair of shoes when you know you cant afford them, those kind of regrets but they also make life such colourful because you're striving achieve a certain independance.

Family and friends would always want to see you happy and making wise decisions but sometimes they dont neccessarily have all the answers. The best one can do is live life to the fullest.

Zazacious
16 Oct 2007 05:24

I believe ukuthi if you have the right principles installed at a younger age you cant go wrong.What always kept me in check(im only 21) was thinkin about how my actions will impact on my grams&Aunt(they raised me when my moms passed away)D prob nneh usually is that we loose ourselves and start living our lives according to sum1 elses,forgettin gore we dont all come fom the same back-round.You know

Lady D
16 Oct 2007 05:44

The truth of thr matter is you are bound to make mistakes as you grow up,the most matured thing to do is to learn from such mistakes but better still learn from the mistakes committed by those around you.I totally do not believe in regretting or you using words such as if i could turn back the hence of time.I believe that everything happens for a reason,the challenging part is being able to figure out the reason for your predicament and what you've learned out that,then move on wiser and better.Whatever decisions i made in the past,be that they were good or bad ones potrays the kind of person i am now.

I am wiser because of those mistakes and i am stronger because of the challenges.My grnma used to say'go gola go tlhogola go bona dilo ag go fele'(the older you grow the more difficult things get''

Tshd21
16 Oct 2007 10:48

Faith Evans said it better when she sang...
If I had to do it all again...
I wouldn't take away the pain, 'cos I know it made me who I am...
If I had to do it all again..........*in my best voice!*

There are some things I told myself I would never do, but found myself in a position where I chose to do them because I thought they were the right choices at the time. Yes, I do regret them, but I know if I didn't do them, I would be a totally ly different person today.. My mistakes made me the strong individual that I am. They showed me a better perspective about life and prepared me for bigger challenges. So going back and changing everything will in a way mean erasing Tshd21 and creating another different individual.

Someone once said: life is like art, only in it, you do not have a chance to erase and re-paint.... You can only learn to be a better person...

Ke lame leo, Pula!!!

azHOT
17 Oct 2007 03:23

i could have been more informed but if i could i would do it all over again because i love the person i became because of my past mistakes... i'm smarter, wiser and stronger!!!! i know now what i should have known and i'm right where i should be!

Porche
17 Oct 2007 04:37

I would not have done things differently bcoz as I was growing I appreciated the advice I got from my elders and teachers BUT what drove me was the things that I wanted, my happiness & my dreams (boy did I make mistakes...got into trouble, cried myself to sleep) did I mention fun was always in between everything and that is called LIFE. My mistakes shaped me to the woman and the mother I am today, I find myself laughing at a very painful situation bcoz I know where I have been and how strong I am and that I am willing to go through anything (mistakes included) just to be here alive, looking at my princess eyes and hearing her laughter.

monwy
12 Nov 2007 02:24

fortunately enough for mi, i grew up in a christian home where all people are born again except mi. i'ven't done bigger mistakes that i regret. and life is smooth so far

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