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If there is any lesson from Pitch is that when they call it a secret pin code, the bank actually means it. Love has nothing to do with it, unless you are dead and they need to get your wealth, am sure a death certificate may help reveal the pin code.

Pitch said “I didn’t give him my pin number as the observer, he happened to know it cause I used to go with him to withdrew money and we will be together at the machine and he end up knowing it as it used to happen many times.” Granted mine was the most stupid of decisions since I actually gave the person my pin, since I had a couple of other bank accounts and the one given out was just what I like to call “a house budget account” which I use for my monthly bills.

What is clear is how much a paper can either strengthen your commitment or break it, depending on which paper. But the most important is cash. Either the guy has a problem because his girlfriend or wife earns a lot; or you get those dates who just want to spend your money.

Pitch continues by stating that “I went to get my bank statement and saw some access of the money that I know I didn’t make. I didn’t ask him as I didn’t want to cause a vibe, rather I showed him my statements and kept on asking him if he remembered me making such a transaction with him and he said no.” Although the guy later confessed and paid her back, the interview gives a better understanding of Pitch and the situation.

My policy is simple, after my experience. I don't care how cute, sexy or hot. I perform a full background check... and I am not talking about the ass.

To read Pitch’s complete post CLICK HERE



1. How long were you with him?
1 year, six months

2. Did you trust him at the time?
I did, whole heartedly, as you can see. We were in a relationship for over a year and I use to leave my stuff lying around and no funny business ever happened before.

3. Where you living together?
No, we just use to stay close to each other and have only sleep overs

4. Did your friends know him?
Yes they did, and they got along well with him.

5. What is it that you loved about him?
He used to treat me like a princess and with respect and the fact that he used to respect my home and not just showing up whenever he feels like.

6. Was the relationship good? And if so what part?
It was good though...I think the spoiling me rotten part was great.

7. How long did it actually take to discuss the money after you got your bank statements?
He came the same day and as I had said that I was scared to ask him and he left again. He came back the same day and that’s when he told me that he has something to tell me. You really don’t want to know how much I have cried when he actually told me that day. He was the last person I expected him to do that.


8. Were you ever intimate by him during his denial phase, prior to the confession?
It all happened the same day so that part was not included that day, but we were before i found out the bank statements.

9. Did you ever think it was him during that phase?
He was the first person I suspected as soon as I realised on my ATM slip that it has to be him as he is the only one who knows my pin number and had access to my room. I actually confirmed it when I got the bank statements due to some food which where bought at the airport and I did remember that he was in the airport the same day.

10. When he confessed, how did you feel at that moment?
I was very disappointed and hated him at the same time even though he was apologizing and trying to make me feel better that he will pay out the final amount.

11. Do you think when he confessed, it was the actual hour the relationship ended?
No It was not, even though I felt like calling it a day but I just thought at the moment that should I throw everything I have worked for with him because of this one stupid mistake as it was for the very first time he did something like that.

12. How did you feel when he only paid half of it? Did you ever confront him?
He was the one who told me that half of it was paid out as I didn’t notice on my statement as I was concentrating on the missing money only and I checked and found out that it was actually returned back the same day it was withdrawn.

13. How did you feel when he was all gone and you started dating again?
I became very insecure of my movements with men again.


14. What is you level of trust now?
It’s still difficult to leave my bank card lying around or my handbag...I am very insecure even though I don’t talk about it.

15. Do you now have issues with money in relationships because of that experience?
I do, especially if my man is borrowing money for some crisis. It becomes an issue for me as I just feel like he wants to use me though I don’t tell him because I don’t want to chase him and I do give him at the end.

16. What would be your best advice to anyone in a relationship about money?
Just be careful regardless of how you see your man as a gentleman...money has a way of bringing the worst to a person rather not even try to tempt them by leaving your money or giving your partner the pin number. It’s good to trust each other as trust is the foundation of a relationship but just don’t tempt your partner.

17. What was it like after the first and second break up?
It was hard but life is just about accepting and moving on with no grudges to anyone.



18. Why did you decide to take him back?
He seemed genuine to what he was telling me that he is sorry and i just realized that it was for the first time he did something like this before.

19. How does it feel when you see him destroyed by his own doing?
I do feel pity for him and I do think of him sometimes but I have already moved on without holding grudges to him and I’m getting on well with my partner so its just his problem alone as I have nothing against him.

20. Did you ever find “normal” love? If yes - do tell, if not – tell us why!
With love you will never know observer but I think I have it this time and hoping for the best for myself.



By The Observer

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