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The Observer: Interview with Lindz

Written by TheObserver from the blog TheTVObserver on 02 Dec 2008
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Lindz left me going WOW! As displays of an impressive strength which most will envy. In the most trying of circumstances relating to tricky terrains called  relationship. But with Lindz she refused to let her situation define her.

In this interview I found a person who is practical with their thoughts as well as emotions and spiritually.

This started when Lindz posted this comment: “Hi guys my story is I dated this guy and we both didn’t have cars. I then decided to get myself one and he convinced me to get something really expensive and we would go 50/50 on the payments even though the car would be mine.”

“I was so excited I started looking everywhere for my perfect Mini cooper, spoke to dealers and was about to start the process then I found out he was cheating on me and we broke up. I’m so glad I didn’t buy the car soon enough. I eventually bought one and I’m proud to say I pay for it every month and there is no man involved.”

That brought us to this 9th interview in the series which I believe you will find inspirational and fascinating as I did.


----- THE INTERVIEW -----

"The Observer interviews Lindz"
For The Observer's Love Story Series

How long were you together?
Together for a year and a half

How much did you love him?
I could see myself being married to him.

How did your decision to get a car come about?
I live in the South and he is in the North. We loved going out and using public transport was not convenient sometimes

When he offered to pay 50% of it, did you believe he was going to honor it?
Yes I did. We had spoken about it and he wanted me to have the car that I really wanted.



Did you have a good commitment to warrant such payment attachment?
I thought we did. We spoke about everything. We were friends for 2 years before we started dating.

Would you say you had a great relationship? If so what part?
Our relationship was good. He was an amazing man who had his faults but I could live with them. The best part about us was the intimacy we both shared for each other.

Did your friends know about your decision and what did they say?
I didn’t tell them. I wanted it to be a surprise.

How did you find out he was cheating?
He had pictures of a naked girl on his phone and he told me it was a friend who needed to use his phone because his camera was better then hers and he forgot to delete the pictures. I believed him. Then there were the late night calls that he refused to take when I was around and the ultimate was his holiday in Cape Town that made him sleep with his ex. That was the last straw for me.


What did you do after?
I cried and was hurt. He tried to apologize then flipped the whole thing on me like I was the one who caused him to cheat. In the end I was feeling bad and tried to get him back and he was really nasty to me until a friend of mine opened up my eyes to what was really happening.

Have you had the chance to meet the guy ever since?
I’d rather not. He has been calling and sending sms’s telling me how much he misses me but my heart is no longer there.

Are you now involved?
Yes. I am seeing someone right now and he is amazing.

What is your worse fear about your current relationship?
My worst fear is him cheating and it seems we both share that fear. We know what havoc infidelity can cause to a relationship. So we want to stay away from that.


Based on your experience what advice would you give women?
Be independent, it’s the best thing you could ever do for yourself. Never let a man have power over you. Be in control of yourself. In order to be happy your own life needs to be complete.

What advice would you give men?
Men should not try and groom women to be what they want. Learn to live with each others differences.

How would you’ve dealt with him agreeing to the 50/50 arrangement only to cheat on you after 3months of payments?
I believe in a miracle working God and knowing my father, he would have never let me go down that path. I think that is why I’m not bitter “for I believe this was God’s perfect plan for my life”

Would you have left him even if it meant you loose your mini cooper?
Yes I would have left him. I know what I want and need and if it’s not working, I can’t stress myself trying to fix it.


What is the most memorable part of your relationship with Mr. Mini?
Meeting his family! He really loved them and the warm reception I got from them every time I saw them was wonderful.

How did it feel when you got your own car all by yourself?
I couldn’t sleep. I kept waking up to check if it was still there. I was so proud of myself and what I had achieved.

Did you ever find “normal” love? If yes - do tell, if not – tell us why!
I have found extraordinary love. The man I’m with now gives me the space and freedom to explore myself; dreams and ambitions. So I can be a better woman for myself and in turn I’m able to be an exceptional woman for him. He is indeed the miracle of waiting upon the Lord.



----- THE END -----

This interview was conducted and published with the consent of Lindz, a tvsa.co.za member.

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18 Comments

Centrepiece
02 Dec 2008 08:41

All I can say God is alive. He has a plan for each of His children, all we have to do is trust in Him!!

Be independent, it’s the best thing you could ever do for yourself. Never let a man have power over you. Be in control of yourself. In order to be happy your own life needs to be complete.
This is what I intend doing with my life, Thanks Lindz

TheLady
02 Dec 2008 08:46

Lindz-your surname starts with an F?

You know God works in mysterious ways-ngabe nje you are stuck ne cooper ongakwazi ukuyikhokhela manje!

Best-Achiever
02 Dec 2008 08:50

I believe in a miracle working God and knowing my father, he would have never let me go down that path

WOW Lindz ..... i love this line above

TheLady
02 Dec 2008 08:56

"Baby...meet my family' TheObserver at shim's best...

TheLady
02 Dec 2008 08:46

Lindz-your surname starts with an F?

You know God works in mysterious ways-ngabe nje you are stuck ne cooper ongakwazi ukuyikhokhela manje!

Best-Achiever
02 Dec 2008 08:50

I believe in a miracle working God and knowing my father, he would have never let me go down that path

WOW Lindz ..... i love this line above

TheLady
02 Dec 2008 08:56

"Baby...meet my family' TheObserver at shim's best...

pitch
02 Dec 2008 10:41

Wow Lindz! what an inspiring message you left us with. Indeed its good to wait upon the Lord. Our God is faithful and we knows what we want though He knows what we need and what we need and what we want is not the same thing. Our God is faithful amd if we keep on praising the living God, everything is possible with him.
 
Observer: Again i want to say big up to you, you know your stuff and i just like how you play with technology designing that colourful pics....keep up hey

pitch
02 Dec 2008 10:41

Wow Lindz! what an inspiring message you left us with. Indeed its good to wait upon the Lord. Our God is faithful and we knows what we want though He knows what we need and what we need and what we want is not the same thing. Our God is faithful amd if we keep on praising the living God, everything is possible with him.
 
Observer: Again i want to say big up to you, you know your stuff and i just like how you play with technology designing that colourful pics....keep up hey

belz
02 Dec 2008 19:52

Be in control of yourself>  True, Its the best thing you can do for yourself.

I couldn’t sleep. I kept waking up to check if it was still there.> LOL!!!

I have found extraordinary love> i cant wait for the day i'll say this, it seems so unreal in this world that i live in.

belz
02 Dec 2008 19:52

Be in control of yourself>  True, Its the best thing you can do for yourself.

I couldn’t sleep. I kept waking up to check if it was still there.> LOL!!!

I have found extraordinary love> i cant wait for the day i'll say this, it seems so unreal in this world that i live in.

let baby
03 Dec 2008 14:12

Liz u have survived and u became much more stronger and now u have someone who respect you and loves u for who u r not wat u r or wat u have... All the best dear

let baby
03 Dec 2008 14:12

Liz u have survived and u became much more stronger and now u have someone who respect you and loves u for who u r not wat u r or wat u have... All the best dear

LindZ
03 Dec 2008 14:59

HI Guys thanks for all the positive comments i got, it really made stronger than i really am and i knw this is not the end there are still many more things that i will still achieve. 

Best Achiever: Thank you for the interview when i read over it i realised how much the Lord loves me and im so glad to be the apple of his eye. 

The Lady: My surname starts with an F yeah.... do we knw each other?

Centerpiece: im glad i was able to inspire just a fraction of your life yes be in control of your life and let God do the rest is my motto. 

Pitch.... i couldn't have said it better. 

Belz.... im still in wow mode everytime im in my car LOL.... your extraordinary is on his way he blow blow you away.

Let baby.... Thank you very much.

TheLady
03 Dec 2008 15:09

We know each other well..in fact I know both the guys you are talking about.

 

BTW you owe me a ride on uKhanya...see how much I know you? LOL

Best-Achiever
03 Dec 2008 15:17

Best Achiever: Thank you for the interview when i read over it i realised how much the Lord loves me and im so glad to be the apple of his eye. 

would love to tke the credit but The Observer would sue me

LindZ
04 Dec 2008 07:28

LOL hahah blond moment right there. The obsverver i owe you lunch please forgive me.

LindZ
04 Dec 2008 07:30

TheLady...... stop playing games come out with it who are you and for that angeke ugibele uKhanya.


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