On Relate last night there were two girls who are sisters, one is Akhona and the other is Andiswa.
Basically these sisters fight a lot to a point were they bring out knives for each other. Akhona is older than Andiswa. They also have an older sister who is the one who wrote to Relate for help to solve the problem between Akhona and Andiswa because the family has failed to solve it
Their mother is apparently incapable of solving Akhona and Andiswa’s problem because in the end it always seems like she is siding with Andiswa. I am not really sure when or how the problem between the two girls began.
But Akhona said she and Andiswa always fight, even about the smallest things. They always swear at each other and Andiswa does not respect her as an older sister. She says whatever she likes to her and that's when she just loses it and beats her up, then they start fighting.
She says there was a time when Andiswa came home and told her that they (her and other residents of Braamsfontein) killed the father of her child. Andiswa said to her she looked at him in the eye and threw a stone in his face and poured paraffin on him.
Akhona says she couldn’t believe Andiswa could do that to the father of her child. Apparently Akhona’s boyfriend was a thief so residents of Braamsfontein beat him up and killed him on the spot and Andiswa participated in that.
Akhona also said that her mother and Andiswa are always against her. They always accuse her of everything that goes wrong in the house. They’ve even accused her of stealing imali yamabhiya that her mother sells.
Because she does not work they even say she eats too much and finishes food. She says when she cooks they tell her that she cooks too much food and wastes food because she does not buy it.
She says they’ve even told her that one day they will put poison in her food because she likes food too much. I’m not gonna lie, I laughed at this and Mam Angie had a smirk too - she wanted to laugh but held it.
Akhona said she has never lived a happy life at home since she came from the Eastern Cape and Andiswa once told her that they were happy when she was not around.
Akhona said Andiswa will never respect her because she is not getting anything from her. Akhona said she thinks that if she was working Andiswa was going to give her some respect.
Andiswa initially refused to speak to Mam Angie, saying people are now going to know their problems. They will be seen on national TV by everyone, even someone who didn’t know that they fight - now they will know.
Andiswa said everything that Akhona said was all lies! She never killed the father of Akhona’s baby. It was people of Braamsfontein who killed the father of her child. Yena she just watched as he was killed.
Andiswa even said to Akhona “ude usuke ngapha uzolilela leya nja leya yhuuu!
” Yheyi Andiswa was on fire she even repeated how much of a dog Akhona’s boyfriend was and even said their mother can testify to that.
Andiswa said she lied to Akhona when she said she also participated in the killing of Akhona’s boyfriend. She also said Akhona must not pretend to be some sort of a saint because she also had an affair with her boyfriend. Akhona said she had an affair with Andiswa’s boyfriend because she was angry at her for what she did to her boyfiend.
Andiswa said Akhona does not do anything for her but yena she buys her stuff. She even bought her shoes with the money she got from her boyfriend and took her to KFC.
Akhona said Andiswa didn’t just buy her those R30 sandals. She asked Andiswa to buy her those sandals and promised she will pay her back when they get home.
She said Andiswa then borrowed R50 from her and never returned it showing that she was taking the money she bought her those sandals with. Andiswa said Akhona sometimes dishes little food for her and sometime she goes to bed still hungry.
Andiswa said she also didn’t have it easy their mother also treats her the same way she does with Akhona. Akhona must not pretend like she is the only one who is mistreated by their mother.
Andiswa said they don’t know their father. They have never seen him and they only met their mother in 2001 because she left them when they were young.
Andiswa refused to do Mam Angie’s 3 tasks. So Mam Angie gave Akhona 3 tasks, to ask their uncle so sit down with them so they can talk about this problem with their mother, go to POWA for counseling and then have the family meeting.
She did the first two tasks. The uncle said he has always wanted to sit with them and their mother so they can talk about this problem but Andiswa is disrespectful. When she talks to older people she talks to them like they are of the same age as her and her mother does not reprimand her.
Akhona with uncle
Akhona and Andiswa’s mother refused to talk on camera but agreed to talk to Mam Angie off camera. It turns out the mother has given up on solving the issue between her daughters but said she will try talk to them.
The older sister said she would really love for this problem to be solved because they don’t live a happy life. This has also affected her badly.
What I figured is that Andiswa has no respect whatsoever shem. Usile lamntana. She says whatever that comes to her mind. I am sure she is like that to her mother too. Their mother is to blame for their behaviour. Abaqeqeshekanga kakuhle abantwana especially uAndiswa.
The older sister, Sana
Their case is one of those unsolved problems by Relate. Relate always fails to solve people’s problems. I have even concluded that that show is all about entertaining South Africa with people’s problems while it promises to help them solve the problems.
That is what I don’t like about Relate. I think they should find another more qualified person to do the show because Mam Angie fails every week.
So guys do you fight with your siblings? What was it about? When is siblings fight bad/dirty? Have you ever fought with your sibling to a point were it needed a family meeting? How did you solve it?