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HATERS AT WORK

Written by swazzy from the blog HATERS AT WORK on 31 Aug 2011
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Why do people hate at work ? Is it because of jealousy... There is a medical term NPO meaning nil per os in other words a patient is not allowed to eat anything before they go to theatre for a certain operation. So my colleagues and I use this term in a different way, we say if someone is moody and won't speak to anyone he/she is NPO.. Nway so basically this article is about a colleague of mine whom we have diagnosed with a mental disability due to her behaviour.. Unfortunately I'm always a victim when her madness starts, she will be NPO only towards me. On 2 accounts I confronted her and we "kissed and made up"(She said she loved me and I'm a special friend but then does this to me). Now for the 3rd time she is NPO and it frustrates me because I have never done wrong by her nor does she have any substantial reason to be angry nor hate me. She became NPO yesterday and I was hurt as I'm a very sensative person and hate being in uncomfortable situations as it is very akward when you work hand in hand with someone who doesn't talk to you. And ow how can I forget she deleted me on BBM, After talking to a few of my friends about this situation I said F**K her I won't say a word. So this morning I didn't greet her nor did she and didn't speak for da day. I went through a list of possible reasons as to why she is acting the way she is except the obvious fact of being immature. So 1. I think she wants my man lol I work with him and she knows about us 2. She has had a lot of failed relationships and mine is almost perfect and she's envious 3. She is jealous because I'm popular at work 4. I'm hot and she knows it .. Kkwaaa 5. She says she has amadlozi and they probably making her do this or amadlozi hate me.. Anyway scratch my dramatic reasons above what do you guys think is the reason. I will appreciate all ur opinions and excuse the messy article as I'm using a phone.


32 Comments

COCOlicious
01 Sep 2011 07:55

Another thing people always take out their stress on me.. Why I dnt knw maybe I'm too soft or too stupid. When I asked an elder for advise on this she said, these people do this because I'm friends with them they can't just do it to strangers they wud rather be moody with somebody who will still be there when the moods are gone. How true?

Sobza
01 Sep 2011 08:05

"Why I dnt knw maybe I'm too soft or too stupid"

Need I say more, you said it yourself

Mokema
01 Sep 2011 08:21

She is a cow nd al the reasons u mentioned make other women want 2 be like u of which is impossible.

4 ur hubby/ boyfriend to take care of u(respect nd all), u must luv nd carry yourselves so others can respect u. so to hell with colleagues or friends

VusiK
01 Sep 2011 08:23

I am so fortunate I only have to deal with partners and not co-workers ... I am so intolerant of Kaaakkk !!! There is no excuse for Crap !

babye
01 Sep 2011 08:23

there is a lady i work with, she does the administration in our department, i am supposed to supervise her and give her work. she used to say nasty things to me afeter i have given her work and i will brush it off  - did not say anything, she is older than me and i used to respect her till she called a meeting saying i dont treat her well, dont respect her etc infront of my boss.

i then told her that - i have stopped respecting her and that i dont appreciate nasty comments that she make to me... 

she is always stressed to the extend of leaving her phone, keys every where. funny thing there is a collegue in the office who pushes her around like a 2 year old and she doesnt complain abt it.

COCOlicious
01 Sep 2011 08:37

@babye VusiK has said it there is no excuse for crap and we shudnt take any from no one.. So just go on about your biz at work, don't sell yourself short and don't be bothered. I'm planning on doing just that, screw them haters. There are more important things to worry about. If only my heart was not so sensitive I wudnt be affected at all nor care about any of this. Sobza tnx for your comment.. Mokema u are a darling tnx!

tshepiso
01 Sep 2011 09:22

Ja neh! I feel you babe..........

pjvv
01 Sep 2011 09:53

We are all very different, some are soft and easily hurt and some are full of sh##!t, 

I have a friend from church, or may be an acquintance. If she sees me speaking to other pple n laughing, she will ignore me at first i used to ask her why and she would tell me that she thought i had stopped loving her. Now if she speaks to me i smile and chat, chat but if she ignores me i do the same, walk past her and bump but no words.  She is slowly learning that i'm not her keeper.

So to you, Coco go to work and if the colleague ignores you do the same and show her that because she never spoke to you, you are actually having a superb day.

Sana Lwam
01 Sep 2011 10:02

 1. I think she wants my man lol I work with him and she knows about us 2. She has had a lot of failed relationships and mine is almost perfect and she's envious 3. She is jealous because I'm popular at work 4. I'm hot and she knows it .

Hay' Coco ingathi uyaziphonela too much.

pjvv
01 Sep 2011 10:10

This lady used to work next door to us, we were office neighbours, very pretty but not very educated i think. She was a tealady, so we got chatting and every morning, she would come n ask me for advice on how to treat her hubby who thought he was king of the house. Later in the year i got to know the other girls as well, so because we were mixed languages, we communicated in English, so she got offended and asked why i have become umlungu. i took it as a joke but lost it when she told me that i must never speak to her in English as she will puke on me if i were to do that.

kid1
01 Sep 2011 10:39

oh vusik u around nice to know en am still waiting for that dinner in lusaka.

@ coco life is  Good en too short to be hunding with a collegue at the office.

we are different in so many ways hence, the PHD syndrome.

and the two pipo that can pull u down re the pipo from the office en family. did you know? coz they are close en know alot about us in everyway possible. maybe u have noticed that wen you are affected at the office home will sufer en affected at home work will also suffer so thats the reason why these two places are sensitive.

coco i dont know how you also come out wenyou see this lady, does she provok you? my advice, stay away from her en just be a humble person. only accomodate her wen it is work related. this thing pakhati kwenu is haunting you en maybe she feels she has won the battle, but hey your battle is to look en listen coz she is there to destroy en you will not even have that man in the office.

oh by the way relationships at the office not ayoba but all the best. if that relationship fails God forbid that gal will mess with you en your days will be from hell. so just ignore that watever you call her

lastly mybe you yourself need to change coz sometimes you might be the problem.

COCOlicious
01 Sep 2011 10:40

Sanalwami no MPD Its an annonimity thing incase my psychotic friend is a blogger. unfortunately I messed it up sumwere... So its our little secret

COCOlicious
01 Sep 2011 10:42

Pjvv we seem to be in similar situation and I admire you coz you seem to be stronger then me thank u darli

Favoured
01 Sep 2011 10:44

"Why I dnt knw maybe I'm too soft or too stupid"

Need I say more, you said it yourself

Sobza tnx for your comment..
 

KWAAAAA KWAKWEST

Agree
01 Sep 2011 10:47

Shame I feel uu,

Our secretary at work once snooped in my office & saw my payslip and went mad because of the numbers she saw.

She went as far as spreeding a rumour at work that im going out with my boss bcos of whta i earn, im qualified with masters bt she doenst understand that.

My motto is: WE SERVE AN AWSOME GOD AND HE WILL NOT LET HIS CHILDREN SUFFER. IF GOD IS FOR ME WHO CAN BE AGAINST ME.

 

Sana Lwam
01 Sep 2011 10:47

hahahaha....hay' Coco u are something else shame....lol. The "MPD" secret is safe with me....lol

babye
01 Sep 2011 10:56

i have resorted to only talking to her on work related issues, the rest i cannot help her even if she has car problems. i am really dissapointed in her behaviour. 

the issue at work is old people (age wise) think we youngsters have no manners and dont respect them and they dont want to take orders from us

monchooza
01 Sep 2011 10:57

okay clearly my advice is not appreciated...mara that dont mean you must delete it..

why delete comments??? why

pjvv
01 Sep 2011 10:58

@ Sana Lwam...kikiki. stru, MPD

COCOlicious
01 Sep 2011 11:09

Sorry monchooza it was a mistake.. I also commented back on your advise but it has dissappered.. Well monchooza I agree with wat said she is not to be trusted but I dnt think she hates me she just has isifo senqondo and masivuka sivukela kumina.. But I will really take ur advice and stay away from her before she destroys me.. Thnx monchoo

COCOlicious
01 Sep 2011 11:11

My motto is: WE SERVE AN AWSOME GOD AND HE WILL NOT LET HIS CHILDREN SUFFER. IF GOD IS FOR ME WHO CAN BE AGAINST ME. @Agree I love this to bits thanx!! We so serve an awsome God and the one relationship we shud really stress ourselves is our relationship with God

COCOlicious
01 Sep 2011 11:12

My motto is: WE SERVE AN AWSOME GOD AND HE WILL NOT LET HIS CHILDREN SUFFER. IF GOD IS FOR ME WHO CAN BE AGAINST ME. @Agree I love this to bits thanx!! We so serve an awsome God and the one relationship we shud really stress ourselves is our relationship with God

COCOlicious
01 Sep 2011 11:17

Ncooooh Tazteeq that is beautiful .. Thanx my brada.. I will definitely do dat kwaaa nyc one.. @ kid1 I might be a problem to her because of who I am not for any other reason like doing wrong by her nope I always try my best not to insult nor offend people intentionally. So yena umona nje.. And you are ryt about work romance its a no no, but me and the guy have been together for 3years now but it was not easy at the begining but we are still going strong

COCOlicious
01 Sep 2011 11:23

@babye I think Vusik said it well there is no excuse for taking crap and I'm glad you shared your story, we shudnt take ish from no one.. So sisi I will really take my lovely bloggers advice and not care bwt no one at work. @pjvv lol you caught on the secret.. And tell me why do people think they are special, your church friend seems to be like my frendo here the moment I mingle with others she says I dnt "love" her. . Ay ! Thank you all for the advise appreciated !!!

VusiK
01 Sep 2011 11:41

@Kid1 ... I will come up just for dinner with you ... the Zambia govt screwed me and I am rather p*ed off at them. (reneged on my initiative to build them power stations ... now they are building smaller, less efficient stations at 77% more cost per MWu ... insane ... Africa feeding its cronies!) ... I'll cme up, and it's going to be just you and me, dinner, and laughter!

caro
01 Sep 2011 12:20

i also have an experince, i work with two people in my department and u knw wat all people who wants to claim are sent to me while they are busy meeting their monthly targets and doing more business , today i decided to tel them wt i think n they cant even look at me, and my office is two cubicles down the bathroom passage.they will poop at home haaaa......." to hel ka mmuso wa kgale"

COCOlicious
01 Sep 2011 12:31

Okay, you know what I dont know why you care what this colleague thinks of you or why you keep on being her friend if she does this to you vele she will keep on doing it to you not to other people because she does it then you becomes friend with her again. @ cheesa you are 100s right I will not be kissing her butt no more.. Just dat Iv got a sensitive heart not that I really care.. @ caro kwaaaaaaaaaa lol lol to hell indeed.. Let dem poop on themselves *dead*

zam.ngcobo
01 Sep 2011 12:52

Yoh I feel your pain gal..........
Mina @ work our service providers (parking ladies) copy everything I do ......from my nail color to my hairstyle ,its damn irritating . I just ignore them eventually they'll get tired of it . Yet they dont even talk to me unless they need work assistance

COCOlicious
01 Sep 2011 13:01

Phela wena zam zam mgani u are hottt no wonder all dat madness.. Nami I need to ignore dats all!!

zam.ngcobo
01 Sep 2011 13:07

lol thanks babe :-)

caro
01 Sep 2011 14:56

lol @ COCOlicious poop on themselves burried...!!!!!!

kid1
01 Sep 2011 16:12

@ vusik its a date. screw them something better is coming for you. oh its gonna be fun.

@coco enjoy ur work my dear thats all u need to do as for ur witch let her go wer the sun dont shine> have fun en peace am out

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