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  Generations Teasers - February 2013

A heads-up that Generations will remain airing on SABC2 until the end of the AFCON tournament. It returns to SABC1 on Monday, 11 February 2013.

Coming up ...

Friday 1 February 2013
Episode 28 (3790)

Mawande is furious when she finds out what Akhona did. Choppa's delighted when he's put in charge of a project. The newlyweds are at it again. Is there any hope for their marriage?



Monday 4 February 2013
Episode 29 (3791)


A confidential document ends up in the wrong hands. Jason desperately wants to get his hands on some Ezweni shares. Phenyo's lies finally catch up with him.

Tuesday 5 February 2013
Episode 30 (3792)


Dineo finds solace with a gun in her hand. Sofia tells Robert he no longer has a family. Senzo is shocked by Sello's revelation.

Wednesday 6 February 2013
Episode 31 (3793)


Queen isn't ready to forgive and forget yet. Akhona's forced to do something against her will. The wannabe waitress can't seem to do anything right.

Thursday 7 February 2013
Episode 32 (3794)


Just when Phenyo thinks his relationship is back on track things go wrong again. MJ gives the proxy of his shares away. Noluntu finds out her baby was with the Dlomos.

Friday 8 February 2013
Episode 33 (3795)


Choppa talks his way into trouble. Akhona is shocked to hear what Sello is up to. Senzo's devastated when the Ndlangisas leave with Mnqobi.



Monday 11 February 2013
Episode 34 (3796)


Queen and Robert are in a great mood until they receive bad news. Phenyo realises Dineo's lying to him and decides to follow her. Asanda ignores Shaun's warning and pays a visit to a 'friend'.

Tuesday 12 February 2013
Episode 35 (3797)


Ruby makes a promise to Sylvia ... but can she keep it? Isabel is not impressed that Choppa stole her ideas. Mawande is horrified by Noluntu's revelation.

Wednesday 13 February 2013
Episode 36 (3798)


People are growing suspicious of Akhona's strange behaviour. Queen is mortified when Robert has a sinus attack at Ezweni. MJ's eyes almost pop out of his head when he sees Tsalanang's sexy new look.

Thursday 14 February 2013
Episode 37 (3799)

Senzo begs Noluntu not to give his baby away. Ruby goes weak at the knees over an unexpected poem recital. Dineo is blown away by Phenyo's surprise.

Friday 15 February 2013
Episode 38 (3800)


MJ is confused when Isabel gives him the cold shoulder. Asanda is forced to make a difficult choice. Sello throws out the bait to his next hapless victim.



Monday 18 February 2013
Episode 39 (3801)


Queen gets an email which leaves her hopeful. Choppa tries to hustle money out of a friend. Mawande confesses all.

Tuesday 19 February 2013
Episode 40 (3802)


Dineo admits she lied to her loved ones. MJ is shocked by what happens when he pushes someone too far. Akhona goes snooping at the wrong place at the wrong time …

Wednesday 20 February 2013
Episode 41 (3803)


Babalwa wants to give Mnqobi back to Noluntu. Samantha refuses to believe her life is in danger. Nicholas decides it's time to forget about his ex and move on.

Thursday 21 February 2013
Episode 42 (3804)


Phenyo is livid when he finds out he's been lied to. Choppa decides desperate times call for desperate measures. Sello hits his victims where it hurts.

Friday 22 February 2013
Episode 43 (3805)


Akhona is horrified when she finds out what's really going on at the game farm. Ruby is upset when Dineo comes clean to her. Mawande's infatuation with her grandson doesn't sit well with her children.



Monday 25 February 2013
Episode 44 (3806)


Samantha reels when she realises what she will have to do for a 'client'. Nicholas receives a phone call which leaves him shocked and worried. Senzo is floored by Noluntu's proposal.

Tuesday 26 February 2013
Episode 45 (3807)


Detective Pokane pays a visit to Sello's game farm. Isabel isn't impressed when MJ gatecrashes her dance session. Phenyo's misdeeds come back to haunt him.

Wednesday 27 February 2013
Episode 46 (3808)

Mawande's heart breaks as she says her final goodbye to Mnqobi. Noluntu is only getting started with her revenge ... Asanda believes she might be Akhona's last and only hope.



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Reply from: just_dee Tuesday, January 29, 2013 09:26 AM
First to read
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, January 29, 2013 09:26 AM
Yepeee I'm No.1
Reply from: Boni11 Tuesday, January 29, 2013 09:29 AM
no 3!
Reply from: Muhle10 Tuesday, January 29, 2013 09:31 AM
So Noluntu is going to give away her son again this tym to strangers. What a blow for Mawande and Senzo.
Reply from: steffie Tuesday, January 29, 2013 09:31 AM
Top 5
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, January 29, 2013 09:32 AM
Finally yipeeeeeeeee # 4
Reply from: MsKim Tuesday, January 29, 2013 09:32 AM
yippiiii finally
Reply from: OlothandoD Tuesday, January 29, 2013 09:32 AM
Number 6
Reply from: Vandimerwe Tuesday, January 29, 2013 09:33 AM
Reply from: steffie Tuesday, January 29, 2013 09:36 AM
No sign of Sbusiso really?
Reply from: Manicure Tuesday, January 29, 2013 09:37 AM
ao bathong, how come um number 10, **sad face** i wanted to be the first one, aniway let me go and read.
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, January 29, 2013 09:39 AM
mmmmmm not bad....little Dinny's becoming a liar nw jst like hubby wuuu i wanda wen is S'bu coming back Wandi confesses all i wonder to wu?

lol Ntaksay o number 1 wako kae hahahaa eish u so desparately wanting to be da 1st n u starting to believe it *dead*
Reply from: Sana Lwam Tuesday, January 29, 2013 09:39 AM
So many names....I can never figure out whats gonna happen from these teasers. I guess I just have to wait for 8PM and watch daily
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, January 29, 2013 09:39 AM
So many new people.
Sounds interesting, Where is Sbuda

Uyalayeka uPhenyo I wish he could be go to jail with Sello

Akhona is still annoying shame.
Reply from: BigMama Tuesday, January 29, 2013 09:39 AM
Ok
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, January 29, 2013 09:41 AM
@Goldi I look at the time I posted at the exact time as Jus_Dee
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, January 29, 2013 09:43 AM
Has anyone noticed that Dinny is becoming a shopaholic, maybe that is what she lies about to Phenyo. Buying uncessary staff for her flat that she does not even stay at.
Reply from: Manicure Tuesday, January 29, 2013 09:44 AM
nothing exciting this month!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply from: Nongo Tuesday, January 29, 2013 09:48 AM
Top 20 not bad ke tla reng, Manicure i told u to kip ur otha eye open now u c.
lemme read now
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, January 29, 2013 09:53 AM
hahahahahahah eish lantshegisa maan
Reply from: Pastry Tuesday, January 29, 2013 09:56 AM

They did update us finally

Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, January 29, 2013 09:59 AM

Nongo askies try again next month hihihihihihihi dd you pass by da Dlomos lst 9t?
@Manicure ma thoughts axactly @ Ntaksay ok i see dat lala u can relax now

Reply from: makanku Tuesday, January 29, 2013 10:01 AM
Guys anisasho!!!!
Reply from: Nongo Tuesday, January 29, 2013 10:02 AM
feb is a bit confusing so many pple coming in there's going 2be drama serious, but this things like adoptions, kidney diseases and anyother stuff i bliev they shud be informative kana jang, i no this is a soapy but a kere they shud bring a msg on our daily lives like when a father has the right to contest adoption coz he did not consent or was pushed to agree to it. update me on this one plis i mean in real life.
Reply from: Btwa Tuesday, January 29, 2013 10:03 AM
i have been waiting, now am number 24 heish
Reply from: makanku Tuesday, January 29, 2013 10:11 AM
oh sori guys. thanx Goldi 4 letting us know
Reply from: Anothando Tuesday, January 29, 2013 10:14 AM

will i ever be number one? i've staring and waiting look where i am

Reply from: Anothando Tuesday, January 29, 2013 10:14 AM

will i ever be number one? i've staring and waiting look where i am

Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, January 29, 2013 10:23 AM

U welcome Makanku darling oskawara ngwana next time ne @ Ano askies walala wasala i agree with u Nongo its like ders no ending dey jst paint a picture after wat's vanishes into thin air mxxm 

Reply from: ust Tuesday, January 29, 2013 10:30 AM
No 30
Reply from: CINDY LAPPA Tuesday, January 29, 2013 10:32 AM
juss boring  cant blive no sign of sbusiso
Reply from: CINDY LAPPA Tuesday, January 29, 2013 10:32 AM
juss boring  cant blive no sign of sbusiso
Reply from: Tazteeq Tuesday, January 29, 2013 10:52 AM
NO Khethiwe and Sbusiso, YAWN!
Reply from: Mimibob Tuesday, January 29, 2013 10:53 AM
Joh! You guys! Top 40!
Reply from: Kimmi Tuesday, January 29, 2013 10:54 AM
Interesting month!
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, January 29, 2013 10:55 AM
lol Mimibob n u wntd 2 be no 1 eiy san
Reply from: Lollypop143 Tuesday, January 29, 2013 11:07 AM
i have been glued to my screen since yday waiting for updates, the moment i get into a meeting ba di uploader. this is unfair.
Reply from: makanku Tuesday, January 29, 2013 11:13 AM
lol lol  lol Mimi, jho them guys!!!!

ok, does anybody know what happened 2 RainPrincess????
Reply from: OlothandoD Tuesday, January 29, 2013 11:13 AM
The teasers are so confusing I cant make sense out of them. 


No Sbusiso, No Khethiwe, Akhona still annoying
Reply from: BigMamo Tuesday, January 29, 2013 11:18 AM
Are South African soapies only there to potray crime & lies at their best? Cos nothing ever comes or go without it having to do with crime & horrible horrible lies. The same goes for their marriages. They never last. Those that take longer have to go thru traumatic experiences of lies, heartbreak and criminal activities. Or is this some kind of revelation or potrayal that South Africa is in serious where crime, lies &marriages collapsing are concerned, cos storyline writers are South Africans, and they just cannot write about sthing they haven't actually come across or heard about... This is so disturbing & I don't think I'm the only one concerned.
Reply from: BigMamo Tuesday, January 29, 2013 11:19 AM
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, January 29, 2013 11:20 AM
Senzo is floored by Noluntu's proposal
Mawande's heart breaks as she says her final goodbye to Mnqobi

I wonder if these two statements are related.
Reply from: mangqezu Tuesday, January 29, 2013 11:24 AM
Hi peeps........lemme welcome myself back been such a long absence I missed y'all so much

Haven't watched tv much this month so will just have to rely on ur comments to keep up to date
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, January 29, 2013 11:40 AM
i guess will jst have to see da action b4 we can understand i dnt see anything confusing mina la *waving* hey mangqezu let me help u by welcoming u back lol

 
Reply from: MsKim Tuesday, January 29, 2013 11:42 AM
lol @ BigMamo there's only one happy couple; Jason n Senzo. cld possibly mean that only gay couples r happy the rest is a no no. marriages are collapsing for real, all the lies n crime:: thats SA for ya!..
Reply from: Galie Tuesday, January 29, 2013 11:42 AM
top 50  *sad face*

good morning family;hope you all gud today

 new faces in gen this months ..where is khethi and ngamla..
we still waiting for Khethi's story ngekhe basishiye phakathi nje..kobone must come back 
ooh Akhona eish uyadina nje
MJ gives the proxy of his shares away...to whom?????
Reply from: MaKhuu Tuesday, January 29, 2013 11:48 AM
So many people wll that be interesting

 Khethiwe and Sbuda disappeared without a trace for sure they are nt even mentioned for the whole of Feb. 
Reply from: vuxy Tuesday, January 29, 2013 11:57 AM
where is sbu and khethiwe pls, i want them back

Reply from: Deemo Tuesday, January 29, 2013 12:01 PM
hey you pple were really waiting for the teasers.so many replies,let me read n comment later.where a my manners.hw a u good pple.
Reply from: Vandimerwe Tuesday, January 29, 2013 12:04 PM
by the time Khethi comes back, she will be broke
Reply from: Xolisalife Tuesday, January 29, 2013 12:06 PM
Rhaaa ndiancama i'll neva be #1. Haini bantu! Uphi uKhethiwe? Hai andithandi kaloku ngo Ms buthelezi. I dnt gv a dan bout sbu. Interesting WoW!
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, January 29, 2013 12:10 PM
Don't worry you'll see Kethi when finishes the wine Dinny gave her, we'll see her when she goes and and asks for more
Reply from: Dipalzo Tuesday, January 29, 2013 12:14 PM
ag why are they taking the baby away i dont like gen like srsly the baby should stay
Reply from: mahumani Tuesday, January 29, 2013 12:14 PM

New faces on generation it's confusing I wish we are not going to be confused.

Reply from: semtho Tuesday, January 29, 2013 12:25 PM
Feb is boring, Akhona yena uyabhora.
Reply from: yoyozz Tuesday, January 29, 2013 12:27 PM
heheheheh ntaksay andakuhleka number 1 ey myb ithathe iskhathi i loader eyakho but isikhathi sinye

boring boring boring isikhetshi lesi habeeeeeeeeeeee safa ngu phenyo nalendoda igulayo, akhona nalentombi izibethisayo rhaaaa whr is the real story no marn
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, January 29, 2013 12:36 PM
u'll c Khethiwe wen Khuboni comes back 4 his money whc he said he'll be back after 6months so lona le batla go bona di characters tse 1? Camman
Reply from: ust Tuesday, January 29, 2013 12:40 PM
Queen le Rob la bora.Akhona I wish tht u cn find the real killers.noluntu man,ele gore o ixa ngwano kae?I was touched wen mawande gave him the prent the ada day.
Reply from: Pastry Tuesday, January 29, 2013 12:56 PM
I would also be angry if i find out that my mother and the dlomos lied and schemed behind my bk about my baby. I support Luntu in taking the baby away from them
Reply from: Original Tuesday, January 29, 2013 12:56 PM

Noluntu how can you be so cruel leave the baby with the dlomos its not like you love the child mos. Shame on you Mawande.

Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, January 29, 2013 13:05 PM
I THOUGHT AS MUCH NO61 NO NO NO FAMILY WHAT IS THIS
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, January 29, 2013 13:08 PM
askies lala @ BK aku lalwa la ekhaya *hug* hahahaha
Reply from: duckie Tuesday, January 29, 2013 13:16 PM
top 100:(
Reply from: MaKhuu Tuesday, January 29, 2013 13:20 PM
l miss Zodwa hope she will come during semester breaks kkkk
Reply from: moopa Tuesday, January 29, 2013 14:11 PM
Sello part must finish re utlwile ke yena shem
Reply from: Friend Tuesday, January 29, 2013 14:26 PM
Good day family, I'm new, pls welcome me. Sello can't act, he gets into my nerves just like that bItch Sophia. Loving Queen and her ancestor Rob...
Reply from: Woman of God Tuesday, January 29, 2013 14:28 PM
no 66 lmao

hi guys its Ayasha, my syssten didn't wanna log me in today , and it couldn't recognise my username ag..... then i was forced to re-register wit a different usrname but you guys can welcome me again lmao

le me go read
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, January 29, 2013 14:34 PM
Welcome Friend and Aya aka Woman of God
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, January 29, 2013 14:35 PM
Hey Friend long time u gud? welcome Aya ohhh shoot Woman of God tltltltltltlt tnx 4 letting us knw tho

i also love Queen n her Robby tlhe *deathby ancestor Rob, bathong Kerrie okae dese days?
Reply from: Friend Tuesday, January 29, 2013 14:36 PM
Thx Ntakssy, feeling at home but hungry, you guys don't offer new family members drinks.
Reply from: Friend Tuesday, January 29, 2013 14:41 PM
Goldi dankie, missed your craziness family. any remedy for menstrual pains? Pls Doctors I need a prescription.
Reply from: Woman of God Tuesday, January 29, 2013 14:42 PM

yooo so much drama tjo will just have to wait for 8 oclock sbc2 vele

Reply from: steffie Tuesday, January 29, 2013 14:47 PM
lollling at Aya aka Woman of God nice name. Friend welcome back you are scarce this days what is happening.
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, January 29, 2013 14:48 PM
Shame Friend try brufen it helps. You can also try drinking hot water and put hot water bottle where you feel the pain. Get better!!
Reply from: Friend Tuesday, January 29, 2013 14:54 PM
Steffie busy trying for a babygal, unfortunately, didn't conceive as planned but will keep doing it untillllllllllllllll, Ntaksay you are a darling, will do.
Reply from: Nongo Tuesday, January 29, 2013 14:55 PM
yho Aya ke gore u love this family that ud rather change ur id to beat the computer hey Woman of God o mpolaya gone foo babes.
Friend ensure that u dont get addict to drinking them evrytym u on periods othawise if it happens evry mth c a GP. i no how u are feeling @tyms o tsewa le ke sone sedidi tota (felin dizzy) and irregular heartbeat thts hw i used to feel but now im ok how it stopped cant tell coz ga nke ke nwa any medication.
malome VusiK shud we come 4 a get together @ ur hse 2nite kana u still on AFCON? o didimetse bua tlhe rra please * sulking*
Reply from: Nongo Tuesday, January 29, 2013 14:55 PM
yho Aya ke gore u love this family that ud rather change ur id to beat the computer hey Woman of God o mpolaya gone foo babes.
Friend ensure that u dont get addict to drinking them evrytym u on periods othawise if it happens evry mth c a GP. i no how u are feeling @tyms o tsewa le ke sone sedidi tota (felin dizzy) and irregular heartbeat thts hw i used to feel but now im ok how it stopped cant tell coz ga nke ke nwa any medication.
malome VusiK shud we come 4 a get together @ ur hse 2nite kana u still on AFCON? o didimetse bua tlhe rra please * sulking*
Reply from: Nongo Tuesday, January 29, 2013 14:57 PM
sorry 4 double entry free drinks on the hse @ muRuby 2nite, really i mean it, dont say a word
Reply from: Galie Tuesday, January 29, 2013 14:57 PM
Loving Queen and her ancestor Rob...God forbid kwwaakk  im finished*

@ woman of God /Aya You are welcome my sista
Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, January 29, 2013 14:57 PM
Senzo could not fight iadoption due to the fact that Luntu threatened to kill the baby.
Reply from: Woman of God Tuesday, January 29, 2013 14:58 PM
thax guys hahhahah
@friend nna  use periper kikiki but am serious i use peri-peri since my body is allergic to medicane(pain killers)
Reply from: Woman of God Tuesday, January 29, 2013 14:58 PM
thax guys hahhahah
@friend nna  use periperi kikiki but am serious i use peri-peri since my body is allergic to medicane(pain killers)
Reply from: only Tuesday, January 29, 2013 15:00 PM

hie gys! I m plsd to join u. shame queen and roby i liked their relationship.

Reply from: Nongo Tuesday, January 29, 2013 15:05 PM
Bk212303 no what i meant was in real life cant men fight in court adoption if they did not consent it moreso here Noluntu wanted to abort the baby and Senzo did not want that. kana the things happening in soapy can be an eye opener 2 some pple if the send the real mseg u get wat i mean. u no well that our brothers are oppressed by the laws here en there they dont hv much say in some things esp if they are not married, like me in my country do u no that a man can be sent to court by his wife for rape if she did not feel like "dusting" and he forces himself on coz ene o oa batla. so sum of these things @tyms they hv 2 send a posive msg to the nation, its my opinion just thinking aloud.
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, January 29, 2013 15:07 PM
Ruby makes a promise to Sylvia ... but can she keep it?
Ruby goes weak at the knees over an unexpected poem recital (14 Feb)

Does this mean Xolani will be released in Feb
Reply from: Friend Tuesday, January 29, 2013 15:09 PM
That's my lovely, you are all the best remedy, feeling better already. Nongo wow, you 1 lucky gal, no more pains, eagerly waiting for my turn, W.O.G aka Aya lol, chilliessssss!! do I take it raw or cooked? with or without water?BK I hope it was just a threat, you never know with Luntu, capable of murder.
Reply from: steffie Tuesday, January 29, 2013 15:31 PM
Friend good lucky with trying may God grant your wish and more. Can't comment on periods' pains I don't have such things, na I can even run Comrade marathon during my periods lucky me i guess
Reply from: Friend Tuesday, January 29, 2013 15:39 PM
Thx Steffie, exactly what I wanted to hear, funny enough these pains started as soon as I had my 2nd baby. Hoping they will go away for good once we conceive a gal, that's according to hubby.
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, January 29, 2013 15:42 PM

I'm making coffee, who wold like a cup? I'm generous today.

Reply from: Friend Tuesday, January 29, 2013 15:48 PM
Ntaksie make mine black and strong please, thank you.
Reply from: MsKim Tuesday, January 29, 2013 15:50 PM
*Senzo could not fight iadoption due to the fact that Luntu threatened to kill the baby.* so now he can contest there's no way she can possibly kill the baby.
Reply from: Deemo Tuesday, January 29, 2013 15:52 PM
@freind you can try that herb rosemary we use for seasoning,it works for a freind of mine.
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, January 29, 2013 16:00 PM
@Bk da baby is born now he can fight it bcos it's not yet 3months she's jst being spiteful cos Senzo neva gave in into her craziness of marriage.......@ Friend coke n despring always work wonders drl yes Ntaksay Xolani's coming back to dust off da DUST in mam Ruru lol @ Nongo ke mo ka taba 8pm ga Ruby aweeeeee
Reply from: Woman of God Tuesday, January 29, 2013 16:03 PM
hahahahha yep am not kidding FRIEND you buy cayenne pepper thn you eat it as if lyk you testing food then drink water you will tell me the results. i do have one in ma office if you were around the corner was just gonna give it to you
Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, January 29, 2013 16:10 PM
Hayibo is xolani comming back?
Family can i ask something and please dont judge me.
Reply from: makanku Tuesday, January 29, 2013 16:18 PM
@Bk, shoot!!
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, January 29, 2013 16:24 PM
we listening @ BK FYI: We dont Judge only God can judge not us
Reply from: Mimibob Tuesday, January 29, 2013 20:16 PM
Hey, le rata ditaba! Lol..
Reply from: Manelcious Tuesday, January 29, 2013 22:23 PM
Hey guys I'm new here...so we won't be seeing sbusiso dis month mmmh dats not ayoba
Reply from: Mimibob Tuesday, January 29, 2013 23:18 PM
Welcome Manelcious. Let me live up to my reputation of being a late night blogger and log in the 100th comment of day 1 of Feb teasers. Sleep tight fam.
Reply from: Kerrie Tuesday, January 29, 2013 23:37 PM
my people, long time, hau, missed you dearly!
i'm here Goldi my darling.
Mangqezu and Friend, where have you been hiding? W.O.G, kunjani sthandwa sam?

Sello looks very malnourished, he needs ukuya esibhedlela,he looks really unwell! why is Luntu contesting the will, it literally took two minutes to be read like she anticipated! is Dineo intending on opening an antique shop once all that stuff she's bought is scarce and the most sought after goods!!?
Reply from: Kandyfloss Wednesday, January 30, 2013 00:51 AM
Hi everyone... Need your views on this one. In community of property VS out of.. in marriage. Quote the bible if you have to..
Reply from: NoMdazB Wednesday, January 30, 2013 01:35 AM
Hi all. Awake at this time like a certain girl called Mimibob. 4 year old coughed until he vomited. He's fast asleep now and I'm not. @Kandy, I am married out of community of property. Our decision had nothing to do with greed or divorce. Neither of us is rich- not even well off. I own a small business so I decided that should it go under I don't want my husband affected or my babies' financial well-being. I needed to know that he would still be able to take care of us. Secondly, he can buy whatever he likes, open whatever account he wants without having to drag me to co-sign. That works for us because he tells me when he's planning to buy something but he doesn't feel like he has to ask for my permission. We live in the rural areas so it would be a impractical to travel to wherever he is just so I can sign in some application form. But then we both came to that decision together and we are good with it. You sign a prenuptial contract with a lawyer, he charged us about R500 about 5 years ago. It's a one page document, not like those ones in the USA- maybe because they own things of value. It just says that each person gets whatever they came with. And then we share whatever we had during the marriage. We haven't kept any receipts for anything because we aren't planning to get divorced. The house is in both our names and we took equal loans so each person is responsible for their debt.
Reply from: Pulchritude Wednesday, January 30, 2013 04:18 AM
hey am new
Reply from: Pulchritude Wednesday, January 30, 2013 04:21 AM
ok hi ladies u are inspiration enjoy yor day luv u all
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, January 30, 2013 08:21 AM
morning Family Pulch n Manel welcome feel free 

Ohh Kerrie darl i miss u i'm sure ubusy le dusting akere lol @ Kandy i'm not married i dnt even have a bf bt shud it happen dat i marry 1 day it will be out of like Nomd said not becos of greed or divorce @ Nomd hws da baby now?
Reply from: Ntaksay Wednesday, January 30, 2013 08:22 AM
Good morning

@Kandyfloss I don't know much about In/out of community of property marriage. But I learnt about it at school.
In community of property is very complex, everthing you do/buy you need consent of your husband. Let me give you and example of Dineo and her flat. If they are married in communty of property with Phenyo and Dinny wants to sell the flat (assuming that she bought it and not renting it) and Phenyo does not want her to sell, then she cannot sell even though she had t he flat before they got married. Now it belongs to both of them.
Another example if one spouse dies and he/she had debts and did not have money, the living spouse pays the debts even if it means selling immovable property you both owned e.g house

Out of community of property can be divided into two:
1. Out of community of property where what's yours is yours and what's mine is mine. If one spouse dies and he/she had debts, it is not your problem
2. Out of community of property with Accrual. here you draw up your own contract (with the lawyer involved) and decide what you want to jointly own. In case of divorce and you had less property/money and your husband has more money/assets than you. You can claim the difference btwn his assets and yours.
Reply from: stixola Wednesday, January 30, 2013 08:22 AM
new characters...cant wait!
Reply from: sthemby Wednesday, January 30, 2013 08:30 AM
ubuya nini uSbusiso?
Reply from: Nongo Wednesday, January 30, 2013 08:46 AM
Morning all.
gale robale le lala mo!!!!!!!!!!!. well said Ntaks thats how it shud be, but going frther can u tell me what is prenup, i do not want to assume i no maybe i dont hv the rite info. Bk we are waitin since maabane maybe what u want to ask will benefit us, gud pple what u ask here and the inputs, advices are always beneficial so i may hv a prblem not nowing hw to tackle it out.
Welcome all new members we love you, are there any men in this hsehold?
Reply from: Galie Wednesday, January 30, 2013 08:47 AM
morning guys hope you all gud today..

i give up on Luntu and MJ ..bayadika suka i feel sorry for wandi shame
 
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, January 30, 2013 09:05 AM
can some! help a sister with n update ddnt watch yest pretty plssssssssssss

Nongo i think Prenup etshwana le out of bt nt sure @ Ntaksay well put mama...ee nesekelebetse Bk we still waiting *tick tock tick tock* kante Caro o kae na?
Reply from: Deemo Wednesday, January 30, 2013 09:08 AM
morning to yu all.a warm welcome to our new bloggers ,enjoy the day so as the blogging.love u all.
Reply from: makanku Wednesday, January 30, 2013 09:27 AM

@Bk, aybo don't do this 2 me, i hardly slept last night waiting 4 news , ngiyazithandela ukukhuluma shame, nixole nje bakithi!!  lol

on a serious note, i like the way u all support & advice each other without judging..like a real family does

Reply from: steffie Wednesday, January 30, 2013 09:34 AM
@Goldi

Queen & Robert
were both trying to contact each other without luck because Sofia has changed their contacts on his daddy's cellphone. Akhona phoned Sello to cut the deal that he release Asanda and she won't expose him. The PI hired by Wandi to tail Sello  was spotted with Sello tellling Akhona to back off before burnt. 
While Akhona went with Nic to see Sello in his hotel apartment Nic's apartment aws trashed posssibly by Sello's dogs.

Luntu and MJ wsa caught up in a radio catfight, DJ X provoked Luntu with the inheritance saga and put MJ on the line, not knowing it was a trap to boost his show MJ went on his erratic behavoir that no one will get his share of inheritance. 
Brother and sister aired their dirty laundry on national radio until Luntu walks out hurt by  X's manipulation. Wandi gave then a word afterwards at home. 

Khethiwe dragged Queen to Three towers to find Rob only to be scared and turned off by Sofia saying Robert has left the country. Dineo bumped into Sello at Tsalanang and she froze. Phenyo promise dto that Sello would never hurt her again. 
It is in headline fashion I did not see much especially the first part, anyone can add what i missed.
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, January 30, 2013 09:44 AM
ohhh mhwaaaaa Steffie thank you u such a darling 

hw ddnt knw da Wandi hired a PI to follow Sello tjooo eish Akhona mara mxxxxm, 

Poor Queen haai kante wats is Sofia's prob myb she's no getting dusted dat's y hahahahah
Reply from: Friend Wednesday, January 30, 2013 09:46 AM

A lovely cloudy, cool morning to you all ,new family members, i welcome you and hopeyou will behave and follow this house rules, lol. thanks for a variety of prescriptions,mwaaaah, feeling a lot better today.

We are married in Community Of Property even though i did not contribute a penny towards our paid up house it's in my name and his, have a few accounts in my name despite his dissapproval. If i die first (which is highly unlikely) he will carry the burden of paying them up. Whatever we have belongs to us, incase of a divorce will sell especially the house and share equally.  I pray that our marriage lasts forever despite its imperfections.

Reply from: Ntaksay Wednesday, January 30, 2013 09:48 AM
A prenup agreement is similar to out with accrual, it is an agreement btwn u an ur partner,  in case of divorce (I'll give you a practical example) you may agree that should you divorce a mother will take the kidz and the house (with the furniture inside) and the husband can have the car(s) and you are going to share ur savings equally.
Reply from: Ntaksay Wednesday, January 30, 2013 10:01 AM

Sofia is really irritating, she keeps feeding his father sleeping pills to keep him as far away from Queen as possible.
Queen should have shouted when Sofia did not let them in, Rob would have heard but a soapie will always be a soapie.

Reply from: MsKim Wednesday, January 30, 2013 10:03 AM
Queen does really like Rob after all. Eish MJ & Luntu yooo! i feel for Wandi. wonder wat Caleb was thinking u don't do that to yo kids really. they myt end up not talking to eachother ever becoz of his stupid decision. and Akhona that Sello guy will rape u he's sick stay away from him n stop this stupid story isn't going anywer. good morning Ladies and Gents. is Sbuda ok in real life? dd he get the kidney?
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, January 30, 2013 10:18 AM
i have to disagree with u der MsKim i think Queen really like Rob why wud she go s far s she's doing jst to be with him n ddnt she take da money wen dat lil bitch Sofia offered her?

Reply from: Woman of God Wednesday, January 30, 2013 10:26 AM
hey Kandy will come back soon an explainit bibically am still busy with something

am Good kerrie
will comment later
Reply from: Friend Wednesday, January 30, 2013 10:27 AM

Jackson must dust Sophia to keep her away from Queen and Rob, her dad can take care of himself especially with Queen on his side, she will kill him with those sleeping pills and claim Queen did it.

Reply from: makanku Wednesday, January 30, 2013 10:32 AM
@Bk, ufuna ukubonani kanti??????????
Reply from: Vandimerwe Wednesday, January 30, 2013 10:40 AM
queen of dusting is in the house now we will see the dusting word time and again

morning friends
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, January 30, 2013 10:43 AM

Jackson must dust Sophia to keep her away from Queen and Rob.. cudnt agree with u mo on dat 1 Friend

hahahahahahahah Makanku u killing me hey relax BK will comment wen she's ready myb she's busy ao

Reply from: Galie Wednesday, January 30, 2013 10:52 AM

C.V
I is SiviweNdudane.I am apply to my job of security guard to you boss in you company shoprite.I complete to std8 examination certificate in  1997.
my skool malikhanye high school very good.I am 27 ears to be born of age and no mallied and no childish.my father is dead long time ago,and my mother marry in KZN country there 10 years now.no see she so  nobody know to help me.
my certificate is just sitting home for itself.but passes in maths,geography,science and all subject fail in english because of mkhize teacher teaching me is jelas of myself.me wear expenses cloth than mkhize teacher.

i here people you want security guard to you company and tell you i am one of that job.Expirience for 2years.i shot thief dead i want to join the company with my AK47.
Please consider my application careful and call me anytime,because me have cellphone.I am very honest and can speak english free of charge..please remember english is not our mother land ..

Reply from: Friend Wednesday, January 30, 2013 11:04 AM
queen of dusting is in the house now we will see the dusting word time and again

Who is she?

Galie. lol and please grit your wife and childrens.......,
Reply from: Ma2ly Wednesday, January 30, 2013 11:22 AM
Reply from: makanku Wednesday, January 30, 2013 11:26 AM

@Goldi lol, ngiyamdlalisa uBk but ngyazithanda vele izindaba hahahaha

Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, January 30, 2013 11:28 AM
lol Queen of Dusting ke Kerrie *shhhhhhh dnt tell any1* lmao
since 1 Galie
Reply from: MsKim Wednesday, January 30, 2013 11:33 AM
lol Goldie thats wat i said. she does like Robert after all. there was a time i thot mayb she was after his mula but after seeing her yesterday she does like him.
Reply from: Friend Wednesday, January 30, 2013 11:41 AM
Goldi, my mouth is sealed, lol I don't think she is the only 1, we all love it, lets be honest aowa.
Reply from: Kandyfloss Wednesday, January 30, 2013 11:47 AM
Thanx sweet-cheeks, i love u. Thanx for your explanation.. At least i got to hear something positive about Out Of Community. Some People are so jammed up, they think Out of.. spells divorce. AYA i'l be waiting gal
Reply from: Friend Wednesday, January 30, 2013 11:50 AM
You right guys, Queens love for Rob is genuine, shez gonna pose as a maid tonight, in your face B**tch Sofi.
Reply from: Friend Wednesday, January 30, 2013 11:53 AM
Some People are so jammed up, they think Out of.. spells divorce.


True Kandy, whatever arrangements a couple agrees on is ok.
Reply from: Kandyfloss Wednesday, January 30, 2013 11:57 AM
@Friend leave me out it. I don't like it..*serious face*
Reply from: shuu Wednesday, January 30, 2013 11:57 AM
we are told that caleb is late, I just saw him in a Windhoek advert. Mawande go get your man from the bar! Lol
Reply from: Friend Wednesday, January 30, 2013 12:07 PM
My apologies Kandy..
Reply from: Ntaksay Wednesday, January 30, 2013 12:20 PM

Is Operah Winfrey really a Satanist?? Does anyone know.

Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, January 30, 2013 12:22 PM

ohhh ma bad MsK... You are so ryt Friend i love dusting shem n thats no secret *serious face* hahahah tjoooo Kandy

Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, January 30, 2013 12:24 PM
Shuu u crazy man hahahahaha

Ntaksay i dnt believe in such ppl like yada yada too much
Reply from: Nongo Wednesday, January 30, 2013 12:29 PM
my real life story regarding boswa - shares fighting for Mj en Noluntu.
1976 - my mom meets dad while i was born from prevous relationship - still a toddler then.dad works in a mining giant company - rember it takes a man to make a child but a "real man" to raise one, i still consider him my dad due to fact he made me the woman i am tdy, that i still value coz he called a spade a spade, he used 2say that bua mafatlha a gago lefa yo mongwe aka kgopega mme fela o buile nnete.
-80 traditional wedding, ree tsaya le namane( married into the family), he resigns frm mining giant and joins gov dept on force(military).
86 - complets my primary level still on mom's maiden name coz they'r not legal ke traditional fela, 2 more bros were also born btwn that tym, they tied the knot legal, my siblings change names, i dont on condition of not wanting to hv certif with many surnames on, it goes ok with the family. dad is still able to claim money on my name using my maiden surname @work all is ok.
btwn 2001 - 06 craks were begining 2 show gore my dad does not want me, i was made to pay rent in our yard thogh they were staying far in another town bout 1000km away, but i paid aniway and bought grocers for the famaily.
2006 - disaster struk - he passes on after the funeral according 2 procedure his employers wants the names of all children en his parents whom both were still alive by then , we give out our names, now story sa qala here: my siblings all 4 boys were in his name, my mom en his parents,  i was not using the same 2nd name. he also did not write me in his beneficial forms @ work only his 4boys , mom en his parents. now the fighting started btwn mom's inlaws that i was not suppossed 2be written coz "now" at that coz money was involved i am not his child, all along they were fine i was kid.being the humble person that i am i told them it's ok i will not take ur money but since all contacts were made undere me by my mom all transactions had to go thru me, u can imagine having to deal with otha pples money when u hv nothing. my bros they gave me nothing, in gact 2 of them were still below age21 so their monie were left in the high court till age reach so the one who come after me said sisi i will give 3grang out of 23 g isaid ok- did he give me the money -NO, en we had abit of friction coz evrytm he thought i mat ask gore a kae madi but i didnt until a feal the very same year coz what u did not sweat for u use carelesly, the othe 1 gve me 3g he also had 23g but i did not ask 4 it, my mom i4got to tell u she gave me 1g she had close to hundred G she did even want me 2c hw much she had. i was sort of left out no one was interested in me by then they were all happy they had money. u no what it did 2me i was so hurt, but after regaining my strenth i told myslf i am going 2 work hard. now all my sibling they dont hv money iam the one who has it thru hard work en deter they find it very diff  even my mom 2 ask 4 help frm me even when tyms are tough on them coz they still rember hw they treated me. what i learnt frm this was: as a single mom i will not allow any man to claim he loves me, yes he will but he will never be a fateher 2 my kids 100%.
i am telling u coz of wat MJ le Noluntu are doing. twas sad at1st but now im ok coz i gave it all to God i managed to hv 2 plots under my name the otha is built, en will be starting on the othe 1 soon. i am healed but u no the scar is always there to remind u coz no matter hw u try to 4give u dont 4get. i love my family if u can c us all laughing u woont bliev it only my bro who cums after me has aprblm that i dont hv.
sorry for the composition ladies. just wanted u 2 no what sum of us go thru in life.
Reply from: Galie Wednesday, January 30, 2013 12:39 PM
@ Nongo im really touched by your story..but atleast through all that you managed to build a life for your self and your kids..
Reply from: Friend Wednesday, January 30, 2013 12:50 PM
Ntaksay, I wonder why rich people are associated with satanism, it boggles me. I've also head and read that she sold her soul to. The devil, I don't think. It's true though, Goldi lol. Nongo you brave and strong gal, your Mom! Tjoo. God sew your suffering and rewarded you but help your family and show them real love. Has Mom apologised?
Reply from: Nongo Wednesday, January 30, 2013 12:58 PM
@Friend bagolo do they ever apologise in our culture,no, but u will c gore they are remorse, as 4 my granny she is also remorse and even pushing me to finish all my yards en leave my siblings coz are they put all the burden mo go nna. i love them im ok withem like isaid we laugh en do allsorts 2gether like a family shud.
Reply from: Ntaksay Wednesday, January 30, 2013 13:01 PM
Be strong Nongo people who inherit money always miuse it because they know ukuthi they did not work for it. It is better to work hard and buy your own assets. I'm sure ur sibling do not have anything valuable they bought with that money kodwa wena unako okudingayo even though ungathonga a cent. Well done sisi I salute you.
Reply from: Friend Wednesday, January 30, 2013 13:05 PM
Nongo, yeah they don't say it but show it. they will leave with a guilty conscious forever. It really hurts them to see that you have put the past behind and happily, successfully moved on. You go gal, that's life.
Reply from: Friend Wednesday, January 30, 2013 13:06 PM
Nongo, yeah they don't say it but show it. they will leave with a guilty conscious forever. It really hurts them to see that you have put the past behind and happily, successfully moved on. You go gal, that's life.
Reply from: Friend Wednesday, January 30, 2013 13:08 PM
Nongo, yeah they don't say it but show it. they will leave with a guilty conscious forever. It really hurts them to see that you have put the past behind and happily, successfully moved on. You go gal, that's life.
Reply from: Friend Wednesday, January 30, 2013 13:13 PM
Sorry guys for posting thrice, blame this phone.
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, January 30, 2013 13:14 PM

Wow! Nongo n i thot CINDERALLA is only on Tv tjoooo eish touching indeed i'm also glad that everything worked out hey n u happy through hard work God is great all da time remember dat after darkness comes brightness so yeh eish ppl n da love of moni ne now satan ryt der!! Are u married? hw many kids du u have if u dnt mind me asking?

i hope they apologiesed for their treatment i'm glad u have 4givin dem , cos dey were blinded by money

Reply from: Kandyfloss Wednesday, January 30, 2013 13:17 PM
Happy you'v prospered@ Nongo. Let us not be blinded by love especially where step-parentin is involved kids suffer when we are no longer there.. BLOOD IS AND WILL ALWAYS BE THICKER THAN WATER.
Reply from: Woman of God Wednesday, January 30, 2013 14:46 PM
hey Nongo am touched by your story,but i respect your heart may God continue to bless you more eix i declare blessing in your life and may you continue to be prosperus, may God give you your heart disires so that your joy may be fulflled may he bless you shame 

@Kandyfloss  For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.

the Bible do not say exactly about this thing of incommunity, and outcommunity, but when i read this vearse. i pic some points
-u see the bible says a man shall leave his family and he will become one with his wyf
-when pople are one it means they do the same thing i as a wyf owns my husband and he the husby owns me
- when people are married there is no me,me my money, my car nooo its our car , our what. coz you guys are one 


-i dnt mean to offend people who are married out of community no its your choice n u do hav reasons but this is what i picked up from this verse  sorry if i offended sm1


Reply from: Nongo Wednesday, January 30, 2013 14:48 PM
@Goldi im not married but i do hv a partner. i hv 2boys age 13 le 8 they'r mine not his ene he does not hv any kids at all.
Ntaks - my siblings hv nothing 2 show but i dont remind them their failures i encourge them always, the 1st he has his own business but can show u nothing for it mare o dira madi, the otha a cop 3rd is strugling but full of love last 1 still in schl.
 u rite Kandy, blood is thicker i ensure that my partner nows how i love my boys and i've instilled in them the dicipline that u wont bliev gore these 2 are single parented, they no when mom cannot afford en when she can i've taught them gore things hv 2be in pipeline, funny how they can book 2be bought pizza by mthend at a certain mall they hvnt gone to in a long tym.
Reply from: Bk212303 Wednesday, January 30, 2013 14:58 PM
@Nongo wow im so proud of you. May God Be with u all the way. Imali ........ it makes people show their true colours.
@Makanku lol. Im sorry to keep you awake i dont know what is happening is this office all of sudden its crowded with ppl so i could not chat

I have a best friend and we have been friends for 7yrs now. I know her she knows me. She did not have a man in her life but just a man who comes once or twice for dusting nd thats it so they were not permanent she was emakhwapeni. While on the other hand had my boyfriend(my son's father who is now my husband) and we were staying together me,son,bf. We also had other friends so one of the friends became close to me or i was fond of him. So i would go to my best friends house and speak about him, telling her how good he is with his hands(technician,plumbing as i used to use him smtimes at my house. So my b friend each time i go to her she would ask about him and i had an idea since she did not have a man and i was fond of him i did a match making but myf did not seem interested and i did not like that at all cause i wanted him to date her cause i could c that he is a kind, caring man and my f is also soft spoted person and they would make a perfect match. He also did not have a person in his life(unlucky). I think i had some feelings for him but did not want to act on them cause i had my man and that is why i did not mind that myf have him and i know she will make him happy.
So this other day i told myf we must have a sit in at my house and i knew the guy likes to come by my house weekends. So we were drinking hunters dry and then ..... i ask the guy to walk with me so that we take my f back to her house and we did and we were 5 ppl and i wispered to the guy that she must walk with myfriend while i was walking with the others and thats when things started i saw my f taking numbers and we left her. she phoned again and said we must come back to fetch her and we did. cut short

They stared with the test the next day and she called me the morning and we started chatting about other thingz and she told me that the guy did not pass the test and she is moving on with someone who has 3 kids and i said she must give him another chance she said no but will c. She sms me at night telling me that he is with her and i was so happy for both. The next day got a call and i went but he was not there and she told me that while they were lying on the bed, they were talking and confessing the guy said there is only 1 woman for him and that woman is BK212303 .....and he will wait for me until maybe im free cause he is so inlove with me and he cant c himself with anyone else but he never told me he felt that way. Now while myf is telling me this i could c the anger and hatred but i told her that he is stupid to think that i will ever break up with my man even though i also felt the same way but did not say to my f. I supported her and tried to comfort her. But ppl I was also so shocked and didnt know what to do or to say. At that moment i knew things will never be the same between me and myf cause of lendonda. Anyways i decided since my man is been wanting to tie the knot for 11yrs  we must do it
asap and here iam married. I also went to speak to the guy and he said to me im sorry but i cant help it and i told him u will go and sort this thing out now and i never want to hear anything about me from u.So now they are happily married and im still friends with myf. Do u think i was wise or what? Speak to me
Reply from: Kandyfloss Wednesday, January 30, 2013 14:59 PM
Ok Aya... ThanX! If people walked their talk. And if life didnt have certain challenges it'l b easier..
Reply from: caro Wednesday, January 30, 2013 15:22 PM
good day

i cnt belive after i waited so bad for the teasers i am d last to post...u guys le "DITSOTSI" Ntaksay in my office now!!!!

 by the way lemme go read, hv been busy..its pay day and its so hectic.

TOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOODLES!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply from: Nongo Wednesday, January 30, 2013 15:23 PM
yho msadi i was shocked when he said the only woman for him is Bk yho!!!!!!!!!madoda.But GOOD u stood ur ground and played it well coz @tyms infatuation pass and we are left in the lurch after leaving the one . u created that relatiship with ur hubby, 11yrs is no joke my love, and im happy coz ur friend is now hapily maried to him. Pliz ensure that u fight all those feelings u hv 4him and restore the trust btwn u le chomi yago coz 1day u'll be left in 1rm en i dont want to hear of any heatness going on. Please nna i really value marriage i bilive by the tym i do get married i will be the best wife and makoti to my hubby.
Read Proverbs 31 A VIRTIOUS WOMAN  and be that woman. best wishes to you and chomza.
Gen. family i dont no what i will do without u guys u a an inspiration u bring out the best in me, the urge to carry on in life if all families were like this the wrld will be a betta place to live in , but it still is.
Reply from: Bk212303 Wednesday, January 30, 2013 15:25 PM
@Woman of God yes that is what marriage is about living family behind and giving yrself to yr husband. But im not saying that it is also wrong to go out of community it is something you both decide cause these things have advantage and disadvantage like NomdazB stated. I think it is yr choice and this whole thing is about giving yrselves to each other and both deciding what will both work out for the 2 of u. Can i ask if u have signed a contract what does yr marriage certificate right does it say civil or what?
Reply from: caro Wednesday, January 30, 2013 15:30 PM
Things that made me go "TJO"

Just when Phenyo thinks his relationship is back on track things go wrong again. MJ gives the proxy of his shares away. Noluntu finds out her baby was with the Dlomos

Babalwa wants to give Mnqobi back to Noluntu. Samantha refuses to believe her life is in danger. Nicholas decides it's time to forget about his ex and move on. 

Phenyo's misdeeds come back to haunt him.




Reply from: Bk212303 Wednesday, January 30, 2013 15:33 PM
@Nongo i am fighting them with everything i have cc cause i dont want to hurt either of them. But i think sometimes the guy acts funny like sometimes he would side by me so i dont know if i must just maybe dissapear and leave them both cause this thing will always come up no matter i can hide my feelings. I know i can doit but can he.
Reply from: Woman of God Wednesday, January 30, 2013 15:43 PM
Can i ask if u have signed a contract what does yr marriage certificate right does it say civil or what?

are you directing ths question to me BK ??
If so nna am not married

Nongo u said it all dear BK what you did its extemely amazing, not all woman can do that you know what am impressed  

Reply from: caro Wednesday, January 30, 2013 15:50 PM
m impressed.. but on he ada hand dnt u sometyms feel gore the guys is with your friend because he has no choice or maybe for him its a way of being closer to you..

the guy loves you, you love your hubby, who loves him? your friend??????? i dnt think so... the situation is tough and while ur still around and in their lives it will always be difficult for the lady knowing her hubby loves you( since u said he told her) and for the hubby knowing you know he loves you but you love somebody else who doesnt know the whole scenario.. 

Reply from: MsKim Wednesday, January 30, 2013 16:05 PM
"only 1 woman for him and that woman is BK212303 "" coz of this sentence i don't think if i were yo friend i'd have ended up with that man. eachtime we hang out together it wld make me uncomfortable..
Reply from: Ntaksay Wednesday, January 30, 2013 16:06 PM

Why am I being summoned to Caro's office, did I do anything wrong.

Bk try to avoid gatherings (distance urself from him) with your friend and her husby coz this guy might  do something that will put your marriage and ur relationship with ur friend in jeopardy. You might be able to control ur feelings but yena ngathi uyohluleka

Reply from: Galie Wednesday, January 30, 2013 16:07 PM

BK when coming to relationships and marriage im not an axpect..but i think you've done a good thing cc..
ngu tshayile manje see you guys 2morrow..toodles

Reply from: makanku Wednesday, January 30, 2013 16:09 PM
@Bk bese ngikudubile lol...sisi u r a umfazi oqotho, i wish benginjengawe.may God bless u 4 being so loyal 2 ur man and giving the other 2 a chance to be happy, ay angazi ngthini kuwe but bancane abantu abanjengawe.
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, January 30, 2013 16:19 PM
tell me Bk is this thing happening now or it happened cos i dnt follow nna shem *please excuse ma blonde moment* cos u tlk abt 7yrs n 11yrs i'm so confused wen dd dis happen him n ur 4rnd getting married n hw long is da marriage?? n hw long is urs pls ma darling den i'll tell u want i think *tongue out*
Reply from: maud Wednesday, January 30, 2013 16:21 PM

Hi all
I am married in community of property with Accrual - and lots of clause .
I promise you one thing ,if i divorce( not that i think about it) no one will take my home,that department i made sure that its  covered.

can i ask you guys a question

If you are married to a man who have 3 childrens from outside the marriage and you are married in community of property, then ypur husband happens to loose his job or maybe became paralised, WHO WILL BE SUPPORTING HIS 3 KIDS?


Reply from: Nongo Wednesday, January 30, 2013 16:31 PM
@Ntaks dont question the boss u re summoned to the office madam.

@maud - this 1 is difficult coming from u aunty, we nid answers frm u en u throw back at us. but lemme think - do those kids stay with u?, where are the mothers?. my opinion is if their mom is around she shud step in to assist by taking them unless she passed on or irrespble then out of pity as a woman if they are still young u have to take over the support.
Reply from: Bk212303 Wednesday, January 30, 2013 16:35 PM
@Goldi now and will be seeing y all tomorrow
Reply from: Nongo Wednesday, January 30, 2013 16:39 PM
2011 nov - my cousin got married, very nice wedding.
1. she has 2 kids 1 is grown up the other was 2 yrs ( both hers only).when she got married she agreed with the hubby and her family that she leaves her grown child, the younger 1 his dad paid for "tshenyo"(thats wat we cal it here) and she joined the marriage childless.
2. the bf now hubby said he does not hv any kids. ok what hurt her most was that the hubbys family knew he had a child thogh the mother was no more, mind u not just a child but grown man in tertiary.
3. 2012 dec - story comes out from where we dont no, she was devastated she even wanted out, my adv to her was stay in the marriage though he lied tell him next tym ___ they sorted out for how long dont no.
if u were her wat were u going to do?
Reply from: MsKim Wednesday, January 30, 2013 16:42 PM
am with Nongo... i think if the mom is arnd she cn assist if not its yo responsibility.
Reply from: Kandyfloss Wednesday, January 30, 2013 17:46 PM
Maud its u, remember whats yours is his.. Nna i'l HELP the kids
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, January 30, 2013 19:01 PM
Yhoo! Nongo dats a though 1 hey bt all I can say is their marriage, love etc its was based on lies f he cud lie abt he's flash n blood wat else is he lying abt mmmm? BK pls re read ma Qs n ansa me
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, January 30, 2013 20:55 PM
@Kandyfloss ...
It is not as simple as either/ or  ...
Question:
Do you wish to apply an accrual rule or not, ... because an accrual rule is probably more important regarding an informed answer versus an emotional one.


My general suggestion to anyone considering either option is ... Go home & think it over again ... until you know you and your thoughts regarding you and your spouse's positions regarding everything you need to know.

If it purely a protective move because of the risks & contingencies you should consider in marriage/ civil partnership (((but the law is as diverse as the doors open to you for consideration) ... especially South African law), ... but since Botswana law is a more generic form of brittish common law ... one should consider the vagaries and interpretation of that zone ... since you actually live there ... ZA law is actually irellevant) ... then ANC , however, if both parties are contributors to the risk/ reward model ... then an accrual basis is probably on the cards... the problem is always the pre-nup disclosure of estate(s) and surrounding issues.

If I lost you after you have researched the options / paths, you may PM me, I don't really read the Gen blog much anymore, so it could be June before I return to check on this again.
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, January 30, 2013 21:47 PM
Haaibo Vusik kante wats rong with. Dis blog? Dnt u love da Gen fam anymo? B2G: I cudnt stop lafing wen Luntu ws poured with flour on her face kikiki serves her rytn eish Akhona haai soka maan ok gud 9t see u @ Yona Yethu 2 morro
Reply from: NoMdazB Wednesday, January 30, 2013 22:02 PM
Hi all. I'm only reading the blog now, took the babies to the doctor and came back late. @ Goldi they are alright sisi, it wasn't very serious, just chest problems. Thanks for asking. @BK, it says Civil Union on your certificate. My husband and I decided that since my work was risky financially and he works in Govt ie safe, we needed to be sure that our kids would always be provided for. That any debts I ended up having would not affect them negatively. Cos now if I go under the banks can only take my stuff and not everything.
Reply from: Mimibob Wednesday, January 30, 2013 22:07 PM
@BK, I think I'm having a blonde moment on this one like Goldi. Will wait for your answers to her questions. It sounds like you love your friend's hubby and think you might have made a mistake choosing your baby daddy over the man who loved you, whom you loved back. Does your friend love her hubby? How did they end up together after the guy's confession? Does he love her? Joh! This sounds like something out of Generations. Bad choice or not, responsibility over the situation lies on all parties involved. You owe it to your selves and spouses to make your marriages work and not think about what shoulda, coulda, or woulda happened. You are a strong woman to have come thus far. I didn't grasp the crux of the situation much, maybe my advice would be misplaced.
Reply from: Mimibob Thursday, January 31, 2013 01:21 AM
Nongo, was touched by your story. May God continue to bless and increase you greatly.

B2G, I came home late from church and only found Nick holding something over his face. What happened to him? Who poured flour on Noluntu and why? Update please...
Reply from: NoMdazB Thursday, January 31, 2013 05:22 AM
Hey @Mimibob, do you work inight shift or what. You are so right about @BK. The grass isn't always green on the other side. Morning everyone.
Reply from: Goldi Thursday, January 31, 2013 07:43 AM
Morning Family @Mimibob glad I ws nt da only 1 Question @ Bk y dd u try so hard 2 hook up ur 4rnd with da guy u love so bad? Was it guilt or u wntd 2 kip him closer?
Reply from: Ntaksay Thursday, January 31, 2013 08:10 AM
Morning
I kinda felt sorry for Luntu when they threw flour at her.  And MJ can see all the damage he has caused and he feels sorry, pitty it is too late.

I love Queen and Rob, why do I get the feeling that Jackson is lying about what Sofia likes, I think he wants her to hate Queen even more.

Dinny is slowly becoming a shopaholic, how can you pay for a gun course for other people and buying Khethi and Queen two gifts umuntu eyedwa. That looks like addiction to me.

The clap Akhona gave Nick, this nonsense of hers is making her a nervous person, 

Have a good day everyone
Mimibob, I hope my comments will help you
Reply from: Goldi Thursday, January 31, 2013 08:30 AM
i also love Queen n Rob i think hes lying to jst to get Queen in trouble again mxxm

well nna ddnt feel pity for Luntu instead was rolling on da floor wat happened yest had nothing to du with MJ da way i see it....it was all abt single mom's n yet she gave da baby away she knows nothing abt being a mom n all if she ws neva preg it ws something else bt she had da baby n gave it away as if it ws a price or something haai nna dnt feel nada 4 her
Reply from: Friend Thursday, January 31, 2013 08:39 AM
morning family, NomD glad the kids are ok, Maude I would take care of the kids, what if it's vice versa. BK what a tricky situation, does your friend trust you 100% when this guy does some handy work at your house? I wouldn't plus their love might be based on a lie Coz he might hv married her to fulfil your wish since he loves you and wanna see you happy. If I were u I would stay away from the them as much as I could to avoid finding yourself in a compromising position with him and putting your marriage in jeopardy. Poor Luntu, I hate her for hating MJ, it wasn't his fault that Daddy left her nothing. I have a crush on Rob.
Reply from: Nongo Thursday, January 31, 2013 09:04 AM
morning gud pple,@mimibob can u try hv sum spli u nid it babe kana o bereka niteshif like NomD said.
Yho Friend wena u hv crush on Rob nna i feel the Zambian coach dear hei he' hot now that they are out i wont be watching games, man o tshwanelwa ke those white shirts i wonder hw many he has, oa tshesa serious but o out of limits ooohhhh shame poor me* sulking*
dont say that Goldi i hear u im a woman ke na le maikutlo !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply from: makanku Thursday, January 31, 2013 09:14 AM

Morning peps!
relationships/marriages are complicated in most times bt R Kelly sang "prayer changes things" it gets better with God's intervention.im married also and the first few months in were tough, mother in law became monster in law but i prayed and prayed, now all is better.so if its not this its that......the stori neva ends.
B2G, Queen & Rob bayaratana shame, i hope they will shada soon.
@friend i also had a crush on Rob while he was on 7de laan!!
Hi Mimi !!

Reply from: Goldi Thursday, January 31, 2013 09:16 AM
hahahahahah ao bathong Nongo nna kerileng yananong *side eyeing u* @ Nomd i'm glad da kids r ok phela ma son's got a very week chest so wen it comes to chest i dnt play with fire papa cos i knw wat it can do my boy spend some days 4 2yrs in hosi cos of chest probs
Reply from: Bk212303 Thursday, January 31, 2013 09:28 AM
@Goldi the seven yrs is my friendship with myf and the i have 11yrs with my boyfriend who is now my husband. This whole thing with me doing matchmaking is from Jan 2012.My frnds got married Oct2012 which is they were 10months together. Me 12 years together and we got married sept2012 so im 4months in this marriage.

I was hooking him up, thinking that atleast i know he wil be well with my f and they both single.
@Mimibob good questions that is what i want. I made a right choice for me and my son and as i said i did not know how he felt until that day and i took a decision that, i wil not act on what i felt and remember no one new about my feelings.
My frnd loves her husband or atleast that is what i c and she confirmed that. So they are living normally like me. Hey i dont know how they ended up mna all i did was to comfort my f as she was devastated and crying and i told her that they must sort it out as i am with my man and i dont want this guy.and i said they either sort it out or they must stay single. I also went to him i told him to stop messing something that would be beautful and he must never say what he said to my frnd again.He went to c her and i guess they spoke about it. But we all 3 of us never spoke about it again. When i look at him he loves her but i wont know what happens when im not there. As for me iam sorting out my family as you all know my problem(father in law) other than that me my husband and son we are well.More questions if not answered properly
Reply from: Nongo Thursday, January 31, 2013 09:52 AM
hey BK o kae tatamkhulu o boile kana le ntse le mmogo, if asa tsamae ka April o ikele Motloloolo bana ba gagwe ba tla atla go  motsaya. just kidding but seriously o tsogile sentle ena.
Reply from: Woman of God Thursday, January 31, 2013 09:55 AM
morning guys
Reply from: Goldi Thursday, January 31, 2013 09:56 AM

I understand now BK du u still have feelings for dis man? *ur 4rnds hubby* so in ada words ur 4rnds hubby is settling for 2cond best since he cnt have u well i'm sure he loves her in his own way bt i doubt dat he's heart is der with his wife du dey have a child together?

konje wen is Mkhulu leaving?

Reply from: MsKim Thursday, January 31, 2013 10:19 AM
Good morning All
Reply from: makanku Thursday, January 31, 2013 10:38 AM
@Bk i agree with Goldi, the frends huby settled 4 da 2nd best since he cant hev u, i just feel sori 4 ur friend 4 agreeing 2 marry him coz at one point he told her that there is no woman 4 him but u.shooo, ngeke ayaqunga mamanye amaladies la ngaphandle. another thing, u said they were 2getha for 10mnths and then get married...too soon 4 me, they should have given their relationship time to develop and strengthen (since there was u somewhere in the picture) before rushing to get married. on ur side, u did nothing wrong
but that's my opinion nje fela, i might b out of line
Reply from: Friend Thursday, January 31, 2013 10:41 AM
BK as long as the 3 of you are happy, nothing else matters, life goes on. Tjoo usekhona uTatazala? Lol Nongo, catch him on soccer africa soon after Afcon.
Reply from: Deemo Thursday, January 31, 2013 11:10 AM
morning to you all.
Reply from: Nongo Thursday, January 31, 2013 11:33 AM
@Woman of God can u go bak to dept. of Home Affairs en change ur name bak to Aya. hey Friend cant do that or else i'll get hooked betta i c him once in a while will c him again ka wrld cup in Brazil.
VusiK are bak @skl fa ore o tla re bona ka June so? wats up buti.
Reply from: VusiK Thursday, January 31, 2013 11:44 AM
@Nongo
I'm on work Sabbatical,
...
I'm engaged in research & study for my 6th Doctorate.
Reply from: Nongo Thursday, January 31, 2013 12:09 PM
@VusiK
u've gone my dear , oska rutega thata basadi ba tla go tshaba, as much as men ba tshaba well off women
Reply from: Friend Thursday, January 31, 2013 12:10 PM
Kikikiki Nongo, it's better that way.
Reply from: Nongo Thursday, January 31, 2013 12:14 PM
@friend no madam 'tis not ok, money cant but u happiness at tyms u nid a companion to rub ur bak u get wat i mean, gape when u hv all ur social life enna so_________ dont no how to explain it, kana o rre ne Friend?
Reply from: Nongo Thursday, January 31, 2013 12:17 PM
askies Friend o MMe i 4got will bring madombolo from MamRubs for lunch babes.
Reply from: caro Thursday, January 31, 2013 12:21 PM
Why am I being summoned to Caro's office, did I do anything wrong. @ ntaksay

u & i have  been thru a lot together bt the minute u see that theres finally light you dont HALLA back..lol

Reply from: yoyozz Thursday, January 31, 2013 12:30 PM
BK aaa tatazala is still around tjoo

im a silent bloger these days i read all your comments big up

my contract is ending soon so im bussy searching for a job and they are bussy training us for the new system that means they gonna renew it ndiyaxhoba nje  GENERATIONs BLOGERZ BIG UP ur comments are mncwaa i like the way esithandana ngayo siyile fimaly. cup of coffee for everyone
Reply from: Friend Thursday, January 31, 2013 12:56 PM
Nongo ke Mme o nyetswi, crushing on Rob but it ends on TV fela. Will hold you to that, ausi we ke kopa dombolo nou, lol.
Reply from: Woman of God Thursday, January 31, 2013 12:57 PM
lol Nongo i tried Aya.ayashahh,ayah but nothing is working bt you can still can still call me aya hey ....


uhuuuuuuu.uhhhuuuuuu
we've been 2geda 4 a while now growing stronger everyday now,it feels good n there's no doubt, i will stay with you.as each morning brings sunrise and the flowers bloom in springtym on my love rely and i will stay with you

eix this song remind me of ......................................................................  
Reply from: Goldi Thursday, January 31, 2013 13:18 PM

mmmmmmm some1 is inlove *looking @ Aya's direction* etswa ka taba eo gopotsa maan nna enkgopotsa my baby daddy wu falls under my EXes *sigh* beautiful song ohhhhh

Reply from: caro Thursday, January 31, 2013 13:37 PM
If you are married to a man who have 3 childrens from outside the marriage and you are married in community of property, then ypur husband happens to loose his job or maybe became paralised, WHO WILL BE SUPPORTING HIS 3 KIDS?
@maud

i am not quiet sure on this one but i heard that if you husband passes on while paying maitenance to the kids from a previous marriage or relationshipwatsoever  u will be responsible for such and that alone guarantees them a certain percentage to ur hubby's estate....
Reply from: caro Thursday, January 31, 2013 13:38 PM
@Ntaks dont question the boss u re summoned to the office madam.  #DEAD#

Reply from: VusiK Thursday, January 31, 2013 13:55 PM
u've gone my dear , oska rutega thata basadi ba tla go tshaba, as much as men ba tshaba well off women
..
I would not really care.
Reply from: VusiK Thursday, January 31, 2013 13:58 PM
WHO WILL BE SUPPORTING HIS 3 KIDS?

The Two are unrelated and have nothing to do do with one another, except that they're his children ... therefore, his obligation.
Your joint estate is irellevant regarding his obligation to his children.
Reply from: VusiK Thursday, January 31, 2013 14:11 PM
WHO WILL BE SUPPORTING HIS 3 KIDS?

The other contributor of an RNA strand
Reply from: VusiK Thursday, January 31, 2013 14:16 PM
(in other words .. the mother to the 3 children).
Reply from: Galie Thursday, January 31, 2013 14:19 PM

hey guys..
i did not watch gen yesterday,a friend of mine invited me to her church..i got back after 9..any good summaritan who's willing to help a sista plzz update guys..

Reply from: Manicure Thursday, January 31, 2013 14:20 PM
u've gone my dear , oska rutega thata basadi ba tla go tshaba, as much as men ba tshaba well off women
..
I would not really care.


mmmmhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
Reply from: Woman of God Thursday, January 31, 2013 14:20 PM
ahhh sorry Goldi
Reply from: VusiK Thursday, January 31, 2013 14:24 PM
@Manicure

???
Reply from: steffie Thursday, January 31, 2013 14:25 PM
Afternoon peeps
WHO WILL BE SUPPORTING HIS 3 KIDS?
Caro
thais exactly what I have heard, that if a man is maintaining children outside if he does the kids are entitled to have ashare of his estates. Not sure about it though as i have never seen it in practice.
Reply from: maud Thursday, January 31, 2013 14:26 PM
@Nongo, this is not about me my dear, mina i will never stay with someone 's kids, I was getting to the point of being married in community of property.

This is the reason for my marriage with accrual.
Reply from: steffie Thursday, January 31, 2013 14:29 PM
The other contributor of an RNA strand

what if she does not work, while the kid's daddy left money bags?
Reply from: VusiK Thursday, January 31, 2013 14:30 PM
@Steffie ... Maud ...

They are entitled to a portion of his estate (unless otherwise stated in testament)  ... but that is not the question that was asked.
Reply from: Ntaksay Thursday, January 31, 2013 14:30 PM

Knock knock Caro can I come in *knocking in Caro's office*

Reply from: VusiK Thursday, January 31, 2013 14:33 PM
what if she does not work, while the kid's daddy left money bags
Is he crippled / unable to work (for some reason), etc ... or dead?
Reply from: VusiK Thursday, January 31, 2013 14:36 PM
You keep changing the subject matter & its content ...

The law addresses different matters differently, and specifically, depending on situation, circumstance or happenstance.

If you want a precise answer that is 99% accurate, ask a question that is 99% specific / accurate.
Concepts do not always have place and interpretation in reality.
Reply from: VusiK Thursday, January 31, 2013 14:45 PM
look ... regarding accruals ...

the greatest failing of an accrual is the lack of honesty in the particiants ... most people will absolutely fail to fully disclose their assets / liabilities / net worth to their spouses ... the system fails some because of the human's desire to protect themselves from "abuse"/ lack of trust/ faith in the other person.

Some of us work in/ with contracts, and I would never ut myself in the position to disclose my estate to anyone ... regardless of how ready I am to be married to that person.
It is (in my case) easier to agree on a settlement / parachute clause or structure before entering into anything. Therefore ... anything that hapens thereafter is subject to the terms of a preceding agreement ... fully applicable unless amended with the agreement of all the participants.

I deal with the children separately ... same as my family ... it seems more complex to a passerby ... but it is actually simpler in application.
Reply from: Goldi Thursday, January 31, 2013 14:45 PM
Tjooo Caro wathaba maan
Reply from: VusiK Thursday, January 31, 2013 18:26 PM
It is VERY IPMORTANT for people to understand that the interpretation of law is not absolute and its application is generally relative/  situational, ... except where and when it is absolute.
Reply from: Mimibob Friday, February 01, 2013 01:45 AM

NomD and Nongo, I dont work night shift, lol.. Im just always very busy at work and dont have time to blog during the day. I just have this bad habit of sleeping late, for no partucular reason really. Sometimes I carry work home though and work late. Will try sleep early from next week, or use the time to study for my 1st doctrate.

Thanks Ntaksay for the heads up.

Hi Makanku.

Reply from: Cmaneo Friday, February 01, 2013 04:38 AM
Morning mabloggers a matle
Reply from: Goldi Friday, February 01, 2013 07:26 AM
Morning Family happy friday 2 y'all on ma way 2 work n not in da mood haai dis day mst jst end *serious face*
Reply from: Galie Friday, February 01, 2013 07:53 AM

morning ma bloggers....its friday today hope you all wearing your S.A T-shirts today,to show your  support..
Rob finally proposed to queen

Reply from: Ntaksay Friday, February 01, 2013 08:02 AM
Yho Rob and Queen are getting married. Sofia almost had a heart attach when Rob proposed to Queen. 

We've seen enough of Memela drama, Noluntu and MJ must kiss and make up now.  
Akhona you are digging your own grave. Uploading that video clip was the biggest mistake of ur life. you are so stubborn shame
Reply from: steffie Friday, February 01, 2013 08:17 AM
Morning bloggers
Reply from: Goldi Friday, February 01, 2013 08:32 AM
ohhh i ddnt wtch pls guyz cn u help a sista out with n up date?
Reply from: Friend Friday, February 01, 2013 09:36 AM
Morning peeps, Rob, Rob, Rob, love you more, happy for Queen, hope it'll work this time around.  Luntu you are a  witch, forgive MJ and move on. Akhona and Sello are boring.
Reply from: Deemo Friday, February 01, 2013 09:39 AM
hi guys,ive this terrible headache since yestaday.ive tried taking fluids n pills bt not helping at all.
Reply from: Deemo Friday, February 01, 2013 09:40 AM
hi guys,ive this terrible headache since yestaday.ive tried taking fluids n pills bt not helping at all.
Reply from: Friend Friday, February 01, 2013 09:51 AM
Deemo, you need to take it easy, get enough rest, I guess you stressed a bit, get well soon.
Reply from: Goldi Friday, February 01, 2013 09:52 AM
drink lots of water Deemo bt if it continues u need to go n consult lala hope it gets beta......
Reply from: Bk212303 Friday, February 01, 2013 09:53 AM
@Yoyos tatazala is still in da house he says the dr said he must stay till 15/02/2013. So i decided to go to work and call hospital and i found out he was lying to us and i didnt bother arguing i just prayed to God to give strength till 15th come and he is saying smthing about another 6 months for the treatment and no 1 at my house is responding to that. He also said the dr said family must take him to clinic on that date so that they can tell the dr that he must take his treatment here in cape town and i told him i wont be available he must ask his 2sons or daughters and he kept quiet. So yah everyday i dont feel like going home but now my trategy is i get home cook what ever not oil no veges i just cook what is there, cause im tired now of pleasing them when they dont return the favour. and when i got paid i did my savings, stamps etc and i kept my money in the bank.No more 100%fruit juis, fruit etc. What ever is needed i ask my husband and he is struggling and i say it is because he did not know that i was supporting this man the whole time and now my hands are folded and he is not happy at all and i heard him say utata must go after 15th.

People i did not tell u this my friend wanted someone to settle with and she asked him to marry her. He refused at 1st and she asked him why and if he does not do that then its ok he can leave her alone. She asked me to also speak to him and i did and later on he took the idea and paid lobola.
Reply from: Bk212303 Friday, February 01, 2013 09:54 AM
Sorry could not blog yersterday telkom is busy with an upgrade so internet interruptions.Missed u though so much.
Reply from: Btwa Friday, February 01, 2013 09:55 AM
Hi Friends,

pliz pliz update, we had no power
Reply from: Manicure Friday, February 01, 2013 10:01 AM
morning and have a lovely friday family, mna these days generations ya mbora waitse.
Reply from: sisila Friday, February 01, 2013 10:14 AM
Morning friends just been reading your comments its very interesting the things we go through in life just been very depressed this whole week but now know its the devil who was trying to bring me down. I had a friend whom im very close with infact i call him my brother we happen to spend a lot of time together he has a girlfriend but that was not a problem until sunday, He transferred some photos of me to his phone and invited me on facebook which i accepted then he posted an updated and i commented but after i commented i realised the girlfriend commented first and he came over my house while we were sitting and talking he realises that all my pictures have been deleted on his phone and we checked the comment i posted it did not appear i was blocked and removed as a friend then the lady sent sms to me telling me to stop sleeping with her man. I was so angry that i cried so much since i couldnt say what was in my heart the guy fell so bad that she confronted her about the whole thing, at the end of it all they broke up now the lady is threatening to kill herself I still have not responded to any of this because I dont know what to say and why i should answer.
Reply from: Friend Friday, February 01, 2013 10:16 AM
BK just hang in there, is your friend that desperate to kinda force her man into marriage. Hope hez not gonna rub it into her face 1 day when the going gets tough. Blaming her for everything, brave gal, wishing them all the best. Btwa needs an update pls. Family
Reply from: Friend Friday, February 01, 2013 10:16 AM
BK just hang in there, is your friend that desperate to kinda force her man into marriage. Hope hez not gonna rub it into her face 1 day when the going gets tough. Blaming her for everything, brave gal, wishing them all the best. Btwa needs an update pls. Family
Reply from: Nongo Friday, February 01, 2013 10:38 AM
morning pple.
@sisila feeling sorry for u gal at tyms we do things innocently not knowing sum1 will get hurt, u are innocent thats all but i no hw u re feeling very bad, but really im sorry for you.
wont be in the next few mths but my love always.
bye
b2g: Queenie will always be herself , lets wait until she walks down the aisle maybe she will find anotha 1 whom she will run after, she has a problem ena ka nnete.
Reply from: Vandimerwe Friday, February 01, 2013 10:45 AM
Sisila just tel that gal to go on and kill herself....................

morning family
Reply from: moopa Friday, February 01, 2013 10:46 AM
Queen does she really have to go extra mile for that man from nurse to maid p.a I just see desperation not love
Reply from: Ntaksay Friday, February 01, 2013 10:55 AM
Sisila just tell her you are not sleeping with her b/f and tell her to speak to her b/f (ex) about all the staff she's telling you.
Reply from: Ntaksay Friday, February 01, 2013 11:08 AM
Let me try to update:

Queen pursuaded Sofia to go out with her and Rob and have dinner, she agreed. Queen and Rob were so in love kissing and touching & Sofia was so irritated spent most of the time in the bathroom and Queen kept on giving her wine, Rob got sick Sofia was worried but Queenny had everthing under control, she took som pills out of her purse and gave him. Rob said you see that''s why I love her so much she can look after me and I'm glad you agreed to come to dinner with us so that you can witness this, then he proposed.

Dinny bought some magazine abt guns while she was reading Phenyo came in and she closed the book and Phenyo was complaining abt being tired and Dinny advised him to go and take a shower, he asked her to join him she said she is wainting for important call. that call was that magazine.

Akhona told officer Phokane about the Sello's video clip (the one on the phone she got from that girl) and showed it toher she wants Sello to be charged for rhino poaching. But Officer P said that clip does not sello a rhino poacher it is not evedent enough Akhona also went to Wandi told abt the clip and the girl being suffocated. but she advised her to leave this story and forget about the girl. Akhona wants to upload the video on yona yethu web but Wandi refused and Officer P advised her against it. But Akhona and her thick head uploaded the clip.

Sello's girl does not want to play this game anymore she wants to tell Akhona about what théy've been up to. but her friend said no.
 That's all I remember for now.
Reply from: Bk212303 Friday, February 01, 2013 11:10 AM
@Sisila no no no this girl is playing with your feelings dont let her do that to you. You tell her you are not involved with her man and she must speak to him. If she wants to kill herself it is up to her and it wont be your fault cause you did not do anything wrong girl. And somma tell her to do it and c if shell do it. She wont cause when someone wants to kill themselves they doooooont do iiiit so she must get over herself. Your best friend tell him he must next time beware of people like his girlfrnd which means he must not post his best frnd's pics cause some grl are not right upstairs they are like Zodwa and they are dangerous.


BIG UP FAMILY!!!!!LOVE YOU ALL SO MUCH.
Reply from: Ntaksay Friday, February 01, 2013 11:13 AM
MJ told his mom that he want to finish school. his mom said he can do with some business courses. She is organising an internship for him. She asked Noluntu to be civili with him coz he wants him to be working in all the departments. But MJ does not know that his mom wants him to be an intern.  MJ wants his mom to have a proxy on the shares but he said she is weak when it comes to Sbuda, when MJ said that Wandi kicked him out of her office.
Reply from: Friend Friday, February 01, 2013 11:17 AM
Sisila tell her to go hang....,
Reply from: Goldi Friday, February 01, 2013 11:26 AM
@ BK i'm glad u stood ur ground now hubby can see dat mkhulu is a pro...s for ur 4rnd asking a man to marry her tjoooo tlk abt desperation mxxxxm she's gona regret it 1 day cos dis man daznt LOVE her wuuuuuu *clap once* @ Sisila i agree with Vandi jst tell her to kill herself shame on her it's not ur pro dat she daznt trust her man n has a low self esteem i'm dat u feeling bad specially dat nothing is happening btwin u n da guy 

B2G: Update pls guyz i think Queen will make a gud wife to Rob cos she's herself not pretending to be some1 else n Robs dat
Reply from: makanku Friday, February 01, 2013 11:31 AM
@Bk, "no more 100% fruit juic.."hahahahahaha! as 4 your folding hands & letting your hubby feel what u were feeling, good 4 u msadi
@Sisila, tell her 2 go ahead & kill herself, aw awasekho yini amanye amadoda la ngaphandle
Reply from: Galie Friday, February 01, 2013 11:38 AM

Sisila the gal is playing with your feeling CC ,and umntu xa efuna ukuzibulala akaxeleli wonke umntu .uyakothusa nje ..she just want you to feel guilt .

Reply from: Btwa Friday, February 01, 2013 11:53 AM
@Nkatsay thanx a lot u filled the gap
Reply from: Btwa Friday, February 01, 2013 11:54 AM
@Nkatsay thanx a lot u filled the gap
Reply from: Btwa Friday, February 01, 2013 11:54 AM
@Nkatsay thanx a lot u filled the gap
Reply from: Goldi Friday, February 01, 2013 12:03 PM
ohhh tnx Ntaksay
Reply from: Bk212303 Friday, February 01, 2013 12:21 PM
@Btwa ok, ok, ok
Reply from: Bk212303 Friday, February 01, 2013 12:35 PM
@All of you thank you very much vir alles you the best. Remember you the only once i told you about this secret.But on my side iam happy where i am and it turns out my frnd had a long time crush on the guy. Its just that she did not tell me about it and she led me advertise him to her and she kept quiet and she confessed to that and he also told her that i pushed him to her but anyways thank you for your comments and advises.Did i tell you you are amazing and you are OFFICIAALY my best friends ever. I smtimes wonder if i could meet some of you how would life be and im sure i will be blessed from that moment.
Reply from: Cmaneo Friday, February 01, 2013 12:39 PM
@ sisila tell to go on n commit suicide.anyway sorry gal.u ,ll get over this
Reply from: Friend Friday, February 01, 2013 12:44 PM
Dildo this is not a dating site, you won't find any luck here, are you that desperate?
Reply from: Dildo01 Friday, February 01, 2013 12:46 PM

Reading at everyone's stories, I'm touched and it gives me hope and strength to know that I'm not the only going through pain.

Some people want to play God in a person's life, by intentionally leading that person on not realising what effects it would have on that person.  They lead you to trust them, to love them knowing very well that their only intention is having no intentions with you.

I've been in a dark place over this past month and still are but I'm slowly coming out of it with learning that you cannot control people's behaviour  and what they think of you is none of your business.  No one is in charge of your happiness except and remember that you're great, no matter what and no one needs to tell you otherwise.

Reply from: Dildo01 Friday, February 01, 2013 12:53 PM
@Friend, why do people always want to call it desperation?  So if I was on a dating site it's not desperation just because it's meant for that?

No I'm not desperate but I don't think  there's nothing wrong with trying different avenues....you never know where prince charming is at.

Don't judge me please, what's good for the geese doesn't have to be good for the gender.
Reply from: Ntaksay Friday, February 01, 2013 12:53 PM
Yho Dildo01 andiyazi kengoku le uyenzayo, cyber boyfriend, hayi sisi don't advertise yourself like this. Go to the mall or something. I'm sure a handsome hunk sent from heaven is waiting for you. Good luck. If the time to meet him has not come don't rush, he will come eventually.

Pleasure is all mine Goldi an Btwa
Reply from: Friend Friday, February 01, 2013 12:55 PM
Dildo, it shall be well with you, In no time you will be entirely out of the dark, it's life we all have been to hell and back
Reply from: Dildo01 Friday, February 01, 2013 13:01 PM

Ja as hard as it might be, it is life, even though it's unbeilevable that a friend can put one through what my "so called friend" put me through.

Bathi don't trust amadoda, kodwa if you can't trust your friends as well who can you trust?  

And I'm sorry I don't believe in loving them all but trusting no one because then what the's point of any relationship if there's no trust?

Reply from: sisila Friday, February 01, 2013 13:01 PM
Thank you ladies I think what made me so mad is I knew how much the guy loved her and even when she did wrong ill be the one who calm the guy down and tell him to work things out, unfortunately that went to her head and thought she can do whatever the guy will take it . But i told her to leave me out of everything she just needs to speak to her man whatever he says i am to him must believe it and if he doesnt want her back that is her fault not mine.
Reply from: Friend Friday, February 01, 2013 13:07 PM
Some friends are bad news, can kill you gotta be careful who you confide in, Dildo people are different you will soon find a real friend, don't give up and leave her/him to God.Some friends are happy to see you suffering so dont give them ammunition to talk about you.  Concetrate on picking yourself up and forget about people who hurt you.
Reply from: Friend Friday, February 01, 2013 13:12 PM
@Friend, why do people always want to call it desperation? So if I was on a dating site it's not desperation just because it's meant for that?

No I'm not desperate but I don't think there's nothing wrong with trying different avenues....you never know where prince charming is at.

Don't judge me please, what's good for the geese doesn't have to be good for the gender

I sincerely apologies, thought so  because it seemed desperate, even dating sites seem to be.
Reply from: Dildo01 Friday, February 01, 2013 13:30 PM

Thanks. :) 

I think that's why a lot of ladies are single because we're too judgemental without even knowing the background or situation.  I've got a friend who's happily married and met her man on mxit and she only joined it for the sole purpose of hooking up with a man as advised by her other friend. lol

Njengo Ntaksay saying got to a mall or something....Don't you think I do that, that lots of other women do that?  Do you guys know that 80% of all the women you see in malls all dressed up looking gorgeous are not there to shop but to scout men out.  Women go clubbing, churching, malling, sporting, babysitting, weddings, funerals, etc cause they're always on the lookout.

Can't date a man who doesn't work, who's a security, who sends pls calls, onga bheji.....or I only want ama ben 10 noma older men....

All I'm saying is that we all have our preferences and however way you look at it , any way that a woman goes the extra mile for to find that man, is desperation.  But I won't call it that....cause it's not my place to judge, we all have our beliefs.

And for as long as we hold ourselves back and keep on judging we never know what doors we're closing.

Reply from: Kandyfloss Friday, February 01, 2013 13:32 PM
And what is wrong with being Disperate?? Jus asking?
Reply from: Kandyfloss Friday, February 01, 2013 13:42 PM
Isnt goin to the mall to hunt same as those sites??
Reply from: Friend Friday, February 01, 2013 13:44 PM
And what is wrong with being Disperate?? Jus asking?

I have apologised and was not being judgemental, all the best Dildo01.
Reply from: VusiK Friday, February 01, 2013 13:46 PM

my friend wanted someone to settle with and she asked him to marry her
Good for her ... about time women took the initiative ... The woman I'm in love with regrets not proposing all of last year .. when "society" thought it proper. ... Her loss of opportunity not mine.

Do you guys know that 80% of all the women you see in malls all dressed up looking gorgeous are not there to shop but to scout men out

Yes ... I know this for a fact,

Women go clubbing, churching, malling, sporting, babysitting, weddings, funerals, etc cause they're always on the lookout.
They're called Shoppers.

that a woman goes the extra mile for to find that man, is desperation.
Never the case ... only another woman could call it desperate.

And for as long as we hold ourselves back and keep on judging we never know what doors we're closing.
Suits me just fine ... they can keep closing those doors ... they're not closing them on me ... but on themselves.
Reply from: VusiK Friday, February 01, 2013 13:53 PM
Isnt goin to the mall to hunt same as those sites??

i don't know...
I don't care.

If I like someone ... I let her know ...
If her list of expectations exceeds my comfort ... I stop ... The reverse applies as easily.

My opinion is : EVERYONE can be married/ have someone in their lives permanently ... all they have to do is lower their standards and/or expectations and/or demands.
Reply from: VusiK Friday, February 01, 2013 14:00 PM
@Sisila
I was so angry that i cried so much since i couldnt say what was in my heart the guy fell so bad that she confronted her about the whole thing, at the end of it all they broke up now the lady is threatening to kill herself I still have not responded to any of this because I dont know what to say and why i should answer.


We don't know what was in your heart either ... it would be good to have enlightened people regarding this.

THAT SHE IS THREATENING TO KILL HERSELF ... Has nothing to do with you. THAT is none of your business ... DO NOT EXPLAIN yourself to someone who did not bother asking questions / getting the facts from you in the 1st place.
Reply from: VusiK Friday, February 01, 2013 14:01 PM
You don't owe anyone any explanation/ justification  for your friendships.
Reply from: Wiseman nkosi Friday, February 01, 2013 14:04 PM
guys really where is ngamla
Reply from: Wiseman nkosi Friday, February 01, 2013 14:07 PM
guys really where is ngamla
Reply from: Wiseman nkosi Friday, February 01, 2013 14:08 PM
guys really where is ngamla
Reply from: VusiK Friday, February 01, 2013 14:14 PM
@Sisila ...

Did He ... or Did she delete your Pictures & Facebook entries?
Reply from: Goldi Friday, February 01, 2013 14:34 PM
@ Dildo darling most of da family is da femailes darling tell me hw old r u n whr u from if u dnt mind me asking?
Reply from: VusiK Friday, February 01, 2013 14:38 PM

Is Operah Winfrey really a Satanist?? Does anyone know.

Does it matter ?

Will the information change anything in the lives of 7 billion people globally?

Reply from: Goldi Friday, February 01, 2013 14:42 PM
lol excuse my engrish i'm tired n its friday Vusik o grand? 
Reply from: VusiK Friday, February 01, 2013 14:43 PM
I'm fine/ alright Goldi ... just between meetings
Reply from: Goldi Friday, February 01, 2013 14:49 PM

Ok so hw's da wedding planning coming along?

Reply from: VusiK Friday, February 01, 2013 14:51 PM
Haaibo Vusik kante wats rong with. Dis blog? Dnt u love da Gen fam anymo?

I was chased off this blog Goldi ...
also ...
We launched our Africa investments initiative ...
I don't have much time anymore for anything beyond supervising the setups(I want everything done right 1st time, so I spend most of the time with divisional heads, before we go operational ...etc.)
..
plus I am researching for a degree
..
so ... my time is very thin.
Reply from: VusiK Friday, February 01, 2013 14:52 PM
@Goldi ...
Ok so hw's da wedding planning coming along?

There was never a wedding on the cards .. just getting married ..
however ...

I put a sudden stop to that
Reply from: MsKim Friday, February 01, 2013 15:28 PM
s Operah Winfrey really a Satanist?? Does anyone know. Does it matter ? Will the information change anything in the lives of 7 billion people globally? thanks VusiK
Reply from: MsKim Friday, February 01, 2013 15:33 PM
i mean great answer!!!
Reply from: VusiK Friday, February 01, 2013 15:47 PM
'Ello MzKim !!!
Reply from: MaKhuu Friday, February 01, 2013 16:29 PM
A married man went to to his small house (umkwapheni) and was given a a nice prepared meal, so he said Honey is this pork???

Honey:  yes

Man:  no l dont eat pork

Honey:  why?????

Man:   we not allowed to eat pork at church

Honey: you stupid so you are allowed to do prosititution at church..... just shut up and eat that pork.
Reply from: Goldi Friday, February 01, 2013 17:50 PM
Lol Makhuu @ Vusik wu chased u off 4rm dis blog? Ohh I thot u were sorry ma bad :)
Reply from: VusiK Friday, February 01, 2013 17:58 PM
@ Vusik wu chased u off 4rm dis blog?

Old tired story ... not worth regurgitating.
Reply from: Goldi Friday, February 01, 2013 19:21 PM
Ohh sorry nekesare ke tsosa diletseng its cool den no worries yeh!!
Reply from: VusiK Friday, February 01, 2013 19:28 PM
@Goldi...
No harm done.
Reply from: LeboMo7 Friday, February 01, 2013 19:55 PM
So... Still no word of Sibusiso's where-abouts?? Tisk tisk... Thanks a lot *straight face*
Reply from: Goldi Friday, February 01, 2013 20:37 PM
Evening Family eish waitsi Akhona ontena nnang *yawns* Luntu's gona make sure MJ pays 4 all he put her thru aai family politics...Kerrie okae bathong I miss her sooooo much n maqenase ena onyamalletse kae? Haai no anyways gud 9t!!
Reply from: Kandyfloss Friday, February 01, 2013 22:18 PM
Worst part ka Akhona ke gore she's not Caleb's blood relative. People who should be concernd arent bothered at all. O tena nna
Reply from: cyny Friday, February 01, 2013 23:51 PM
Akhona is so stubbon,l hate her.lol@MJ
Reply from: Dildo01 Saturday, February 02, 2013 08:57 AM
@Goldi, 29 JHB West Rand

Reply from: Dildo01 Saturday, February 02, 2013 08:59 AM
@KLandyfloss akere they all bothered by other things....Luntu wanting the shares, Mawande now feeling the freedom of being with her long lost love, the only person who seems to be bothered with carrying on with his father's legacy is MJ.
Reply from: Dildo01 Saturday, February 02, 2013 09:00 AM

Morning everyone *smile*

And today is my daughters bday, she's turning 5years old.

And I'm @ work but knocking off now, now @ 12:00

Reply from: Mpho Patricia nkwinika Saturday, February 02, 2013 16:22 PM
Sounds interesting cnt wa8 as 4 Akhona fil sory 4 her!!
Reply from: Goldi Saturday, February 02, 2013 19:58 PM
Hey Guys whr abt Dildo? Ohhh Happy birthday 2 lil princess hope u spoiled her mommy :) will hook up le wena ko bbm den *winks* by da way m nt a man lol
Reply from: Mimibob Sunday, February 03, 2013 22:44 PM
My opinion is : EVERYONE can be married/ have someone in their lives permanently ... all they have to do is lower their standards and/or expectations and/or demands.

Sad truth. I've been single for the longest time. Want/need someone in my life, but unwilling to lower my standards. I'm one of those good girls people thought would marry early..
Advice I get is that I should stop being "independent" and lower my living standards, e.g. get a simple car - Which are a no-no for me.
Also that I lower my expectations/demands, and I just don't see which one to lower or forgo.. Lol.. Or maybe I havent met a single somebody im willing to lower standards for..

I'm greatful for the Gens family. Reading the blogs helps ease the loneliness, especially since I live alone.

On the flip VusiK, dont you think we can have someone no one just wants to marry or be with permanently, not because of their standards, expectations and/or demands, or anything like?
Reply from: VusiK Monday, February 04, 2013 08:22 AM
Lol.. Or maybe I havent met a single somebody im willing to lower standards for..

Never lower your standards ... People will ride You & take you for granted once you do because you will have altered all the power dynamics surrounding you.

Once you compromise for any reason ... you will probably live the rest of your life in compromity to accommodate your happiness ... never worth it.

I'm greatful for the Gens family. Reading the blogs helps ease the loneliness, especially since I live alone.

You are welcome ... I enjoy our banter also.

On the flip VusiK, dont you think we can have someone no one just wants to marry or be with permanently, not because of their standards, expectations and/or demands, or anything like?

NO!
Not a good idea ...
There is generally / always a reason why nobody wants or desires that person. 99% it si a social/ mental / psychotic problem / issue.
Reply from: VusiK Monday, February 04, 2013 08:25 AM
I'm greatful for the Gens family. Reading the blogs helps ease the loneliness, especially since I live alone.

You are not alone ... I also live alone.
Reply from: steffie Monday, February 04, 2013 08:30 AM
Morning all
Or maybe I havent met a single somebody im willing to lower standards for

that maybe the case, if you met someone that fits the bill to be your ideal man surely you are going to compromisesome things in other to be with him.
Reply from: Ntaksay Monday, February 04, 2013 08:31 AM
Good Morning

I hate Phenyo, trying to take his frastruation out on Dinny.

As for Akhona, I feel sorry for you may dear.
Reply from: Goldi Monday, February 04, 2013 08:41 AM

Morning Family have a wonderful week ahead mchwaaaaaa

Reply from: VusiK Monday, February 04, 2013 08:42 AM
that maybe the case, if you met someone that fits the bill to be your ideal man surely you are going to compromise some things in other to be with him.

You are contradicting yourself steffie ...
The ideal man will fit the standards one has for themselves ...
no compromise there

NB:
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING SINGLE
THERE IS NO PAIN IN LIVING ALONE
I have been doing it for quite a while ...
and refused to get married for much longer regardless of all pressures,
I am thankful for it.
Reply from: Manicure Monday, February 04, 2013 08:47 AM

a beautiful morning to u all.

Reply from: steffie Monday, February 04, 2013 08:52 AM
You are contradicting yourself steffie ...

If the man has qualities that defines my ideal man (provided they surpass the ones I dislike in him)  I can compromise some of my expectations or/and demands to accomondate him in my space.
Reply from: steffie Monday, February 04, 2013 08:55 AM
I'm with you there no harm in being single sometimes is even best to fly solo. I find myself being much happier when I'm alone compared to when I'm around people, is not everyday that I want to be crowded.
Reply from: makanku Monday, February 04, 2013 09:01 AM
Gud morning beautiful ppl !!!!
what i wanna tell u all this morning is GOD IS GOOD. i know u know though.
love u all.
Reply from: VusiK Monday, February 04, 2013 09:10 AM
If the man has qualities that defines my ideal man (provided they surpass the ones I dislike in him)

You will never find anyone who is 100% what you desire ... if you do .. something is wrong either with him ... or you.
Reply from: Friend Monday, February 04, 2013 09:15 AM
Morning family, struggling to come to terms with our Afcon exit.
Reply from: Bk212303 Monday, February 04, 2013 09:22 AM
You don't owe anyone any explanation/ justification for your friendships.

Thank you we all don't. Morning mablogers missed you.
Reply from: steffie Monday, February 04, 2013 09:27 AM
I know
Reply from: Bk212303 Monday, February 04, 2013 09:35 AM
Never lower your standards ... People will ride You & take you for granted once you do because you will have altered all the power dynamics surrounding you.

Once you compromise for any reason ... you will probably live the rest of your life in compromity to accommodate your happiness ... never worth it.

Say that again, heee ppl i have a problem with my hubby he does not want me to mix with my frnd cause he says the standard is too high for him and he wont mix with them what would you do in that situation.
Reply from: Bk212303 Monday, February 04, 2013 09:37 AM
You will never find anyone who is 100% what you desire ... if you do .. something is wrong either with him ... or you.


So true, my frnd usually says love does not balance.
Reply from: sisila Monday, February 04, 2013 09:55 AM
Morning Family

@VusiK

Did He ... or Did she delete your Pictures & Facebook entries
?
She deleted my pictures on his phone she asked for the phone to play a game turned out the game was delete my photo's which led to me asking why only mine and the answer was" just'' then later because she had his facebook password she went and  deleted my Facebook entries,even with that the answer is 'just''. 

I thank God thou that now i am ok and have manage to accept that not all people will return your good deeds some will repay your good deeds by throwing it back in your face.

Thank you aswell family for your words of encouragement, I love you all so so much.
Reply from: Manicure Monday, February 04, 2013 10:02 AM
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Reply from: Goldi Monday, February 04, 2013 10:04 AM
@ Bk wat is high standard wat dd dey du?
Reply from: Bk212303 Monday, February 04, 2013 10:25 AM
@Goldi my hubby wants to keep himself low cause he is being told by family members that he is a no body and does not have money. So now he is living the way they want him to. I have tried to tell him otherwise but no he refuse to listen. So now he wants me to be like him and not be friends with people who is not the same level as us. I tell him i refuse to do that cause with my friends i get advises, support etc. So if i visit like one of my frnds is a dr yhoo when i come back i know its a lecture.
Reply from: Cmaneo Monday, February 04, 2013 10:59 AM
Hey family
Reply from: Ntaksay Monday, February 04, 2013 11:01 AM
I wonder if Asanda is going to tell Akhona what has been happening
Asanda ignores Shaun's warning and pays a visit to a 'friend' 

I think the friend A is going to visit is Akhona, she (A) is also looking for trouble just like Akhona.
Reply from: VusiK Monday, February 04, 2013 11:11 AM
She deleted my pictures on his phone she asked for the phone to play a game turned out the game was delete my photo's which led to me asking why only mine and the answer was" just''

People ... Leave your partner's communications instruments alone!!!
Make no calls, check no messages, do nothing ... leave their crap alone !!!
Whatever you find in there is YOUR FAULT !!!

 then later because she had his facebook password she went and  deleted my Facebook entries,even with that the answer is 'just''.
That's his fault also ... he may have been considering it trustful ...
HIS Fault

BK ... You don't owe either of them anything .. Live & Move on past their drama ... it is not your drama!
Reply from: VusiK Monday, February 04, 2013 11:12 AM
... sorry Meant for Sisila...
Reply from: MaKhuu Monday, February 04, 2013 11:13 AM
February the month we celebrate love so happy Valentine everybody!!!!!

if you don hev a valentine don worry because its not like everyone has Aids on Aids Day.....
Reply from: VusiK Monday, February 04, 2013 11:15 AM
@BK ... It is called an inferiority complex.

It has been hammered into him for so long that he believes that he is less than adequate ...
You could be in trouble if ever he makes a lot of money (be it through his efforts .. or pure luck) ... those with inferiority complexes over-compensate when the pendulum swings to the opposite.
Reply from: yoyozz Monday, February 04, 2013 11:17 AM
shaim sisila now your friend is single im worried about ur friendship nojongana njani i think ur friendship will no longer be the same and its hard to find a caring friend. i dnt want to lie if ndingabona i pix zenye intombi fownini yomntu wam nam andinothanda kunzima uthemba umntu the only way your friend must introduce you to his girlfriend if niyaphuma niyotya somewhr nihambe nonke dnt be angry just try to understand and take you into that girl shoes if ibinguwe ubuzothini not everyone is kind like you. ezinye i friendship ziphela sekuthandwana.

BK shaim this is too much you need the privacy just you and your husby only. nyamezela iyafika i 15 but i like that u are not buying ama 100% umyeni makathenge
Reply from: VusiK Monday, February 04, 2013 11:17 AM
@BK .. He lectures at you because he has some power (however little) in your relationship ...
Sorry ... It's just the facts , per the little information I can glean from you.
Reply from: Goldi Monday, February 04, 2013 11:25 AM

@ BK hahahahah haai Hubby is over reacting hao he jst leave life maan n pay no attention gore batho or rada family bareng ka ena tjoooo YOLO

Reply from: spanchi Monday, February 04, 2013 11:30 AM
Bachelors think that married men are lucky. . Married men think that Bachelors are lucky. . The point is that Bachelors think at night... & Married think at day time.
Reply from: Deemo Monday, February 04, 2013 11:31 AM
hello gud pple ,thank you for caring,im nw feeling better,as u can see im blogging again.above all its the lord's mercy that im well.have a gud day and be blessed abundantly.
Reply from: steffie Monday, February 04, 2013 11:39 AM
@BK you hubby sufers from low self esteem, he wanna drag you along in his hole. His sub-concious mind always tells him that he is not good enough that why he behaves in this way,  psychological help maybe good if not desirable.
Reply from: Bk212303 Monday, February 04, 2013 12:03 PM
You could be in trouble if ever he makes a lot of money .

@VusiK hey you are so right about this one and for now he does not have power.
He just lectures and i ignore and tell him to get over it. This man used to cheat and i always forgave him over and over again and i dont know my love for him is still stronger. But im always supportive and make him look good to other and even his family but in the end i get nothing"but i still love him why is that?" yhoo sometimes i tell him that he was sent to destroy me. But he will never succeed cause i wont let him. To be honest its just that im blinded by love and i cant imagine my son with another father. I have always been the good grlfriend who is honest and support both of them but in return i always cry. Love yes still love him and i dont know if im ok or not cause he has done alot and would cry if i would list it.
Now we married he still wants to choose frnds for me not rich cause he never went to school and i did now my question is must i sufer for that.

Its not like i had it easy no it was not easy for me. I also grew up without parents(still alive) but i was adopted and i suffered but told myself i will bare because i wanted education. I got through ukunyamezela and knew what i wanted but now i get this. Look ppl we are being judged nakwi friendship ppl we mix with. What will you gain if you mix with ppl who is not interested in the same (more or less) things you want. If my goal is to be a somebody why would i mix with a group that wants nothing to do with my goal. 

@VusiK just because he was like hammered with it why cant he c that it is not true and i tried showing him otherwise no.... I was also told that i would be a no one and u know moss u grow up and uget to meet meet ppl withdifferent views. I could c i was living a lie and i prayed and made a life for myself.

One of my frnds bought a car and i could c my man did not like this. I would gloot and go on about this car but i get negative response. He wont even take a ride in the car, he prefers to walk. Isnt this jelousy ppl or am i being parenoid. I think he does not want me to mix with this frnd cause he knows i have been planning to by my own.and if i buy it i would be digging a hole for him.


Advises family come throw at me ppplees i dont know mna i want to keep my frnds cause i know they are good ppls.They have been with me when he was cheating on me they were supporting me and never judged me. The advises i got from them was "grl i cannot tell you what to do with your life it is your choice and i can just support you'in the end it is you who will take the steps when iemele igcwele and when that happpens you wont ask for advise u wil do actions" Family that is my best frend's words to me.
Reply from: Bk212303 Monday, February 04, 2013 12:06 PM
He lectures at you because he has some power (however little) in your relationship ...
Sorry ... It's just the facts , per the little information I can glean from you.

@Vusik thanx for being honest and i hate to say you right cause u are. The only power he has over me is he knows i love him too much and thats it nothing else. Not money cause im a hard worker. I dont sleep if im not working i make a plan like business etc.
Reply from: Bk212303 Monday, February 04, 2013 12:23 PM
I always pray to God, to please change the way he thinks cause he wont go anywhere with a negative mind.

We were planning me and myf to take both our man to an outing end of year.
We went 01/01/213 to Robertson,Montagu Springs valley and it was lovely there so we were planning to go there again but with only hubbs no kids.Cause my one was working that day so he did not go with us but he could c the pics we took there it was good and relaxing.

So i tell him this idea and he freaked out and said he is not going he does not fit.
Soorry for the language i told him to go to helllll im taking my son there to keep me company. I told him its fine i will sweem with my son till night comes and its nice there, the water is warm and my son enjoys swimming.
Reply from: Bk212303 Monday, February 04, 2013 12:25 PM
@FAMILY hayi where is everyone im i the only one chatting.
Yhoo i speak to myself here
Reply from: Bk212303 Monday, February 04, 2013 12:40 PM
U must stop with this whatups i dont like it..........varararararvara "my hubby words"
He thinks he is my father ppl this is not on at all its just that i always stand up to imagine.

Woman stand up who ever is going through what im going through dont ever let him walk over you stand up and fight cause i am. Same with man but its "rare"hahh i have to deal with his family and then its him yhoo they wont suceed cause i have a "SHEILD" MY God he always takes a cover for me.
Reply from: Bk212303 Monday, February 04, 2013 12:41 PM
Still alleen waar is di mense vandag?
Reply from: Kandyfloss Monday, February 04, 2013 12:58 PM
Hayi Bk.. your hubby got real issues. Sorry to say it but Nawe Futhi you do have issues otherwise you would have not married him in the first place.
Reply from: NoMdazB Monday, February 04, 2013 13:05 PM

Not alone nana, just trying to find the right words of encouragement. Will PM you later.

Reply from: Bk212303 Monday, February 04, 2013 13:09 PM
@Kandy its love that is why i said he does things and i still love him.
I also asked if there is maybe something rong with me caus i dont understand this.
Reply from: Goldi Monday, February 04, 2013 13:20 PM
@BK u need to tell ur hubby hw u feel he mst nt treat u like u 2 but anywuu u teach a prsn hw to treat u myb he's been doing it for da past yrs n u used to obey him so he daznt c anything rong cos u let him ova da yrs so it's time u make him stop gal dis is not healthy dodo

Deemo glad to hear dat
Reply from: Friend Monday, February 04, 2013 13:44 PM
BK Tjoo, your hubby and his control issues. maybe you guys should go for counselling, he is selfish instead of appreciating an intelligent,hard working wife he has hez busy bitching around Mxm, he failed himself and must pick himself and be a somebody if he feels worthless.
Reply from: Ntaksay Monday, February 04, 2013 13:48 PM
Soooooooo busy today, I haven't read everthing but I can see Bk is alone in the house today. Keep the house warm Bk. We'll join u now and then.

Bye for now.
Reply from: zdwesha Monday, February 04, 2013 14:03 PM
hala nothing much to say im so buzy just wanna say i miss u
Reply from: MaKhuu Monday, February 04, 2013 14:13 PM
Noluntu hardly forgives she said she hates Senzo and doesnt want anything to do with the baby and she iz sticking to her words

now she said she hates MJ, l will just wait to see how it ends...
Reply from: Ntaksay Monday, February 04, 2013 14:24 PM
I think she will forgive MJ even if it takes 30 years, hatred runs in Memela veins. It is in their blood forgiving takes time bt they do forgive at the end. Take Wandi and Motha as an example.
Reply from: Riyat Monday, February 04, 2013 14:29 PM
Hie family gud to see u r keeping the fire burning. I've been so busy to blog. I always read ur comments especially when I can't sleep at night.
Reply from: makanku Monday, February 04, 2013 14:43 PM
@Bk, i didnt want 2 comment/advice on ur problem cause im too emotional when it comes to these things but since the house is so quiet i'll say sumthing.
ok. its love, i've bn in love too, swallowing whatever junk he-whoever im dating at that moment-shoves down my throat, all in the name of love....!!!

i'm in a situation thats almost the same as yours but the diff is i stoped loving my hubby @ 1 point & he knew it.we tried 2 patch things up but it neva went back 2 normal.with that he stopped walking all over me like he used 2 when i was madly in love with him.like u, i have better education than him so there is a low self esteem issue somewhere in him but i refuse refuse refused 4 being punished just bcos ngifundile (sori 2 put it this way), no. at the beginning of the relationship i did my best 2 make him not feel threatened by my qualifications but unfortunately i cant build his self confidence 4 him & i refused 2 b the victim of his low self esteem.
Reply from: makanku Monday, February 04, 2013 14:55 PM
BK, one of the things that helped me to deal with his emotional abuse was 2 stop being emotionaly dependent upon him, i also stopped expecting anything from him, compliments, hugs, kisses, 'i love u's'..anything.i just stopped. 2 me he became just a roommate i didnt care about...yes it was a wrong approach but i was looking out for myself and it helped. istoped nagging him and i tried to find myself, the woman i am and i healed but became a fighter....so he sensed that he lost me somehow and got scared cuase he neva thought i could stop loving him.

2day we r ok, happy in fact but im trying my best 2 make my happiness my responsibility not his. 
anyway im just sharing sisi, nothing else, i hope u will find a solution/good advice soon.
Reply from: Goldi Monday, February 04, 2013 15:10 PM
Miss u 2 sdwesha pls come back it's been long
Reply from: Bk212303 Monday, February 04, 2013 15:54 PM
@Makanku thanx for sharing. Yeyi yr situation is exactly like mine and i feel much better to know that someone else knows how i feel. The roommate part same here at the moment cause i dont have that ..... for him but i think deep down he can see that.

That is why i go out and enjoy myself with my son. What he hates about me is the fact that im independent, i dont ask him for his money he has to force me to take cause i told him that if he wants out he must just say im just so tired of fighting his battles and i get nothing in return only heart ache.

@Ntaksay yes i c im all alone today.
@Goldi talking does not help for him at the moment im doing actions.

Hee forgot to say tata decided to call both his daughters without telling me or hubby.He just phone me to say he is going to the bus stop to get them, and the time was 18:30 so they come and i wasnt aware moss so i told them that next time you decide to come to my house you phone me so that i make arrangements for you. I mean how can you just bugge like that and so 1 of them said she was not sure if she is coming i said its fine but you will just eat what i have now. I moss cooked samp and beans and tata does not like it at all and i like what he does not like.hahahah. The sunday i woke up 6 an made porridge for tata and went to his room told them(daughters) iam very busy as it is the beginning of the year so im 1st going to the office, stockfela, masingcwaba i made a list and i told i wont be available for the whole day, my cell will be off too and i bought 2loaves of bread and 7oclock i left them and i said to tata im living you with cc and i could c he is pissed off. I left and came back at night 19:45 and everyone were gone and tata just looks at me and i smiled HEY when is this 15th coming it taking for ever im a fake now cause this is not me........
Reply from: makanku Monday, February 04, 2013 16:21 PM

u welcome BK.im so happy that u've stopped being too nice on your in-laws. they sumtimes take advantage of our kindness.

Reply from: semtho Monday, February 04, 2013 16:23 PM
Hey mabloggers love u all to bits, glad i joined this group. @BK ur situation is difficult, dont where to start but BE URSELF GAL, DONT LET ANYONE CHANGE U OR CHANGE WHAT U BELIEVE IN. Engikushoyo lesicathulo sakho siyashisa.

But mine i wouldnt agree on staying with lo tata lo, but the things we do for love sometimes cc. Mine i have two boys(6yrs and the other is 3yrs), my inlaws brought hubbys brother ukutsi he must come stay with us whilst attending skul arnd coz they thot there is no education in the bundus. Uyabo i didnot like it and i was so angry coz i knew that they wont contribute  a cent to skul fees once he comes stay with us which even today they dont pay a cent. We fork out the money and do everyting for him. But now i have accepted it not that i didn't want him to come along but its just that its costly ukuhlala nomuntu. We do all this in the name of LOVE..............
Reply from: NonkyNonky Monday, February 04, 2013 16:28 PM
Looks like we ladies have similar problems.  Kante what's the problem with our husbands.  We need to pray  harder ladies.
Reply from: Ntaksay Monday, February 04, 2013 16:32 PM
Be strong BK

Tomorrow I promise you won't be lonely I'll help you and read all the comments that I've missed today.

Love you all. Bye
Reply from: Riyat Monday, February 04, 2013 16:37 PM
BK I remember the 1st time you posted your problem here. When you talk of February it seems as if it was far away but look now its already here. In Malawi we have a say (nguluwe inalila msampha utaning'a) its about a fox that was caught in a trap. It cried just before it got itself out. What am trying to say is that you've been patience for a long time and soon it will be over. May God reward you accordingly for the good job you have done. He is the only one who knows the good job you have done.
Reply from: VusiK Monday, February 04, 2013 18:52 PM
@VusiK hey you are so right about this one and for now he does not have power.
He just lectures and i ignore and tell him to get over it. This man used to cheat and i always forgave him over and over again and i dont know my love for him is still stronger. But im always supportive and make him look good to other and even his family but in the end i get nothing"but i still love him why is that?"


Because Love is a complication, it is almost impossible to undertand it. It has as many effects on eople as there are who are affected by it.

 yhoo sometimes i tell him that he was sent to destroy me.

You might be right ... Ever heard of the Oposites attract paradigm ... the same paradigm sometimes is called a nullification paradigm.

But he will never succeed cause i wont let him. To be honest its just that im blinded by love and i cant imagine my son with another father.

That is where the source of your frustration really is ... it is not with the choices you are in control of .. but in those you feel you have no control over.

I have always been the good grlfriend who is honest and support both of them but in return i always cry. Love yes still love him and i dont know if im ok or not cause he has done alot and would cry if i would list it.


I suggest ... Don't keep lists ... they imprison you.

Now we married he still wants to choose frnds for me not rich cause he never went to school and i did now my question is must i sufer for that.

Well .. Marriage creates the illusion of possession ... possession is sometimes considered to be power.

Its not like i had it easy no it was not easy for me. I also grew up without parents(still alive) but i was adopted and i suffered but told myself i will bare because i wanted education. I got through ukunyamezela and knew what i wanted but now i get this.

Those who raised you are your arents ... biology is often not everything.

Look ppl we are being judged nakwi friendship ppl we mix with. What will you gain if you mix with ppl who is not interested in the same (more or less) things you want. If my goal is to be a somebody why would i mix with a group that wants nothing to do with my goal. 


True .. but Love nullifies and contradicts this in your case ... also imrisons you.


@VusiK just because he was like hammered with it why cant he c that it is not true and i tried showing him otherwise no.... I was also told that i would be a no one and u know moss u grow up and uget to meet meet ppl withdifferent views. I could c i was living a lie and i prayed and made a life for myself.

This happens everywhere ... there are still many brown people who believe themselves inferior to pink and grey people by default. Genetic knowledge also comes into lay depending on the inherited fundamental IQ, the various threshholds 7 waypoints that were critical in develoing him into who he is today. (Believe it or not, if he had a mentor/ intervenor at a critical point in his develoment who could have helped him alter his development & opinion about himself & his environment ... he would be radically different from the person you know ... In his case, i think he developed not only oppressed, but highly repressed).

One of my frnds bought a car and i could c my man did not like this. I would gloot and go on about this car but i get negative response. He wont even take a ride in the car, he prefers to walk. Isnt this jelousy ppl or am i being parenoid. I think he does not want me to mix with this frnd cause he knows i have been planning to by my own.and if i buy it i would be digging a hole for him.

See comment above, you are simply speaking of the manifestation of what is defined herein above.


Advises family come throw at me ppplees i dont know mna i want to keep my frnds cause i know they are good ppls.They have been with me when he was cheating on me they were supporting me and never judged me. The advises i got from them was "grl i cannot tell you what to do with your life it is your choice and i can just support you'in the end it is you who will take the steps when iemele igcwele and when that happpens you wont ask for advise u wil do actions" Family that is my best frend's words to me.
That's what friends and family are all about ... to be your support structure

Reply from: Riyat Monday, February 04, 2013 19:42 PM
Some people(Vusik) can type yho! (((Hides)))
Reply from: NoMdazB Monday, February 04, 2013 21:17 PM
Amen to that@Riyat (((typing this while hiding in the jungles of Brazil))). I used to think I knew the secret to a happy marriage and it turned out I was wrong. All I know is we chose our husbands for a reason, they were the ones who fulfilled our needs the best. How do we know that what is out there is better?
Reply from: Mimibob Monday, February 04, 2013 22:27 PM
Lol.. @ Riyat and NomD, I actually hadn't noticed the post was that long until u mentioned and had to go back n check.. Was just enyoying the read. 

BK, I'm at loss for words. If u were not married to that guy, I'd say walk! That's no healthy relationship. I think you both need councelling.
Haven't been in love for a very long time, maybe I've forgotten how crazy we get when in love. At present and for some time now, I think with my head and not my heart, and take no non-sense from anyone. I'm not rude or anything, just firm and will not tolerate any form of abuse - emotional or otherwise.

All the best in your marriage dear.
Reply from: VusiK Monday, February 04, 2013 22:56 PM
I did not type all of the response ... only my responses ...
but what point is there in incomplete answers ...
Goodnight
I'll type less in the future.
Reply from: Mimibob Monday, February 04, 2013 23:51 PM
Lol Malome Vusi.. I don't think the ladies were complaining, just observations. No need to type less. :) Goodnight.
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, February 05, 2013 07:46 AM
Good Morning mmmm I can't wait 2 hear hw Phenyo's gona defend himsel ku Dinny after Sello's visit haai Akhona irritates me shame I wonder wat ws in dat doc dat MJ 4gt @ tsalanang dat landed in Sello's hands....
Reply from: sisila Tuesday, February 05, 2013 08:07 AM
Morning people @VusiK i like the fact when you advice a person you really go into detail you put yourself in it keep it up. People like you are people I have grown to love used to be the hide all inside person and that has destroyed me big time attempted suicide twice but since i learned to speak out i never go that far. @ Bk my dad was exactly like your husband and mom stayed 26years with him but because a leopard never changes its spots she got tired today she has a very beautiful house she built for herself she goes to cpt,durban wherever her hearts wants to go she only visits him when she feels like yes she never got another father for us he is still our father she just moved and left him with everything they had together and to tell you even today after 15years we left the house is still exactly as mama left it because he wants people to feel pity for him unfortunately i never danced to his tune the minute he starts with his sob stories i take my bag and leave.
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, February 05, 2013 08:08 AM
A very good Morning to you all!!!!

MJ, business is no game for children, look what's you've done now.

Hayi uSello kanti unjani even Phenyo did not see that one coming, shame Dinny I feel for you.

Sofia is a witch, why is she doing this to Queen and Rob, now she made the old man choose Btwn his family and his lovely Queen, never a good idea.

Akhona never learns, why is she still after Sello. I thought she had learnt her lesson but she just wants more trouble, mxm
Reply from: steffie Tuesday, February 05, 2013 08:38 AM
A very good morning peeps
I must admit I enjoy the advices in this blog, keep up the good work all of you and be blessed.

B2G: Sello knows how to destroy, that man is bad news period. MJ  really see now that business is not pap and vleis but is good to start at the bottom.
Rob is in love hey to choose Queen over his family quite impressive.
Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, February 05, 2013 08:40 AM
@Family thank you very much for all your advises. I am feeling much better because i spoke and i got responses. It heals when you put your problem on the table and be heard. It is out now and yes i have been keeping it for a long time inside. I wont let the devil take control of me.

VUSIK , VUSIK VUSIK.  I dont have words for you all i can say is keep it up.
The way you respond wow!! No one is complaining about the way you respond it is just so interesting it makes me want to read on and on. You make it so clear and understandable. You good i must say.

It is official my hubby said last night hayi utata is only living 24th of feb and i just looked at him and i said why not month end. God is with me all the way and He will guide me and hide. Most of all i ask Him to give me patience.

Thank you to all of you family, i dont even have a chance to watch gen cause im always busy. God bless you all with your families including Gen family. May he keep us all and guide us and give us the right words to comfort each other.


BIG UP MABLOGER!!!!!!!!!
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 08:42 AM
@Sisila, BK, Stef, et al.,  
Shucks!!!!
Thanks... you just made it worth my effort.
Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, February 05, 2013 08:53 AM
You are in a party with yo friends, airtimeless, you want to tel yo partner that u will be late, then u borrow your friends phone, when u dial a number it shows "love", when he/she answers the phone "hi love you can come akeko" Be honest ungenzanjani? Responses plz!!!
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 08:59 AM
@BK ...
LMAO ...
Run !!!
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 09:00 AM
... unless you're into the "sharing is caring" genre
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 09:03 AM
... but run gracefully ...
when it is like that ...
there is no point in being ugly
there is no way you could possibly win ...
so exit with a smile
Reply from: duckie Tuesday, February 05, 2013 09:04 AM
i ll ask maf ukuth angukhaphe endlini , pretendin siyolanda smethn , thn snd a msg usin ma frnd's phn sayin m outsyd......thn action
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, February 05, 2013 09:17 AM
@ BK i'll say i'm on ma way....then ((((BOOM)))) wen he opens da door guess wu :) den da games begin hiihihihihi
Reply from: caro Tuesday, February 05, 2013 09:41 AM
morning generations family , your stories,(dont have the correct word) advices, you guys are friends worth keeping, i feel so lucky to have all fo ya in ma life ,may the good Lord keep you safe. 
....MALUME VUSIK thank you for realising we are nothing without your comforting nature, your presence is much appreciated , wish you can stay longer. 

@ BK eish tough one hey... ... but honestly i will just admit defeat and safe myself from misery, i mean even if they breakup chances that he will get someone else are sky high.. 
Its not easy for a woman knowing that wen ur out there is forever AFCON on your BED ...yelle!!!!!!!!!!!  What a waste
Reply from: steffie Tuesday, February 05, 2013 09:42 AM
@BK the chickens can come to roast
Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, February 05, 2013 10:03 AM
@caro we are also lucky to have you as part of this lovely family.

Ppl im looking for Chinx where is she?
@Goldi hee
@duckie what action

BK to be honest my intestine will start boiling and then take the phone with me to my house and then make a call again make sure that he knows i know and after that i walk out and have funn somma till next day and come back no talking nothing............ u can compare to ice cause i will be very cold.

HAHAHH ive that for years and it never helps but i did that anyway.
I remember when i cought him doing the did and he was busy on top and i just walked in and i looked at him and i grabed a stailess steel pan and i was about to smash them and i just threw the pan on the floor and i said you deserve each other and you not even worth it, i wont waste my energy on crap like the 2 of you and i walked out. You some men!!!!
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 10:09 AM
Hey Caro
:-)
My time is almost non-existent hey ...
I only drop by when it allows,
I only comment & attend to something that captures my attention.
Reply from: steffie Tuesday, February 05, 2013 10:10 AM
You seem to have gone through alot with this man @BK
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 10:23 AM

I remember when i cought him doing the did and he was busy on top and i just walked in and i looked at him and i grabed a stailess steel pan and i was about to smash them and i just threw the pan on the floor and i said you deserve each other and you not even worth it, i wont waste my energy on crap like the 2 of you and i walked out. You some men!!!!

I suppose I'd do the same.

I prefer to let cheats have each other and walk ...
I am often happiest when I am not involved ...

I can't stomach liars, and I fall for liars a little too often

The sex is often awesome, but a liar is always going to be a liar.

... so I tend to remain and trust until the patterns begin to change ...
Thereafter ...
it is a matter of time before they expose themselves ...
In the interim ...
i enjoy the awesome sex and invest less of me by the day.

Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 10:28 AM
In the interim ...
i enjoy the awesome sex

...
selfishly ...
for me & my pleasure & exclusive satisfaction (intimacy will have stopped & died the instant I discover I'm being violated)
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 10:49 AM
My only suggestion for anyone contemplating cheating on their spouse /Partner ...
...
Don't start, it is not worth it.
(Most cheated on partners know they are being cheated on... at some point)
...
it is 2013 ...
You are guaranteed to lose if you are a cheat.
Reply from: caro Tuesday, February 05, 2013 10:50 AM

@BK eish joe uv been thru a lot.. so where is the guy????? ke ra HIM who cheated on you????

Reply from: Friend Tuesday, February 05, 2013 11:03 AM
Morning family, loving the advises and all, great job. Queen better not dissappoint Rob bathong.
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, February 05, 2013 11:19 AM
Hayi BK in this case I really don't know what I would do.

'MJ gives the proxy of his shares away' I hope it's not Sello
Reply from: NoMdazB Tuesday, February 05, 2013 11:23 AM
Morning all.Morning Bhut' Vusi. Besidlala nje kuphela. 
When you have a detailed problem like Bk does you need someone who will make sense of all your madness and really advise you. Oo Ag shame bethu just aren't enough sometimes. Keep up trhe good work guys. It seems we all have more problems than solutions.
Reply from: Friend Tuesday, February 05, 2013 11:23 AM
BK i would dump the bastard and move on with my dignity intact.
Reply from: Manicure Tuesday, February 05, 2013 11:25 AM
BK bathong (claps once) o nale sebete waitse, this is tooooooooooo much.
Reply from: Riyat Tuesday, February 05, 2013 11:34 AM
Its not yet 12 so good morning will do no harm.
Reply from: makanku Tuesday, February 05, 2013 11:35 AM
@BK , sisi ay u've been thru hell ngamadoda and u don't deserve all this but they say bad things happen to good people, maybe its true....bad things used to happen to me while i was good but now that i can be baaaad if needs be, i dont get anymore nonsense.

pray sisi cos uyalimala ngaphakathi.may God help u
we love u, always
Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, February 05, 2013 11:36 AM
@VusiK u always have the right words for me i must say.

The cheater ppl is my one and only HUSBAND.
and i know once a cheater and always........

@VusiK
 selfishly ...
for me & my pleasure & exclusive satisfaction (intimacy will have stopped & died the instant I discover I'm being violated)

God has made me this person i am. Hey at 1st i used to get flashes of the up and down and i would get angry and push him away and he never understood why i did that and i always tell him you managed to change me in to this i dont know what to call it. I mean ladies if you look at my situation hayi its arbnomal some of the grls would have different views. But i dont wish to anyone to go through what i went through yhoo its difficult and its destroyed everything i believed in.

Now its 2013, hayke for me it is the begining of new things cause i dont take shit from no one. If i want to go somewhere i just tell and i leave i dont ask ppl anymore and when he ask  i tell him i learned from the best i learned from u(w.houston if u stil remember) and he keeps quiet cause he knows he is guilt.
Reply from: Nongo Tuesday, February 05, 2013 11:40 AM
morning family, big sisters, auntizos, cousins le balekane baka.
yho Canadians mathat kamoka, 2day they say do this u do if u fail kamso ke ntho ena a kesa tseba ke bona gole botoka go nna fela mo hae ke ja white star le my family.
Bk u've seen it all my dear but u managed, big hats 2 u as 4 me ga ke tsebe ka nnete, aooooo  basadi
Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, February 05, 2013 11:48 AM
@NomdazB Agreed, yes we need ppl like VUSIK hey he gives like it is like or not thats what i like. Not that im saying that others arent good every comment counts we are not the same and ke that makes it interesting.

@Friend i have thought about that several times but the bucket is not full yet for me mna i forgive but i know i dont forget and im very good at pretending even my friends know me they sometimes say Bongi we know this is yr thing then im just myself. When ligcwele ibucket i promise you there wont be talking only actions but dont know when is that time cause im gonna be 13 years with this man.

Even my 8year old son knows me and he can c alles but i keep on pretending im ok but i can c uba he knows his mommy is not ok. Even when he would cheat and when i confrant he would beat the hell out of me and this particular day i saw my son coming towards me and he was screaming for his mommy i stood up and i made as if nothing was happening and he started to bite his father and i grabbed my son and we took a walk and he says mama let me rub u....................................................................................................................................
Reply from: Friend Tuesday, February 05, 2013 11:54 AM
BK you know some men take us for granted and dont respect us, your man! Tjeer, not saying mine is a saint, the thing is I have never suspected of cheating. and has never done anything along those lines I know of. Maybe it's because he is mature and has done and seen it all before settling down. some cheats do change for the best, talking from experience. Hope your hubby grows up and start respecting himself.
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, February 05, 2013 11:57 AM
I must say BK you have a lot of experience in life and mor on relatioship. Is the person you caught on top of someone your hubby or was it a previous b/f.
You have been through a lot sisi. But what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. But wena you are STRONGEST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, February 05, 2013 12:08 PM

Yho BK kanti uyakubetha nokubetha, if it's love that makes you stay in that relationship. Then love really is blind. You are being abused by him and his family, where are you going to find happines. I can take emotional abuse but physical infront of a child. This is not only going to destroy you but your child as well. He needs to appreciate you now, he has put you through enough. He has to stop, sereously

Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, February 05, 2013 12:12 PM
BK maybe you should hook your husband with malume VusiK so that he can show him how to treat a woman. I don't mean this in a bad way. But if he talk to somene who can make him see the light at the end of the tunne, that may help him.
Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, February 05, 2013 12:13 PM
@Ntaksay I caught my hubby but were still grfrnd and boyf in 2011 on top of grl or should i say another cheater. Guys my hubby and my boyfriend is the same men im with now. Forgiven and moving on to the next hit but i must say i dont know for how long, but im sure u wont be shocked when i say im single when the time comes, u will all be relieved.

I am stronger that ever guys.@Friend i sometimes speak to my hubby i tell him buti sort yourself cause when im done i will be done and he says iam his and i will never leave him i just glims at himm ppl i know that time will come and i know i said til death do us apart but not in this marriage cause i dont think i can handle it if i would again c or hear anything about him and grls.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 12:15 PM
Now its 2013, hayke for me it is the begining of new things cause i dont take shit from no one. If i want to go somewhere i just tell and i leave i dont ask ppl anymore and when he ask  i tell him i learned from the best i learned from u(w.houston if u stil remember) and he keeps quiet cause he knows he is guilt.

Yes, It is 2013.

... and he started to bite his father and i grabbed my son and we took a walk and he says mama let me rub u

Isn't that simply precious !?!
Children can be sooooo incredibly giving !!!

Also ... it is also very possible that a fair amount of your husband's maltreatment of you is guilt ... now that more details are emerging ...

It is possible that he wishes to treat you in such a bad light to entice an ugly reaction ... for some people, an ugly response to their ugly way is something only they can understand and use to reconcile with their not being good people in the 1st place.

It would make him feel good if you lashed out in anger or resentment, you only make him feel terrible inside by being gracious.
Reply from: sisila Tuesday, February 05, 2013 12:20 PM
@Bk you really need to put an end to this you act exactly as my mom she would be beaten and i would be rubbing her with tears in my eyes until i told her enough now i cant take it anymore i dont want to be motherless eventhou my dad still blames me for making mom leave him im glad cos now i stay in another province but im always at peace knowing she is safe.  Their relationship made me miss out of my teen years i always wanted to be at home incase he start hitting  so that i can open a door for her to excape  but i have learned to accept it for your kid please consider what it does its not easy and it only creates future problems. I grew up hating men and wanted nothing to do with them, even my first boyfriend suffered cos i use to abuse him emotionally,until a friend who was close to us suggested for me to seek help.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 12:21 PM
Guilt is an extremely toxic space to have living inside a person.
It desires more toxicity to survive.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 12:25 PM
I grew up hating men

Many people walking around like that Sisila ... (the opposite applies)
Only though realising the problem can one seek to improve oneself, and move past the damage ..
and only then can one heal ...
and only then can one live...
and only then can one even start trying to be happy.
Reply from: Nongo Tuesday, February 05, 2013 12:33 PM
BK wat u going thru is 2much cc. i respect my kids that much i don want them 2c any fights btwn us i always ensure they are out when i hv 2 confrot him. my mom had the same situation until 1 day when my bros en i he was drunk en we knew all hell will break loose, we beat him that day black en blue with watever we could lay our hands on en being in the army compound the younger one blew a whistle immediately he was whisked into the van en spent a nite in police cell. the following day we had a family gatehering that his kids beat him ga bana maitseo 1ques was asked hw can all ur kids beat u madala en he had no ans en from that day he will just shout at mom that u want to send ur kids 2 beat me akere.
so cc Bk keep praying 4 this 2013 a year of Restoration he will find his way end treat u like a husband shud, giving u all the LOVE.
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, February 05, 2013 12:35 PM
When you decided that enough is enough, make sure he is not around when you leave, ndiyamoyika he might even kill if he keeps saying you are HIS
Reply from: Friend Tuesday, February 05, 2013 12:38 PM
As much as I want BK to leave her abusive hubby, they say it's easier said than done, especially when you are not in that situation. I pray that he doesn't beat her to death, my friends Sis was beaten to death by her hubby, the man who once loved her, the mother of his kids ,the woman who bought them a home and car, the woman who loved and continued to respect him, she loved him to death, it's sad....
Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, February 05, 2013 12:41 PM
Wow Vusik Vusik hey where are a u? Wow hayi hayi i clap hands what do u do.
 
You are so right cause when i do good with that man, yhoooooooo i think im sitting with a big problem in my hands.

The last time he hit me was 2011 and that day im sure he was planning to kill us both me and my son. Cause he hit me at night and i ran with my boy and we hid in my frnd's house and the next day at about 13:00 during the day i walked of my frnd's house thinking maybe he is at the house and turned out he was sitting behind the yard so we could not c him and he just dragged us from behind taking us back to our house and he closed the doors an he took a knife out and we sat and waited and ppl i had to be nice all times if i c its not walking i change tone yeyi i was praying tinking of my son all time and he just stopped and open the door for my son and he apologied as he could c i was praying but didnt cry cause if i cry yhooo he starts to shout and i was scared of the action part but anyway. The physical abuse passed that day and he never again did any of those things(I THINK GOD TOOK OVER THERE) about the cheating i still never saw,heard, suspicion or anything like that, but we are working on the trust cause i dont trust him at all.


Thank you again from the bottom of my heart. VusiK u have something good wena and if you would open your maybe... to counsel or something wow i

Anyways enough about me and my ....... life I need something possitive now anyone!!!!
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, February 05, 2013 12:41 PM
@ BK i'm sure if dis is LOVE or it's LOW SELFESTEEM

Yhoo!! you've been thru a lot with ur hubby i must say i wud have left hes ass long ago specially after seeing him doing da dance with anada cheater mmmm i guess it's true wen dey say love is blind kannete
Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, February 05, 2013 12:44 PM
@Ntaksay im not scared anymore ive passed that stage and he knows it.
Im like a bull now im stronger and i tell straight in the eye. I cant say when is enough i dont know time will tell and im not the cheating type cause mybe if i was i would have left long time.
Reply from: zdwesha Tuesday, February 05, 2013 12:45 PM
no comments im living in dark city

to all of u guys u r all awesome may god bless you n stay strong

bk leave that man for your sons sake or else he will grow up thinking abusing women is ok
Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, February 05, 2013 12:51 PM
im not the cheating type cause mybe if i was i would have left long time Not that im saying only cheaters wont take this shit even normal ppl but its just that we are different. Some of us take this nonsense.
Reply from: Nongo Tuesday, February 05, 2013 12:54 PM
Not that im saying only cheaters wont take this shit even normal ppl but its just that we are different. Some of us take this nonsense.
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u are rite neh.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 12:54 PM
@BK
Wow Vusik Vusik hey where are a u? Wow hayi hayi i clap hands what do u do.


I'm in Mzantsi
(I have a house in North JHB & Pretoria & Durban ... but I am a Pretoria native) ... until winter, then I'm off to sunnier warmer climes.
I prefer my place in Malta and Singapore to any other place other than here.

I work hardly / hardly work :-)...
I run a multinational investment firm.
Most of the time ...
I build organizations and provide solutions to my organizations & some very old clients/ friends.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 12:55 PM
u have something good wena and if you would open your maybe... to counsel or something wow i

No thank you ... I'll pass on your suggestion.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 13:00 PM

Thank you again from the bottom of my heart.


You are very welcome!
You are sincere about your pain.
It merits all the help we can suggest.
...
But the decision regarding what to do belongs to you.
Reply from: Cmaneo Tuesday, February 05, 2013 13:00 PM
You are a strongest family ever.lov u all
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 13:01 PM
... please eliminate the But in my last comment
Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, February 05, 2013 13:03 PM
@Zdwesha true but i ask God each and every day when i pray with my son i tell him to pray for his father cause i know he loves his father. I tell him to ask GOD to change him and since we have been doing that my son believes that GOD has changed his father. I remember when the last we were locked my son said mama when is this GOD going to answer we have been praying but utata usakubetha so
his father heard all of this i dont know if that also changed the abuse.

My son is a very loving and caring boy and im so lucky that God gave me him.
He has actually sent an angel straight to me and for that im thankfull.
A boy who understands if his mom says no i dont have money now but when i have u will get if its appropriate. A boy who says mama thank even if i buy him something small but he smiles and says Enkosi wow. Its a book ppl
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, February 05, 2013 13:05 PM

@Bk u not a cheating type kannete cos if u were u wud have done ur revenge with ur 4rnds hubby hihihihihi agg u r tough shem.....u r ryt we r not da same u have a Golden Heart wat doesnt kill u makes u stronger i believe it daz s u jst said u r stronger nw

Reply from: makanku Tuesday, February 05, 2013 13:07 PM
@BK, sisi ayi kabi but this is too much, kanti yini bantu ngalomuntu wakho? 1 question i have 4 u, is it worth the wait ukuthi kugcwale ibucket b4 u give him whatever is coming his way? this is affecting your kids 4 gudnes sake.  dont take me wrong but the sooner u do sumthing...whatever it is...the better 4 u & ur kids.put a stop on this, only u can. we can advise, comfort, support u but at the end of the day ur future is in your hands, decide and take action. where did u get ur thick blood from?aw.

malume Vusi siyabonga for your wise words, u seem capable of making sence in our complicated situation even though isingisi sakho sibuye singishiye...lol
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 13:08 PM
i was praying but didnt cry
..
You nullified his power by not crying, or doing anything that would extend the reach of that power over you.

Bullies, physical abusers, rapists, and ALL criminals (sadly .. also organized religion) rely on one thing and only one thing to influence events in their favour / as they wish .. FEAR

Once the fear is eliminated ... they have absolutely no power over anyone ... ever !!
Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, February 05, 2013 13:09 PM
@VusiK  ahahahahah so u say u will pass why?
then we are so lucky to have you in this family. Its like you are a busy man neh.
what kind of organisation do you build?

Yes it all comes back to to me. Thank you all

Positive stuff come on ppl
Reply from: makanku Tuesday, February 05, 2013 13:11 PM
BK,dont take my scolding u the wrong way, u r my sister & i hate it if 1 of us is being ill-treated njengawe..like i said izolo i've been there once but i fought like a mad person, fight fight fight and dont stop fighting until he treats u like a princess u r
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 13:12 PM
even though isingisi sakho sibuye singishiye...lol

Ungesabi Mntakwethu ... asifundanga ngokulingana , nangokufana ...
Ngiyaxolisa uma ngikudukisa ngesinye isikhathi ngalesingisi, kodwa, yiso esaziwa yizo izizwe ezifunda nathi la' !
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 13:23 PM
@VusiK  ahahahahah so u say u will pass why?

I don't think I could survive hearing people's traumas daily.
... especially when they are in clear and present danger, and ignore the signs, and the inevitable happens.
People are very difficult ... they often know what is possibly better for them but seldom take the leap to grab it ... I would love faith.

Its like you are a busy man neh
I take it all in good stride .. I work 20 hours a day ... so ... a few hours is no harm

what kind of organisation do you build?
Mainly international business organizations
...mainly investment firms &
...Private Equity firms &
.. banks & finance firms
Mainly for our group of companies.
Mainly for my clients and my family

even though isingisi sakho sibuye singishiye...lol
..  my sister will probably low you away if this is the case,

***
You could write a book you know.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 13:26 PM
(I'm the quiet one in my family)
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 13:30 PM
...my sister ... low- blow
(I have dead B & P keys evidently ... will have the key-boad replaced)
Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, February 05, 2013 13:33 PM
@Makanku no my sister i like cause u say it like it is and that is what i admire about vusik like it or not here it comes. where did u get ur thick blood from?aw.
i dont know grl thats why i smtimes say im from mars
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 13:35 PM
@VusiK  ahahahahah so u say u will pass why?

I also turned down educating for the same reason.
(Every year .. I get requests from some awesome schools to come teach ...
Thanks ...
I'll pass)
Reply from: NoMdazB Tuesday, February 05, 2013 13:56 PM
@Bk. Please forget everything I've told you so far and read this. My dad died when I was 5 so the only father figure I had was my uncle. He used to beat my aunt infront of us and we couldn't do anything and he knew that. I will never forget the feeling of helpless that I felt. For a long time I would watch and cry, because I felt I should have done something. He bullied us all and dared us to try something when he knew we couldn't. The deep, deep hurt you feel by watching someone you love be terrorized like that, you never forget or get over. I carry it with me to this day. I even get scared when I see people shouting because I know what happens afterwards. While being beaten she would be all strong like you and not cry but that sight destroyed us. Imagine me and my teeanage brothers quietly weeping and silently begging him to stop- begging her to just run away or cry or something so he would stop. I am crying as I am typing this because it took me back to a place I ad forgotten.Even when my uncle wasn't being violent we were always scared, all the time. We were scared to talk, to laugh to joke around, anything. Because anything would change that mood. That pain sisi you see as a child you live with forever.i will never forget her black eyes the following day. I swore that no man would ever do that to me and no man has ever tried. Please do not do that to your baby. Put him first because he is helpless and defenceless. Do not protect a grown man's feelings over his. Your son needs you to fight for his happiness. My cousin, my uncle's daughter suffers from migraines as a result. For him to stop she told him she'd rather be a street kid than suffer any longer. Please do not put your child through that.
Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, February 05, 2013 13:59 PM
@I can imagine you school im sure you were one of the best student.
But i understand why you dont want to cause seriously we know where the problem is, but no we still need help here and there and still stay in that problem.

I for one know that this is not a health marriage, but i still went on with. I mean i would be irritated if i keep on consulting a person for 10 years and they still continue with their own beliefs.

But anyway it was a thought and looking at yr comments ever since u started blogging.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 14:02 PM
anyway it was a thought and looking at yr comments ever since u started blogging.

When ... This Year?
Reply from: CINDY LAPPA Tuesday, February 05, 2013 14:04 PM
its so sweet to have pple like you Vusik in our world may God bless you i love you and your wise advises im answered before asking
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 14:05 PM
I've been rocking to TK, KB, and Malaika for the last hour or so ...
The whole building is shaking, lol
Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, February 05, 2013 14:13 PM
@Vusik this year buti.

Nice you rocking while im stuck with a lot of filing in front of me.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 14:15 PM
lol,
Yah hey !!!!
That happens ...
It could be worse ...
You could be working in my building !!!
Reply from: Nastygal1 Tuesday, February 05, 2013 14:16 PM
I wonder imaphi lamanga kaDinnyyyyyyyyyyy,Noluntu uselfish poor Babalwa
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 14:28 PM
its so sweet to have pple like you Vusik in our world may God bless you i love you and your wise advises im answered before asking

Thank you Sisi
:-)
Reply from: sisila Tuesday, February 05, 2013 14:32 PM
@ Nomdaz i understand you perfectly i sometimes also cry when i think back and when i see people fight i literally run away like a child its like the person is bitting me.
Reply from: Manicure Tuesday, February 05, 2013 14:34 PM
i saw my son coming towards me and he was screaming for his mommy i stood up and i made as if nothing was happening and he started to bite his father and i grabbed my son and we took a walk and he says mama let me rub u.

@ BK
do u know how much pain u are causing to this little boy my dear friend, do u know what u planting in ur litle boy's mind/life?do u know that the pain that ur litle boy is going through will live in him forever and ever, Please dont do that to the innocent boy for the sake of love, ur son comes first in ur life, dont protect than man ova ur son, that is the bigest mistake that u doing my dear BK.  ur son needs hapiness and protection from u as her mother.  

to all those who have been prasing u telling u how strong u are to bear those things that ur husband is doing to u i think they are not being honest with u my dear sister, u dont deserve that, no true love will make u suffer like that, i think u made  a big mistake by marrying this man, u dont desrve him, after all u are well eduacated, u have a job and a son, what more do u want from him. he is nothin but a pain to ur life.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 14:43 PM
setting my objectivity aside;-

The only subjective piece of advice I can provide BK is ...

Should you ever decide to leave ...

Do not talk about it.. (be it To us , your friends, family .. anyone) ...
Do not warn him ...
Just do it  ...

Go to the lawyers, file papers, know the date they will be serving him ...
Buy your new house, furnish it etc... all before you exit his space, and never return home one day,
however ...
allow him his access / visitation to his child ... (meet & drop off / collect baby in a public place ) ...
but once you leave ...
never set foot in your old home again ... for any reason, once you make the decision to leave ...
be certain it is the right thing for you and make it final.
Reply from: Manicure Tuesday, February 05, 2013 15:07 PM
sumbody is in a very good mood since friday, mmmhhhh.
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, February 05, 2013 15:09 PM
@Mani it's not yet dat time lala she will leave wen she's gatvol like Vusi said wen u gatvol u dnt warn nobody u jst leave so dat time is still to come 

WHEN A WOMAN IS FED UP IT AINT NOTHING U CAN DU ABT IT R Kelly knew wat he ws tlkng abt wen her wrote dat song n wen dat time comes she's gona put on her walking or running shoes n she wont even look back *my sixth sense*
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 15:24 PM
she's gona put on her walking or running shoes n she wont even look back *my sixth sense*

No Doubt about that, lol
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, February 05, 2013 15:26 PM

:)

Reply from: steffie Tuesday, February 05, 2013 15:35 PM

 I'm feeling sleepy today

Reply from: Maqinase Tuesday, February 05, 2013 15:37 PM

Hello family

I've been silently blogging

@ VusiK..You are really a good advisor I must tell

That's exactly what I did...
I didnt talk about it,I just did it
Went to the lawyers...the divorce was through without him being there cause he ddnt pitch thinking that it wont happen without him
Didnt buy a house though just rent a place cause he still stays on that one, he just agreed recently to sell it cause he cant afford to pay
I'm giving him access to his child in a public place
I never went to my house again although I left lot of my stuff there
I'm starting from scratch slowly but surely &happy to stay with my boy

@ Bk....You can do it girl only if you are ready

Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, February 05, 2013 15:41 PM
how nice of u to shower us with ur presence Maqinase,,,steffie wee ake o nwe metsi tlhe n o eme mostulong onke walk u tla ba shart * taking a walk*
Reply from: steffie Tuesday, February 05, 2013 15:56 PM
just did it @Goldi
Reply from: NoMdazB Tuesday, February 05, 2013 15:57 PM

@ BK LISTEN TO WHAT @VUSIK IS SAYING. PLEASE SISI. IT'S NEVER TOO LATE. DO YOU SEE THAT I AM USING SHOUTY LETTERS?

Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, February 05, 2013 16:11 PM
lol Nomd du u really have to SHOUT?  that's ma gal @ Steffie :)
Reply from: steffie Tuesday, February 05, 2013 16:25 PM
Bye everyone till tomorrow
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 16:27 PM
@Maqinase ...
Ngiyaxolisa .... ungaRenta wena Sis BK
Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, February 05, 2013 16:28 PM
@Vusik and Nomdaz and everyone i hear you but why do i stil love this guy when he has done these things to me. Maybe there is something wrong with me.

Wil talk tomorrow got to go now.
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, February 05, 2013 16:30 PM
Bk you have big decisions to make sisi think very carefully. Make a decision that will make you and your child happy. Uyicingisise sisi lento, you might feel that you are attached to your hubby because of what you've been through and the years you've spent with him, bt plz consider your happiness as well. I am not saying leave him but you have to be careful. Good luck

I'm knocking off people. Chat to you tomorrow. Bye
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 16:38 PM
@Vusik and Nomdaz and everyone i hear you but why do i stil love this guy when he has done these things to me

We respect whatever decision you make on the matter Sisi.
Reply from: Nongo Tuesday, February 05, 2013 16:56 PM
ee gakena kgang jaanong, marato yho, i thought so too until after leaving and realised that i've been leaving a lie. i did go to acounsellor who said exact waht VusiK said, i thought he was mad that day (counsellor) after a while i asked myself im not the 1st nor the last im out. rite now i enjoy myself en my boys are @ peace with mom, being a divorcee is not a failure as pple think, no tried but in vain. bye cu 2moro good pple lalang sentle.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 05, 2013 17:56 PM
DO YOU SEE THAT I AM USING SHOUTY LETTERS?

ROFLMBAO !!!
Reply from: NoMdazB Tuesday, February 05, 2013 19:05 PM
Hey all. What Bk said about being beaten took me back to a place of terror so I ended up yelling at her. I don't think any of us are standing from a place of judgement saying @Bk you are being stupid. None of us are in her shoes so our aim is to look out for her wellbeing as well as that of her son's and do it without being judgemental . @Bk when you ask why you still love him, well it's because you do. When you truly love someone you don't stop because they are treating you badly. Love keeps the flames of hope alive, hope that he will change and see how badly he is hurting you. I think most people who leave their spouses leave with their hearts still filled with love. But they choose to love themselves and maybe their kids more. Have you ever let him know that abusing you is not okay? You see some people justify it and say it's part and parcel of the realationship so he might be fooling himself into thinking it's okay. What does your son say about it. Maybe you could ask him a roundabout question about daddy being angry and hear what he says. Are things mostly okay between the two of you? Do you think things will change? Does he want to change? Do you think your marriage is worth saving? What would it take to save it ? If you had to do it again would you still marry him? I'm hoping that some of these questions will help you find a solution. Like everyone said only you can decide what to do. We are just trying to offer different points of view ukuze ubone ukukhanya kule ntsunguzi ukuyo (so you can find light at the end of this tunnel)
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, February 05, 2013 19:49 PM
Well da decision its HERS n all we can du s a loving FAMILY give her SUPPORT and RESPECT wat eva decision she makes yeh!! Remember gal ur happiness comes 1st
Reply from: Mimibob Tuesday, February 05, 2013 22:23 PM
Hae.. Bosso ke BK.
I always say I'm one in 7 billion.. Hey,wena KB o tswa Mars ka nnete.. Have u and hubby considered counselling? You have such a big heart. You deserve to be loved. I'm pained for your son. I wish I could take him for a bit to save from the abuse and pain while u guys sort things out. *hugs to him*.  I have memories for as far back as I was 3 or 4 years old (nothing terrible though). Children don't forget. Build lovely memories for your child Bongi. He might be a sweet boy now, but might grow up to be a bitter person, abusive even. He might resent you one day for not protecting him and yourself when you could have.
I will pray specially for your family tonight. This needs divine intervetion.

(I have dead B & P keys evidently ... will have the key-boad replaced)
Lol, ya, I noticed your keyboard had dead P.
You are quite a busy man.. 20 hours a day! Yoh!
Just remebered Pastry - she thought you were Vusi Kunene.. Lol... I wonder where she is.
Reply from: Ntaksay Wednesday, February 06, 2013 08:11 AM
Good morning

Hayi uSello wants to be involved in every business, nawe MJ you should've let Wandi go to that meeting. Serves Phenyo right for getting Sello out of jail,

Dinny plz don't take your frastruation out on other people

Khethiwe and drinking, hayi shame

Reply from: Friend Wednesday, February 06, 2013 08:17 AM
Morning peeps, loving the weather. Update pls, missed gen last night due to bad weather.
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 08:29 AM
Just remebered Pastry - she thought you were Vusi Kunene.. Lol... I wonder where she is.

She is around ... almost had it out with her the other day ... she accused me of being sexist
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 08:34 AM
He might be a sweet boy now, but might grow up to be a bitter person, abusive even. He might resent you one day for not protecting him and yourself when you could have.

This is real risk , but useless/ pointless counsel if she remains in the marriage.
I can pretty much guarantee he will be imbalanced if he develops in the environment she is subjecting him to.
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 08:45 AM
Yah ...

BK ke Bosso fo Sho !!!
no doubt in my mind.
Ausi ke-letlapa!!!
Reply from: Cmaneo Wednesday, February 06, 2013 08:54 AM
Morning good people
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, February 06, 2013 09:03 AM
Morning guyz hope every1 slept well me i'm all gud tnx for asking in advanced lol
Reply from: steffie Wednesday, February 06, 2013 09:13 AM

Such a  good morning people!

Reply from: makanku Wednesday, February 06, 2013 09:21 AM
morning good peeps!
BK should stop being ibosso now, for your son's sake.your hubby must stop treating you like peace of dirt or he must suffer for his actions, u make sure of that.we r not saying u shud leave him but we,your family,  r pressurising u 2 do sumthing, dont just roll over and die, u r stronger than that.

Queen ukhuluma njalo, sum1 must shut her big mouth 4 her!
Phenyo must tell Ruby the truth khona ezothola impama!
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 09:35 AM
... yes ...

Everyone is applying undue pressure on BK

I admire her strength and resolve,
I wish there were more people of strong conviction
.. like her

She is aware of most of the info she needs to make decisions.
the rest is up to her.
...
...
Let her make her decision
... for herself and her family
... by herself.
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, February 06, 2013 09:46 AM
Dinny mst jst deal with her issues yooo wat dd Queen do cos she ws giving her opinion or is she not aloud iyooooo, i feel sorry 4 Rob i understand were Sofia's coming from bt y cnt she give Queen a chance u know Basadi a se ORGANISATION bathong eish!!
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, February 06, 2013 09:51 AM
Dinny mst jst deal with her issues yooo wat dd Queen do cos she ws giving her opinion or is she not aloud iyooooo, i feel sorry 4 Rob i understand were Sofia's coming from bt y cnt she give Queen a chance u know Basadi a se ORGANISATION bathong eish!!
Reply from: sisila Wednesday, February 06, 2013 10:16 AM
.
I can pretty much guarantee he will be imbalanced if he develops in the environment she is subjecting him to. I grew up in that environment everyday is a struggle its so hard to love, to trust even just to be happy in a relationship there is always that thing that says what if he turns out to be like my dad. Even when he makes a honest mistake im always ready to tell him i expected it. Infact i always expect less in everthing.
Reply from: Pastry Wednesday, February 06, 2013 10:25 AM
Heheheeee Mims...i am around, just too lazy lately to read everything or even type a comment. 

One thing for sure comments from people like yourself and Vusi i never skip reading...it makes it hard for me though to say anything as I dont read the whole story and without all facts what can I say

LOL...I didnt think he was Vusi Kunene, I asked if he was. I was a new blogger and intrigued by his intellectual power.

Accused you Malome Vusi (lol), never...you provoked me, hahahaaa
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 11:55 AM
@Sisila ...

Just invest in &  surround him with Love and respect for all that lives, even ants and other insects ... He will adot it as natural to respect and acknowledge all living things as having the right to be here.

@Pastry , lol
Reply from: Maqinase Wednesday, February 06, 2013 13:42 PM

Hi MaBloggers

I love you guys wish we can all meet one day.....

Where is Kerrie ?

Reply from: Thibi Wednesday, February 06, 2013 14:16 PM
Tjo! BK

Now I know and appreciate the love that I get from my man. No marriage is 100% but  reading from above I am currently in a good loving and healthy marriage and family.


BK...did a friend that said you are his only woman, don't you miss him sometimes?
Reply from: CINDY LAPPA Wednesday, February 06, 2013 15:06 PM
hey  loving family im down and asking 4 your prayers some family member dreamt badly abt my 1 and only daughter.What makes me feel bad is that she always dream the truth ,i juss can't imagine smthing hapenning to her bcoz she means everything to me Im knocking of enjoy the rest of your day and good9ty
Reply from: goldie Wednesday, February 06, 2013 15:08 PM
Hello Family

@BK aikhona sisi o strong hle! Nna I told myself I will never go thru what my mom went with her in-laws, she respected them n my father to the end n still suffered to d extend that after 30yrs with 3 children our father left her with NOTHING, not even R10,00 from his estate u know.

I put my foot down from d word go. B4 my wedding my husband's father told me that if i am going to wear 2 dresses (white wedding n traditional at his place), i can wear that traditional at my place cos at his house i will leave the house in awhite dress, I told him straight up this is my wedding not yours, ur son is marrying me not d other way round and if that is how he feels they can find a wife 4 their son cos the wedding is off! He never ever crossed that line with me to this day he wud rather speak with hubby n he is always the man in the middle cos he can put it lightly and reason with his parents! I made it clear i married him not the family, they came as d extra package with him n cud be offloaded that easily or we can just go our separate ways, he asked me to spend our lives together(me n him n our kids) not with all of them, so if they want to b part of this it is up to them.

We visited them n i went to visit some of my old varsity friends from around ther and came back late, mamazala n daughter-in-law went to a wedding n the poor tatazala hadn't eaten when we arrived with hubby at about 8pm and the other 2 were watchin TV, tatazala asked for food and I just lost it right there n then, I told them even though i am married, tatazala paid lobola for mamazala n he is still her responsibilty not mine, they sit watch TV waiting for Makoti to come and cook yet they claim ur our daughter dont feel like makoti here n i asked what is this n for the mother to sit with a 25yr old grown-up woman n do this? i told her she is a woman like me n she will fall in love n will get married to a family that will mistreat her you'll wish her to leave him she will tell u i luv him, just remember what u do to another woman can easily happen to u too, it stopped! And since then they know I dont take kak from anybody, sis-in-law stays with us now n was complaing my help(dont like to call her maid) doesnt clean her room,wash her clothes or her dishes i must speak to her, i went to her room n asked if it was true she said d girl sleeps till late n yena she wud b finished, i told her i am not angry actually proud she must keep doing it cos a 29yr old must b havin her own place not stayin with brother n his family ,she is leavin now going back home to mommy!

So, to cut long story short @BK, we deal with things differently but compromisin too much with all this ungrateful people around u, think long and hard. Me they respect my space i respect them back, anything they want us to do or help with, goes thru the madam of the house (ME) END OF D STORY!
I AM GRATEFUL TO GOD COS HUBBY'S ALWAYS ON MY SIDE COS HE SAYS HE MARRIED ME N WILL NEVER DO IT AGAIN!
Reply from: Mrs Chix Wednesday, February 06, 2013 15:09 PM
Hi All BK marriage is difficult and hard work. Right now I am not speaking to my husband. We are sleeping on he same bed but different blankets. when mu hubby get drunk bad things happen to us, I have tried to accept what he does but everytime its a different story. On Saturday he had a problem with his car while coming from a drinking spree with his friends. He called me to come and try to jump start. When I get there he was putting the cables the wrong ways and I could see he was going to damage my battery. so I decided to call his friend who stays next door to us. Now he gets angry, saying why I called his friend. Then he decide to walk home and left m in Primrose at 8 in the evening, alone with 2 cars. Likely his friend came within 20mins with the wife. Right now I am still angry and disappointed. Since Sunday he has been apologizing and right now I am not ready to forgive him. But I know by Saturday we will be back to normal ( laughing and all) Thats marriage.
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, February 06, 2013 15:34 PM

Ya ne ke mathata we all handle such situations diffrentely so I STILL SAY WEN U FED UP U'LL PACK UP N LEAVE AND NEVA LOOK BACK

Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 15:52 PM
@Goldie ... What will happen the day your hubby is NOT on your side of an argument?

I could write a lot about what you have written
... I'd rather not!
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 15:58 PM
sorry ... Goldie = Goldi
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 16:04 PM
@Goldi ...
Are you certain they respect you ... & do not FEAR you?
...
I'm willing to put some money on the possibility that they fear you.
Reply from: makanku Wednesday, February 06, 2013 16:06 PM
@Goldie u r a woman & a half, damn gal!!!  if only we all have guts like u our in-laws wouldn't be walking all over us like they do. and also, u lucky because your hubby is on your side, mina nje my hubby is a mama's boy, he doesnt have balls to tell his mommy when she's wrong and that made me love him less lost respect on him because when im wrong he yap yap yap at me infront of his mom.mxxx! but other than that i think he's a gud guy, concidering what other ppl r going thru in their marriages.

@Goldi, yes sisi, when a woman is fed up..but until then she can b a fool for love bo.
Reply from: MsKim Wednesday, February 06, 2013 16:20 PM
@Goldi.. u go girl.. i don't have the guts honestly.... BK i have to give it to u.. u are strong hun, the fact that you cot him in the act in bed w another woman & forgave him n still married him is the reason ** why you still love him*** even after all he's done. u r very forgiving, u have the biggest heart..
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, February 06, 2013 16:21 PM
Yes Makanku u will be dat's da saddest part of it

@ Vusi i think dat q is directed to Goldie with n e not Goldi
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 16:23 PM
... Yes ... It is Goldie ...
Reply from: Ntaksay Wednesday, February 06, 2013 16:27 PM
Time for me to knock off people.

Love you all bye.

Cindy not sure what the dream says, but God will protect your daughter.

BYEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, February 06, 2013 16:27 PM
@Goldi ...
Are you certain they respect you ... & do not FEAR you?
...
I'm willing to put some money on the possibility that they fear you.

see what i'm tlkng about Vusi
Reply from: Bk212303 Wednesday, February 06, 2013 16:27 PM
Molweni mabloggers wow thank you all for advises. At the moment i cannot say what im gonna do as i want to think and figure out what to do. Yhoo it is so obvious what i must do but it is sooo difficult. Last night i spoke to him and i was really hard on him cause im tired of being soft first of all i told him that he will never abuse me and he wont choose friends for me. I will decide who do i choose as my frnds not the other way around. He kept quiet and then said, he told me in 2011 he will never lay a hand on me or do anything that would hurt me.(if he does then i think...... no excuses) Then i told him about his family and he said hayi dont mention my family and i said tata must leave my house or i leave. He started to cry and he said why dont i want his tamnci so i said its not that i dont want him but the way he behaves in my house is not suitable for me. So i said he abused me when i was a girl and now he wont do that shit to me again. He said i must leave him in the car cause he is not going back to our house so i said it suits me and my son well and i went inside. After 10min he knocks and said he still wants to speak to me and he said he cannot turn back the clock and undo what he did to me and my son. But he said i must give him another chance and tata will leave on the 16th as he is going for the checkup the 15th.

So i dont know ppl but my mind says i mind says i must dissapear and the other one give another chance???

@Chinx hi cc how a u. Cant we as ladies stay single and just enjoy life.
These man are giving us too much stress.
@Goldi yhoo u straight forward wish i could swap tatazala
@Cindy stop thinking negative just pray as iam also praying that nothing will happen. God does His thingz in his own time

@Thibi keep up the good work with your family.Thank God for it.

@Maqinase same hear

@Mimibob Hey,wena KB o tswa Mars ka nnete
hahah lol the funny part is im xhosa i ont understand sotho/tswana but i just figure out some words as i also watch sotho films etc.
You said in this sentence im really coming from mars didnt u mimi?
Well i would nt be shocked though under circumstances yey.

I know its not too late for me but i dont know i cant move on yhoooo

speak more 
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 16:28 PM
Very confusing these identities that are very similar
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 16:29 PM
@Goldi
see what i'm tlkng about Vusi

Yes .. I Do.
I apologise
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, February 06, 2013 16:31 PM
take your time BK n do think long n hard b4 making any drastic decisions 

adios c u l8r @ Ezweni guys 

cheers
Reply from: MsKim Wednesday, February 06, 2013 16:33 PM
lol ma bad they'r 2 goldiz?? kiki Goldi and goldie.
Reply from: MsKim Wednesday, February 06, 2013 16:36 PM
the function that Queen keeps talking abt for Mr. P. wch Mr. P. is she talking abt?
Reply from: goldie Wednesday, February 06, 2013 18:14 PM
@Goldi, whether it's respect or fear I really don't care cos it works 4 me. I once said to my mother in law: there are 3 types of them, 1 o seleng n control freak, 1 o lokileng n not pretending to b n 1 o iketsang ekare o lokile but deep down e le noga! We left it there n am sure o ne a tseba keep bua ka eng! I blive monna le mosadi must live their lives n when necessary ask guidance when needed. They lived their lives if they let people interfere with it n they want me to live the live they wanted their problem not mine! U don't come n tell me my in-laws treated me badly n u want to treat me better by doing what u wished they did to u, I am not her n she needs to find out what I'm like cos I am certainly not her n we definitely r into different things n different era so treat me as an individual! As for hubby changing I wud leave that to God n I am sure he will never change unless if I make him by behavin otherwise. He is d only person I can be .myself n never have to anything else, he was my best frie nd b4 we got married so I believe it is y we can tolerate each other n I am d same with my family no special treatment either actually worse with them!
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 18:22 PM
@Goldie ...

The upside is that it works for you
The downside could be that you forfeit the opportunity of knowing those around you, who you might care for, or find yourself reliant on someday ...
perhaps in a moment of weakness when you need them & they perceive that need as weakness ...
In this case; the risk of not caring is regret at not caring when you could have.
...
When animals are afraid of a dominant one ...
The day that the dominance fizzles, or fails,
is never attractive. (Rule of nature)
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 18:27 PM
... by inference ...
It is possible that you could have absolutely no idea about the fidelity of anyone in your life.
... but as you say
... you don't care..
'because it works for you!

I'm simply going through a permutation.
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 18:29 PM
U don't come n tell me my in-laws treated me badly n u want to treat me better by doing what u wished they did to u

Personally, ... I couldn't care ... not my life & not my in laws
you live by your rules ,... same as everyone else
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 18:34 PM
I'm one of those who are never liked by my in-laws

I generally marry women from well-to-do families & they generally have issues that my asset base (personally) is greater than their entire clan's asset base ... and I don't care

I live on and never allow externals to effect me...
if my spouse decides to invite their drama into my home ...
we have options ...
if she does not exercise hers regarding her people ...
I exercise mine
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 18:36 PM
i never allow anyone such power over me as to effect my happiness and well being.
Reply from: goldie Wednesday, February 06, 2013 18:38 PM
@BK tatazala is like me in a way so I think he gets me. Butii Vusi I really pray he doesn't n he always tells me look at how my life is, none of my peers have what I have n even my relatives n family y wud I throw it away? His words not mine, at d moment he owns 3 business n we have started investing n I am a hardworker n push him to the limit when it comes to our business. Married in COP n I told him there is no way we r going to loose anything we r in this together n it shud remain so. I try to talk about everything but we do have our ups n downs n mainly when that happens it tears us apart we don't want that feeling ever, I once took my 2 yr old n went home after a fight about 200km away, he didn't know where I was n when he cudnt had to call my mom n she calmly told him I was at home, after knocking off he came after me n just left me d car keys, bank cards n money n said he will move out cos he was wrong n said he is leaving now with what at 12am said he wud hike back or wait for train n x look in his eyes I went back with him. From then he realized d importAnce of talking to avoid misunderstand
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 18:39 PM
In terms of relationships for me ...

a person is either adding value to my life-space
...
or they are removing value...

I have threshholds & controls in place to obviate the reduction of value in my life
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 18:42 PM
@Goldie .. I understand where you come from ...

I asked because I used tp have the opinion that people respected me and my space
...
until I found out they feared me.
...
and got to see the real them when i.) I went broke; ii) I got ill, and iii) I needed them.
...
HUGE SUPRISE !!!
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 18:45 PM
I was at home, after knocking off he came after me n just left me d car keys, bank cards n money n said he will move out cos he was wrong n said he is leaving now with what at 12am said he wud hike back or wait for train

I have lived this
I have done this
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 18:46 PM
I will never marry iCOP
...If I marry again ...
ever !!!
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 18:52 PM
@Goldie ...

BTW ...
I don't take crap either
:-)
lol
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 18:56 PM
My most used phrase in life & in my relationship(s) is;

"Don't suppose anything with me ;
Ask me; ... and remove the ignorance/ know the facts"
Reply from: cyny Wednesday, February 06, 2013 19:25 PM
Hie guys.plz can some1 update me of yesterday episode,plz plz.luv u guys
Reply from: goldie Wednesday, February 06, 2013 19:26 PM
@Vusi when I said u don't come n tell what ur in-laws did or didn't do was referring to when I was telling mother in law cos she wanted to b too involved n I foresee a problem there cos sometimes its way of testing u or c ur reaction n I really love my personal space practically grew without friends n I don't open up easy, she has a doctorate in psychology n likes to analyse people according to d books, nna ke dumela hore at some point Lesotho ore kwala buka o ithute motho. I do talk to to her occasionally n visit with d kids but they have to there me here. I am very casual n feel depressed around them cos they expect u to be formAl n all n nna I hate it. They also wAnted to take over with a lot of things cos my father left my mom so they kind of saw me as someone from a broken family n what does that mean 4 their son. I don't care 4 their feeling scared of me if that is d case n I made it clear to hubby the minute ur fed up with me tell same way u asked to go out with u n marry u and I wud go peacefully cos Its lIfe thIz thIngs happen cos if I ever catch him making a fool of me, he wud wish he was dead n never met me n he will hate women for as long as he lives. I am not so into material things personally I just want to be at peace n be loved
Reply from: goldie Wednesday, February 06, 2013 19:34 PM
Thanx Vusi, I do luv them and like u say don't suppose instead ask, those that know me I always say assumption is d mother of all fuckups! I think I close myself like these cos letting people in only leaves heartache for many n have seen it happening n I won't let myself go thru that.
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 19:40 PM
To Everyone ...

Sometimes ...
I do play devil's advocate.
 
At least Sis Goldie had the wisdom to realise it without getting all pent up and personal.
There was a point to be made that many people DO misunderstand the manifestation of fear, as Power and/ or respect.

Thank You Sisi.
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 19:41 PM
@Goldie ... We are of a very similar nature on many fronts.
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 20:10 PM
Thanks to you also Sisi Goldie.
Reply from: cyny Wednesday, February 06, 2013 20:12 PM
Please update me guys.
Reply from: Riyat Wednesday, February 06, 2013 20:22 PM
Khethiwe I can't believe it. Giving advice like that. Yho I don't know.
Reply from: Mimibob Wednesday, February 06, 2013 21:35 PM
Hehee, was wondering what had happened to my Goldi, kante ke goldie..

I generally marry women from well-to-do families 
Thought you've never been married. Women? Married more than once?

...& they generally have issues that my asset base (personally) is greater than their entire clan's asset base ...
Mmmhh... I will definitely not have issues.. I'm looking for a tycoon husband who can finance my expensive taste that I dont afford. I am an honest lady who will not lie to you nor cheat on you. I will love you. If you ever got broke, we will share my modest income and work ourselves up again.

 I'm one of those who are never liked by my in-laws 
My parents are sweet and would respect our space. Even if you are a terrible person, you'd just like them.

I generally marry women from well-to-do families
I'm not from a well to do family (rich). Schooled, ate, dressed and lived well though.

So darling "Malome" Vusi, if you need a sweet, loving, honest woman...

I will bring u a new keyboard.

If you dont want to marry me but dont mind donating a little something, I'd be a lil' sad, but would accept.

I'm not exactly a gold digger, just want to live well, even if its helping out someone on their fortune.

Ok, lol... That's just boredom right there. Don't start lecturing me..
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 22:06 PM
Thought you've never been married. Women? Married more than once?
Yes ... I've been married.
Yes ... More than once.

If you ever got broke, we will share my modest income and work ourselves up again.
This happens more often than most people imagine.
I am a risk taker .. I love the risk .. I love the chase. I am not attached to the money, I like life on the razor's edge. I have given many fortunes away ,,, just for the heck of it. Money does not define me.

So darling "Malome" Vusi, if you need a sweet, loving, honest woman...

I'll definitely give you a ring Mims .. If ever ... and I'll expect that keyboard as part of the woman's dowry

If you dont want to marry me but dont mind donating a little something, I'd be a lil' sad, but would accept.
You never know Mims ...

I'm not exactly a gold digger, just want to live well, even if its helping out someone on their fortune.
Everybody loves to live well ...
Money is not a destination for me (in life) ...
If anything ... money is a result.

Ok, lol... That's just boredom right there. Don't start lecturing me..
LOL, no lectures tonight ... none at all !!!

Goodnight !!
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 22:10 PM
Yes ... More than once.
My work is a marriage killer ...
I have divorce decrees to prove it ! (Never being home & all) ...
plus all sorts of insecurities that come with people, etc...

I'll expect that keyboard as part of the woman's dowry
Tech did change the replacement keyboards ...
I think Apple has problems with their wired keyboards ...
All of the ones they brought in for me all had the same dead keys, plus some with more
Reply from: VusiK Wednesday, February 06, 2013 22:10 PM
Goodnight !!!
:-)
Reply from: Mimibob Wednesday, February 06, 2013 23:47 PM
Goodnight Uncle Vusi
:)
Reply from: Mimibob Wednesday, February 06, 2013 23:54 PM
I have given many fortunes away ,,, just for the heck of it. Money does not define me. 
If u ever get one of these moments. Just holla! :)


Reply from: Mimibob Thursday, February 07, 2013 06:46 AM
Hi Pastry *waving*. Good to know you still around.
Reply from: Goldi Thursday, February 07, 2013 08:44 AM

Morning guyz

i wonder wu is MJ gona give he's proxy 2 i think its gona be Wandi? Dinny's becoming a problem now haai she must jst chill ohh Robert wa Queeni bathong ke sono waitsi....gud advice der 4rm Khethi Khethi, s for Ruby to ask Queen wat she said to Dinny   dat made her so upset Ruby ke di type tsa bomme wen u come home n tell her dat hubby onchapile den she's gona say it's ur fault saying things like wat dd u du to make him dis upset n wat not haai soka maan

Reply from: VusiK Thursday, February 07, 2013 09:02 AM
If u ever get one of these moments. Just holla! :)
...
I never give to people ... I give to causes
Reply from: sisila Thursday, February 07, 2013 09:23 AM

Molweni zihlobo ze Nkosi I just went to the messages just realised just by reading what other people go thru aswell somehow brings healing to me too. @Goldie your character i love it i call a spade a spade yes sometimes people fear you but those who matter really do not mind and they love you as you are, for me people who are always nice worry me cos they tend to agree with evrything even if they see its not right. My family used to walk over my mother until i grew up i promise everyone knows everything goes through me. And truly family love taking advantage.

Reply from: Btwa Thursday, February 07, 2013 09:23 AM
Hello Friends
@Gen i think MJ will give his proxy to Jason, i smell more drama if Jason represent  MJ while working for competition
Reply from: Riyat Thursday, February 07, 2013 09:26 AM
@mimi wow wow wow. I loled all the way to work. Hubby won't drop me again to work cos am laughing a lot in the car.
Reply from: Cmaneo Thursday, February 07, 2013 09:30 AM
Morning gen fam.am not asking for ur symphathy bt just wnna share ma story with u. Um a high school teacher(in lesotho) has degree in education n a hardworker.my principal wants to promote mi to the post of head of department yet there is someone who has honours degree in education n has more than twelve years working exprience while i have only five.the problem is um afraid that that may spoil our working relationships.good people this woman is lazy n doges clases bt i know she is going to make ma life hell.what shud i do?
Reply from: Cmaneo Thursday, February 07, 2013 09:32 AM
Morning gen fam.am not asking for ur symphathy bt just wnna share ma story with u. Um a high school teacher(in lesotho) has degree in education n a hardworker.my principal wants to promote mi to the post of head of department yet there is someone who has honours degree in education n has more than twelve years working exprience while i have only five.the problem is um afraid that that may spoil our working relationships.good people this woman is lazy n doges clases bt i know she is going to make ma life hell.what shud i do?
Reply from: Ntaksay Thursday, February 07, 2013 09:37 AM
Good Morning

I thought Sbusiso gave Sabelo money to run his own business, why did he ask Senzo for money yesterday?? *confused*

Jason is really desperate for those shares. 

What is really cooking with the girl who wants a job at Tsalanang.
Reply from: Ntaksay Thursday, February 07, 2013 09:43 AM
@ Cmaneo I say take the job, your principal chose you because you are good at what you do, if this other person sucks at her job. It is her doing. Wena Grab the opportunity with both hands you might never get another one.
Reply from: makanku Thursday, February 07, 2013 09:47 AM
morning guyz,
@Goldie & malome vusi, ya neh, niyefana ngempela, u both blow my mind....!
@ Mimi, uyahlekisa wena yazi.
B2G, Akhona is the most stuborn person ever existd, ay i give up ngaye.
Reply from: Goldi Thursday, February 07, 2013 09:58 AM
@ Cmaneo take da job darling obvious da principal saw something in you dat's y s/he gave u dat position TAKE IT
Reply from: makanku Thursday, February 07, 2013 09:59 AM

@Cmaneo, the woman is lazy & dodges classes...so whats ur problem..take the position, u deserve it, 4get about that lazy bones, she wont do anything 2 u.God is blessing u for your hard work & he will protect u.

Reply from: Bk212303 Thursday, February 07, 2013 10:29 AM
Hey everyone @Goldie you go girl wish i could have the courage to tell my in laws to back off.
Reply from: semtho Thursday, February 07, 2013 10:48 AM
Morning lovely people, @ Cmaneo take the job, dats ur reward for working hard. @ Goldie i like ur courage lady wish i could do that too. Sometimes this inlaws they treat us like gold diggers who came to chow their sons moolah.
Reply from: Deemo Thursday, February 07, 2013 10:56 AM
hw are bloggers ,where is aya aka woman ok god?@pastry its nyc to hear from you again?mskim i c u a stll there live n kicking.gud day to you all
Reply from: Bk212303 Thursday, February 07, 2013 12:01 PM
@Semtho they always think like, dont know why though cause it does not matter if the woman is the provide or not they will always think like that. I think they are the gold diggers klk, cause if they not looking at the makotis money they want the hubby's money so i really admire uGoldie yhoo hayi cc.

To prove to my hubby what his tamnci is like when he is not there i recorded every little word he said to me when hubby was not in the house. Which is i know it is not like me but i did it anyway so yha.

My hubby phoned me today to say he is suffering, cause i dont help in the house anymore(financially) so he wants to know why i said it is because im giving him his space so that he can thank his tamnci for raising him all these years and i for one is saving towards also paying the woman who raised me. He said im i doing this cause im punishing him i said how i punish umntu endimthandayo so he said wil talk later and i said ok.

what is it na ngomtshato? The changing of family members etc.
Reply from: Cmaneo Thursday, February 07, 2013 12:06 PM
Thamx guys for ur words of encoragements.they mean a lot to mi
Reply from: goldie Thursday, February 07, 2013 12:21 PM

Hi all, @BK courage from inside cc n there comes a time a time in life when you have to get ur priorities right and that is what i try to do with my life, I told myself if I say it's love n i keep crying and finding excuses for other people to boss me around exactly what is this love?Corinthians explain what love is and there is no way I will compromise my happines for another person who feeds in my heartbreaks and sorrows that he inflicated on me, I am responsible for my own happiness and no one else.

I once watched Ps Chris Hill preaching cant remember what it was about but i will find out what he said made me think long and hard about my life, I quote: "Women complain about their partners, he is not supporting me, he is abusive and cheats, he sits on the sofa playing PS 3 that i bought for my son the whole day and tells me it is hard to find a job and expects me to support the family and still be a good wife to him i.e fulfill my marital duties, i look after him and the household, we went for counselling and it doesnt help, friends and family members tried  as well n still nothing! Well, he said, you just said u've let urself to b a doormat to this man, it is upto u to decide cos u have all the facts and if u decide to stay, SHUT UP and swallow eveything he dishes cos we can advice but u have to decide n if u stay with him why are you complaining! when u have to make a choice no matter how small n u dont, it will be made for u either way and u will live with the consequences for the rest of ur life! unquote. 

So it is tough but i believe you need to know when to put ur foot down. 

Have a lovely day everyone love u lots!

@Cm take that job what r u stil waiting for girl??  

Reply from: Mimibob Thursday, February 07, 2013 12:57 PM
I never give to people ... I give to causes. ... OK.
Reply from: Goldi Thursday, February 07, 2013 13:00 PM
Amen to dat Goldie
Reply from: makanku Thursday, February 07, 2013 13:05 PM
@BK, we just want u 2 b happy sisi.like i said yesterday, u have to do sumthing, anything, to stop all this nonsense ur hubby shoves at u.....& i for one is saving also towards paying the woman raised me, i loved that
Reply from: Mimibob Thursday, February 07, 2013 13:11 PM
@ Riyat and Makanku, glad I could make u laugh. :)
Reply from: CINDY LAPPA Thursday, February 07, 2013 13:11 PM

Good day gen family
@BK remember that when circumstances cannot be changed, change your thinking,learn to be genuine everymoment of your life and remember its not how you look to the world tha matters,but how you act life is lived once hence try to enjoy every moment of it.I hope everything would be fine love pray hard God will answer your prayers for he loves us all .enjoy the rest of your day pple i love you all.
@ Vusik you rock malume

Reply from: Bk212303 Thursday, February 07, 2013 13:11 PM
@Goldie cc, I am not complaining or anything I spoke about my situation and i got all the advises and i am thankfull for them. Do not take this the wrong way i am not complaining just sharing the changes that is happening at the moment. Please dont be angry at me for not divorcing my hubby. I know that it was not right to marry him in the 1st place but i married him anyway. I know that to each and every choice you make there is consequences, so yes i am baring my consequences unfortunately my son is staying with me and i dont wannt him to stay with someone else. I trust that you will not judge me.

But all in all i understand where u coming from. So yes i know that a lot of you is tired of hearing me "complaining" which i am not maybe someone else is in the same situation as me which is i ve put myself to but some of the advises they can use. Let us look at other people's situation, u c i was looking at the way u handle yr in laws i have taken a thing or two from there.

to continue
Reply from: Kerrie Thursday, February 07, 2013 13:12 PM
hi guys, i'm new here please welcome<<<<hides>>>>>>.....Maqinase, i'm around love, just have no internet access at the moment but i miss you guys so much!
Reply from: Bk212303 Thursday, February 07, 2013 13:15 PM
@Cmaneo cc take it,
Reply from: goldie Thursday, February 07, 2013 13:55 PM

@BK i am not angry at all cc, was just shairing what Ps Chris said that is y i quoted nad unquoted, was telling hore he made me think a lot n look at my situations in every work of life not just marriage dear, I wud never encourage anybody to divorce cos myself i pray it i never get to that point in life. DONT feel bad BK not saying you are complaing please hle dont get me wrong. We r not d same at all n u said earlier u need gud news was just sharing how i dealt with my inlaw problem. I can only imagine what u go thru and i will never judge or point a finger at you, u have ur reasons to hang in there that only u n God can understand so i understand. Like @ Vusi said what u do or decide u dont have to tell anybody just what u have to do. Have u watched the movie FIREPROOF? IF NOT PLEASE DO! 

Reply from: goldie Thursday, February 07, 2013 14:00 PM
SORRY meant to say just do what u have to do!
Reply from: Pastry Thursday, February 07, 2013 14:08 PM

Hauwa mara am I the only one seeing this or what....

Question - Do we have a couple in a successful relationship who met from this blog?

To my two fav bloggers of the moment:
Mims...I think wena no Malume Vusi should just hook up already.
I am sure other that visiting this blog everynite to check if the other is here...you would both agree that you are seeing and feeling what I am seeing hawu #hides

....and ohhh in case you decide (just in case) to get married one day, I will be your flower girl for FREE 

Reply from: Nongo Thursday, February 07, 2013 14:33 PM
@ goldie ke a bona o bolletse mmatswale hore a seka a lebala hore le ena o kile a nna makoti , so le wena o tla nna matswale ka tsatsi lengwe, that will put the last nail on her lol
Reply from: Goldi Thursday, February 07, 2013 14:33 PM

Is Mims n Vusi dating?? 0_0 ddnt know dat we have COUPLES here

Reply from: makanku Thursday, February 07, 2013 14:45 PM

@Bk, we support u sisi & will neva get tired of u, & let me tell u something, this too shall pass.one way or the or the other.
keep updating us, maybe we'll shout at u, all bcos we care, but we wont get tired of advising u.

Reply from: CINDY LAPPA Thursday, February 07, 2013 14:56 PM
Mims and Vusi try it  .you never know maybe its gonner work .Only if you are singles dont dare if you are in relationships
Reply from: goldie Thursday, February 07, 2013 15:25 PM
@Nongo had to so that we are clear, I even offerd to pay a maid for her to have someone to help out in the house cos i work monday to monday throughout the yr, when i have a locum then i can rest, we only close on new years day and xmas, so u can imagine when i visit and they expect me to do all the chores!!!

 I have a 9yr old son so ur right i will be mmatswale oneday, can only pray for God's guidance in his upbringin and let him b a man not mama's boy cos then it is difficult to let go n poor boy might end up looking to me for approval of every girl which is what is going to destroy all his relationships cos there is only one Goldie n can never b another. So teaching him good values and how to treat a woman etc, is all i can do and pray he turns out to b responsible n for me to accept his future wife n get involved when they come to me or if i need to advice them on anything. Will always have a helper at home cos sayin the girl is makoti, when she comes to visit i ma not expecting her to spring-clean, she probably will have a job n i know how tiring it can be. So when she takes leave it has to b about bondin n resting not slaving around! LOL, This is my wish and pray for my daughter-in-law if i live to c d day!


B2G-Chops o worse shem!
Reply from: Riyat Thursday, February 07, 2013 15:43 PM
Kerrie nice to know you are around. Missing ur dusting comments.
Reply from: steffie Thursday, February 07, 2013 16:14 PM
 I'm missing out in the house.
Reply from: Goldi Thursday, February 07, 2013 16:25 PM
OHHHHHH KERRIE BATHONG I SO MISS U COME MAAN I MISS CHATTING ABOUT DUSTING LOL
Reply from: Bk212303 Thursday, February 07, 2013 16:25 PM
@Nongo

@ goldie ke a bona o bolletse mmatswale hore a seka a lebala hore le ena o kile a nna makoti , so le wena o tla nna matswale ka tsatsi lengwe, that will put the last nail on her lol

Can u plz translate or some1

@Goldie im sorrryy cc i did take it the wrong way. Its that i sometimes feel that people are judging me. But i ready again yr response it is clear. My frnd is more like you she does not take shit at all, she sort you out now. Especially in laws and she said she wish to swap with me so that she can sort all of this at once.

Oh yes i do need good news tired of this negative and in laws. Some one who is happy in their marriages plss it gives me hope.
@Makanku Thank for the support.

Goldie i must say again again i admire you keep the good work. It helps and Vusik hey u quiet whats up.

@Cindy L  ... change yr thinking i have noted thanx

Family you are so loved cause at the moment im seeing change when it comes to handling things at home. You would be supprised if u compare the old me and now. I sometimes pinch myself and i even spoke to my frnd she said to me whats with the change cause i tell her whats been changed and she was shocked. It is all thanx to u guys All of you who spent time reading the books ive been writting. Fireproof which channel?

What is it i hear about Mimi and Vusik?

Welcome Kerrie.

Thanx again Goldie.....straight forward just like Vusik. But i like it.

I thank the day God made me join this gen blogger cause that is they day i met you guys.
I thank Him for the way He has made each and every one of you.
May He bless all of us and strengthen us even more. We thank Him for the Love He has given us. Amen im out.
Reply from: Nongo Thursday, February 07, 2013 16:37 PM
@goldie ke a bona o bolletse mmatswale hore a seka a lebala hore le ena o kile a nna makoti , so le wena o tla nna matswale ka tsatsi lengwe.

sorry@BK: that is, goldie's mother in law shud remember that she was once a daughter in law, so goldie  will also becom a mother in law 1day. (that's why goldie's response was :I have a 9yr old son so ur right i will be mmatswale oneday.
thank u cc, very sory for that.
Reply from: Cmaneo Thursday, February 07, 2013 19:52 PM
Evening family.um gonna give an answer to ma principal 2mrw
Reply from: VusiK Thursday, February 07, 2013 19:54 PM
@Cmaneo ... this woman is lazy n doges clases
...
Which is why you are offered the promotion ... stop being silly woman!!!
You earned the right to hop right past her lazy Ass !
Take the promotion and sto being afraid of being successful because someone might not like it!
Reply from: Mimibob Thursday, February 07, 2013 20:03 PM
@ Pastry, u really made me lol today.. U r now causing smoke.. Rumours start like this.. Lol...
Reply from: VusiK Thursday, February 07, 2013 20:17 PM
@Semtho ... Sometimes this inlaws they treat us like gold diggers who came to chow their sons moolah.
They are not very smart then ... who should chow their son's moolah except his wife ...
... then you should make more money than he does
if he has issues ... and don't ever make your success a troubblesome burden

i was looking at the way u handle yr in laws
I ignore them ... presently, I am venturing into an area where the "Genius Rock" of the an in-law's industry ... and he is about to lose everything because he is going to endd u rnning a race all by himself ...
I've done my research, it is a great industry to invest in ... I know my risks & I know what to do to maximize my yields ... I will prosper while he breaks himself & eventually sells his soul to the devil to get ahead ... I'll just keep going like the turtle and coin it a penny at a time.

Have u watched the movie FIREPROOF? IF NOT PLEASE DO!
I'll also look it u and watch it.

Mims...I think wena no Malume Vusi should just hook up already.
I'm working when most of you are being loved all over by your favourite people.
I have six monitors in front of me ... one is always on TVSA lately ... and I refresh it occassionally ... so .. there !!! ... there is no appointment or rendezvous to come date on your blog dear!
I'm not ready for a relationship ...  I just came from a rather difficult one before the one I just stopped (because I realized I need to sort me out first)
...
and Mims is Good people ...
I like her in her sandles and the earth between the toes feel she has about her ...
I'm not into airs ... she's never been elevated in dealing with people
I'm cool ... Not dating, not planning to for now
Got me to sort out
I refuse to punish the next woman / women for the scars of past women.
I'll be good ... & I'm doing OK for now.

@ goldie ke a bona o bolletse mmatswale hore a seka a lebala hore le ena o kile a nna makoti , so le wena o tla nna matswale ka tsatsi lengwe, that will put the last nail on her lol

@Goldie ... I can imagine you explaining/ telling your mother in law that she also was a makoti some time back, and that you (goldie) will be a mother in law someday, ...
That's the Sotho part translated for BK.

What is it i hear about Mimi and Vusik?
Ninomona !!!!
Reply from: VusiK Thursday, February 07, 2013 20:22 PM
Just got in ..

I had a rough day crapping some mine managers out ... they would not let my engineers on-site to do a sampling
(I cancelled the contract their mine probably needs desperately)
now to work on making sure they lose their out-take agreements ...
sons of ...!!!
...I feel sorry for the miners who will be out of work there
but I am a vindictive person when confronted by someone who deems themselves superior on the basis of the colour of their skin!
Reply from: Mimibob Thursday, February 07, 2013 21:00 PM
and Mims is Good people ...
I like her in her sandles and the earth between the toes feel she has about her ...
Mmmhh.. I could ge used to this kinda charm.. *blushes*

she's never been elevated in dealing with people
Hehee... Whatever this means. (O seka wa ntlontlolla pele ga bana, ao!)

What is it i hear about Mimi and Vusik? 
.
Ninomona !!!!
And I'm loving the attention from the girls.. *smiles*

I'm not ready for a relationship ... I just came from a rather difficult one before the one I just stopped (because I realized I need to sort me out first)
Ao, you broke up with that woman in your life? You need me waitse.

I had a rough day crapping some mine managers out ... 
sons of ...!!! 
Hehee.. Better them than me. The more reason to come home to a sweet me.

(Ok, I'm not campaining)..

Update on Gens anyone? I missed because of loadshedding. I need to get myself this power backup thingy.
Reply from: Mimibob Thursday, February 07, 2013 21:06 PM
(Ok, I'm not campaining)..
Campaigning.. I was never good with spelling..
Reply from: VusiK Thursday, February 07, 2013 21:34 PM
Mmmhh.. I could ge used to this kinda charm.. *blushes*
lol

Ao, you broke up with that woman in your life? You need me waitse.
lol
Ahhh ... Yaaaaahhhh
Yes .. I stopped the relationship
Awesome woman I must say!!!

Nothing wrong with canvassing / campaigning
Ngwana Osalleng ...
(Umntwana ongakhaliyo ...)
(A Baby that does not cry ...)
You know the deal !

Besides, I think it is high time women spoke u about what they feel when they feel it ... this business of insisting on being always being chaste ... bakhona o'Mbau nezingane ezinesibindi la' ngaphandle
... uzolala wedwa ; ehambile ubhuti !
Reply from: VusiK Thursday, February 07, 2013 21:35 PM
I got a mountain of work from being on the mines today
...
(I detest mining because even the smallest task takes all day
...
and they are ALWAYS sooooo very far away from anywhere !!!)
Reply from: VusiK Thursday, February 07, 2013 21:36 PM
Good night !!!

See you tomorrow guys !
Reply from: goldie Thursday, February 07, 2013 22:36 PM
Gud nite bhuti!
Reply from: goldie Thursday, February 07, 2013 22:46 PM
Mimi o worse hle, still smiling alone like a naughty little girl when I read ur comments iyoh wa mpolaya! Let me sleep now! @BK am glad u understand cc I will sleep better knowing u know dat I don't wish u bad it was just misunderstanding u will b fine girl n thank you!
Reply from: Kandyfloss Thursday, February 07, 2013 23:50 PM
Hi... Everyone * waving*. Silent bloggin for sometimes. I loved yesterday. Itjo. Night.
Reply from: Goldi Friday, February 08, 2013 07:35 AM
Morning Guys happy friday touch let's goooooooo
Reply from: Dhee Friday, February 08, 2013 08:27 AM
Good morning Gen family, its been a while and I can see you are still the very awesome family i became to know and love. I've missed you so much.

I miss The woman og God Aka "Ayah", please give me a shout sister.
Reply from: makanku Friday, February 08, 2013 08:46 AM

good morning beutiful peeps.
@Mimi, gaaaal do u ever give up????ay unaughty shame,

what happened to RainPrincess bantu???

Reply from: CINDY LAPPA Friday, February 08, 2013 09:00 AM
Morning mabloggers its friday today yeeeeeepeeeeeeeee lets juss do it but not over do it. Good pple please answer me this        
What makes you young?
Reply from: steffie Friday, February 08, 2013 09:12 AM
Morning bloggers
Reply from: steffie Friday, February 08, 2013 09:14 AM
@Cindy laughter and being at peace with myself.
Reply from: makanku Friday, February 08, 2013 09:14 AM
@CINDY L, they say happiness
Reply from: makanku Friday, February 08, 2013 09:16 AM
....oh and also, healthy body wait, meaning taking care of urself
Reply from: makanku Friday, February 08, 2013 09:17 AM
sori i meant weight
Reply from: VusiK Friday, February 08, 2013 09:22 AM
@CindiLapa
@ Vusik you rock malume


Thank you Sisi
Reply from: Keratile Friday, February 08, 2013 10:17 AM
Good morning good people. How I've missed you. Hope all is well in your world.
Reply from: CINDY LAPPA Friday, February 08, 2013 10:57 AM
here is an inspirational story of my life so always be positive in life. I had an interview  to attend at 10am in Jhb. That day I woke up early and booked a vehicle at 5am.The vehicle didnt delay,and i liked  the speed too.With my estimation we were going to get to Jhb at 9am.Juss past Krugersdorp the traffic cops,stopped the vehicle and suprisingly the driver and the fellow in the front seat had not fastened their safety belts.The vehicle was summoned to side of the road and it took a long time to sort the tickets

I really got so sad,and icouldnt switch the vehicle for i had no extra cashand i was 4cd to wait.Itried 2 call the interviewers at first to reschedule my interview time but i was unfortunate the call never went thru. By the time we left it was already 8:30am. Ijuss hoped i will be well but at Florida the vehicled developed a faulty which delayed my journey for 2 hours.By the time i got to JHB it was already 12:am Irushed to the venue of interview, but to wait till2pm since it was abt to be lunchtime At 2:15pm i went 2 the recepptionist who told i had to wait till 3:30pm since he management were in a meeting.
At 3:30pm I was called in and the director apologised for keeping me waiting since morning and there were heldwithcompany suppliers ,howerever the had sat since 2oclock to deliberate on my job specification and my salary.Iwas baffled and said "Sir i havent been interviwed yet", The MD answered me and said"we decided not 2 conduct the interview at least to save time and also to save interviewees money on transport so we looked the papers 4 most appropriate person we wantand we opted 4 u You wont be dissappointed you will be shown your office andPA you wil be on probation 4 2yrs
Note*** Umight b held by issuesin yo life and hope might b diminishingand u think the chance is gone.But u know whatGod is waiting 4 u 2 release his favour so dontgo back along the way,dont quit,dont b upset by wht u face along the way in fact God has alreadydeliberated on your specifications and you dont have 2 go thru interview since u have all qualifications God wants....You are in 4 divine a announcement announcement b4 the end of this year if you ministered and encouraged say AMEN.............. Enjoy the rest of your day ppple
Reply from: VusiK Friday, February 08, 2013 11:05 AM
@Cindy ... Awesome !!!
Reply from: Goldi Friday, February 08, 2013 11:18 AM
Wow! Cindy Amen sistas
Reply from: semtho Friday, February 08, 2013 11:40 AM
Note*** Umight b held by issuesin yo life and hope might b diminishingand u think the chance is gone.But u know whatGod is waiting 4 u 2 release his favour so dontgo back along the way,dont quit,dont b upset by wht u face along the way in fact God has alreadydeliberated on your specifications and you dont have 2 go thru interview since u have all qualifications God wants....You are in 4 divine a announcement announcement b4 the end of this year if you ministered and encouraged say AMEN.. Wow @ Cindy, you just made my day am ..inspired.
Reply from: steffie Friday, February 08, 2013 11:44 AM
Wow glory indeed My God shall supply all of my needs according to his riches in Glory by Christ Jesus. Amen congratulation @Cindy
Reply from: CINDY LAPPA Friday, February 08, 2013 11:45 AM
what makes you young is NG. YOU+NG=YOUNG
Reply from: caro Friday, February 08, 2013 11:58 AM
mara cindy....#dead#


afternoon bloggers!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply from: Deemo Friday, February 08, 2013 12:12 PM
(cindy thanks for the encouragement hey,im so depressed bt i hope i wll be fyn.yu have bn sent from heaven
Reply from: Goldi Friday, February 08, 2013 12:34 PM
*waving* hey Caro lol Cindy @ Deemo wat's drepressing u darling?
Reply from: Stonie Friday, February 08, 2013 12:37 PM
Hello Gen family. I am new here but have been reading this blog for a while. I must say I am glad Akhona was put in her place by Mawande coz she was really getting big headed. I feel sorry for dinny, who has never enjoyed her marriage and hate Phenyo for his obsession with Sbudlas business. I was so chuffed when MJ gave his proxy to his mum . The look on Jason's face was priceless. Serves him right for betraying Senzo.
Reply from: goldie Friday, February 08, 2013 12:47 PM
Amen Cindy n afternoon all!
Reply from: makanku Friday, February 08, 2013 12:55 PM
@CINDY, u just made me cry. afta witing for my job for 10yrs, i need such miracles
Reply from: Ntaksay Friday, February 08, 2013 13:23 PM
Hello people

Cindy can you give me some of your luck please!! That is the most inpiring story I've ever had. 

Makanku your time will come sisi, I can sense something big coming your way. *hides under the table*

What a busy friday
Reply from: steffie Friday, February 08, 2013 13:23 PM
@Makanku hang in there, God is not a man that He will lie.
Reply from: Bk212303 Friday, February 08, 2013 13:34 PM
@Cindy AMEN!! wow that is what im talking about positive.
Makanku be patient cc use listin.Yr turn is on the way.

Nomdaz, Chinx where a u kanti?
Reply from: Ntaksay Friday, February 08, 2013 13:54 PM
I did not watch the whole episode yesterday, but I'm glad MJ gave the proxy to his mother.
Reply from: Riyat Friday, February 08, 2013 14:21 PM
The look on Jasons face when he heard the proxy was going to Mawande. He is really desperate.
Reply from: Goldi Friday, February 08, 2013 14:41 PM
Welcome Stonie pls du feel @ home..

eish Luntu can be a bitch sometimes hey pouring water to Senzo like dat haai soka man she's bitter mxxxxm
Reply from: NoMdazB Friday, February 08, 2013 15:00 PM
Hi all. I'm here @BK
Reply from: caro Friday, February 08, 2013 15:41 PM
afternoon guys..

i am so busy lately but believe u me i always get a chance to read your comments and advices....keep them coming

keep the advices coming, some of us can very well relate to the stories you put out there.. i am kinda busy and i will dish my heart out to you guys wen i have tym.

you gyys are a real family, u neva judge, critisize nor weigh the problems people seek advise on. I must say on behalfof everyone u assisted with your kind words 'A VERY BIG THANK YOU"  Thanks for making @BK realise how precoius her life is, how beautiful she is inside out, how her life's wellbeing is important for adding value to her life when the hope was gone. I am so thankfull to ever joining this blogg.... 

MALUME VUSIK thank you for being such an inspiration to some of us, i enjoy reading your comments that whenever i see your name i go to the kitchen, make a cup of rooibos and cum bac to enjoy the well-put words that always makes me wonna question whether you exist or not ( GOD-SENT)
Reply from: CINDY LAPPA Friday, February 08, 2013 15:41 PM
have a nice weekend i'm knocking off . chat monday again gun9ty love you all
Reply from: Ntaksay Friday, February 08, 2013 15:53 PM
Happy you Cindy I am so tired, wish I could see myself in bed. I still have to cook when I get home, being an adult is tiring.
Reply from: steffie Friday, February 08, 2013 15:59 PM
chat on Monday, have  a good weekend.
Reply from: Bk212303 Friday, February 08, 2013 16:21 PM
@Cindy L bye and enjoy yr weekend.
@Ntaksay say that again yhoo yadika the cooking while you feel the feet is raising
@Caro hey thanx and yes i also wonder sometimes about Vusik???
Maybe God saw this group and sent us him, u never know when it comes to GOD's things anything is possible


Hey Nomdaz did u check messages............and thanx cc
Reply from: semtho Friday, February 08, 2013 16:33 PM
Lovely weekend to you all.
Reply from: Bk212303 Friday, February 08, 2013 16:47 PM
ENJOY YR WEEKEND FAMILY
Reply from: NoMdazB Saturday, February 09, 2013 14:53 PM
Happy Saturday everyone.
Reply from: Cmaneo Saturday, February 09, 2013 19:08 PM
Evening family.the house is so quite
Reply from: destroyer Sunday, February 10, 2013 07:48 AM
Hi every1, my name is destroyer and M addicted to TVSA! Gimme more about this sello character, whats his real name, how long will he stay on our screens etc.
Reply from: VusiK Sunday, February 10, 2013 11:02 AM
i enjoy reading your comments that whenever i see your name i go to the kitchen, make a cup of rooibos and cum bac to enjoy the well-put words that always makes me wonna question whether you exist or no

Thank You Sisi.
You Are Welcome
I do exists ...
some people here have my phone number
... & know my full name.
Reply from: Riyat Sunday, February 10, 2013 15:46 PM
Hello family
Reply from: NoMdazB Monday, February 11, 2013 05:27 AM
Happy Monday all. I'm dog tired because we're preparing for a funeral, and you know how us Xhosa people feed and feed and feed until the funeral. I'm just wondering if it's like this with Zulus, Sothos Vendas etc.
Reply from: steffie Monday, February 11, 2013 08:31 AM
Morning, what an exciting weekend a had.
Reply from: Goldi Monday, February 11, 2013 09:09 AM
Morning Family 

Nomd wus funeral n wen is it? mmmmm @ Steffie pls du share da details *matitaba tendencies*
Reply from: steffie Monday, February 11, 2013 09:19 AM
@Goldi on the football front, nothing personal.
Reply from: caro Monday, February 11, 2013 09:27 AM

morning guys.... 

i am sorry bt i just have to this...

what were you thinking when you came up with your TVSA username??? did u cut and paste as some of us did????????? is it your boyfriend's name? ur child, spouse... "how did you come up with ur username?????????

Reply from: Bk212303 Monday, February 11, 2013 09:44 AM
Morning all had a fruitful but tiring weekend. @Nomdaz yhoo i know what u mean when u say u tired of preparing coffee, muffins, lunch tea in between supper yhoo its hard no time to sit. Who's funeral cc. @caro lol.... mmmh i know what u thinking.
Reply from: NoMdazB Monday, February 11, 2013 09:54 AM
@Goldi and BK, my husband's best friend lost his only sibling, a brother. So us wives help each other out cos you can't always depend on the community or your family makotis. @ Caro, one of my aunts calls me NoMdakazana, well because I am dark skinned. When she's feeling particularly fond of me she shortens it to NoMdaz-B. The B is pronounced alone, as in letter B. Tvsa got rid of the dash when I signed in.
Reply from: NoMdazB Monday, February 11, 2013 09:55 AM
And by the way the funeral is on Saturday, so a whole week of scone, muffins etc....
Reply from: Kandyfloss Monday, February 11, 2013 09:58 AM
mornin.. @Caro i didnt think much about it. It has no signficance and doesnt relate to anythn in my life. Not even sure i got it from a movie or cartoons..
Reply from: makanku Monday, February 11, 2013 10:06 AM

Morning good peeps.
@NoMdaz, same story nakumaZulu cc! there's nothing we do better than to feed feed ngamafunerals
@Caro, my baby's name is nkululeko, so makanku.....

Reply from: Goldi Monday, February 11, 2013 10:53 AM
@ Steffie ok doll thot myb is prsnl any it's cool @ Caro my 4rnds use to call me Goldi Locks way back @ school i use dat username almst every whre even ma BBM name is Goldi bt with a y cos wen i tried 1 with n y it told me dat da name already exist
Reply from: Bk212303 Monday, February 11, 2013 10:54 AM
@caro mine its my initials my son's, myhubby's and my birth dates.
If i may ask why u asking what triggered that thought ...lol
Reply from: Manicure Monday, February 11, 2013 11:28 AM
hahahhhhhhh Cindy and her story??????????? cant stop lolling....
Reply from: Goldi Monday, February 11, 2013 11:48 AM
Y r u lolling darling which story is it? Manicure
Reply from: VusiK Monday, February 11, 2013 11:50 AM
My username is my name
...
Obvious !!!
Reply from: steffie Monday, February 11, 2013 11:52 AM
@Caro mine is my late paternal grandfather's name Stephen whom I was very fond of  so I shortened to steffie.
Reply from: Btwa Monday, February 11, 2013 12:25 PM
Hello all

No gen talk today? anyway @Caro mine is a nickname formed from original name. My Aunt started it.
Reply from: Nongo Monday, February 11, 2013 12:42 PM
@Caro mine i got it from my mom's sister, when  she uses i fil very young and love it.
Reply from: OlothandoD Monday, February 11, 2013 12:43 PM
My username is my son's name and second name Initial D.

Where are my manners, how are you good people :)
Reply from: CINDY LAPPA Monday, February 11, 2013 13:21 PM

Good morning pple 
my user name came after my name SINDISWA . so they couldnt pronounse my name properly at the office so they decided to call Cindy lappa

Reply from: Kerrie Monday, February 11, 2013 13:25 PM
hey guys, just have free 5 minutes, thought i should say hello to my beautiful people! i can see my partner in crime, Mangqezu, is also scarce in the house nowadays...will be coming back to the house full time soon!
Reply from: sisila Monday, February 11, 2013 13:29 PM
Hi 
Mine is the name my late favorite grandfather used to call me with.
Reply from: Friend Monday, February 11, 2013 13:56 PM
Morning family,

I call every person i talk to" Friend" can't master names, bad memory.
Reply from: Friend Monday, February 11, 2013 14:05 PM
Abanye bathi imnandi uma ingena, abanye bathi imnandi uma isiphakathi, mina ngithi it depends kumntu oyifakaya, uma ungamthandi ngeke uyizwe kahle, kodwa iqiniso lithi ishisa kamnandi uma isizophuma, tell me wena uyithanda uma isikuphi inkonzo yepasika?
Reply from: Ntaksay Monday, February 11, 2013 14:13 PM
Hello good people

My username is my nickname.
Reply from: CINDY LAPPA Monday, February 11, 2013 14:27 PM
@friend you got me you know i thought you meant something P***S but u proved me wrong it shows how evil minded iam
Reply from: Friend Monday, February 11, 2013 14:36 PM
CindyL, lol, 'thandi zinto
Reply from: Friend Monday, February 11, 2013 14:39 PM
You're in the toilet, just finished .......,  you realise there is no toilet paper, you have  R200 note and a Bible, what would you use. Be honest please!!
Reply from: Vandimerwe Monday, February 11, 2013 14:42 PM
my username is my surname but i decided to tswanalise it as i am a motswana and thats how ppl call it.
Reply from: VusiK Monday, February 11, 2013 14:43 PM
@Friend
...
Angiyena Umkrestu ...
so ....
Angazi, lol
Reply from: Dhee Monday, February 11, 2013 14:48 PM
Mine is my nickname
Reply from: CINDY LAPPA Monday, February 11, 2013 14:52 PM

@friend i will juss put my under on go grab toilet paper come back use it; wash my under i will never use a bible either money

Reply from: Friend Monday, February 11, 2013 14:52 PM

Lool, Vusi, point taken. Afcon has come and gone, back to PSL can't wait.

Reply from: Friend Monday, February 11, 2013 14:57 PM
CindyL ohk, lol. I would use my undies or socks, even the index pages of the Bible. i'm being honest.
Reply from: Ntaksay Monday, February 11, 2013 14:58 PM
@ freind I would take the first page of the bilble, there is nothing important on it.
Reply from: Friend Monday, February 11, 2013 15:07 PM

Ntaksay, year right. lol.

Reply from: Ntaksay Monday, February 11, 2013 15:23 PM

Your quiz Friend reminds what my grandfather told us years ago.
He used to work in a firm (dont know the name) in Jhb, he says his boss use to give them toilet paper when they go to the toilet, he used to roll 10 sheet each and everytime a person has to go to the toile that person has to go and ask for a toilet paper from the boss.

My grandfather says one of his coleagues had a runny tummy he went to the boss for t/p and got 10 sheets. He went to the loo helped himself with number 2 and when he wiped no.2 the tissue got wet and he ended up with no.2 on his hand and when he tried to shake it off he hit the wall so bad that his fingers were painful, he sucked his finger (forgetting that he has number 2 on his hand). He only remembered after he had swallowed.

Reply from: Friend Monday, February 11, 2013 15:37 PM
He went to the loo helped himself with number 2 and when he wiped no.2 the tissue got wet and he ended up with no.2 on his hand and when he tried to shake it off he hit the wall so bad that his fingers were painful, he sucked his finger (forgetting that he has number 2 on his hand). He only remembered after he had swallowed

DEAAAAAAD for years Ntaksay mara, laughing my way home.
Reply from: OlothandoD Monday, February 11, 2013 15:46 PM
I will use any page from the Bible to wipe my a*****hole clean then go to buy a new bible with the R200, can't walk around with an unclean a*****hole. I am trying to be honest guys.
Reply from: VusiK Monday, February 11, 2013 15:50 PM
I will use neither
...
I will rinse with water (most toilets have water)
then use part of the 200 to buy toilet paper (however little it costs)
and save the book from mutilation
Reply from: Friend Monday, February 11, 2013 15:58 PM
Olothando, nothing wrong with that, as long as you're comfortable and not stinking, lol.
Reply from: Bk212303 Monday, February 11, 2013 16:18 PM
Sis Ntaksay rhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh i cant stop thinking about this ssiss maan Olot lol
Reply from: NoMdazB Monday, February 11, 2013 20:33 PM
@Friend I haven't laughed like that in a long long time. I was even imagining ukuphuma nokungena kwayo! @ Ntaksay, No Words sisi- none. Night everyone.
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, February 12, 2013 08:05 AM
Good Morning

Noluntu is really heartless.

Rob's children are very cruel.
Reply from: OlothandoD Tuesday, February 12, 2013 08:23 AM

Good Morning!!!!

An update please, failed to watch last night's episode.  Thanks in advance!!!!!

Reply from: steffie Tuesday, February 12, 2013 08:24 AM
Morning
Choppa ha sto hire the poor girl, why do most black people think that whites are all loaded?
Reply from: Manicure Tuesday, February 12, 2013 08:26 AM
morning, sumbody please update a sister, didnt watch Gen lastnyt...power cut.
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, February 12, 2013 08:33 AM
Morning every1

Luntu's heartless hey she doesnt want that child n yet she daznt want Senzo to care for him haai soka s for hiring a PI

Rob's kids mmmm no comment...

@ Steffie i think he's gona do jst dat, i think we blacks think that cos of da apparthied era *mind my spelling* so wen eva we c white u stinking rich
Reply from: Kera Tuesday, February 12, 2013 08:39 AM
Good morning family 

i missed u guys a lot  and your advices am speechless, hopefully this time i will not have a problem with my password i hahet it to just read yourcomments and not be able to login and comment
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, February 12, 2013 08:39 AM
Hayi noChoppa, his heart is like a brick. I thought he was going to hire that girl after the sad story she told him about her family. As for stealing her ideas for valentine's day *that is Choppa for you*
Reply from: Friend Tuesday, February 12, 2013 08:42 AM
Morning family, wish I could go back home for a nap, tired and can't concentrate. Need a good laugh, please help a sister.
Reply from: OlothandoD Tuesday, February 12, 2013 08:46 AM

Still waiting, anyone, please just curious about what happeneed last nyt!!!

Reply from: semtho Tuesday, February 12, 2013 09:07 AM
Morning mabloggers amahle, hope u all fine. I once wrote a story here abt hubby sharing dirty jokes with a female collegue which i found out when he gave me his phone one day to look at some joke he found amusing. Then after that incident i no longer trust him 100%. Last nyt just before we went to sleep he was on his phone again nonstop yet we had made a rule that no social networks after hours. Then this morning i was tempted to check his phone whilst he was bathing, i checked his phone and this lady is asking him for advice on wat she should do coz he has found out her hubby is cheating on her, she goes on to say she cant afford to sleep with hubby coz the thot of hubbys thing inserted somewhere else feels dirty. I dont like where this is leading to any advice will be appreciated.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 09:11 AM
why do most black people think that whites are all loaded?

because they were loaded when compared o the blacks.
Reply from: Woman of God Tuesday, February 12, 2013 09:16 AM
morning guys 
missing you all but will be back for full tym soon
Reply from: Kera Tuesday, February 12, 2013 09:20 AM
Women are like fruits , every one has their unique colour, shape, aroma and taste............ the problem with some men  is .......... they want a FRUIT SALAD.........=)))
Reply from: destroyer Tuesday, February 12, 2013 10:08 AM
do u knw tht on facebook there 5 akhona griffiths accounts?
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 10:25 AM
@Kera
nothing wrong with a fruit salad
 ...
just declare it before adding more fruit into it.
Reply from: makanku Tuesday, February 12, 2013 10:26 AM
@semtho, amadoda!!!! ngathi mina if what he is doing is rite, then kuzoba rite if sewukwenza nawe. mnike amazwi ambalwa ahlabayo bese uzithulele ngoba akafuni ukuzwa, and also make him aware that u deserve better than this, if he still continues then....!
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 10:41 AM
I used to date a few women I thought were into fruit salad.
It turned out that the ones who spoke clean of themselves where the dirtiest/ worst behaved, whilst the ones I thought were dirty were actually good women.

The exceptional one being the one I thought the worst of.
now that she is older and of better expression ...
She is a one man at a time woman, who happens to love women (and admits to having plenty at any given time).
her expression is ...
"it's calming to be f*ed by a man ... but a woman refreshes me"..

I am seldom stumped ...
but she stumped me.

... so, she figures that since I am single, that infers I am available, (and with a clear vision on getting married)
and
since I actually enjoy being shared (honestly) ...
this is a great time for her to suggest getting back together,
and she will come & cum with her girlfriend.

Yahhh ...
2013 is going to be very very interesting.
and I thought nothing could top 2011
...
Why are women obsessed with being / getting married?
in our conversation ... her proposed return is premised on her and me getting married fairly soon.
...
I'm not sure of marriage
marriage is a great uncertainty in the puzzle.
..
It would probably be an easy decision if marriage was not part of the conversation.
Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, February 12, 2013 10:42 AM
Morning mablogers@ Destroyer???? the usename info please.
Is it yr nick name or what ? Interesting.
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, February 12, 2013 10:49 AM
@Semtho block her number from your hubby's phone and tell hubby you did that. Your hubby seems like he won't stop talking to this chick. And talking to the chick might also help make her see that what she is doing with your hubby is making you feel how she feels right now even though she is not sleeping with hubby but the fact that he is sleeping next to you and chatting to another women is also as bad as what her hubby did.

She know how it feels like to be cheated on, maybe she will stop if you explain to her what they are doing is wrong.

But your husband needs a wake up call he needs to put your feeling first not ezale ntombazane. Yena she must deal with her cheating husband.
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, February 12, 2013 10:55 AM
@ Semtho wat is da connection btwin the 2? *patiently waiting for Destroyer to answer BK's question*
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 10:58 AM
do u knw tht on facebook there 5 akhona griffiths accounts?

Not a clue
but then ...
I'd need a facebook account to even access this fact
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 11:07 AM
@Ntaksay
@Semtho
block her number from your hubby's phone and tell hubby you did that.
@Semtho
I suggest ..
Don't touch your husband's phone.
It is not your phone, respect that he is responsible for his actions, and has a right to his privacy, and he will probably do so himself.

I've been married and I respected my wive's privacy so much that it is impossible for them to adjust to people who violate their privacy / take their privacy for granted. ...

If you are in any form of relationshi, and are still into other people's business, you probably in the wrong life space.
Adults know how to behave, and as an adult, you need to be certain that the person you choose to be in marriage with is an adult, ready for marriage, and accepting of the responsibilities that go with marriage.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 11:14 AM
Then this morning i was tempted to check his phone whilst he was bathing, i checked his phone and this lady is asking him for advice on wat she should do coz he has found out her hubby is cheating on her, she goes on to say she cant afford to sleep with hubby coz the thot of hubbys thing inserted somewhere else feels dirty. I dont like where this is leading to any advice will be appreciated.

The first thing you need to sort out is to accept that you are the one violating your husband's privacy.
and possibly all his honesty and sensibilities.
If things go wrong from this ... blame yourself first.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 11:20 AM
@Semtho...
You can still tell your husband you are not comfortable with his breaking the agreements on the social networks rule
and that you are not comfortable with his female friend and her dirty jokes
...
that is now public domain between the two of you.
...
You chose not to trust his fortitude ... that is your fault, and your problem.
I suggest you never mention that you went through his phone while he has in the bathroom.
thereafter ... I suggest you trust him to always do what is right.

...
also
She asked for his advice ...
Does your husband know ever single conversation you have with every single person you have some relation with ... including me and all Gen-bloggers? including the silent bloggers?
If not ..
what could ossibly possess you to be of the opinion that you have any right to every part of his privacy/ phone conversations....

Think !!

You already know the answers ...
no need for a response.
Reply from: CINDY LAPPA Tuesday, February 12, 2013 11:22 AM
@semtho  take her number and 4n her explain how you feel abt her 4ning after hours .if she is not to smthing with your man she will understand try 2 put her on your position as a woman. if she is true frand to your hubby she will respect you and wouldnt like  you 2 fight bcoz of her
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 11:24 AM
Being married to someone by no means suggests that the person is your property on any level beyond what is reasonable in the perpetuation, and protection of your joint / common agenda.

Trust is often first broken by those who claim to be the victims of betrayal.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 11:39 AM
I had someone decide that I was a dishonest person, so they googled my name.

I was arrested several times in my life .

Mostly for struggle related events
and once for writing a bad check ... in other words , a check bounced.

this person then decided that everything that they had decided about me were the absolute truth and condemned me because I fitted his idea of whatever he was looking for.
Without even bothering to ask me for the facts behind his discoveries.
Fact is ... if you know my name, and google it ...
you will find several articles about someone with an identical name who happens to have been arrested for whatever reason, and the truly remarkable story surrounding how that person turned his life around.
There would also be several aticles about a Dr >>>>>
and several trade references to >>>>
and so forth,

The result is that this particular person lost me as an investor in a minimum 250 million rand project I had already decided to engage ... a project he really wants to happen, simly because I will never know who I am in business with.

i was particularly disapointed because he could have picked up the telephone and said "I googled your name and found this ... can you please explain it to me" .
Now ... i am spending 500 million in a project in the same industry that he drew my attention towards ... an industry I would have ignored (I veto-ed my CEOs decision to not enter this industry prior to his stepping all over my face), or enjoyed with him ...
but now, I am the competition in his very front yard ...
and I am operating without debt.
he is still hunting for funds, which when found, create a hole he might never be able to dig himself out of.
I can be vicious should I choose (in my business practices ) and wie his entire enterprizes out simply because he violated me and my sensibilities ....

i do not know if I will yet...

and people

Google is not the authority on the facts of life.
Google is a company in Palo Alto California ... just like Apple, Twitter, Facebook, and a host of other companies that actually add zero value to the quality of person you could be.

ASK proper questions and expect proper answers is something I always say.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 11:47 AM
the other day ... in a different article ...
I said ...

The ANC is NOT THE GOVERNMENT
the ANC is NOT THE STATE
the ANC DOES NOT RULE OVER SOUTH AFRICA
and the ANC DOES NOT RULE ME

the ANC is a political party ...
just like the DA and the IFP and the ACDP

the other day .. in the business times ...
there was giant hubbub about the ANC cutting banking ties with First Rand group
what was probably not as relevant to the headline reader was that a few weeks prior business day also published that the ANC is almost broke (see Mangaung footnotes on the ANC treasurer's report on the state of the party's finances)
..
To some people ... the headline could suggest that the government is severing ties with the bank as a client ... which would be wonderful ... but stupid.

all I am trying to point out is that perceptions and reality are not necessarily identical.

If one asks the proper question, or addresses the proper matter
One often reaches the proper result.
Reply from: caro Tuesday, February 12, 2013 11:48 AM
If i may ask why u asking what triggered that thought ...lol

im
sorry to sya this but i saw "DESTROYER" and i fricked... eish joe
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 11:51 AM
What would have been AWESOME would have been for FirstRand to have the balls to stand by their YouTube Ad skits and dare anyone to challenge their right to free and honest expression/ speech.

So what if the government and consequently the country  stinks?
and so what if First Rand is right / wrong ...

every argument often has a counter-point to any single position.
Reply from: caro Tuesday, February 12, 2013 11:54 AM
Angiyena Umkrestu ... @vusi  hai angazi #dead#
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 11:59 AM
@semtho  take her number and 4n her explain how you feel abt her 4ning after hours .if she is not to smthing with your man she will understand try 2 put her on your position as a woman. if she is true frand to your hubby she will respect you and wouldnt like  you 2 fight bcoz of her

The other person has actually nothing to do with Semtho's marriage .... it is Semtho's husband who needs to be addressed by Semtho about what is appropriate.
Leave the other woman alone, she has no idea of the effect Semtho's husband (and Semtho) is allowing to effect her household badly.

Why go engage / fight a person who has no bearing on the problem.
The other woman's existence is incidental and subject to happenstance.
The problem is between Semtho and her husband .
Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, February 12, 2013 12:00 PM
Wow !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! yhooo lesson learnt.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 12:01 PM
@Semtho ...

Do as the women suggest ...
and
you are quite possibly / probably starting on a trip to divorce court.

It could be short trip (if you were my wife ... it would be),
or a long one.

Semtho violated trust here ... not the husband.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 12:02 PM
@Caro ... were you of the opinion that  everyone is Christian?
Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, February 12, 2013 12:04 PM
@caro  cause i saw a user name of Destroyer and i wondered if u also saw that.
upi Destroyer
Reply from: caro Tuesday, February 12, 2013 12:10 PM
no VUSIK , i m just amused by the way u put it hey...  i know we have different beliefs
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 12:12 PM
.. about FNB & First Rand.

what had me lolling in my incredulity is that the ANC is severing ties with FNB in favour of Postbank, on the roviso that Postbank is granted full banking license.

postbank ... which over the christmas holidays suffered a 42 million rand cyber-heist
which case dockets are missing
which the stolen money is not recovered
which the funds have disappeared
which suffered the greatest losses per annum relative to reserves of any bank in the country.
postbank once suffered over 250 million rand plus theft from its employees (cadre deployment) in a scandal some five-seven years ago?

If I was the registrar of banks ...
That is the one bank I would not allow full retail banking license.
But I am not the registrar of banks!

If I was Posbank, I would post a sign by the reception ... as exists at UBS HQ ...
..
it reads
"Union Bank of Switzerland
Your money is not safe with us"
I should know ... I bank there!
Reply from: caro Tuesday, February 12, 2013 12:12 PM
 my username is my name.... which i love very much

i know you guys hv been wondering as to why am i not diclosing mine , anyway thans for sharing
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 12:13 PM
@Caro ...
'Tis true ... I am NOT Christian by any measure.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 12:19 PM
Lord ... This keyboard is worse than the one tech replaced !
lol
Reply from: Btwa Tuesday, February 12, 2013 12:22 PM
Hello Everyone,

Please update me on last episode, i wont comment on anything without Gen update first....please
Reply from: steffie Tuesday, February 12, 2013 12:42 PM
I asked myself as to why ANC had to be vindictive about the FNB vidoe becuase no mention of any political party or name  and also why be brushed off by sentimental comments if you (ANC) are good as you claim.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 12:53 PM
I never got to see the videos, so I have no clue.
My researchers said it was a commentary on how bad a state the country was in.
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, February 12, 2013 12:56 PM
@ Steffie bt i saw da add is back on n u ryt der's no where dey mention any political parties name
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 12:57 PM
methinks
The ANC is of the opinion that it is the government
...
hence
...
criticism of the government is criticism of the ANC
(in my opinion .. as per their lofty opinions of themselves)
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, February 12, 2013 13:16 PM
i agree with u Vusi
Reply from: MsKim Tuesday, February 12, 2013 14:04 PM
@Semtho, pliz take it up with your hubby ONLY. tell him the truth how you feel. tricks in marriage most times they back fire. deal with yo man..
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 14:05 PM
But your husband needs a wake up call he needs to put your feeling first not ezale ntombazane. Yena she must deal with her cheating husband.

Semtho has not said that her husband is cheating on her.
She is uncomfortable about the intimacy, or perceived intimacy of their relationship ... which is quite simply a platonic friendship.

it is Semtho who needs a wake up call !

She could be married to someone with a personality like mine ...
who will send her packing for violating his privacy
or for supposing that I could violate the marriage by being stupid enough to Jol around behind my wife's back.

My phones, emails, mail, personal items are MINE, not for whoever I may be married to or sleeping with to do with/ on as they wish.
Many of my relationships have ended because the woman did not understand a simple rule ...
I am not property!
I share life, time,  and space, generally on my terms, with some modest compromise to accommodate another person's existence in that life, time and space.
Whatever they expect of me, I expect of them, however,
they should never forget that they are in that space because I choose, wish and want them in that space.

Semtho ... I suggest you think hard about your next move regarding this matter.

You can open a dialogue with your husband, however, be cautious because you have already broken the two singular most imortant rule of any relationship ...
viz...
Trust and Faith.
Reply from: Kera Tuesday, February 12, 2013 14:12 PM
@ Semtho phoning the other woman is not an answer, some woman are downrite rude dont go that route speak to your man and believe u me he is not gonna be happy that you went thru his phone. i know what im talking about being there and its not good
Reply from: steffie Tuesday, February 12, 2013 14:15 PM
 @Semtho I think your husbie is just a supportive friend and nothing more. 
Be confident in your relationship with him  and give him credit where is due or else you may end up losing hin because of your insecurities.

Most men doesn't want nagging wives who question every move and details of their lives.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 14:16 PM
viz...
Trust and Faith
...
and respect
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 14:24 PM
I know I say this so much that it is diminished in impact ...

BROWN SKINNED WOMEN !!!
You know almost nothing about men,
yet ...
the answer to everything you need to know is right there in your beds every night.
ASK us brown skinned men, especially the one you sleep with about who, and what he is.
Chances are great he will tell you exactly who and how he is, even if you do not wish to hear it.
If you are of the type of person who asks question desiring a specific answer that favours your desire, you are probably on the wrong planet !

Lastly !!!
The worst person to ask about a brown skinned man
... especially your brown skinned man;
is a another brown skinned woman!

She probably knows less about us than you do!
Reply from: Chix Tuesday, February 12, 2013 14:24 PM
@Semtho... I think you really need to start trusting your husband... Yes you can talk to him about his behaviour with reference to social networks when he is supposed to be spending time with his family!

But as for confronting him about something you saw on his phone whilst you were snooping without his permission (not that he would have given you permission) as he was bathing is a NO NO!!! If your hubby is in any way cheating on you with this woman it will definately surface on its own without you having to go out of your way trying to dig dirt!!!

As a married woman I suggest you stay as far away as possible from confronting other women whom you suspect to be having something with your hubby. That will leave a very bitter taste about you to your hubby!!! It is very small things that we do without even realising that make MEN see us differently!!! I will reiterate  what VusiK said... talk to your hubby and him alone and leave the other person alone... They are not a part of your marriage so do not make them a part!!!
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 14:51 PM
@Semtho

There's a Teddy Pendergrass song you need to listen to.
...
It is called "You and I"
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, February 12, 2013 15:01 PM
But your husband needs a wake up call he needs to put your feeling first not ezale ntombazane. Yena she must deal with her cheating husband.

Where daz this statement come 4rm Vusi?
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 15:23 PM
One of the most cliche' statements about the fundamental building block of a relationship is that any relationship is a zero without communication.

my twist on it ...
and possibly the most difficult for most people (I know because it was soooo very hard for me to make the mind shift, albeit many many years ago) ...
is...
HONEST COMMUNICATION is the most fundamental building block of any relationship.
Not what I think of , Wish for, desire, want to hear,
but unapologetic honest communication ... and damn the consequence...
On Saturday, the woman I am in love with came to visit with her daughter,
we were watching a movie,
previously, I had invited her to be my companion to the soccer games Sunday.
the problem was I was waiting on the confirmation of a series of meetings,
so ...
when she asked about the soccer (the same meetings were supposed to have taken place during soccer in them that suites)... but the suite was double booked or some crap, so I was also waiting on that confirmation also.
regardless ...My response was "I am waiting on the confirmation of a meeting, and only then will I decide regarding the soccer" ...
to which she said "She's pissed at being dissed on her planned soccer date being ossibly held ransom & bumped by a meeting & business"
... My response was .. "Be pissed, I don't care"; which is exactly how I felt because I know absolutely ZERO about soccer ... it happens to be that the person I wanted to meet is a soccer nut, hence the compromise to go to the soccer.
Naturally, the air in the room changed, I thought about it, and said "That is not what you would have liked me say ... to which she replied ... Yes, that is not what I would have like to hear"
but truth is ... I don't care about soccer, or any spectator sports (I can't afford the time ... I'd rather work or spend free time with my children and family ).
I don't have very good people skills ...
I'm the proverbial 600 lb gorilla ,
I sleep wherever I like!

However ... the moral of the story is ...
I have evolved to where I will communicate ME from the core of my soul with scant regard for how the message is received, or perceived.
If a person does not like what they hear, or read because I do not use filters, nor do I really need anyone / anything ... Too darn Bad !!!
However, whatever comes from me will be the truth ...

PS.
I did meet with the person, had our agreement, and personally (beyond my company's earnings) stood to make at least a million a day from our relationship.... That was sunday at five pm.
On monday at five pm. I cancelled the business with the person I wanted to meet because he has NO REGARD for his own word.

I can never trust a person who is not true to his word.
He did not do as he said he would when he said he would do it.

There are people who are upset ... too bad for them ...
when they have their own shops, they can run them as they see fit.

He was not honest .
He was stalling, and he had all the pieces he had being searching for the last twelve years in his hand.
Reply from: Btwa Tuesday, February 12, 2013 15:26 PM
This is nolonger Gen Blog, i know we shud support each other as friends but not totally foget the core reason of blogging...just a thot
@Semtho Chix put it more better than i would. I share same sentiments. 
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 15:26 PM
Goldie ... it comes from here ...
Ntakashi wrote ...
@Semtho block her number from your hubby's phone and tell hubby you did that. Your hubby seems like he won't stop talking to this chick. And talking to the chick might also help make her see that what she is doing with your hubby is making you feel how she feels right now even though she is not sleeping with hubby but the fact that he is sleeping next to you and chatting to another women is also as bad as what her hubby did.

She know how it feels like to be cheated on, maybe she will stop if you explain to her what they are doing is wrong.

But your husband needs a wake up call he needs to put your feeling first not ezale ntombazane. Yena she must deal with her cheating husband.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 15:28 PM
sorry ... from here

Reply from: Ntaksay   Tuesday, February 12, 2013 10:49 AM
@Semtho block her number from your hubby's phone and tell hubby you did that. Your hubby seems like he won't stop talking to this chick. And talking to the chick might also help make her see that what she is doing with your hubby is making you feel how she feels right now even though she is not sleeping with hubby but the fact that he is sleeping next to you and chatting to another women is also as bad as what her hubby did.

She know how it feels like to be cheated on, maybe she will stop if you explain to her what they are doing is wrong.

But your husband needs a wake up call he needs to put your feeling first not ezale ntombazane. Yena she must deal with her cheating husband.
Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, February 12, 2013 15:29 PM
Where is ..Destroyer????
Reply from: steffie Tuesday, February 12, 2013 15:33 PM
@Vusik you seem like a ruthless and arrogant businessman hey, who is too difficult to please *hides*
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 15:52 PM
@Steffie ...

You are probably right ...
I have been called everything you say.
...
my father used to say ...
if the whole world says something about you
...
it is probably the truth


I do not live for the pleasure of other people (in my business life)
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, February 12, 2013 15:53 PM

Shame Btwa wish I could update you but I'm blank.

If you dont watch today, let me know at 8:00 tomorrow I promise by 8:15 you will have the update.

Sorry!!!!

Reply from: MsKim Tuesday, February 12, 2013 16:00 PM
ya neh @ steffie he really does.
Reply from: semtho Tuesday, February 12, 2013 16:01 PM
Thanks for the advises people, talked this out with my husband and from now one NO SNOOPING ARND ON HIS PHONE. Hey i couldn't ask dat woman abt this, its was my problem not hers anywaiz. Once again sorry to dos who feel we have turned this to Sis Dolly helpline. Nginithanda nonke.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 16:05 PM
After all these years MsKim is still not used to me being me, lol
Reply from: steffie Tuesday, February 12, 2013 16:08 PM

Your carapace of confidence does it stems from you knowing that you are smart at hat you do (business-wise and intellectual) or you were like this always. Mpela you are more than hat people could handle @Vusik but you are intellectual refreshing and you don't beat around the bush I like that: being honest about yourself.

Reply from: Kandyfloss Tuesday, February 12, 2013 16:09 PM
lol @Steffie.. I don't wish to see the response from Vusik. Very busy lately jus a silent blogger.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 16:11 PM
@Steffie ...
I'm the quiet one who thinks, plots and schemes and carries out what I intend to,regardless of the consequence to me. ...
no-one really knows what I'm going to do next.
I like, and prefer it that way.

If that is being ruthless, arrogant, and difficult to please ..
the results that speak for my modality.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 16:12 PM
... and I do prefer to be alone over having female companionship in my life-space.
no complications = more time for work.
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, February 12, 2013 16:15 PM
 ok jst saw dat nw Vusi thanks @ Semtho we are family darling were everything n anything is discussed we love to help were we can *hug* i'm glad its sorted nw
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, February 12, 2013 16:22 PM
Bye guyz i'm out of here izobona ngo 8pm
Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, February 12, 2013 16:24 PM
@Semtho goodluck with future cc we love you.
Haveto love and leave all of you. CYA
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 16:31 PM

Your carapace of confidence does it stems from you knowing that you are smart at hat you do (business-wise and intellectual) or you were like this always. Mpela you are more than hat people could handle @Vusik but you are intellectual refreshing and you don't beat around the bush I like that: being honest about yourself.



@Steffie ... don't you think it is about time that brown skinned people stopped behaving like followers / 2nd rate citizens?

I don't know about the stuff you speak of much ... however,
I have sufficient experience to know that lying costs more energy than telling the truth.
I am me ...
I have lived, I have highly intense experience in many sectors
I have always lived as though it is my last day ... just not the way many other people would. (was a soldier, jumped out of perfectly working airplanes, fought other people's wars, was an adrenaline junkie most of my life)
I could read by the time I was 3 or 4, spoke at least 5/6 languages by that time  (read all the books & encyclopedias in my home by the time I was seven) ... insatiable hunger for knowledge, equal curiosity, (I still approach knowledge with the vision of a five year old) ...
suffered enough to know that the next person does not give a damn about me, etc.
i have lived.
I live until I no longer live....
and i love business and the pursuit of profit, regardless of risk.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 16:32 PM
@Semtho ...
Good luck Sisi ... and all the best moving forward.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 16:32 PM
Bye BK ...
Hey there Kandi !
Reply from: steffie Tuesday, February 12, 2013 16:40 PM
@Steffie ... don't you think it is about time that brown skinned people stopped behaving like followers / 2nd rate citizens? 

Ofcourse it is, there is nothing more fulfilling than being true to yourself, I have liberated myself of feeling guilt about how  I choose live my life regardless of what people say including my immediate family.
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 16:43 PM
I was first in many things,
you think it ...
I was probably among the first there
so ...
Reply from: steffie Tuesday, February 12, 2013 16:50 PM
I do understand the originality of this aloofness of yours, okay bye for today chit chat tomorrow. Love you all bloggers. 
Reply from: VusiK Tuesday, February 12, 2013 16:59 PM
Bye Stef
Reply from: koks Tuesday, February 12, 2013 21:04 PM
Evening bloggers I'm new here and I'm loving this already....Have a lovely evening ya'll :) x
Reply from: Manicure Wednesday, February 13, 2013 08:05 AM

is this stil my Gen family or i'm lost?

Reply from: steffie Wednesday, February 13, 2013 08:14 AM
Morning all
Reply from: Ntaksay Wednesday, February 13, 2013 08:23 AM

A very good Morning to you all

Btwa, I'll take the silence as you watched Generations last night.

Manicure, you are in the right place. You are not lost at all my dear

Welcome Koks

Reply from: Bk212303 Wednesday, February 13, 2013 08:25 AM
Morning all, @koks welcome to the family.
Reply from: OlothandoD Wednesday, February 13, 2013 08:41 AM
Morning!

You arent lost Manincure, this is still Gen family.

Its just that when a sis or bro has a problem, the family makes sure they iron it out.  after all that what family is for.

Soon you will be seeing comments about the soapie since it seems like Semtho's issue has been resolved.

Before I forget, can someone help a sista, my TV is not working so I failed to watch last night's episode.
Reply from: Ntaksay Wednesday, February 13, 2013 09:03 AM

@ Olo I'll try to update you.

The white chick saw the Tsalanang's flyers and Choppa stole her theme for Valentines. She confronted him and said she is tired of berging him she is going to the new bar and ask for the job, she told Choppa to decide whether she wants her or not.

The PI Noluntu hired did not find any connection btwn the Ndlangisas and the Dlomos, no money transfers nothing.  MJ saw the PI in Luntu's office and said it's the freelance photographer but when MJ aske abt him she could not give a straight answer then MJ suspected she was up to something and she told him that she is inverstigating the Ndlangisas so she hire that guy to investigate.

MJ went to his mom's office and Wandi had a pic of Mnqobi but she hid it MJ did nt notice but the guilt was playing her. When MJ asked her what's wrong she said she is worried abt Luntu, she is up to something MJ also showed that he knows something but did not tell.

Wandi and Luntu were preparing Super, the Piet phoned but Luntu said she cannot talk she will call him in the morning. Wand aske who was on the phone and Luntu said no one. But she ended up telling her that she hired the PI to envestigate the Ndlangisas. Wand was defending them saying they are the good parents.....................

Queen wrote a poem for Rob and Rob liked it said it's nicest thing anyone has ever wrote for him.  He said he is so happy to  be with Queen and he would be happy to die in Queens arms. Queen was upset the whole day bcoz of that.

Dineo and Phenyo need a break from the soapie

Sylvia went to Ruby asked her what are her plans now that Xolani will be out jail soon, she said nothing she just wants him to be happy. Sylvia said yes, he will be with a younger women who will give him children and marry him

Reply from: makanku Wednesday, February 13, 2013 09:12 AM
morning zithandwa zenhliziyo
@koks, welcome sthandwa
@olothando..."its jusu that when a sis or bro have a problem, the family makes sure they iron it out. after all that what family is for." amen on that one, we r 4eva there for one another and we neva get tired of listening & supporting one of our own.
@semtho, hope u ok sisi, ungasabi ukuxoxa nathi.sinawe thru it all 
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, February 13, 2013 09:27 AM

Morning Family 

Koks Welcome to r loving n crazy family...Manicure darling it's still da same house n da same family @ Olo Amen to dat sistas 

i ws loling yest wen Queen ws telling Khethiwe wat Rob said abt him dying in her arms hahahaha

finally Ruby's gona dust of dat dust wen Xolani comes back hihihihih Sylvia mst JBS....n Ruby mst stop 4cing Dinny to have a baby pls asseblief tog

Reply from: Kera Wednesday, February 13, 2013 09:31 AM
Morning family 

Queen just made me laugh when she said to Khethiwe what if him  dying in my hands is a curse
Reply from: sisila Wednesday, February 13, 2013 09:44 AM
@Ntaksay thank u for the update these days watching tv is a pain for me. I am feeling very lonenly the best thing i do is sleep my lonenlyness away.
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, February 13, 2013 10:14 AM
wat's seems to be da matter nw Sisila?
Reply from: OlothandoD Wednesday, February 13, 2013 10:21 AM
thanks @Ntaksay, I hope today I will manage to watch 
Reply from: Bk212303 Wednesday, February 13, 2013 10:42 AM
@Sisila hayi thats not ok whats up?
Reply from: Ntaksay Wednesday, February 13, 2013 10:45 AM

Queen is such a drama queen. Did you see the way she looked at Rob when he was taking his medication, she is carrying on as if Rob said he is going to die right now.  Shame Queenny take a chill pill Rob is not going anywhere.

Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, February 13, 2013 10:48 AM
u can say dat again Ntaksay wuuuuu haai soka maan
Reply from: Ntaksay Wednesday, February 13, 2013 10:59 AM
@Olo if you do not watch feel free to ask again. I'll alone in the office tomorrow, so I'll update you, not only on generations. Which other soapie do you watch.

I'm asking all of you, do you watch other soapies or just generations.
I watch most the soapies. starting from Rhythm City, Scandal, Generations and Muvhanga then I watch the omnibus of Isidingo and 7de laan on Sunday.
Reply from: Ntaksay Wednesday, February 13, 2013 11:01 AM
I'll alone in the office tomorrow - I'll be alone (forgot to type "be")
Reply from: OlothandoD Wednesday, February 13, 2013 11:22 AM
@Ntaksay an update for Muvhango will be appreciated! , thanks
Reply from: makanku Wednesday, February 13, 2013 11:29 AM
@Ntaksay, i watch all soapies except scandal, its timing is bad and no omnibus for it, too bad coz i like that soapie
Reply from: Ntaksay Wednesday, February 13, 2013 11:45 AM
Makanku It is quite interesting these days, you might want to try and watch.

I like your spirit olo you grab opportunity with both hands, that is good.
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, February 13, 2013 11:59 AM

I love my soapies i watch 4rm days to Muvhango so ya *gigles*

break down i get home 16:45 Days after days i switch to 1 da Bold @ 18:30 RC  dnt @ 7 i take a break 7:30 Scandal @ 8 Gen den @ 9 Muvhango den on sunday i watch da Isidingo Omnibus yeah baby dats me

Reply from: Btwa Wednesday, February 13, 2013 12:09 PM
Hello lovely family

@Nkatsay thanx a lot for thinking about my yestaday's request, wok is keeping me very busy that is y m checking in now
Ooh i watch only 2 soaps, ie Gen and Isidingo
Reply from: Ntaksay Wednesday, February 13, 2013 12:13 PM
Yho Goldi you like your screen, I usually get home after 6pm. I haven't watched days for months. Awupheki Goldi or you cook while watching TV.

When I get home I cook while watching, I peel vegies infront of the TV sometimes I even forget and burn the food. *women and soapies*
Reply from: Bk212303 Wednesday, February 13, 2013 12:14 PM
@Ntaksay yho i wish i could be you im so busy i dont even have time to watch the gen soapy but i used to watch bold,gen,muvhango,isidingo everyday kodwa now the woman is all over and that frustrate me more cause i used to cool down my stresses with soapies. Hi Makanku how a u cc?

@Ntaksay im also alone in the office but with loads of work. I m so angry with my boss he has this guy who does his finances but now they using me to fix his mess like sorting invoices of last Jan up to now and i dont get paid for that and on the other hand i have my own work piling now. and this i have 2 days to finish in between i must follow up on my files(multi-task) so am actually practising what i preached when i came for an interview. You know moss when u a in an interview you sell yourself or advertise yourself but when it comes to action its another story for some people.But anyway im multi tasking now and yes am enjoying it except for the fact that this time its mahala.

Yhe this Noluntu character injani nina she does not want to raise the child but now she is also blocking usenzo from raising the child. Is it me or what is Dinny ignoring/running away from  her hubby when he wants to dust. Im happy that Xolani is coming back. Uyabona u Akona i dont have words for her.

 
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, February 13, 2013 12:19 PM

i'm a woman darling i multi task hahahahaha wen i gt home kids r already der i swich on da tv switch on da stove den watch n cook @ da same time by da time Scandal comes on we having supper :) ohh women n soapies hahahaha s for burning dem food 

i sumtimes wonder wen i have a boyfriend gore how am i gona cope eish ya ne sacrifices and compromizing haai will c kikikikikikiki

Reply from: steffie Wednesday, February 13, 2013 12:27 PM

My all favourite soapy  is Scandal, the rest I watch nje, but I don't enjoy Isidingo doesn't have that wow factor for me.

Reply from: Ntaksay Wednesday, February 13, 2013 12:28 PM
Bk give me 12 hours I'm coming to help you *hiding under the desk*
Reply from: Ntaksay Wednesday, February 13, 2013 12:37 PM
Akona i dont have words for her
Both her and Asanda, they are playing with fire. They know Sello can kill them both. But baqinisa amakhanda, I just hope they save Sammantha from Sello
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, February 13, 2013 12:39 PM
@ Bk Dinny daznt want to get preg dat's y she's running away 4rm hubby wen its dusing time
Reply from: MsKim Wednesday, February 13, 2013 12:48 PM
Isidingo is my fav, then The Wild then Generations, RC, Scandal, Days & The Bold...
Reply from: OlothandoD Wednesday, February 13, 2013 12:50 PM
I get home at 1730hrs, watch B&B, then Isidingo, Generations and then Muvhango
Reply from: OlothandoD Wednesday, February 13, 2013 12:57 PM
My favourite is Muvhango, then Gens, then Isidingo, then B&B
Reply from: Friend Wednesday, February 13, 2013 13:03 PM
Good-day Family, now you"ll get back to work.
Reply from: Bk212303 Wednesday, February 13, 2013 13:06 PM
@Ntaksay please help im drowning here. Ok who is samantha ntaksay.
Ppl i stil did not get a reply from destroyer upi na? 2Goldi ooh u single, how i wish to be cause there is no stres there. When u have a man in yr life yhoo they want to know where u a with whom, u must cook, iron clothing which i smtimes duck, yhoo yadika mani. To be honest i think if i stayed single and just get someone for dusting no strings attached then wouldve been grand obviously with my son.

Its a count down im not counting this week tata is leaving hooraara my dreadlock yhoo they need some air but hey i must they grew they are so long thanx to tata for that hahahha atleast something good came form this nightmare
Reply from: Bk212303 Wednesday, February 13, 2013 13:09 PM
@hey Friend how it.. did u say back to work.... yey i must get back u right ive been chatting long enough back to work now cya 10min
Reply from: sisila Wednesday, February 13, 2013 13:15 PM
was cought up in meetings all day, its one of those days that person feel like having someone to go home to a child to welcome you home. I stay alone,drive alone infact i do everything alone stay far from my immediate family and basically im an island.
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, February 13, 2013 13:15 PM
@Bk i live with ma 2 boys so it's stressful shame i do laundry, iron n cook it's also tiring da only thing nje is dusting lol so wen i gt a man i think my pro will be my soapies lol @ Hey Friend no work today darling we r galavanting kikiikikiki u can join in if u dnt mind u know wat dey say mos if u cant beat dem joing dem kwaaaaaa, i wonder is s/he (destroyer)
Reply from: MaKhuu Wednesday, February 13, 2013 13:17 PM
Noluntu' s character is not funny anymore particularly wen it cums to Mqobi
Reply from: Ntaksay Wednesday, February 13, 2013 13:19 PM
Samantha is one of the girls who entered the beauty pegeant that Akhona is busy with at Yona Yethu. Sello saw the clip last week and liked  the girl. Guess what Sello is the judge and also sponsoring
Reply from: makanku Wednesday, February 13, 2013 13:28 PM
@BK, hi sweetie,unjani kodwa? i hope things r lighting up for u.
ladies & soapies..!!! if it wasn't 4 my hubby i would b watching all the soapies on tv bt as Goldi said, compromises & sacrifices..
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, February 13, 2013 13:35 PM
She's jst being bitchy *Noluntu* she daznt want Mqobi fine bt y deprive Senzo cos he loves he's son mxxxm spiteful n bitchy i tell u
Reply from: MsKim Wednesday, February 13, 2013 13:42 PM
Noluntu is being unreasonable. i think Senzo has rights as the father, he shld consult a lawyer
Reply from: Bk212303 Wednesday, February 13, 2013 13:44 PM
Where is everyone my eyes are killing me.
Forgot to say i went to book for my learners licence ppl anyone with questions and answers fax me plz anyone .........hallow!!!........ bapabantu................. yhoo im so bored and im tired of counting these numbers ....
Reply from: Bk212303 Wednesday, February 13, 2013 13:54 PM
@Goldi hey im also wondering about that too and also the username hahah.
yhooo sisila how i wish to have my own space.

I used to be a shebeen queen when i wasnt working 2011 but yhoo the thought of that yhoo ....the was no quiet time, wake up early to clean 6 oclok already someone wants to sit and drink and i decided hayi i must look again for work cause i could not take it anymore too tiring cause again u the last person to sleepand 1st to be awake.

Me im that person sometimes who wants to stay in closed doors, 1st thing in the morning clean quickly and wash myself, make something to eat watch tv whole day under blankets. No interruptions somma take the key out at the door so that no one knocks.
Reply from: steffie Wednesday, February 13, 2013 14:15 PM
I'm so lazy today but have too many things to complete.
Reply from: caro Wednesday, February 13, 2013 14:24 PM
I GOT A NEW JOB............HIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPYYYYYYYYYYY

WHERE IA MY MANNERS???????? GOOD AFTERNOON BANGAN BAM?
Reply from: OlothandoD Wednesday, February 13, 2013 14:40 PM
Congrats Caro on your new job, Hurrrrrrrrrrrrraaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay 
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, February 13, 2013 14:54 PM

WHOOOOPPPPPPP WHOOOPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP CONGRATS CARO OHHHHH PRAISE DA LORD 

@Goldi hey im also wondering about that too and also the username hahah. 

i'm confused Bk??????

Reply from: steffie Wednesday, February 13, 2013 14:58 PM
Congrats Caro, happy for you.
Reply from: CINDY LAPPA Wednesday, February 13, 2013 14:58 PM

@caro im happy 4 u sisi ,it  shows how great God is n-way good daypple

here is a quiz 4 the day
I am the first on earth,second in heaven, i appear twice a week but can only be seen once ayear and im also found in the middle of the sea.WHO AM I?

Reply from: OlothandoD Wednesday, February 13, 2013 15:08 PM
@Cindy Lappa, its the letter  "E"
Reply from: Bk212303 Wednesday, February 13, 2013 15:12 PM
HAYIBO NIPI NGOKU!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply from: Ntaksay Wednesday, February 13, 2013 15:32 PM
It is E Cindy 
E is the first letter on the word earth, second on heaven, doubled on week, one on Year and it is in middle on the word sea.

We are happy for you Caro

sikhona Bk
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, February 13, 2013 15:32 PM
Cindi i'm lost Dodo si lapha nje BK
Reply from: Ntaksay Wednesday, February 13, 2013 15:33 PM
What makes an Ice to Nice?????????????????
Reply from: Bk212303 Wednesday, February 13, 2013 15:35 PM
@ Goldi u confused about what my response or what?

i wonder is s/he (destroyer)

Congrattttts  caro heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeyiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Cindy ngu E
Reply from: Ntaksay Wednesday, February 13, 2013 15:41 PM
How do you get pies to work for the government?????????????

Why are A, E,and U the prettiest vowels?
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, February 13, 2013 15:57 PM

lol @ BK i wanted to say i wonder whre is s/he typo error darl.

Reply from: Ntaksay Wednesday, February 13, 2013 16:22 PM
Home time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, February 13, 2013 16:27 PM
ok guyz let meet @ Ruby's i'm out of here 


CHEERS
Reply from: Kandyfloss Wednesday, February 13, 2013 16:28 PM
Congrats Caro!! Is there anyone who have/had a child born with clubfoot?
Reply from: Kandyfloss Wednesday, February 13, 2013 16:28 PM
Congrats Caro!! Is there anyone who have/had a child born with clubfoot?
Reply from: Kandyfloss Wednesday, February 13, 2013 16:29 PM
Congrats Caro!! Is there anyone who have/had a child born with clubfoot?
Reply from: Kandyfloss Wednesday, February 13, 2013 16:29 PM
Congrats Caro!! Is there anyone who have/had a child born with clubfoot?
Reply from: Kandyfloss Wednesday, February 13, 2013 16:46 PM
Forget my multiple posts... Am so worried about my son.
Reply from: koks Wednesday, February 13, 2013 17:20 PM
Thanks for a warm welcome guys.I already feel like I'm home.

I can't  wait to hear the plan that Luntu has for Senzo and the shock she"ll get when she realises that Wandi knew all long.As for Queen I think she's gonna back down on the wedding,the way she's acting up Nkosi yam!

Eish Akhona is just another case ke loyo.....

Sorry @Kandyfloss but try to find an Orthopeadic surgen or Occupational therapist...Check out this woman"s blog Linda Hansen she might help as she knows how to cure clubfoot...Good luck doll.
Reply from: Kandyfloss Wednesday, February 13, 2013 17:37 PM
Thanx Koks.. he started correction when he was 4wks old. And its 95%corrected. Now he's 20mnths old and walkin and he needs the cast, the thought of that and how he's goin to be affected is whats kilin me
Reply from: Kandyfloss Wednesday, February 13, 2013 17:37 PM
Thanx Koks.. he started correction when he was 4wks old. And its 95%corrected. Now he's 20mnths old and walkin and he needs the cast, the thought of that and how he's goin to be affected is whats kilin me
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, February 13, 2013 20:39 PM
Evening guys so Kandy wat is dat exactly? Xcus ma blondeness
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, February 13, 2013 21:42 PM
I'm sorry 2 hear I dd google it no nid 2 xplain Koks is ryt Orthopedic surgeon dnt worry @list he's still young otlaba sharp God is der 4 us all *hug*
Reply from: Goldi Thursday, February 14, 2013 08:35 AM

Morning Family Happy Valentine's Day

Reply from: Ntaksay Thursday, February 14, 2013 08:35 AM
Good morning

Another SUNNY day, I love WINTER I hate ilanga shame.  But what can I do
Reply from: Ntaksay Thursday, February 14, 2013 08:45 AM
I loled at Khethiwe's look when Rob had a sinus attack at Ezweni. I don't understand why Queen is avoiding Rob.

If that PI continues to investigate he will find out that Wandi also knew abt the baby, maybe that's what she is going to confess on Monday.
Reply from: mahumani Thursday, February 14, 2013 08:56 AM
Good morning

Happy Valentine's Day 2 U all people
Noluntu  a nga right why a nga tshiki n'wana akurisiwa hi va Ndlangisa shame wa penga. 
Reply from: mahumani Thursday, February 14, 2013 09:16 AM


One day a  guy tell his wife that 2day I'm going to teach you a foreplay but first cum and suck my DICK so the girl tell her husband that stop  interviewing me and put you DICK and do what you do everyday.
Reply from: caro Thursday, February 14, 2013 09:17 AM
@kandyfloss CURE's clubfoot program utilizes a non-surgical treatment procedure known as the Ponseti method, a specific method of manipulation to stretch contracted ligaments, tenotomy (under local anesthesia), bracing, and follow-up visits.
 This 6-8 week long process casts the foot gradually into the correct position. During treatment each week, the cast is removed and replaced with a new cast that incrementally moves the foot into the correct position. In the majority of clubfoot cases, children under two can have a clubfoot corrected with no surgical intervention. There is minimal scarring and bone development is not hindered, and the result is mobile, pain-free, flexible feet. 

Get help quickly myfriend... your bunddle will be just fyn


By the way thank you so much guys..much appreciated!!!! will start the training on march the forth
Reply from: caro Thursday, February 14, 2013 09:19 AM
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Reply from: Goldi Thursday, February 14, 2013 09:25 AM
Noluntu wapenga straight :) @ Ntaksay i ws cracking myself yoooo I think Queen is having second thots abt Rob haai, Dineo and Phenyo's marraige is doomed haai soka it's not evern a month bt having such probs tjoooo
Reply from: Manicure Thursday, February 14, 2013 09:31 AM

a beautiful morning to u all and happy valentine's day!!!!!!!!!!!!

Reply from: Muhle10 Thursday, February 14, 2013 09:41 AM
Guys is anyone familiar with the law on what Senzos rights as a father are according to the south African laws. I think now that the baby has been born it is within his rights to get first preference before any adoptive parents can be considered. Of course Noluntu doesn't want the baby but the fatherwants to raise the baby. Am sure the only reason why Senzo agreed to give away the baby was to stop Niluntu from aborting. M sure we are headed for the courts now. She can't punish senzo for not falling in love with her. Can gay couples adopt a baby in south Africa.
Reply from: Ntaksay Thursday, February 14, 2013 09:54 AM
@ kandy we are with you sister all the way. Your son will be fine
Reply from: Kandyfloss Thursday, February 14, 2013 10:01 AM
Thanx guys..
Reply from: Kera Thursday, February 14, 2013 10:21 AM
Gud morning family

@ Kandy with God all is possible i will pray for your son in our prayer meeting today 

I did not see Gen yesterday anyone please update 

@ Muhle in reality Senso can fight for his son and he can win da case but its soapie land so anything is possible
Reply from: makanku Thursday, February 14, 2013 10:45 AM
HAPPY VALENTINES ZITHANDWA.
ey im not ok 2day and i need umkhuleko. i told u last month ukuthi my Ma was in an accident (she fell asleep while driving, lost control & the car rolled but she survived) on her way back from her fathers funeral, now yesterday my grandma passed on.so what stresses me so horribly is that i cant help my Ma, financially, in all these challenges she's facing, God knows i want to help her but due to itoho engilenzayo i cant contribute with even a cent and she doesnt even know how she's gonna bury granny coz yonke into ibheke yena and she doent earn much herself.

Ey guys, i know i've bn nagging a lot about not getting a job for 10yrs and u supported mea lot but today i feel completely useless.ungifundisile lomuntu, hoping that i would help her in times of need but i cant.thats why i cant stop crying.all i need is prayer, even if u dont say anything 2 me.
Reply from: steffie Thursday, February 14, 2013 10:57 AM
@Makanku I'm lost for words on how to comfort you. Will  pray for your breakthrough and hope that you do get the job that you studied for and be paid what is equivalen to your qualifications.*hug*
Reply from: Kera Thursday, February 14, 2013 11:11 AM
@Mankaku sorry about your  granny,all that i can say to you is that only Gods knows why all of this is happening to your family we the people of the earth can not give you all the answers, fix your eyes unto Him no matter what and He will answer all in good time. We will pray for you and your mom to get thru this as well dear
Reply from: Goldi Thursday, February 14, 2013 11:25 AM
@ Makanku i'm sorry for ur loss i'm also not sure how to comfort you darling but will keep u n ur family in ma prayers *big hug* God is with you gal
Reply from: Bk212303 Thursday, February 14, 2013 11:54 AM
Haaappyyy valaza to all. Enjoy it
Reply from: Chix Thursday, February 14, 2013 13:55 PM
Congrats Caro!!!

Makanku my dearest Sweetheart
... Do not despair... the darkest hour is just before dawn!!! 

Proverbs 3:5-6 
5. Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
6. in all your ways submit to him,
and he shall lead your ways.

There is NOTHING we can say that will take away your pain Girl... but just trust Him, believe in His abilities, make that infinite abilities!! He knows what is going on in your life. The Bible says "He does not sleep, nor slumber, he watches over His OWN"!!! I know when it's painfull and people are encouraging you it seems like they are just speaking because they do not feel your pain, He is there, watching over you and preparing you to receive your blessing!! 

Open your hands, lift them up to heaven and prepare to receive your BLESSING!!! It is about to fall over you!!!!

Have faith and stay STRONG!!!! *big, fat, warm hug*
Reply from: Chix Thursday, February 14, 2013 14:02 PM

Been quite a while... Welcome to all the NEW BLOGGERS!!!

Bk
I am still alive sweet thang... thanks for checking on me that day by phone. I do come around here, read the comments and leave again!!! Things are a bit hectic at work and I registered this year!!! So being an employee is hectic on its own but when you are studying as well it gets worse with two kids that also need you to be a MOM!!! But hey I still LOVE y'all guys!!!

*kissing every blogger on the CHIX with red lipstick*

Reply from: Cmaneo Thursday, February 14, 2013 14:09 PM
Happy valetine,s day mabloggers
Reply from: Cmaneo Thursday, February 14, 2013 14:10 PM
Happy valetine,s day mabloggers
Reply from: makanku Thursday, February 14, 2013 14:15 PM
@STEFFIE,KERA,GOLDI,CHIX &ALL THE BLOGGERS, thanks for your support guys.u r amazing & may God bless u all.
Reply from: Bk212303 Thursday, February 14, 2013 14:51 PM
@Makanku cc i dont have words to say to you, all i can say im praying for u now and i will keep on praying for u cc. All i ask of you is to have faith in Him and He will take away the pain and will also give you the job deserve. Im so sorry about yr gran. Now yr gran is gone, it was time for her to depart so cry cc it helps a lot. If u feel like talking about her u can talk about her but just dont keep it inside cry or say something. It helped me when i lost my son, i talked, cried and the support i got helped. I know how painfully it must be cause a gran is someone else, I lost my gran in 2006 and i took so long to let go cause when it was time she called for me and they called me and they could not get hold of me that night and she past on at 23:10 that night and was told not to bother cause kulu was already gone. So i kept on asking myself what did she want to say to me and i sometimes wonder but what can a person do. God will give u umsebenzi cc just bare yr turn is coming and when it does yr mom will know but she knows uba u want to be there for her. But kuthwa inzima lendlela. Before u c the light kuqala kubemnyama.
Reply from: Bk212303 Thursday, February 14, 2013 14:57 PM
Hey Chinx wow unqabile cc. Ooh u studying yhoo i can imagine cc which means uyadinwa shem. Hey this ingathi its just hectic qha.
We love u too cc.
Reply from: Bk212303 Thursday, February 14, 2013 15:03 PM
Im listen to music spiritual songs

 "Draw me close to u"
 Never let me go
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U all i want
u all ive ever needed
u all i want
 mmh yhoo i love this song

Stil alone at the office
Reply from: Goldi Thursday, February 14, 2013 15:22 PM

Love u 2 Chix jst do wat u have to do gal we still here @ BK alone untill wen? whrs Nkatsay ddnt she say she's gona come chill with u? 

Reply from: makanku Thursday, February 14, 2013 15:38 PM
@BK, thanks cc.
Reply from: Bk212303 Thursday, February 14, 2013 15:48 PM
@makanku it is always a pleasure when it comes from my family.Love u guys u are angels sent from above. Be strong cc. @Goldi they coming back ngomso. Colegue gone to eastern cape and boss off sick and he said ngomso but i dont know cause he came in today to sign docs but i could c he is stil not well.

Whoo ntaksay whoow that one lied to me i waited and waited nothing undixhasise itable mountain lowo.
Reply from: Goldi Thursday, February 14, 2013 16:18 PM
lol shame on Ntaksay for not fulfiling her promise dont worry @list dey r coming back tomorrow so u wont be alone ne now smile :) it's almost home time
Reply from: steffie Thursday, February 14, 2013 16:21 PM
Enough for today
Reply from: NoMdazB Thursday, February 14, 2013 18:06 PM
Oh @Makanku. I feel for you sisi. Pray and pray hard that someone in your family will have a change of heart and help. Ask the Lord to help open their hearts, you never know even a stranger might help. Maybe people at your mom's job. All of us will keep your in our thoughts and prayers. Sending you love and light.
Reply from: RainPrincess Friday, February 15, 2013 03:41 AM
The lost child...hehehee I hope I won't get booted for being away for so long. Studies are just depriving me of spending time with my beloved family maar y'all must always know gore your royal highness loves you to bits! I. Miss you guys.
Reply from: Bk212303 Friday, February 15, 2013 08:14 AM
Morning mabloggers, hayi the investigator yhoo yadika.
Mawande must just come clean suka this man is gonna find out anyway.
yhoooooo Xolani is back what a suprise for Rubza......sugar Rubzana....
Reply from: Goldi Friday, February 15, 2013 08:37 AM

Morning Family 

Hey RainP as long as u still good no worries lala we still have mad love for u :)

ohhh i really enjoyed Gen lst 9t only on da romance side not Luntu n her bitchiness, Ohh Xolani wowwwww wat a come eish Ruby finally bye bye to da spider web lol it showes hw well Nick n Akhona know each dey jst perfect camaan Akhona jst give Nicky anada chance tlheee ohhh Rob really loves Queen hey he believe in her sweet

Reply from: Ntaksay Friday, February 15, 2013 09:30 AM
lol shame on Ntaksay for not fulfiling her promise

I am ashamed already Goldi, I had to go to a solidarity to fight against Rape. I took more than I expected.

Does anyone need an update today, feel free to ask and I will help (Generations, Muvhango, Scandal or Rhythm City). If there is not request after 10 minutes. Then I will take as everyone watched their favourite soapies.
Akhona and Nicky are a cute couple. I love them, they have been hungry for each other yho I'm sure nase ndleleni bekungathi abafiki in Nicky's flat
Reply from: Kandyfloss Friday, February 15, 2013 09:32 AM
Good morning.. Thanx for you support. Did take my nana to the hospital, he doesnt need a cast anymore. Only a splint shoe-like thing. He 'l be puttin it on til he's corrected.
Reply from: Kandyfloss Friday, February 15, 2013 09:33 AM
Good morning.. Thanx for you support. Did take my nana to the hospital, he doesnt need a cast anymore. Only a splint shoe-like thing. He 'l be puttin it on til he's corrected.
Reply from: Kandyfloss Friday, February 15, 2013 09:33 AM
Good morning.. Thanx for you support. Did take my nana to the hospital, he doesnt need a cast anymore. Only a splint shoe-like thing. He 'l be puttin it on til he's corrected.
Reply from: Kera Friday, February 15, 2013 09:39 AM
Morning family 

@Kandy God is goodooo( Nigerian accent)

Tjo Robert really loves Queen the way he looks at her says it all, as for Luntu how can a person be so bitter?
Reply from: Goldi Friday, February 15, 2013 09:40 AM
@ Ntaksay u r forgiven cos u dd wat u dd for a gud cos proud of u lala ok update on RC pls @Kandy i'm happy for u darl n lil man
Reply from: Ntaksay Friday, February 15, 2013 09:49 AM
We are happy for you Kandy *singing UJESU uphakeme
                                                                    Igama leNKOSI sinamandla.......................*



Reply from: makanku Friday, February 15, 2013 09:50 AM
Morning family.
im feeling better 2day, thanks 4 your support.
Xolani, Xolani, Xolani. kodwa ungenzani. Ruby unenhlanhla yazi, 
Nick & Akhona, match made in heaven.
whats up with Choppa kanti, why is he so up-tight lately?
Reply from: Ntaksay Friday, February 15, 2013 10:21 AM
Maybe Choppa likes the white chick. why did he give MJ that look when he was kissing the girl.

I wonder uzothini u Sylvia abt Rubs and Xolani going to Cape Town.

Hayi uRob akamazi uQueen, a book and Queen in a desert. They both do not know each other that well. as for Nick and Akhona, they need to get back together now.
Reply from: Bk212303 Friday, February 15, 2013 10:47 AM
@Ntaksay forgiven and Kandy im happy for u cc.
@Makanku happy that u feeling better hey grl say that againg la Xolani uyandi bulala his mother must just back off.
as for uNicky boy i like the new one yhoo when i look back i dont wanna think all things he did at ezweni. So Akhona got some dustin maybe she will be able to think now and stop with the noncence ka sello. Did u hear when she said its a once nick ..... hahahah lol
Reply from: Bk212303 Friday, February 15, 2013 11:07 AM
meant to say its a once off
Reply from: mahumani Friday, February 15, 2013 11:22 AM
I'm touched by xolani's poem that is  what we call a suprise. As 4 Nicholas and Akhona is long without  dusting may now Akhona she will think Straigt.
Reply from: Kandyfloss Friday, February 15, 2013 11:34 AM
Missed generations izolo. Load shedding. MaKanku all that shall pass. Problems are jus like VISITORS they come and go..
Reply from: Goldi Friday, February 15, 2013 11:36 AM
Ohh i loved Xolani's poem hey eish ya tlk abt True Love Sylvia mst jst be strong ppc cement @Ntaksay Rob n Queen jst started dated unlike Akhona n Nick dey even lived togeda phela i also think Choppa likes da gal y gt jealous of her n MJ

Ntaksay whr is my RC update kante?
Reply from: Ankonisaho Friday, February 15, 2013 11:45 AM
Hi Mablogegers m new,i have been a silent blogger for almost 4 years now,but this year i wnt to change that,..i luv gen
Reply from: Goldi Friday, February 15, 2013 12:10 PM
Ankonisaho welcome to r crazy n loving family pls feel free Nkatsay i got it  tnx again pumkin ;)
Reply from: Ntaksay Friday, February 15, 2013 13:00 PM

Update

Senzo tried to reason with Noluntu, telling her that Ndlangisa are good parents and they love Mnqobi like their own child and berged her not to take Mnqobi. Luntu seemed like she understood

The PI went to the Memela household with more infor on the investigation but Wandi said it's fine they do not need it but the PI insisted and he told them that Mnqobi is not registered as Ndlangisa but a Dlomo. Luntu was so furious.

At the valentine's party at Tsalanang Rob asked Chopa if he could put Queen on top of the list so that she can be the first one to do a poem. Queen did not even want to do a poem, anyway Choppa called out her name first. While she still mumbling while ppl are waiting Xolani came in and took the mike and said he has a poem for Ruby. Then he expresse his feeling for. Rubby was so impressed. 

Then it was "How do well do you know you partner' two couples had to voulonteer. Rob said he's in with Queen and Nick was talking to Akhona he was pointing something and Chopa thought he was raising his hand to be the second couple. Then he asked Akhona to go with him. 

The first question was to the ladies (Akhona & Queen) what is you partner's favourite sport Queen got it wrong and Akhona right. The second was to the guys and Nick got it right. And they won. After that they were all over each other kissing and kissing, the left the party and went to Nick's flat to dust Akhona sait it is a once off thing, Nick said he likes that, no strings attached. 

MJ was flirting with the white girl all evening and Chopa would give them a scary look, finally the kissed and Chopa was not impressed at all.

Reply from: Kandyfloss Friday, February 15, 2013 13:48 PM
Thanx @Ntaks. Wanted an update but was scared kana i neva update ..
Reply from: koks Friday, February 15, 2013 13:49 PM
Thanks be to God Kandy....

Finaly Nicky and Akho got it all last night thanx to V-day lol
Choppa must just stop stressing and leave the young love birds be..
Eish Luntu is really gonna hurt when she realises that her mom is part of all the shady dealing zakwa Dlomo and MJ yena andazi uyophambana nyani considering what he knows...Im scared for Wandi #phwee

Good afternoon family
Reply from: Goldi Friday, February 15, 2013 14:39 PM
Ya hey dat's gona hurt eish mara naye uLuntu uyadika y cudndt she let da kid be mxxxm 
Reply from: Goldi Friday, February 15, 2013 15:18 PM
ok guyz it's time for me to bounce pls enjoy da rest of ur friday will catch u later @ Tsalang were things r happening @ da moment ;)
Reply from: Ntaksay Friday, February 15, 2013 16:33 PM
Bye

lekker w/end everyone
Reply from: Keratile Friday, February 15, 2013 20:44 PM
Jeerrr! Noluntu is a pain. She's so selfish and thinks the world revolves around her or it owes her something. As for Akhona and Asanda - I smell trouble. Generations is turning into Muvhango/Scandal now. I couldn't stop laughing when Dinny was panicking about doing jail time.
Reply from: NoMdazB Saturday, February 16, 2013 06:30 AM
Morning to anyone who's around. Today is the funeral and it's raining.i feel like running away but I will wake up and go there and smile and serve. See you on Monday.
Reply from: Riyat Saturday, February 16, 2013 10:29 AM
Hie anybody around?
Reply from: VusiK Sunday, February 17, 2013 18:12 PM
Guys is anyone familiar with the law on what Senzos rights as a father are according to the south African laws. I think now that the baby has been born it is within his rights to get first preference before any adoptive parents can be considered. Of course Noluntu doesn't want the baby but the fatherwants to raise the baby. Am sure the only reason why Senzo agreed to give away the baby was to stop Niluntu from aborting. M sure we are headed for the courts now. She can't punish senzo for not falling in love with her. Can gay couples adopt a baby in south Africa

According to South African family law ... no child can/ may be put up for adoption without notice & consent of BOTH parents . and sufficient time and proof must be provided for such notice to be served, and such consent to be granted, or refused.

But Generations is a Soap opera, someone's creation for your dramatic entertainment. very little in the script is under any compulsion to comply with any applicable law.


Reply from: Goldi Sunday, February 17, 2013 22:49 PM
Wat a long day it thot I'd pop in n c if ders any1 in da house bt s usual its empty ok peep gud 9t will c/chat 2 u 2moro *yawning*
Reply from: RainPrincess Sunday, February 17, 2013 23:07 PM
Vusi I think u are right. They should have reaserched their topic well, they need to inform people through these soap operas.
Reply from: Riyat Monday, February 18, 2013 07:40 AM
Morning family I sprained my wrist so typing has been a problem. I really miss blogging. Am better off now atleast. Missed everyone but how are you all.
Reply from: 05415 Monday, February 18, 2013 08:27 AM
Vusi - you missed it my friend. When Noluntu was still pregnant, Senzo did sign the consent under duress because she said if you don't I will do abortion. Remember the time that Senzo had to rush and stop her at the airport when she was on the way to Canada. Phela in Canada abortion is legal even when you are six months pregnant and some states in America - Google it friends before criticising Generations. They did do their research. Senzo is in this because of himself, he signed off, but at the time theycame with the plan of getting the Ndlangisas, his cousins - that's where the idea came from because he realised he had no other options. Then now, by law, a mother can change her mind even when they given up the child as long as it's within the first three months (Google this too), so that is why Noluntu can still take the child from them if she wants to. They've mentioned this over and over in character dialogue - I don't know how you guys missed it. Sometimes we listen to jump up and criticise when we should exercise our listening skills. Pay attention people before criticising
Reply from: 05415 Monday, February 18, 2013 08:29 AM
Just to remind you - Noluntu's child was born in January, so it's still within the firts three months. Noluntu can still change her mind - the law allows her (not soapie law only, even real life law - Google that too or ask a lawyer)
Reply from: Goldi Monday, February 18, 2013 08:42 AM
Morning Fami yeh 05415 Senzo dd sign dose paper bt i think he also as a parent of da child cn change he's mind abt the adobtion cos its still within 3 months...Hey Riyat i'm glad u beta nw so dat u cn shower us with ur blogging hihihihihi 
Reply from: steffie Monday, February 18, 2013 08:44 AM
Happy monday
Reply from: 05415 Monday, February 18, 2013 08:51 AM
Goldi - he signed the consent letter, that gives Noluntu the rights. Is it unfair? Yes, it is, but that is the law. Also right now he can go to jail for lying to adoption authorities, so if he fights Noluntu he can go to jail. This is a case of fixing a wrong with a wrong, that's what happens, you suffer
Reply from: Goldi Monday, February 18, 2013 08:56 AM
i hear u bt i still say he's got the rights 2 fight for he's Child he can tell them dat he 4s him to du dat cos he ddnt want to marry her i mean really it's so not fair she's jst let Senzo raise dat Child it's his after all she's jst bitter n angry nge she's doing this to punish Senzo haai soka
Reply from: Ntaksay Monday, February 18, 2013 09:46 AM
Good Morning

@05415 Senzo did sign the consent under duress That contract is not valid (it is void). I also think Senzo has every right to fight for his child.
Reply from: Ntaksay Monday, February 18, 2013 09:53 AM
Oh shame Queen and Rob are over. I was so sad. Queen was happy and she ruined all her happiness by calling that Sofia girl.

Where is Choppa going to get the money for sending Rubs and Xolani to Cape Town.  Shame I feel sorry for him, kodwa naye what was he thinking?
Reply from: 05415 Monday, February 18, 2013 09:57 AM
Guys the law is law, it doesn't matter that you did wrong for the good. What you are saying that he has rights, he can say this and this. Truth is, he will go to jail for giving false information, fooling officials by getting his cousin to lie and they even paid that cousin with a take-away joint. We can get emotional as people as human beings but the law is not emotional, he did wrong. But is Generations saying he didn't do it from a good place - no, of course he did, but he broke the law, he knows that. That's why he had that scene with Phenyo saying there must be something we can do and Phenyo as a lawyer said 'talk to Noluntu, reason with her' because he knows they could be in trouble for doing illegal things. That is a fact. Many people do wrong for the good or from good intentions but it is still breaking the law. You've had of fathers kidnapping their children because their mothers are refusing them to see the chold, it happens all the time but that person gets arrested - period! Why because the law is not emotional.
Reply from: Mrs Chix Monday, February 18, 2013 10:07 AM
Honestly I do not think Senzo deserves that child. Yes he loves his son but what he and Mawande did was wrong. Noluntu can be a bitch but I am with her on this one.
Reply from: Riyat Monday, February 18, 2013 12:03 PM
I wonder what Noluntu will be thinking 10 yrs down the line. Its good its just a soapie. Me I would never give away my child. From the look Luntu is planning to make Senzo suffer really bad. That's what you get for not marrying her.
Reply from: 05415 Monday, February 18, 2013 12:14 PM
Riyat-watch Khumbul'Ekhaya - what do people who leave their kids do or say? It might not be through adoption but they have abandoned their children just like Noluntu is doing. They just come back and say I'm sorry - it doesn't matter how angry those children get or want explanation they get only a 'sorry'. Don't we all get that one way or another in any situation? I'm sure Oscar Pristorious is also gonna say sorry to Reeva's family because what else can he say... Like I said we do get emotional but these are the realities of the world, of human behaviour.
Reply from: Goldi Monday, February 18, 2013 12:43 PM

Haai Queen is ending things with Rob cos she's scared dat wen Rob dies she's gona have to close he's eyes soka maan

@ Riyat i guess she's got a heart of a stone lol @ 05415 dat is so true we get sorry bt those kids bako Khumbu they r da once dat looking 4 deir parents not da ada way round if i were Noluntu's son i would neva 4gv her mada of nie....

Reply from: VusiK Monday, February 18, 2013 13:24 PM
@05415
Vusi - you missed it my friend. When Noluntu was still pregnant, Senzo did sign the consent under duress because she said if you don't I will do abortion ...

I do not watch Television at all
I enjoy the comments and the blog tells me all I need to know about thhe storyline.
...
I was responding to what seemed to be a legal question
Reply from: VusiK Monday, February 18, 2013 13:34 PM
@RainPrincess
Vusi I think u are right. They should have reaserched their topic well, they need to inform people through these soap operas.


In life, one is only as strong as the weakest tool one can use ...
Perhaps they did research it properly, but that would create a weak story, so they chose the opposite.
It is called Applying Artistic License for theatrical purpose.
Only Mfundi and his researchers can truly answer the question regarding the quality and depth of their research.
Your participation, and their obligation, is to entertainment, ... not education.
Reply from: Riyat Monday, February 18, 2013 13:45 PM
@vusik you don't want tv? I used to think all the people who blog here love/like & watch generations. I guess I was wrong.
Reply from: VusiK Monday, February 18, 2013 13:58 PM
@Riyat ...
@vusik you don't want tv? I used to think all the people who blog here love/like & watch generations. I guess I was wrong.


You are correct ... You are wrong!

I blog here  because there are fabulous people here

I'm an avid reader and near psychotic workaholic, and I love the radio over television for me and my family because it stimulates the imagination versus simply throwing information at one and denying one the opportunity to digest, or work the information over in thought...

I do not watch any television whatsoever ...

I only have television at certain places (the office, and the farm),
and those are permanently tuned to news and documentaries.
Reply from: Bk212303 Monday, February 18, 2013 14:47 PM
Molweni mablogers welcome new comers/bloggers.
Reply from: sisila Monday, February 18, 2013 15:05 PM
Afternoon family today i am so thankful to God for saving my life we had 2tyre burst on the free way and by Gods grace the guy who was driving managed to control it,We got stranded in a foreing town for 12 hours with no food but somehow i managed to spend the whole day without eating. Now i need a lawyer the insurances we pay they just don't do what they say they will do when you have an emergency.
Reply from: yoyozz Monday, February 18, 2013 15:58 PM
sisila thnx god u r safe, welc new blogers

i was reading sunday sun yersterday and i saw zodwa nicholas gf. she is coming back to generations a ccording to the paper thy said we want zodwa back. i didnt knw that you guys mic zodwa so much and you also want zodwa back. anyway they already working on zodwas lines and zodwa was very happy i job yi job im also happy for.
Reply from: Deemo Monday, February 18, 2013 16:00 PM
hello mabloggers amahle.i missed you all,i can see everyone is ok,@goldi i was dipressed bcoz i was having a financial problem ,an aunt of myn was in hospital coz of high blood pressure ,then her son commited suicide.tht was really unbearable,bt nw im ok.help me pray for my aunt cos she stll not taking it in tht her only son is nomore,need devine comfort.
Reply from: VusiK Monday, February 18, 2013 16:31 PM
Now i need a lawyer the insurances we pay they just don't do what they say they will do when you have an emergency.

Believe it or not ... the best and most efficient & best cost efficient insurance your money can buy is the AA short term insurance basket... even at the basic level.
Reply from: Deemo Monday, February 18, 2013 21:31 PM
im so sad again,a freind of mine just lost her mother,i dont even have the right words to say to her,this is so painful,@ayasha wy does umkulunkulu allow pple to rest whilst they havent enjoyed the fruits of educating their children????????
Reply from: Goldi Monday, February 18, 2013 21:45 PM
@Sisala thank God 4 ur safe return gal ohhhh Deemo *warm hug* I'm sorry 4 ur loss eish dats hectic specially all dez tragedic things happen all @ once bt u mst knw dat everythng happens 4 a reason n onli God knws wat dat reason is will kip u in r prayers God promised dat he will never leave nor 4 sake us so Prayer gal all shall be well take care ok gud 9t guys
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, February 19, 2013 08:04 AM
Good Morning

Another sunny day............ I wish it was winter already
Reply from: duckie Tuesday, February 19, 2013 08:10 AM
Deemo......sori bout ur frnd s lost,jus be ere fo her sisi
@,@ayasha wy does umkulunkulu allow pple to rest whilst they havent enjoyed the fruits of educating their children????????- Uthixo usuke bona ukuth sebeyidlalileindima yabo nd kwamele simbonge ukuthi usuke emgcinile loyo muntu upto tht point

condolences



Mrng fam,

Eix kushubie kwamawande-
Reply from: Riyat Tuesday, February 19, 2013 08:13 AM
Morning family
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, February 19, 2013 08:33 AM
Morning Family

i ddnt like da way Luntu spoke to Babalwa hw cn she be so heartless telling a woman wu cant have kids gore dat's y she cant have kids cos of she's greedy dat ws plain rude n uncalled for dat Luntu she's bitter and angry mxxxxxm i wish S'bu can come back i feel sorry 4 Wandi as for Akhona no comment
Reply from: Riyat Tuesday, February 19, 2013 08:46 AM
I also feel what Noluntu said was bad. When I got married I stayed for a whole year without a child and people started talking. One of the people was my friend and she said it to my husband. She said its not my fault that your wife can't have children. Its because you people are bad people that's why God will never give children. A year later we were blessed with a son. We met in the village (she is my husbands relative) later at a funeral and she was acting as if nothing happened. I did nothing but to be honest she will never be a friend again. We talk but every time I remember those words they still hurt. People can't have children for different reasons I think its unfair for others to make conclusions.
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, February 19, 2013 08:50 AM
What i Luntu going to do now that she know her mom was involved in the adoption consipiracy?????????????????? The look on MJ & Luntu's face..........more drama is yet to come in that house of unhappiness!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I wish Akhona can find what she's looking or else we'll be seeing her obsession over Sello for months. Seskhathele uyena. we need something else

Kodwa noSammantha, how she believe a scam like that . A million in your account in just six month. I would be very suspicious. She is stupid and uthanda imali. She has to work hard if she needs something.

Oooooooooooh Robby, plz sort you children out. I liked you and Queenny
Reply from: Mrs Chix Tuesday, February 19, 2013 08:56 AM
Yoh I was on Luntu's side but izolo she was really mean to uBabalwa....that was cruel
Reply from: NoMdazB Tuesday, February 19, 2013 09:11 AM
Morning all. UNoluntu is just annoying. She likes being the center of attention.
Reply from: Manicure Tuesday, February 19, 2013 09:17 AM
ke kopa update i ddnt watch yesterday, power cut
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, February 19, 2013 09:39 AM
N we thot dat myb da pregnancy changed her (Luntu) tjoooo kante moleko fela wa motho i wonder whether she'll continue with dis nonsense after her mom's confesion 

 
Reply from: Slondy Tuesday, February 19, 2013 11:28 AM

Hi family!!  I think Akhona will find Mzwanele (her dad)  in Sello's farm 

Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, February 19, 2013 12:17 PM
That would be very interesting @Slo
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, February 19, 2013 12:27 PM

wuuuuu okare keabona mmm dat wud interesting indeed

Reply from: zdwesha Tuesday, February 19, 2013 12:29 PM

Halo Gen family long tym i c the house is still standing keep it that way.

yho i wonder whats next on the memela house

Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, February 19, 2013 14:34 PM
Heloooooooooooooooooooooooooo

People why are you so quite????????????????????????????????????????
Reply from: caro Tuesday, February 19, 2013 14:43 PM
sello o EVIL hle bathong...the lady le yena is so soft she agrees to anything...if thats the things poverty makes you do then..the world is heading for the end...

guys in june we will have all new Generations...all the actors are either gonna die, elope, leave the sopie for greener pastures etc..

what do you think generations will be like without the Dlomo family? Ruby Dikobe, the Memela's ...

shoo..!!! Can't wait...
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, February 19, 2013 14:51 PM
Are you serious Caro? They cannot let all the acters/actresses go. Maybe one at a time. But why, I do not understand
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, February 19, 2013 14:58 PM
Nah Caro u bluffing dey cant du dat tjoooo imagine Gen will be boring mxxxxm
Reply from: caro Tuesday, February 19, 2013 15:10 PM

Hi family!! I think Akhona will find Mzwanele (her dad) in Sello's farm 

yep.. the rhino horns delivery boy...

i have also had these feeling that he (mzwanele) is out there and alive. Even if not on the farm bt he keeps contact with Sello but question still is.... Why doesnt he contact his family...( sello holding something agaist him) 

drama is till to unfold ko GEN
lets just watch the space

Reply from: caro Tuesday, February 19, 2013 15:12 PM
Glad i got two people's attention

now the big announcement

THE GEN BLOG 'S MOST CURIOUS PEOPLE AWARD GOES TO............ MRS GOLDI  AND NTAKSAY....



ROUND OF APPLAUSE
Reply from: Bk212303 Tuesday, February 19, 2013 15:33 PM
Hiiiiiiiiiiiiii everyone missed u. Too much work but im glad there is ppl in the house. Big up Caro, Goldi and Ntaksay
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, February 19, 2013 15:34 PM
Mxxxxmmmm it's Ms Goldi for u Caro *evil look*
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, February 19, 2013 15:46 PM
Thanks for the AWARD Caro We have to keep this house warm.
Reply from: Ntaksay Tuesday, February 19, 2013 15:51 PM
I like the idea of Mzwanele being alive!!!!!!!!!!!

A husband was very ill:
Dr to WIFE: Give him healthy breakfas, be pleasant and good to him, do not discuss your problems, no TV serial, do not demand new clothes and gold jewels. Do this for one year and he will  be ok.

Husband to Wife:  What did the Dr say?

WIFE: No chance for you to survive
Reply from: Riyat Tuesday, February 19, 2013 16:56 PM
Ntaksay lol at that one. I would guess the husband called the doctor before going with the wife. Nice try mr husband. But guys I really miss jokes here where are they?
Reply from: NomthyM Tuesday, February 19, 2013 17:26 PM
The Memela brats are ungrateful, Sibusiso saved Luntu from Swazi and the sex tape, he also did the same for MJ when he sent him to the ICU. Also not forgetting MJ's steriods problem, suddenly the Memelas are so holy with no shady deals. The Dlomos are now being punished just because Senzo didnt marry Princess Luntu. The girl is plain rude and bitter, the way she talks bout her son, makes me wonder if there are mothers like her in real life.
Reply from: Goldi Tuesday, February 19, 2013 21:16 PM
Evening guyz yhooo I mst say Wandi's dangerous ha a ratile haai MJ le ena watena olaegile hahahaha da look on he's face hihihihi s 4 Luntu 2 ask her mom 2 fire Jason jst like dat nt cool s 4 Akhona serves her ryt she daznt wnt 2 listen so ya let her B ohh guyz bt dat Xolani is a DISH wuuuuu he can come @ ma bedroom door @ anytime lol
Reply from: Riyat Tuesday, February 19, 2013 22:23 PM
Even before telling MJ to go out am sure he would have run for his life after that encounter. Jason is unfair "for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health" not for court for jail. That's being unfair how can those words be in the vows lol
Reply from: Riyat Tuesday, February 19, 2013 22:28 PM
Goldi what will happen if he comes at ur bedroom door? Are u going to let him in?
Reply from: Ntaksay Wednesday, February 20, 2013 08:02 AM
MJ just kept on and on..... he had that one coming. he did not blv that his mother did that to him, but he asked for it.

Did Phenyo have to tell Sello that Akhona is carrying on with the investigation. As irritating as this investition is. But I'm curious, I want to see what Akhona is going to fing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply from: Goldi Wednesday, February 20, 2013 09:02 AM
Morning family

@ Riyat i will most deff let him in n in ma bed too *hiding face*

Dose Memela brats bateng nje they think deir mom's life revolve around dem mxxxm Akhona waphapha dat's for sure y cnt she let da police handle it??
Reply from: NomthyM Wednesday, February 20, 2013 09:22 AM
Jason does not love Senzo the way he should, he is greedy and using Senzo to spite Sibusiso, all he is after is the Dlomo name and Ezweni. His latest stunt was MJ's shares, wonder what is next. Akhona doesnt listen, Wandi has enough problems as it is, now she has to worry bout Akhona. Dineo is not ready to be mom, there is nothing wrong with that. Please help, what is the meaning of Dabs, if it means aunt, what language is it?
Reply from: sisila Wednesday, February 20, 2013 09:55 AM
@ NomthyM yes its aunty but in full its Dabawo or Dadobawo its Xhosa
Reply from: steffie Wednesday, February 20, 2013 09:59 AM