Hi mabloggers.
I have always loved reading your articles and the comments are so helpful. Today here I am asking for yor advices with the hope that, like all the other people you have helped I will also get your advices.
I am 29 year old, a single parent of a 7 year old young man. I am in love with a 50 year old man; we have been together for three years now. Just last year, because I am working fare away, about 45ks from home to be precisely, he suggested d that I stay at his house and will go home anytime I want. Normally I knock off at 110:00pm ie from 8 – 10 I will be at work. He is a lecturer in one of the local universities, he stays with his children he eldest is 30 years old, I am the same age as the second born. They all work for big paying companies in the country but they stay with their father who buys everything for them including food and at one time he paid a E3 000 traffic offence fine for the second born. All his children are boys save for the last born. She has two children aged three and one and half years old and is now pregnant with a third child she also stays with her father in the government house.
He helps me pay for my son’s school fees, feeds and dresses him. He even suggested that I enroll him in one of the best schools in the country; I refused coz I feared that he will leave me and what will happen with my son thereafter. Now he insists that I enroll him in the school he has identified, he will be doing Grade 3 next year and I am not sure whether to agree or not. He loves me and my son and has promised to marry me before the end of the year. He has introduced me to his family (the elders). The problem is the children give me a bad attitude, I feel like they do not want me in the house, they make funny comments when I enter the house late at night after work and they call me all sorts of names you can think of. What hurts me the most is that they do not even gossip they just say whatever comments loud so that I can hear. I have talked to my man and he pleaded with me to just ignore them because he will marry me. I love him and would love to spend the rest of my life with him but the problem is I do not think that I will be able to stay with his children. Leading the way in making fun of me is his late brother’s 18 year old son who also calls be GOGO. I am not fat; I wear a size 34 and I am beautiful. He is unemployed but sleeps until 12noon thereafter wake up and demand food from his father. He hates me so much that he has confessed that he wished I could touch him he would tell me a thing or two. I love this man, he is everything to me (so I think), I am mobile, he bought me a car and do almost everything for me. He said I must go home anytime I want and this was a way of protecting me from his children, he sometimes visits me at home but he has never spent a night there. Last Friday he took me to Sterns to chose a wedding ring of my own, he, on the same day told me to chose a house not more that E300 000 which has to be registered under my name. However, I am afraid to take all the things he gives me because I do not think I will be able to stay with him forever because of his children. He has told his mother and sisters about the problem and she suggested that he kicks out all of them, those who are working are to rent their flats while the others must come and stay with her at home, about 50ks from town.
Please help, I love this man but here is the problem. I failed to choose the wedding ring but have got the house already.
HELPPP MA BLOGGERS