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Life Together

Written by Cody from the blog Jehova-Nisi: TVSA Home Cell/Bible Study Group on 29 May 2009
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We need each other in order to walk well and conquer all the battle we go through in our lives, like the Bible says in Ephesians 5: 18<<Never stop praying, especially for others. Always pray by the power of the Spirit. Stay alert and keep praying for God’s people. >>

We need to fellowship with one another and below there are five reasons why we need each other. Thought I should share the following:

LIFE TOGETHER should be a SHARED LIFE

In Psalm 133:1, the Bible tell us on how wonderful and pleasant it is when the people of God live together with harmony. God intends for us to experience life together. The Bible calls this shared experience "fellowship." Today, however, the word fellowship has lost most of its biblical meaning for example you find many Christians mistaking fellowship as: casual conversation, socializing, food, and fun. The question, "Where do you fellowship?" has been turned to "Where do you attend church?" "Stay after for fellowship" on the other hand is turned to "Wait for refreshments." Real fellowship is so much more than just showing up at services. It is experiencing life together. It includes unselfish loving, honest sharing, practical serving, sacrificial giving, sympathetic comforting, and all the other "one another" commands found in the New Testament. When it comes to fellowship, size matters: smaller is better. You can worship with a crowd, but you can't fellowship with one. Because once a group becomes larger than about ten people, someone stops participating—usually the quietest person—and a few people will dominate the group.

Jesus ministered in a state of a small group of disciples. He could have chosen more, but he knew twelve is about the maximum size you can have in a small group if everyone is to participate. Every Christian needs to be involved in a small group within their church, whether is it a home fellowship group, a Sunday school class, or a Bible study. This is where real community takes place, not in the big gatherings.

LIFE TOGETHER should be LEGITIMATE / GENUINE FRIENDSHIP

In Christian fellowship people should experience legitimacy. Legitimate fellowship is not superficial, surface-level chit-chat. It's genuine, heart-to-heart, sometimes gut-level sharing. When people get honest about who they are and what is happening in their lives…they share their hurts, reveal their feelings, confess their failures, disclose their doubts, admit their fears, acknowledge their weaknesses, and ask for help and prayer. Legitimacy is the exact opposite of what you find in many churches. Instead of an atmosphere of honesty and humility, there is pretending, role-playing, politicking, superficial politeness, and shallow conversation. People wear masks, keep their guard up, and act as if everything is rosy in their lives…these kinds of attitudes are the death of real friendship. It's only as we become open about our lives that we experience genuine fellowship. The Bible says, "If we live in the light, as God is in the light, we can share fellowship with each other...If we say we have no sin, we are fooling ourselves" (1 John 1:7-8 NCV).

The world thinks intimacy occurs in the dark, but God says it happens in the light. We tend to use darkness to hide our hurts, faults, fears, failures, and flaws. But in the light, we bring them all out into the open and admit who we really are. Of course, being legitimate requires both courage and humility. It means facing our fear of exposure, rejection, and being hurt again.

Why would anyone take such a risk? It's the only way to grow spiritually and be emotionally healthy. The Bible says, "Make this your common practice: Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you can live together whole and healed" (James 5:16 MSG).


LIFE TOGETHER should include MUTUAL DEPENDENCY

In mutual dependency the 2most important words is giving and receiving…depending on each other. Mutuality is the heart of fellowship: building reciprocal relationships, sharing responsibilities, and helping each other. Paul said, "I want us to help each other with the faith we have. Your faith will help me, and my faith will help you" (Romans 1:12 NCV). All of us are more consistent in our faith when others walk with us and encourage us. The Bible commands mutual accountability, mutual encouragement, mutual serving, and mutual honoring.

Over fifty times in the New Testament we're commanded to do different tasks for "one another" and "each other." The Bible says, "Make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification" (Romans 14:19 NIV). You are not responsible for everyone in the body of Christ, but you are responsible to them. God expects you to do whatever you can to help them.

DON’T BE RELUCTANT TO SHOW MERCY - "When people sin, you should forgive and comfort them, so they won't give up in despair" (2 Corinthians 2:7 CEV).

In real fellowship people experience mercy. Fellowship is a place of grace, where mistakes aren't rubbed in but rubbed out. We all need mercy, because we all stumble and fall and require help getting back on track. We need to offer mercy to each other and be willing to receive it from each other.

You can't have fellowship without forgiveness because bitterness and resentment always destroy fellowship. Sometimes we hurt each other intentionally and sometimes unintentionally, but either way, it takes massive amounts of mercy and grace to create and maintain fellowship. "You must make allowance for each other's faults and forgive the person who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others" (Colossians 3:13 NLT).

The mercy God shows to us is the motivation for us to show mercy to others. Whenever you're hurt by someone, you have a ‘choice’ to make: Will I use my energy and emotions for retaliation or for resolution? There’s no way you can do them both.

Many people are hesitant to show mercy because they don't understand the difference between trust and forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past. Trust has to do with future behavior. Forgiveness must be immediate, whether or not a person asks for it. Trust must be rebuilt over time. If someone hurts you repeatedly, you are commanded by God to forgive them instantly, but you are not expected to trust them immediately, and you are not expected to continue allowing them to hurt you. They must prove they have changed over time. The best place to restore trust is within the supportive context of a small group that offers both encouragement and accountability.


Taken from Daily Devotions by Rick Warren










19 Comments

Cody
29 May 2009 09:28

Thanks to Phikza for the contribution! The word is back people! I am only left with one subject, therefore i will be uploading article every week, so people please prepare articles hle! 

will comment later!

Phikza
29 May 2009 11:47

Thanks Codzzz!

Even though sometimes fellowship seems like a lot of work but its always worth it and you feel good after helping someone in whichever way you choose. The Bible teaches us to "share each other's troubles and problems, and in this way obey the law of Christ" (Galatians 6:2).

I used to go to a cell group but now I moved from that place and am now very far.........and its not easy to read the Word AND pray on your own

Mathaz
29 May 2009 12:00

and its not easy to read the Word AND pray on your own.

It's not and since i have a baby it has become a mammoth task to attend church but i do bible studies with my sisters over the phone.  We would choose a scripture and then discuss it later on the phone.

Zah000
29 May 2009 12:04

and its not easy to read the Word AND pray on your own <<< true

Cody
29 May 2009 12:17

Fellowship is a place of grace, where mistakes aren't rubbed in but rubbed out. 

wise words Phikz!

Cody
29 May 2009 12:22

its not easy to read the Word AND pray on your own 

very true Phikzz i still have a problem when it comes to our groups prayer commitments where we have all agreed to wake up at 3o'clock to pray, i still find it hard to wake up. I will get the courage if one person agrees that we will motivate each other or call each other at night. otherwise, i will do it for 3day and that's it, i loveeee my sleep, it's even worse this winter, i just  wish i can overcome this laziness!!!!!!

felfel
29 May 2009 12:28

Anyone care to explain why its important to wake up and pray specifically at midnight and at 3 in the morning, my mum said i should do that but i dont know if its because God is more alert of prayers or what, wat the deal?

dali
29 May 2009 12:33

ameni!

Phikza
29 May 2009 12:34

We would choose a scripture and then discuss it later on the phone. wow, Mathaz..............should definitely consider doing this, someone from church suggested it to me once but i dont realy know the person so i never went on with it

nice
29 May 2009 12:37

Every Christian needs to be involved in a small group within their church

still reading, thanks gals!

Cody
29 May 2009 12:51

Felfel, my grandmother always said that the midnight hour prayer is time best time to arrest your enemies in prayer. i think you can pray anytime, you dont necessarily have to pray during those hours. i dont understand it as well but i found this on this other  christian website. yah maybe if i could understand i will get the courage to pray during those hours hle!




The midnight hour was the time that the children of Israel broke through to their great deliverance. (At midnight the Lord struck down all the firstborn in the land of Egypt, creating their release out of captivity.) This is a great time of pressing through. Midnight is the time for us to praise and press the enemy and arrest His movement.

nice
29 May 2009 12:51

I went to a home cell on Wednesday after a long time, and first thing when we got there they said we should pray in tongues for a few minutes and I thought to myself.................hell no, I dont know how to pray in tongues and this people will hear me when I say my prayers in English/Zulu and they will know that I cant pray in tongues..but then I thought it does not matter as God will hear my prayers and that is what matters the most.

Anyway, it is not easy to pray and read the word alone because one ends up with a singular view and interpretation kanti when you are discussing it they may be different views and easier to remeber a few days later. I read alone and I cant remember what was I reading but I remeber the word from cell because it was a discussion.

I agree with you small groups are the way to in order to get everyone to participate and form real legitimate relations with your fellow Christians. 

Amen and thank you so much ladies

felfel
29 May 2009 13:02

Thanks Cody i get the idea, i suposse it makes sense cos alot of dark and evil work takes place at night and perhaps thats the best time to wake up and do ur own fight through God against such darkness.

Phikza
29 May 2009 13:14

I will get the courage if one person agrees that we will motivate each other or call each other at night. Codzz, why don't you do it...maybe it will put you on the spot of some commitment and much less laziness. used to do it with my girls in high school but we prayed at 12midnight...........it was better for us coz we were all living in the same place so one would just go and knock at each and everyone's doors.

<<<<<Mark 1:35
Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed>>>>> i'm not realy sure why we pray in the early mornings or at noon but Jesus did it.....and I think there is so much peace in the early mornings / midnight and you can feel that you talking to God with all the stillness of everything...and imagine Him looking down on ONLY you at that very moment

Phikza
29 May 2009 13:29

I read alone and I cant remember what was I reading but I remeber the word from cell because it was a discussion. true, nice

The midnight hour was the time that the children of Israel broke through to their great deliverance. (At midnight the Lord struck down all the firstborn in the land of Egypt, creating their release out of captivity.) This is a great time of pressing through. Midnight is the time for us to praise and press the enemy and arrest His movement.....tankie, Cody

Best-Achiever
29 May 2009 13:53

Thanks Phikza nd Cody .... things are a bit hectic here, dont have enough time for TVSA to day.

Great topic and thank you guys.

This whole fellowship thing reminds me of David in Psalm 133:1-2 when he said
"1 How good and pleasant it is when brothers live together in unity!
2 It is like precious oil poured on the head,  running down on the beard,
running down on Aaron's beard,  down upon the collar of his robes. "

It makes me laugh everytime when i think david expressed how wonderful it is and compare it to oil poured on Aaron's head running down his beard, as if he was there meanwhile he wasnt even born. ...lol

Best-Achiever
29 May 2009 13:55

Midnight prayer... These days i real cant do it, even if i set the alarm, my arm and fingure just know which direction to turn and switch it off without even me realising it or disturbing my sleep ... tjo i need prayer ...lol

Cody
29 May 2009 14:04

even if i set the alarm, my arm and fingure just know which direction to turn and switch it off without even me realising it

LMAO BA!!!! that is what i do!! but unlike you, i do realise that im switching the alarm off!

Best-Achiever
29 May 2009 14:26

eish Cody, that  is a very difficult hour despite the fact that i know hore it is also the busy hour for the demons i just cant bring myself to do it anymore.

i would consciously remember that Paul and Silas prayed at that hour, broke prisnons gate so it is merely an hour of deliverance but nah thi body of mine becomes too heavy for my tiny self too carry.

i remember there is this other time i'll here the lady on the floor underneath mine (we are on the same cell group) praying sometime even calling myname(ie praying for me), i'd feel bad that im asleep but still could get up
 iesh satan ke skelem i tell you


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